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- Pehea e ʻike ai inā mākaukau ʻoe no ka male
- 1. Kūʻokoʻa au?
- 2. He pilina olakino kēia?
- 3. Loaʻa iā mākou nā pahuhopu a me nā waiwai?
- 4. Hānai mākou i ka pilina?
- 5. No ke aha wau e makemake ai e male?
Ke nīnau nei paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, "Āhea wau e male ai?" Akā ma mua o kou ʻimi ʻana i kahi pane i kēia nīnau, pono ʻoe e nānā i loko ou a ma loko o ka pili o kāu pili a pane i ka nīnau kūpono hou - e mākaukau ana paha no ka male?
Akā ʻo ka mea mua, he aha ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o ka male a me ka male?
ʻO kahi male ka manawa kūpono e lilo i mea kaulana no ka lā, e komo i ka mālamalama o ka hoʻomana ʻana i ka poʻe e nānā ana, me ka haʻi ʻole i kahi manawa kūpono e hoʻokipa i kahi pāʻina nui loa. Ma hope o ka hala ʻana o nā pua a uhi ʻia kou kapa i ka lepo, akā, pono ʻoe e noho me nā ʻoiaʻiʻo o ke ola male.
Pehea e ʻike ai inā mākaukau ʻoe no ka male
ʻOiai hiki i ka male ke hoʻonui i kou ola, hiki ke lilo i kumu o ka ʻeha nui inā ʻoe e male i ka mea hewa a i mākaukau ʻole no ka hoʻokō.
He papa inoa hoʻomākaukau mākaukau hiki ke kōkua nui i ka pane ʻana i ka nīnau, pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā makemake ʻoe e male i kekahi?
- Ke hoʻoholo nei e male. E hōʻoia inā ua hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho, a ʻaʻole pili i ka hoa e hoʻopau iā ʻoe.
- Pehea e ʻike ai inā makemake ʻoe e male i kekahi? Ke hoʻokūkū nei kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana i kou pili a ʻo kāu hoapili, me ka ʻole o nā lepa ʻulaʻula.
- ʻO ʻoe a me kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe hana me he kime a nānā i nā haʻina hana e hoʻonā maikaʻi i nā pilikia.
- Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka hiki ke kala aku i kāu hoa ke kuhi hewa ʻoe. Pēlā e ʻike ai inā mākaukau ʻoe no ka male.
- ʻO ʻolua mai hoʻolei i nā ultimatums e haʻalele i kekahi i kekahi, e hōʻalo wale i nā paio a i ʻole nā kūkā kamaʻilio.
- Inā pili ʻole kāu pili, he pane maikaʻi loa inā mākaukau ʻoe no ka male.
- Inā e male koke ana ʻoe, a kaʻana like ʻoe i ka hoʻokaʻa kālā, a laila ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona mākaukau ʻoe no ka male.
- Ke hoʻomākaukau nei no ka male? E hōʻoia ua hōʻea i kahi pae kahi ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻokau i nā ʻupena booby no kekahi mai kekahi o nā insecurities hohonu. ʻO kahi laʻana, "No ke aha ʻoe i haʻalele ʻole mai ai iaʻu i kahi leka i kēia kakahiaka?", "No ke aha ʻoe e kaʻanalike ʻole ai i kāu kelepona a me kāu ʻōlelo huna kamepiula me aʻu inā ʻoe he aloha maoli iaʻu?"
Ma mua o kou male ʻana, pono ʻoe e ʻike i nā kumu kūpono e male ai a nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kēia mau nīnau nui ʻelima.
1. Kūʻokoʻa au?
ʻO ka nīnau mua e hoʻomākaukau ai no ka male ʻana e nīnau nei iā ʻoe iho inā kūʻokoʻa kālā ʻoe.
Pehea e ʻike ai i ka wā e male ai?
He ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e hoʻoikaika no ke kūʻokoʻa kālā i ka wā e mākaukau ana no ka male.
ʻO ka hilinaʻi ponoʻī e hōʻoia i kahi hoʻololi maikaʻi mai ke ola hoʻokahi i ke ola male a me kahi pili kālā maikaʻi o ka male.
ʻOi loa no ka poʻe ʻōpio, hōʻailona ka male i ka hoʻololi i ke oʻo makua. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe he mākua kūʻokoʻa i kou hoʻololi ʻana i ka hauʻoli hauʻoli hiki ke lilo i mea nui.
Ma mua o ka nakinaki ʻana i nā kaula, pono ʻoe e kūʻokoʻa i ke kālā — a i ʻole ma ke ala o ke kūʻokoʻa.
He manaʻo weliweli hoʻi ka male ʻana no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e kaʻawale. ʻAʻohe o ka makemake nui i ka papa ʻaina no ka male hauʻoli, no laila inā ʻaʻohe mea ʻo ka male ʻana akā he ala e paʻakikī ai i ka haʻalele ʻana o kāu hoa, a laila ʻaʻole ʻoe kokoke i ka mākaukau.
Paipai ʻia - Papa Hana Mua ma mua o ka male ʻana
2. He pilina olakino kēia?
ʻAʻole pono kou pilina ma mua o kou male ʻana, akā he kūpaʻa ia a maikaʻi ke olakino. ʻO kekahi mau hōʻailona e paʻa ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina olakino pū kekahi:
- He hoa i kamaʻilio waha a i ʻole kino hoʻouka kaua iā ʻoe
- He moolelo o hoʻopono ʻole a i ʻole hoʻomaloka ʻaʻole i hoʻonā ʻia i kēlā manawa
- Mōʻaukala o ka mālama ʻole ʻia ka maʻi noʻonoʻo a i ʻole hōʻino lāʻau
- Serious kānalua e pili ana i ka nohona o kāu hoa a i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noho pū
3. Loaʻa iā mākou nā pahuhopu a me nā waiwai?
ʻO ka male ʻana ma mua o ke aloha wale nō.
He pilina ka male, a ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoʻokaʻawale kālā ʻana, nā pahuhopu, nā ʻano hānai keiki, a me nā hiʻohiʻona o ke ola.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e ʻaelike i nā mea āpau, akā pono ʻoe e loaʻa nā moeʻuhane like no ka wā e hiki mai ana.
ʻO kekahi mau pilikia āu e kūkākūkā ai ma mua o ka male ʻana.
- Inā a pehea ka manawa e loaʻa ai nā keiki, a pehea ʻoe e manaʻo ai e hānai i kēlā mau keiki
- ʻO kāu waiwai haipule a me nā loina
- ʻO kāu pahuhopu ʻoihana, ʻo ia pū kekahi inā makemake ʻoe e noho home me kāu poʻe keiki
- Pehea ʻoe e wili ai i ka hana o ka hale e like me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe, kuke ʻana, a me keʻoki ʻana i ka mauʻu
- Pehea ʻoe e makemake ai e hoʻoponopono i nā paio
- Ehia mau manawa āu e hoʻolilo ai me kekahi, me nā hoaaloha, a me ka ʻohana
- Inā ʻoe e hele i nā lawelawe hale pule maʻamau, nā hana manawaleʻa, a i ʻole nā hana maʻamau ʻē aʻe
4. Hānai mākou i ka pilina?
Kūkulu ʻia kahi male maikaʻi ma ke kahua paʻa o ka hilinaʻi a me ka hāmama.
Manaʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne ʻōpio i ka pili pili i ka wahine, akā ʻoi aku ka pili ma mua o ka moekolohe wale nō a pili pū me ka pili o ka naʻau. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau no kēia ʻano closeness, ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻoe e male. ʻO kekahi mau hōʻailona ʻaʻole i lawa kāu hana e pili ana i ka launa pū me:
- ʻAʻole hiki ke kūkākūkā i kekahi mau kumuhana me kāu hoa
- ʻO ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kekahi ʻike, e like me nā kikoʻī e pili ana i kou olakino, "nui loa" a pili pili paha i kāu hoa
- Ka hūnā ʻana i kekahi i kekahi
- ʻAʻole e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou lā
- ʻAʻole ʻike i nā kikoʻī kī e pili ana i ke ola o kekahi
5. No ke aha wau e makemake ai e male?
He mau loa ka male ʻana. ʻAʻole ia he pāʻina nui i ukali ʻia e ka "hoʻāʻo ʻana" e noho pū.
Inā ʻaʻole maopopo ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke pili me kēia kanaka no ka ʻoi a ʻoi paha o ka maikaʻi ʻole, no ka mea, a laila ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e male. He paʻakikī ka male ʻana, a inā ʻo kāu pane i kēlā me kēia hakakā ke hele aku, a i ʻole inā ʻoe e manaʻoʻiʻo i kekahi mau ʻano hana e hopena i ka hemo male, a laila ʻaʻole no ʻoe ka male ʻana.
E kū ʻoe i nā pilikia i loko o kāu male, a inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke piʻi aʻe ma luna o lākou, ʻoi aku ʻoe ma mua o kahi helu helu ʻē aʻe.
ʻO ka hoʻomākaukau no ka male e pili pū kekahi i ka hoʻolohi ʻana i nā lipina e nīnau iā ʻoe ma hope, no ke aha ʻoe i male ai. Lana ka manaʻo, ʻo nā ʻike i loko o ka ʻatikala e kōkua iā ʻoe e pane i ka nīnau, ua mākaukau paha ʻoe e male.
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