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“ʻO ka hui o hoʻokahi,
ʻelua he lehulehu,
a ʻekolu mau pāʻina. ”
- Andy Warhol
He mea pili ka pilina. A hana lākou i ka hana.
A pono lākou e leʻaleʻa a pāʻani hoʻi e hānai, uku a mālama iā lākou iho. ʻO lākou ko mākou ʻiʻini loa a me kā mākou makaʻu makaʻu loa, ko mākou wahi o ka hānai, kōkua a me ka palekana, a like me ka hilahila, ka hopohopo a me ka hilahila.
Kūleʻa ʻole nā pilina ʻelua kanaka. Ke hoʻoweliweli ke ʻano o ka naʻau, ʻimi ʻia kahi kanaka ʻekolu e kōkua e hōʻoluʻolu i ka hopohopo.
Ua kākau ʻo Guerin & Fogarty.
"Mai kēia kuanaʻike, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ke ola ma mua o ke kaʻina o nā ala e koho ʻia ai, akā ma ke ʻano he maze o nā triangular shoals a me nā ʻākala e hoʻokele ʻia a puni."
ʻO kēia ʻōnaehana pilina pili ʻekolu kanaka, kahi huinakolu ma mua o kahi ʻekolu, lawelawe e hōʻemi i ka hopohopo i ka manawa like e hōʻoia ana ʻaʻole e hoʻonā ʻia nā pilikia pili paʻa.ʻO ka loaʻa pōkole ia o ka ʻeha wā lōʻihi. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi loa, hoʻonāukiuki pinepine nā triangles i ka ʻehaʻeha o ka naʻau e:
- Ke hāpai nei i ka hoʻomohala ʻana o nā hōʻailona ma ke kanaka - ʻo ka ʻaoʻao maikaʻi ʻole o ka triangle he hōʻike ʻōuli wale nō ia o ka pilikia ʻohana āpau.
- Mālama i nā hakakā pili pili
- Ke pale a pale paha i ka hoʻonā ʻana i nā pilikia ʻawahia a hakakā paha
- Ke kāpae ʻana i ka evolution evolution o kahi pilina ma o ka manawa
- Ke hana a hoʻomau i nā imp therapeutic
- Ka hōʻole ʻana i nā ʻohana i nā koho hoʻonā pilikia
He mea kōkua ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā triangles interpersonal me he pilina pilina, kahi hana a me ka hana naʻau.
ʻO ke ʻano o ka triangle pili e pili ana i ʻelua ma loko, i hoʻopili ʻia a pili loa hoʻi, a ʻo kekahi ma waho e mamao aku i ka naʻau a hoʻokaʻawale.
ʻO ka hana o kahi huinakolu pili i hana i ke kūpaʻa e:
1. Ke kia ʻana i kekahi mea ma waho i hiki i ka wahine ke hoʻoponopono i kā lāua mau hakakā.
2. A laila kōkua kēia i ka hemo ʻana i ka haunaele ma waena o lākou me ka ʻole o ka loli nui.
ʻO ke kaʻina o ka naʻau o ka triangle pili i ka neʻe ʻana o ka hopohopo mau o ka ʻōnaehana i ka neʻe ʻana o nā kuʻikahi a hoʻololi i ka manawa.
ʻO ka mana omnipresence o nā huinakolu i nā pilikia pili pilina kekahi o nā manawalu pilina paʻa ʻewalu o ʻO Theory Nā ʻōnaehana ʻohana ʻo Bowen (BFST).
"ʻO ia [kahi huinakolu] ka mea i kūkulu ʻia a i ʻole" mole "o nā ʻōnaehana manaʻo nui aʻe no ka mea ʻo ka triangle ka ʻōnaehana pilina paʻa paʻa liʻiliʻi loa. Paʻa ʻole kahi ʻōnaehana ʻelua mau kanaka no ka mea hoʻomanawanui ia i ka liʻiliʻi ma mua o ke komo ʻana i kahi kanaka ʻekolu. Hiki i kahi triangle ke hoʻopaʻa i nā ʻoi aʻe me ka ʻole o ke komo ʻana i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe no ka mea hiki ke neʻe ke kaʻe ma kahi o ʻekolu mau pilina. Inā kiʻekiʻe loa ka haunaele no hoʻokahi triangle e komo ai, pālahalaha ia i ke kaʻina o nā huinakolu “pili”.
I kēia manawa inā ʻaʻole kēlā kanaka ʻekolu 'akā he mea?
ʻO ka huaʻōlelo Psychology o Iulai / ʻAukake 2016 i kēia lā e hōʻike nei i nā pilikia o ke kenekulia 21 'ménage à trois', kā mākou mau hana āpau me nā ʻenehana. Me ko mākou alo i kā mākou kelepona a i ʻole ka papaha a i ʻole he uaki akamai a i ʻole ke kamepiula lawe lima, pehea mākou e hiki ai i kā mākou hoa?
Sherry Turkle subtitles kāna puke hou loa e pili ana i ka moʻomeheu kamepiula "No ke aha mākou e manaʻo ai i nā mea hou aku mai ka ʻenehana a me ka liʻiliʻi o kēlā me kēia mea". Hōʻike ʻo ia e hana ka ʻenehana i nā "mea pani e kau i ka holo maoli". I LOL, OMG a me nā mea ʻē aʻe hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohui i kēia manawa iā IRL ʻo ia hoʻi "Ma ke ola maoli" e like me kekahi mea i ka honua maoli i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana me ka kamaʻilio a me ka launa pū ʻana ma ka pūnaewele a i ʻole kahi hanana fictional.
Ke kamaʻilio "kamaʻilio" mākou me ka poʻe ʻaʻole paha, a ke "kamaʻilio" me kā mākou manamana lima ma mua o ko mākou leo, ke ʻike ka mea ma o ka papa i ka hope o kā mākou iPhone a i ʻole ke alo i lalo me kā lākou pale, ehia hiki ke kaʻanalike maoli a pili i ka pilina.
E haʻi ana wau i kahi moʻolelo i kahi manawa e pili ana i koʻu hauʻoli i ka loaʻa ʻana o ʻeono mau hola o ka helehelena hele ʻole me kahi ʻohana pili a ʻo ka pane "manaʻo ʻoe ma kāu iPhone?" Kuhi wau inā ua hoʻohui wau iā IRL.
No laila huli i kāu hoa ma mua o ka huli ʻana. A hoʻomanaʻo i nā mea āpau, ʻo ka mea nui iā ʻoe iho, no kekahi kumu ʻē a ʻano ʻē, hana ʻole nā uila uila i loko o kou lumi moe.
Kūleʻa mākou āpau me ke kaulike ʻana i ka pili o ka naʻau a me ka mamao. No laila hiki iā mākou āpau ke keu mai ka pilina aʻo a me ke kūkākūkā ʻana. No laila, inā he ʻano ʻē ia a maikaʻi ʻole ia, ʻo wai ʻoe e kāhea? ” A inā ʻaʻohe ou Proton Pack no bustin, 'e noʻonoʻo i ke kūkākūkā ʻana me kahi mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa maikaʻi ʻo Bowen Family Systems Theory Coach a me ka Hoʻolapa Hoʻohālikelike. "Makaʻu ʻole ʻoe i ka ʻuhane ʻohana."
ʻO ka laki maikaʻi loa i kāu huakaʻi wehewehe o ke ola holoʻokoʻa.