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- 1. Ua ʻike iki ʻoe i kāu hoa
- 2. ʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe e kaʻana like i kāu mau ʻōlelo huna hohonu a pouli hoʻi
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hakakā maikaʻi
- 4. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hakakā iki
- 5. ʻAʻole kau laina kāu mau waiwai i nā pilikia nui
- 6. He maka hele hewa kou
- 7. ʻAʻole maopopo ʻoe mākaukau e noho i lalo
- 8. Ke inaina nei ʻoe i ka hoʻopili ʻana
- 9. Ua male kāu poʻe hoaaloha a pau
- 10. Manaʻo ʻoe hiki i kāu pakanā ke hoʻololi
Ua pā ʻia ka nīnau, a ua ʻae ʻoe. Ua hoʻolaha hauʻoli ʻoe i kou hoʻokomo ʻana i kou ʻohana a me nā hoa aloha āpau. Akā ke hoʻomaka nei ʻoe e hoʻolālā i kāu male, ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo.
Ke manaʻo ʻalua nei ʻoe. ʻO kahi hihia o nā wāwae anuanu, a ʻo kekahi mea ʻē aʻe paha? ʻAʻole mākaukau e male? Hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i nā ʻōuli aniani ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau no kahi pilina?
Eia he ʻumi mau hōʻailona ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e male
1. Ua ʻike iki ʻoe i kāu hoa
ʻEono wale nō mahina, akā hauʻoli kēlā me kēia manawa. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻalele i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana iā lākou. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e kaʻawale mai ko lākou ʻaoʻao. Ke ʻole pū, kākau mau ʻoe i kāu leka. He aloha paha kēia, ʻeā?
Aʻole naʻe.
I ka makahiki mua, aia ʻoe i ka wā infatuation o kāu pilina. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe e male i kāu hoa i kekahi lā. Akā pono ʻoe i ka manawa e aʻo hou aʻe e pili ana i kēia kanaka ma mua o ka hoʻokō ʻana iā lākou.
I ka makahiki mua, he rosy nā mea āpau. I kekahi mau mahina ma lalo o ka laina hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo ana, "ʻaʻole maopopo e pili ana i ka male."
Ke hana nei i kahi hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi e hoʻololi ai i ke ola ʻoiai ke kau nei i nā aniani aniani o ka infatuation he hewa.
Inā ʻo kēia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e mau ke aloha, e hāʻawi ana iā ʻoe i manawa hou aku e loiloi pono ai i nā mea āpau e pili ana i kāu hoa wahine - ka maikaʻi a me ka maikaʻi ʻole - i hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i ke ala e ʻike maoli nei ʻo wai kēia kanaka.
Paipai ʻia - Papa Mālama Mua
2. ʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe e kaʻana like i kāu mau ʻōlelo huna hohonu a pouli hoʻi
ʻO kahi olakino, aloha aloha i hana ʻia e nā kānaka ʻelua i ʻike i nā mea huna a kekahi a aloha pū kekahi i kekahi. Inā ʻoe e hūnā nei i kahi mea nui, ka male ma mua, ka mōʻaukala hōʻaiʻē maikaʻi ʻole, kahi pilikia hoʻohana ʻino (ʻoiai inā ua hoʻoholo ʻia) — ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e male i kēlā kanaka.
Inā makaʻu ʻoe e hoʻokolokolo kāu hoa iā ʻoe, pono ʻoe e hana ma kahi e hoʻomaka ai kēlā makaʻu. Makemake ʻoe e hiki ke lilo i mea ʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe, a aloha ʻia nō, ke ʻōlelo nei "ʻO wau."
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hakakā maikaʻi
Inā loaʻa i ke ʻano o ka hoʻonā ʻana i ka hakakā ka mea a kekahi e hāʻawi aku ai i kekahi e mālama i ka maluhia, ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e male.
Ua aʻo nā kāne hauʻoli i ka haʻi ʻana i kā lākou mau hoʻopiʻi ma nā ala e neʻe ai i ka leʻaleʻa like, a i ʻole ka hoʻomaopopo like ʻana i ka manaʻo o ka mea ʻē aʻe.
Inā hāʻawi mau kekahi i kekahi i kekahi, no ka wela ʻole o ke ahi, e hoʻoulu wale kēia i ka huhū i kāu pilina.
Ma mua o ka male ʻana, hana i kekahi hana, ma ka heluhelu ʻana paha i nā puke ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a i ʻole ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi kākāʻōlelo, no laila e aʻo ʻoe pehea e lawelawe ai i nā hakakā hiki ʻole ke kū aʻe i nā pilina āpau.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e makemake e "hakakā me ke akamai", ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e male.
4. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hakakā iki
"ʻAʻole loa mākou e hakakā!" haʻi ʻoe i kou mau hoaaloha. ʻAʻole kēia kahi hōʻailona maikaʻi. ʻO ia paha ʻaʻole ʻoe e launa nui e pili ana i nā mea paʻakikī. ʻOi aku paha ka makaʻu o kekahi o ʻoukou i ka lūlū ʻana i ka moku pili a ʻaʻole e hōʻike ana i ko lākou hōʻoluʻolu e pili ana i kahi pilikia.
Inā ʻaʻohe ou manawa kūpono e ʻike ai pehea ʻoe e hoʻokele ai i kahi paio huhū, ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e hui pū kekahi i kekahi i ka mare ʻana.
5. ʻAʻole kau laina kāu mau waiwai i nā pilikia nui
Aloha ʻoe i ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me kāu hoa.
Akā ʻoiai ua ʻike ʻoi aku ʻoe iā lākou, ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike maka i nā mea nui e like me ke kālā (hoʻolilo, mālama kālā), nā keiki (pehea e hānai ai iā lākou), ka hana a me nā hana leʻaleʻa.
ʻO ka male ʻana i kekahi me ka male ʻana iā lākou āpau, ʻaʻole wale i nā ʻāpana āu e leʻaleʻa ai. ʻIke loa, ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe no ka male inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ma ka ʻaoʻao like ke pili i nā waiwai nui a me nā loina.
6. He maka hele hewa kou
Hūnā ʻoe i nā kamaʻilio pilina āu e hana nei me kahi ex. A i ʻole, hoʻomau ʻoe e leʻaleʻa me kāu hoa hana. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ke kau ʻana no ka maka o hoʻokahi kanaka wale nō.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe i ka pono no ka hōʻoia mau mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka mea āu e noʻonoʻo nei e male, ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e male.
ʻAʻole ka manaʻo o ka male ʻana e haʻalele ʻoe i ke ʻano kanaka - he kūlohelohe ia e mahalo i nā ʻano ma nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma mua o kāu kāne a ka wahine- akā, ʻaʻole ia he mākaukau e hāʻawi i ka naʻau a me ke kino i kāu hoa.
7. ʻAʻole maopopo ʻoe mākaukau e noho i lalo
Hele maikaʻi ʻoe me kāu pakanā, akā ʻike ʻoe makemake ʻoe e launa i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa o nā poʻe ma mua o ka nakinaki ʻana iā ʻoe iho i hoʻokahi wale nō. Inā kēlā leo liʻiliʻi i kou poʻo e haʻi aku iā ʻoe e kau inoa no Tinder e ʻike wale i ka mea i waho, makemake ʻoe e hoʻolohe iā ia.
ʻAʻohe kumu e neʻe ai i mua me ka male, ke ʻike wale ma hope ua mihi ʻoe no ka pāʻani ʻana i ka māla ma mua o ke kau ʻana i ke apo ma luna.
8. Ke inaina nei ʻoe i ka hoʻopili ʻana
Ua noho ʻoe ma kou manawa ponoʻī, a ʻike ʻoe i kou makemake i kou home (hoʻomaʻemaʻe i nā manawa āpau), kāu hana o ke kakahiaka (mai kamaʻilio me aʻu a loaʻa kaʻu kofe), a me kāu mau wā hoʻomaha (Club Med) . Akā i kēia manawa aloha ʻoe a hoʻolilo i kou manawa me ʻoe, ke ʻike nei ʻoe ʻaʻole like ka maʻa a kāu hoa.
ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻoluʻolu i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kou nohona i mea e kāwili ʻia me lākou.
Inā ʻo kēia ka hihia, ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona koʻikoʻi ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e male. No laila, e kāpae i kāu kauoha no nā palapala kono male.
Me ka manawa, e ʻike paha ʻoe i ka mea e hui pono ai, pono ʻoe e hoʻopili.
Ke mākaukau ʻoe e male, ʻaʻole like kēia me he mōhai. E hele kūlohelohe ia iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he mea kūpono loa e hana. Pane pū kēlā i ka nīnau, "Āhea ʻoe mākaukau no ka male?"
9. Ua male kāu poʻe hoaaloha a pau
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau no ka male?
E hele ana ʻoe i ka male ʻana o kekahi poʻe no ka makahiki a me ka hapa i hala. Me he mea lā he noho mau ʻoe ma ka papa ʻaina o ka wahine mare. Ua luhi ʻoe i ke noi ʻia aku iā ʻoe, “No laila, ahea ana ʻolua e nakinaki nākiʻi?”
Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua haʻalele ʻia ʻoe no ka mea ua lilo kāu mau hoaaloha āpau iā "Mr a me Mrs", e hoʻonui i kāu pōʻai kaiapili e hoʻopili i nā kāne ʻē aʻe ʻole. ʻIke loa, ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e male a ke ʻoki wale nei i ka pilikia o nā hoa.
He ala olakino maikaʻi loa ia e mālama ai i kēia kūlana ma mua o ka neʻe ʻana i mua me kahi male, no ka mea ua hoʻowahāwahā ʻoe i nā kāne male ʻole hope loa ma ka pō ʻo Bunco.
10. Manaʻo ʻoe hiki i kāu pakanā ke hoʻololi
Makemake ʻoe e male i ke kanaka a kāu ipo, ʻaʻole ke kanaka āu i manaʻo ai hiki iā lākou ke lilo. ʻOiai nā kānaka e hana i kekahi mau loli ke oʻo lākou, ʻaʻole lākou e loli maʻamau. ʻO wai ka mea a kāu hoa i kēia manawa, ʻo ia ke kanaka e noho mau ai.
No laila ke komo ʻana i kahi male e noʻonoʻo ana e hoʻololi kupua i kāu hoa i ke kuleana nui, ʻoi aku ka makemake nui, ʻoi aku ka mālama, a ʻoi aku ka nānā iā ʻoe he kuhi nui. Ke koho nei e male ma muli o kēia manaʻo wahaheʻe ʻole kekahi o nā hōʻailona ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau no ka male.
ʻAʻole loli ka poʻe ma muli o ke kūʻai ʻana i nā apo mare.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e male, ʻaʻole ia e manaʻo e noho mehameha ʻoe a hiki i ka hopena o kou ola.
Leverage i kēia manawa e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea e hoʻoluʻu ai i kou mau wāwae, kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi i kāu pilina, hoʻonohonoho a mālama i nā palena olakino, hana i nā hoʻolālā e hiki mai ana, a nīnau iā ʻoe iho i nā mea āu e ʻimi nei ma waho o ka male a me kāu hoa.
Ma ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā hōʻailona e hōʻike ana ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e male, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i kāu pilina, hana ma nā wahi o ka hoʻomaikaʻi i kou pilina a kūkulu i kahi mea kūikawā pū, ʻo ia ka mea e hana ai i nā ʻino o ka. he ola male.
A laila e hoʻohana i kēia mau ʻike e kūkulu mua i kahi pilina paʻa me kāu pakanā a laila lawe i ka luʻu ke manaʻo ʻelua ʻelua a piha.
E hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻōlelo idioma, "E hele mākou i ke alahaka ke hiki mākou i laila."