Anter
- 1. Lawe i ka "hemo" ma waho o kāu huaʻōlelo
- 2. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kumu o kou male ʻana ma mua
- 3. Mai poina i ka loli o kēlā kau
- 4. E ʻimi aʻoaʻo
- 5. E kiʻi i ke kākoʻo o haʻi
He palekana loa ia e ʻōlelo ai ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻolālā e mare i nā manawa āpau e hoʻolālā i ka hemo a i ʻole nā mea kupaianaha paha pehea e ho'ōki ai i ka male male male. Akā kaumaha, hōʻike nā helu helu e hiki maoli i nā kāne he nui.
Wahi a nā hōʻike i paʻi ʻia, ma kahi o 40 pākēneka o ka male mua, ma kahi o 60 pākēneka o ka lua o ka male ʻana a me ka 73 pākēneka o ka male ʻekolu e pau me nā kāne a me nā wahine e kū ana i mua o kahi luna kānāwai e noi ana e hoʻopau ʻia kā lāua male.
Ma kahi ʻē aʻe o ka hemo maoli ka paʻakikī o ka hemo no ka wahine, he mea paʻakikī hoʻi ia no kā lāua mau keiki, nā ʻohana a me nā hoa aloha a ʻōlelo kekahi, ʻo ke kaiāulu nui hoʻi.
ʻO ia no ka mea he nui ka poʻe e manaʻoʻiʻo i ka ʻohana ka pōhaku kihi e kūkulu ʻia ai nā mea he nui. A no laila, ke kaʻawale kekahi ʻohana, aia kahi hopena domino e hiki ai ke luku maoli.
Akā he aha kāu e hana ai inā ʻoe i loko o ka male pilikia? He aha nā ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e hōʻoki i kahi hemo a pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka male male a mālama i kāu male?
No laila inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi kūlana e hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e ʻike pehea e hōʻole ai i ka haʻalele male? a i ʻole pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hōʻoki i ka hemo male? Eia nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻelima i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine e ʻike i kahi mālamalama o ka manaʻolana a e hana i nā hana i ka hōʻalo ʻana i ka hemo a me ka hoʻōla ʻana i kāu pili.
Heluhelu Pili: He aha ka manaʻo o ka male male ma ʻAmelika e pili ana i ka male?
1. Lawe i ka "hemo" ma waho o kāu huaʻōlelo
E like me kāu i koho ai e male, ʻo ka hemo he koho mau. ʻO ka mea weliweli e pili ana i kēia kuhi ʻo ia ka mana o ʻolua a me kāu wahine e pale ai i ka hopena o kāu male a me ka hoʻōki ʻana i ka male male.
ʻO ka mea nui ka hoʻomaka ʻana me ka hoʻoholo ʻana e lawe ʻole i ka huaʻōlelo "hemo" i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana. E ʻeha. E huhū. E hoʻohoka. Akā e lilo i ʻano ʻano male i hoʻoholo e hoʻopakele i ka male ʻana mai ka hemo ʻana a ʻaʻole e waiho i ka hemo ma ke ʻano he koho i loko o kou home.
ʻO nā hana āu i kau ai i loko o kahi pilina ka refection o nā koho āu i hana ai, a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e makemake e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai kāu hoa kāne ma mua o ka hōʻoki ʻana i kahi hemo ʻana ʻo ʻoe ka mua a ʻo ke koho wale nō.
No laila e hoʻomanaʻo, no ka paʻakikī o ka hele ʻana ke ala maikaʻi loa e hōʻoki ai i ka male male ʻaʻole e noʻonoʻo pono iā ia.
2. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kumu o kou male ʻana ma mua
Ua ʻōlelo ʻia kahi kanaka naʻauao i nā manawa ke makemake ʻoe e haʻalele i kekahi mea, e hoʻomanaʻo i ke kumu o kou hoʻomaka ʻana. I kou lā male, ua hoʻohiki ʻoe a me kāu hoa e noho ma laila no kekahi - ma o nā mea āpau.
ʻO kēia ka manaʻo inā he mea ʻole, kūpaʻa ʻoe i ka hoʻi ʻana o kekahi i kekahi. He paʻakikī paha kēia i kēia manawa, akā aia kahi manawa kūpono maikaʻi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana ma o nā mea like ma mua o ka kaʻawale.
Hana wale ka male male ke pili ka lua, a ʻo ko lākou kūpaʻa a paʻa hoʻi e hoʻāʻo ʻia ke paʻakikī ka hele ʻana. Ua male ʻoe, ma ka ʻāpana, e lilo i kākoʻo ʻōnaehana kekahi. ʻO nā manawa paʻakikī ka manawa e hui pū ai; mai huki kekahi i kekahi.
E nānā i kēlā ʻāpana kālā, a ʻae, he ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēlā me kēia ao. E ʻimi i kēlā manaʻolana, kēlā kukui i ka pouli a kūkulu ma luna o laila. He paʻakikī paha, pili ʻoe inā makemake ʻoe. Akā ʻo ia kahi e kū ai kou aloha i kāna hōʻike ʻoi loa.
ʻO kāu male ʻana, kāu mau manaʻo kūpono, kou aloha i kekahi i kekahi, e hoʻāʻo ʻia ia mau mea āpau, no laila e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho i nā mea āu i aloha mau ai e pili ana i kāu hoa a paʻa iā lākou a i ka manawa e hōʻoia ʻia ia kekahi o nā ala maikaʻi loa e hōʻoki ai i ka male male.
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3. Mai poina i ka loli o kēlā kau
"No ka ʻoi a maikaʻi paha." ʻO kēia kahi huaʻōlelo āu i ʻōlelo ai i kāu haʻi ʻana i kāu hoʻohiki male. A ʻoiai he ʻano launa ʻole paha ia o "no ka ʻoi aku ka hewa," e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe e hiki mai ana nā kau a hala nā kau.
ʻO ka loli ka mea mau wale nō, no laila i kēia lā inā ua haki nā mea āpau a laila apopo e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manawa kūpono e hoʻoponopono ai.
Mai kālele nui i ka wā i hala e nalo ana ka manaʻolana e loaʻa ka hauʻoli i ka wā e hiki mai ana. E hoʻomanawanui, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hakakā i ka manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hele kūʻē iā ia, pono e holo i kekahi mau mea. Ua like ia me nā kau hoʻololi; aia kekahi ma hope pono aʻe ma ke kihi.
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4. E ʻimi aʻoaʻo
ʻAʻohe kānalua e pili ana. ʻO kekahi o nā ala kūpono e hōʻoki i ka male male ka ʻike ʻana i kahi kākāʻōlelo.
He mākaukau ʻoihana a mākaukau lākou e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā pono hana pehea e hana ai i nā pilikia e loaʻa nei iā ʻoe a pehea e pale ai i nā mea mai ka piʻi ʻana a hiki i ka manaʻo o ka hemo i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Hāʻawi ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo male iā ʻoe i kahi e puka ai e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia āpau e like me ka mea e hoʻokau nei i kāu male i ka hemo ʻana, a ke hāʻawi ʻia ka manawa kūpono a me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo paʻa hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e maopopo pehea ʻoe e hōʻoki ai i kahi hemo a pehea e haʻalele ʻole ai.
ʻO kahi mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ai i ka ʻimi ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka male ʻo ia ke ʻike i ke kākāʻōlelo male ʻoi loa; ʻo ke kumu aʻo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi ma mua o ke kākāʻōlelo. E noi i kāu mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha, a i ʻole ʻimi i nā papa kuhikuhi kūpono e ʻike i ke kākāʻōlelo kūpono e kōkua iā ʻoe e hooki i ka oki mare.
5. E kiʻi i ke kākoʻo o haʻi
ʻO kahi mea e pono ai nā kāne male āpau nā kāne male ʻē aʻe; kikoʻī, kekahi olakino male kāne male. ʻOiai ʻaʻole hemolele ka male ʻana (a ʻo ia no ka mea ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā kānaka ʻelua), ʻo ka nūhou maikaʻi e ulu nei nā male.
ʻO ia no ka paʻa o ke kāne a me ka wahine e aloha i kekahi i kekahi, me ka mahalo i kekahi i kekahi a noho pū a hiki i ka wā e make ai lākou. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kēlā ʻano hopena i kou ola he mea pono wale nō ia e pono ai ʻoe a me kāu wahine i kekahi o nā manawa paʻakikī.
Pono i kēlā me kēia mea ke kākoʻo, e like me nā kāne male. A ʻo kekahi o ke kākoʻo ʻoi loa aku nā hoa aloha olakino a hauʻoli hoʻi.
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