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- He aha ka pilina?
- 3 mau mea nui e ukali ai
- ʻO ka hoʻoikaika mua ka manaʻo
- ʻO ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa lua ka hoʻomaikaʻi
- ʻO ka hana hope loa ka pule
E kamaʻilio e pili ana pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke oʻo wikiwiki i kou pilina. Inā pili ʻoe i ka pili lōʻihi a male paha, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ka pilina. E wehewehe i ka pilina ma kahi manawa. ʻO ka wehewehe kūmole, "I loko oʻu e ʻike ai," kahi mea maikaʻi loa. ʻO ka manaʻo maoli ia e hoʻohui pū i kou mau puʻuwai, hiki ke hoʻolohe a lohe i nā puʻuwai o kekahi. ʻO ia ka pilina maoli ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kēlā ʻano aloha. Ua male au i kuʻu hoapili ʻo Lisa. Ua male mākou no kanakolukūmākahi mau makahiki i kēia manawa. ʻO ia ʻo kaʻu hoapili ʻoiaʻiʻo loa. Lohe ʻo ia i koʻu puʻuwai. Lohe wau i kona puʻuwai. ʻAʻole mākou e ʻaelike akā ʻae mākou i ka lohe a lohe mākou, hana ia i nā mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a me ka maikaʻi. Loaʻa iā mākou kekahi mau pono hana a mākou e hoʻohana nei no kanakolu mau makahiki i kēlā me kēia lā aʻu e kaʻana nei me ʻoe.
He aha ka pilina?
ʻO kahi hopena ka hopena. ʻAʻole hiki mai ia no ka mea he nani ʻoe. ʻAʻole ia e lilo no ka mea he nani ʻoe, kūleʻa kālā, a wī paha. Hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i kēlā mau mea āpau a nui aʻe a ʻaʻohe pili pili i kāu male, no ka mea, ʻo ka pilina ka hopena o kahi ʻano hoʻopaʻi i ʻike ʻia. I ka moʻomeheu Komohana, makemake mākou e hana koke i nā mea. Makemake mākou e kaomi i kahi pihi a wīwī. Makemake mākou e kaomi i kahi pihi a waiwai. I kēlā me kēia manawa āu e makemake ai e hoʻololi i kou ola, hoʻololi ʻoe i kāu mau aʻo ʻana.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e loli ke ʻole ʻoe e loli. Inā hoʻomau ʻoe e hana i nā mea like, e hoʻomau ʻoe i nā hopena like. Ua ʻike ʻia kēia mau mea iā ʻoe. ʻIke wau i ka wā e makemake ai i kahi loli pono wau e nānā i nā ʻano aʻo e pono ai wau e ʻapo e loaʻa ai ka hopena o kēlā hoʻololi. Inā makemake wau i ke olakino, pono wau e hoʻololi i nā mea. Inā makemake wau i ka pilina i loko o kaʻu male, a i ʻole ka pili lōʻihi, pono wau e loaʻa nā hoʻopaʻi e hoʻokumu i kēlā mau hopena.
3 mau mea nui e ukali ai
Inā ʻoe e hana i nā dailies ʻekolu, hiki iaʻu ke hōʻoia iā ʻoe, i loko o kekahi mau pule, e kokoke ʻoe i kāu wahine. E makemake ʻoe i kāu wahine ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a ʻike ʻoe i ka pili hou aku. Hiki iaʻu ke hōʻoia i kēia no ka mea he mau kāne kaʻu i moe kolohe ʻole i loko o iwakālua mau makahiki, a ma hope o nā pule hebedoma o ka hana ʻana i kēia mau mea ʻekolu, ua makemake lākou kekahi i kekahi e lawa ka moekolohe. Hoʻololi maoli ia i kou pilina, akā hana ia, W-O-R-K. Inā makemake ʻoe e hana i ka hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa nā hopena. Kākau i kēia mau mea i kahi. E hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho ma ka kalena i kēlā me kēia lā. E hāʻawi paha iā ʻoe iho i kahi hopena inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ukali. Malia paha e hana i nā push-ups a i kekahi ʻano hopena liʻiliʻi ʻē aʻe i hoʻomaka maoli ʻoe e lawe i kēia mau aʻo i loko o kāu male a me ka pilina, no ka mea, pili ka naʻau i ka naʻau. ʻAʻole aʻo ʻia nā kāne ma ke ʻano e pili ai kekahi i kekahi a ma muli o ia mea, pili palaka lāua a me nā pili olakino olakino.
ʻO ka hoʻoikaika mua ka manaʻo
ʻIke ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana i nā manaʻo. Hiki ke aʻo ʻia mai kekahi mākau e kekahi. Hiki iaʻu ke hōʻike i kēlā mea a me kekahi. Ua ʻike wau i nā kāne he nui i ulu i ka mākau o ka ʻike a haʻi ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
E pili ana i nā papa inoa na mākou e hoʻouna aku ai iā ʻoe, ma ka piko o ka ʻaoʻao aia ʻekolu mau alakaʻi āu e ukali ai. ʻO ka helu ʻekahi ʻo ia— ʻaʻohe laʻana e pili ana kekahi i kekahi. No laila ke kaʻana like ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo, "huhū wau ke ..." Hiki iā ʻoe ke huhū e pili ana i nā keiki, nā ʻīlio, nā lawlaws, nā politika, nā potholes, nā mea āpau i kou ola ma mua o kāu wahine. Helu ʻelua, mālama i ka pili maka, mea nui maoli. ʻAʻole nānā ka poʻe he nui i nā maka o kekahi. Helu ʻekolu—ʻaʻohe manaʻo manaʻo. No laila ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo, “Au, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu. ʻAʻole loaʻa iaʻu. E ʻeli hohonu, e haʻi hou aʻe. " ʻAʻohe o kēlā — ke lohe wale nei ʻoe i ka haʻi ʻē ʻana i kahi manaʻo.
E kau kaulike i kou manamana lima i lalo i ka papa inoa o nā manaʻo. Piʻi. ʻAe, ua pae ʻoe i ka “mālie.” I kēia manawa aia ʻelua mau huaʻōlelo ma kāu pepa, “ʻoluʻolu wau i ka ...
Hana pololei ʻoe i kēia ʻano hana no 90 mau lā. Ma hope o kēlā, hana wale i ʻelua mau manaʻo mai kou lā, akā 90 mau lā paha ka lōʻihi e lilo ai i ʻike heluhelu. Inā makemake ʻoe e wikiwiki i kēlā, hiki i ka puke "Emotional Fitness" ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻolalelale i ka hoʻomohala manaʻo.
ʻO ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa lua ka hoʻomaikaʻi
E noʻonoʻo i nā mea āu e aloha ai, makemake aiʻole mahalo ai e pili ana i kāu wahine. E kiʻi iā lākou i kou poʻo. E like kēia me ka ping pong. Hana ʻoe i hoʻokahi, hana kāu wahine i hoʻokahi, hana ʻoe i hoʻokahi, a hana kāu wahine i hoʻokahi. ʻO kahi laʻana, "aloha nui wau i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kou hana ʻana i ke ala āu e hoʻoponopono ai i kēlā pilikia." A laila pono ʻo ia e ʻōlelo mahalo. He mea nui loa kēia. Pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo hoʻomaikaʻi e ʻae e komo i ka hoʻomaikaʻi. Nui ka poʻe mahalo ʻia akā ʻaʻole lākou e ʻae i loko, no laila ke noho deficit nei kā lākou moʻokāki no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou e waiho kālā i ka waihona. Ke hoʻomaikaʻi aku kekahi, mahalo iā haʻi.
ʻO ka hana hope loa ka pule
ʻO kēlā me kēia kumu o kou ʻuhane, komo i kēlā. Inā ʻaʻohe ou, e ʻōlelo wale, “E ke Akua, pule wale nō mākou. Mahalo nui no kēia lā. Mahalo no kaʻu wahine. Mahalo no koʻu ʻohana. ” Lawa kēlā, makemake ʻoe e komo i kekahi ʻano pilina ʻuhane no ka mea he ʻuhane kou a eia naʻe hōʻike ʻoe i kēlā a i ʻole ʻike i kēlā, makemake ʻoe e ʻike pū. Hiki iaʻu ke haʻi iā ʻoe i kēia mau hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻekolu: ʻelua manaʻo, ʻelua mahalo, a me ka pule, ka noʻonoʻo ʻana (ka pilina, kekahi ʻano o ka pilina ʻuhane) i kēlā me kēia lā lilo i aʻo. I kēlā me kēia lā, e hoʻoponopono ana ʻoe me kāu wahine i kekahi mau manaʻo. E ʻike ʻoe i kāu kāne a i ʻole kāu pakanā ma ke ʻano he kanaka palekana loa. Over time, you begin to generalize, "Palekana kaʻu wahine. Hiki iāʻu ke kaʻana aku i koʻu puʻuwai me kaʻu wahine. ”
He aha ka mea e hoʻomaka ai ʻoe e neʻe kokoke a kokoke a kokoke. ʻO ka mea nani e pili ana i kēia ma hope o kanaiwa mau lā hiki iā ʻoe ke waiho i nā papa inoa o nā manaʻo. Ke hāʻawi nei māua ʻo Lisa i ʻelua mau manaʻo mai kā mākou lā i kēlā me kēia lā. ʻIke maoli mākou i kekahi i kekahi a noho mau mākou i mau hoaaloha no ka mea like ka manaʻo o nā hoa aloha.