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- ʻO ka launa me ka wahine hemo - he aha ka mea e manaʻo ai?
- 1. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻohiki
- 2. Lohi mālie
- 3. ʻO nā mea i manaʻo ʻia vs.
- 4. E loaʻa ana nā pilikia pili kālā
- 5. E hele mua nā keiki
- 6. Hana me ka Ex
- Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia?
Ke manaʻo iki ʻoe, e hele mai kekahi i kou ola a hoʻololi iā ia.
Ke hiki mai i ke aloha, mai hoʻonele i kou manawa i ka hoʻomālama ʻana i kou ikehu i loko e ʻimi nei i kekahi i loko o kāu "makemake" no ka mea ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo mākou mai kāohi i ka mea a mākou e aloha ai me.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, makemake mākou e launa me kekahi mea kūʻokoʻa a noho kaʻawale akā pehea inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe e hāʻule ana no kahi kāne hemo? He aha inā e hāʻawi ka male ʻana i kahi kāne hemo iā ʻoe i ka pīhoihoi pau ʻole? Loaʻa ʻoe i kiʻekiʻe no ka launa ʻana me kahi kāne i haʻalele ʻia?
A, ʻo ka mea hope loa akā ʻaʻole ka mea liʻiliʻi loa, pehea ʻoe e mākaukau ai e kū i mua o nā pilikia o ke aloha ʻana i kahi kāne hemo?
ʻO ka launa me ka wahine hemo - he aha ka mea e manaʻo ai?
Ke koho nei i ka la me ke kāne hemo paha he mea nui a ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo; paʻakikī loa e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ke ʻike ʻoe i kahi kāne i loaʻa ka moʻolelo paʻakikī i kāna male male a me kāna ex. Kekahi, ka launa ʻana me kekahi kāne i haʻalele ʻia me nā keiki wale nō hoʻohui i kāu papa inoa o nā pilikia.
Ke hoʻonohonoho nei i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia ʻo ia ka mea mua i pono ʻoe e makaʻala ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e hele i kahi lā me kekahi mea hemo kāna wahine. ʻO ke kumu maʻamau ke kumu e holo ʻole ai ia no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau no kēia kūlana.
Hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea nui e hoʻoponopono me kāna kūlana, ʻo ia ke kumu o ka mākaukau kou kumu ʻoi loa inā makemake ʻoe e holo pono kāu pilina.
He aha kāu e manaʻo ai ke aloha aku ʻoe i kahi kāne hemo?
Lana ka nui o nā hoʻoponopono, lana e pono ʻoe e hōʻoki i nā hoʻolālā me ka manaʻo ʻole a manaʻo e loaʻa ana kēia kanaka a e hana pū ana me nā pilikia a me nā mea hou aʻe.
E like me kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei, inā he mea nui kekahi iā ʻoe, a laila, hiki iā ʻoe ke lanakila i nā pilikia inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻomau i ke aloha i kahi kāne hemo.
Eia nā pilikia nui loa o ka pili aloha ʻana i ke kāne hemo.
ʻO nā pilikia nui o ka pili aloha ʻana i ke kāne hemo
1. ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻohiki
Inā manaʻo ʻoe he pololei wahine ʻo wai hoʻoluhi me ke kūpaʻa ma hope o ka hemo ʻana, a laila hewa ʻoe. Pēlā nō ka manaʻo o nā kāne, he mea ʻole ke kumu o ka hemo; ke uhaʻi nei nō i nā hoʻohiki a lāua i hoʻohiki ai i kekahi i kekahi.
No kekahi, hiki ke lilo i ka leʻaleʻa i ka leʻaleʻa, akā ke maopopo iā lākou ke hele a koʻikoʻi, manaʻo paha lākou he pono lākou e haʻalele i ka pilina ma mua o ka hōʻeha hou ʻana. Pono ʻoe e loiloi i nā mea i waho.
Ua mākaukau paha kēia kāne e lilo i koʻikoʻi hou a manaʻo paha ʻoe ke nānā wale nei ʻo ia i nā kaikamahine aloha i kēia manawa?
2. Lohi mālie
ʻO kēia paha kekahi o nā pilikia e kū pono ai ʻoe ke koho ʻoe i ka launa me ke kāne hemo. ʻOiai ʻaʻole mākaukau ʻo ia e hana, ka pilina e, ʻoiai, e hele mālie ma mua o nā pilina maʻamau āu e ʻike ai.
Ua mālama ʻia paha ʻo ia mai manaʻo e hālāwai me kona mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha i kēia manawa. Eia nō naʻe, e like me ka mea hoʻonāukiuki e like me ka mea, mai hoʻonāukiuki iā ia e pili ana iā ia a i ʻole kūʻē iā ia. Akā, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kahi e hele mai ai ʻo ia.
Nanea i kou pilina a lawe mālie.
3. ʻO nā mea i manaʻo ʻia vs.
Hoʻomanaʻo i ka ʻeha o nā mea i manaʻo ʻia? E hoʻomanaʻo i kēia ʻoiai inā he kāne he kāne a he kāne hemo kāna.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e noho ʻo ia ma laila no ʻoe i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e makemake ai iā ia ʻoiai ʻoiai he keiki kāna. Mai manaʻo iā ia e noi iā ʻoe e neʻe pū me ia e like me kāu mau pili ma mua.
E ʻike i kēlā ʻokoʻa kēia mea maoli ma mua o kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai. ʻO kekahi o nā pilikia nui o ka pili aloha ʻana i ke kāne hemo ka mea e pono ai maopopo i kāu mea e hoʻokomo nei iā ʻoe iho.
4. E loaʻa ana nā pilikia pili kālā
E mākaukau no kēia mea.
Pono ʻoe ʻike i ka ʻokoʻa o ka launa ʻana me ka wahine hemo a me ke kāne hoʻokahi me ke kuleana ʻole. Aia kekahi mau manawa ma kahi o ke kaʻina o ka hemo ʻana a i ʻole lilo i ka uku i ke kālā a ke kāne.
Mai kūʻē iā ia inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke mālama iā ʻoe i ka hale ʻaina nani a i kahi wā hoʻomaha nui.
Aia kekahi mau manawa kahi e ʻōlelo ai e ʻai wale ʻoe i ka ʻaina awakea a ʻai i loko o kou hale ma mua o ka hale ʻaina, no laila mai noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e hoʻolilo kālā iā ʻoe - maopopo he hana kēia.
5. E hele mua nā keiki
ʻO kēia paha nā pilikia nui loa o ka pili ʻana i kahi kāne hemo-ʻoiaʻiʻo ke ʻole ʻoe i loko o nā keiki. Aloha ke aloha i ke kāne hemo, akā inā he keiki kāu kāne āu e aloha nei, a laila ʻaʻole loa ʻo ia e koho iā ʻoe ma mua o lākou.
ʻO kēia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoʻoleʻa kēlā pono ʻoe e ʻae ma mua o ka komo ʻana i kahi pilina.
Aia kekahi manawa kahi āna e makemake ai hoʻopau i kou lā ke kāhea aku kāna mau keiki a i ʻole inā makemake nā keiki iā ia. Aia kekahi mau manawa kahi ʻo ia ʻAʻole wau e ʻae iā ʻoe e komo i loko o kona hale ʻoiai ʻaʻole mākaukau kāna mau keiki e hālāwai me ʻoe a me nā hanana hou aʻe kahi e manaʻo ai ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻawale iā ʻoe iho.
6. Hana me ka Ex
Inā manaʻo ʻoe he paʻakikī ka lawelawe ʻana i ka manawa a me kāna mau keiki, pono ʻoe e alo i ka pahuhopu o ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā mea he nui mai kāna wahine Ex.
Pili paha kēia i ko lākou kūlana, aia kekahi mau manawa he mau hoa aloha nā ex-a aia kekahi e loaʻa nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa no ka mālama a pēlā aku.
He nui nā mea a nā keiki e ʻōlelo ai ʻoiai ke hui mua lākou me ʻoe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke lohe i nā huaʻōlelo "koʻu makuahine" he nui no laila e mākaukau e makaʻala ʻole e pili ana iā ia.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia?
ʻO kēia mau mea āpau ʻano kaumaha paha nā hana nui loa a noʻonoʻo e pili ana, paʻakikī akā ʻo ke kī ma aneʻi hiki iā ʻoe loiloi mua iā ʻoe iho ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e hele i loko o ka pilina.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻo ʻoe ia ʻaʻole mākaukau e kū i kēia mau pilikia o ka launa ʻana me kekahi i hemo wale a i ʻole inā manaʻo ʻoe hiki a ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe - mai hele ma loko.
ʻAʻole paha kēia he ʻōlelo aʻo āu e ʻimi nei akā ʻo ia ka mea kūpono e hana ai.
No ke aha mai? Maʻalahi - inā ʻoe e ʻike i kēia ma ka waena o ka pilina, a laila ʻoe e hoʻi i hope i ka pilina a ʻo kēia ka mea e kaumaha hou ai ka puʻuwai i ke kāne āu e aloha nei.
E mālama iā ia inā ʻaʻole ʻoe he haneli pākēneka maopopo e hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae iā ia e like me ia a ʻae ʻoe e lawe i nā pilikia o ka launa ʻana me kahi kāne hemo.