Anter
- 1. E hōʻole paha nā keiki i ka kaʻana like i ka makua ola
- 2. Kū paha ka hakakā ma waena o nā kaikaina a me nā kaikaina hapalua
- 3. E māhuahua paha nā pilikia pili kālā
- 4. E alo paha ʻoe i nā paio kū kānāwai
- 5. Hiki paha i nā pilikia o ke kākoʻo ʻana ke hana i nā pilikia hou aʻe
Hoʻohālikelike ʻia nā ʻohana i hui ʻia ma ke ʻano he ʻohana i piha i kahi kāne makua i loaʻa nā keiki mai kahi pilina ma mua a ua mare ʻia e loaʻa hou nā keiki.
ʻO nā ʻohana i hui ʻia, i ʻike ʻia hoʻi he ʻohana paʻakikī, ke ulu nei i kēia mau lā. Me ka piʻina o ka piʻi ʻana, nui ka poʻe e male hou a hana i ʻohana hou. ʻOiai he mea kōkua pinepine ka mare hou no ka wahine, aia kekahi mau pilikia i pili iā ia.
Eia kekahi, ke pili nā keiki mai kekahi o nā mākua, nā pilikia e ʻike i ke ala.
ʻO ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo iho he 5 mau pilikia ʻohana i hui ʻia e hiki ai i kekahi ʻohana hou ke kū. Eia nō naʻe, me nā kamaʻilio kūpono a me nā hoʻoikaika ʻana, hiki ke hoʻoponopono maʻalahi i kēia mau pilikia āpau.
1. E hōʻole paha nā keiki i ka kaʻana like i ka makua ola
ʻO ka maʻamau, ke komo ka makua i kahi pilina hou, ʻo nā keiki ka hopena nui. ʻAʻole wale lākou i kēia manawa e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kahi ʻohana hou me nā poʻe hou, hoʻonoho ʻia lākou i kahi kūlana kahi lākou e kaʻana like ai i ko lākou makua hānau me nā kaikaina ʻē aʻe ʻo ia hoʻi nā keiki o ka ʻohana makua.
Makemake ʻia mai kahi mākua e hāʻawi i nā keiki keiki i ke aloha like, ka nānā a me ka hoʻolohe e like me kā lākou makemake i kā lākou keiki ponoʻī.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole hana pinepine nā keiki olaola a ʻike i nā kaikaina hou me he mea hoʻoweliweli lā. Koi lākou i ko lākou makua olaola e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka manawa like a me ka nānā i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia i waena o nā kaikaina ʻē aʻe. Eʻoi aku ka ʻino o nā mea inā he keiki hoʻokahi lāua a ke manaʻo ʻia nei e kaʻana like i ko lākou makuahine a makua kāne paha me nā kaikaina ʻē aʻe.
2. Kū paha ka hakakā ma waena o nā kaikaina a me nā kaikaina hapalua
He ʻaʻa maʻamau kēia i kāwili ʻia i ka ʻohana i ka wā ʻōpio o nā keiki.
He paʻakikī nā keiki e hoʻoponopono i kahi ʻohana hou a ʻae i ka noho ʻana me nā kaikaina hou. He paio pinepine kā nā kaikaolaola i waena o lākou, akā naʻe, hoʻonui kēia hakakā me nā kaikaina a me nā kaikaina hapalua.
Hōʻole pinepine nā keiki e ʻae i kēia ʻohana hou i hoʻonohonoho ʻia. ʻOiai inā hoʻāʻo ka makua e kaulike ma waena o kā lāua olaola a me kāna keiki hānau, manaʻo paha nā keiki ola e like me ke ʻoluʻolu ka makua i nā keiki hānau i alakaʻi i nā hakakā lehulehu, nā huhū, ka huhū a me ka ʻawahia i ka ʻohana.
3. E māhuahua paha nā pilikia pili kālā
Hoʻonui ka nui o nā keiki a nā ʻohana i hui ʻia me ka hoʻohālikelike ʻia i kahi ʻohana nukelea kuʻuna.
Ma muli o ka nui o nā keiki, hoʻonui pū kēia mau ʻohana i nā lilo. Inā loaʻa nā keiki a ka wahine, hoʻomaka lākou me ke kumukūʻai kiʻekiʻe o ka holo ʻana i ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa a hoʻokō i nā pono āpau. ʻO ka hoʻohui o kahi keiki hou, inā hoʻolālā ka wahine e hui pū, hoʻonui wale ia i ka nui o nā kumukūʻai no ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki.
Eia kekahi, pipiʻi hoʻi nā hana hemo a lawe i kahi ʻāpana kālā nui. A ʻo kahi hopena, hiki ke loaʻa ka kālā a loaʻa i nā mākua ʻelua i nā hana i hiki ai ke hoʻokō i nā pono o ka ʻohana.
4. E alo paha ʻoe i nā paio kū kānāwai
Ma hope o ka hemo ʻana, hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ka waiwai a me nā mea āpau o nā mākua.
Ke loaʻa kekahi o lākou i kahi hoa hou, pono e hoʻololi i nā ʻaelike kū kānāwai. ʻO nā uku Mediation a me nā lilo pili kānāwai ʻē aʻe e kau hou i ka waihona kālā a ka ʻohana.
5. Hiki paha i nā pilikia o ke kākoʻo ʻana ke hana i nā pilikia hou aʻe
ʻO ka manawa pinepine ma hope o ka hemo ʻana, nui nā mākua i koho i co-makua no ka hānai maikaʻi ʻana o kā lākou keiki.
ʻO ka co-makua pili i nā hana like a nā mākua i hemo, hoʻokaʻawale a noho hou ʻole e hānai i kahi keiki. ʻO ke kumu kēia e kipa pinepine ka makua ʻē aʻe o ke keiki i ka wahi o ka wahine ma mua e hui ai me kā lākou keiki.
Hoʻokumu pinepine ia i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa a me nā hakakā ma waena o nā mākua ola ʻelua i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia akā hiki paha i kahi hopena maikaʻi ʻole mai ka hoa hou. ʻIke paha ʻo ia i ka wahine ma mua o kā lākou kāne a wahine paha e like me ka hoʻoweliweli a ke komo nei i ko lākou pilikino a no laila, ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu loa iā lākou.
ʻOiai nā pilikia he nui, aia wale nō kēia mau pilikia i ka manawa he ʻohana hui hou ʻia. Lohi a lohi me ka hoʻoikaika nui a me ka kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻana, hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia kēia mau pilikia āpau. He mea nui ka nānā mua o ka wahine ma kā lāua pili pono a hoʻoikaika iā ia ma mua o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia hoʻi nā mea e pili ana i nā keiki. ʻO nā hoa i hilinaʻi kekahi i kekahi e hiki ke hele i loko o nā manawa paʻakikī ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i ka poʻe i hilinaʻi ʻole a ʻae i nā pilikia i loaʻa i ka maikaʻi loa o kā lāua pilina.