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- 1. ʻAʻole hoʻolohe ka hapa nui o ka poʻe
- 2. He ʻokoʻa nā manaʻo o nā huaʻōlelo no nā kānaka like ʻole
- 3. Kuhi ka kamaʻilio a lawe pinepine ʻia no ka hāʻawi ʻole
- 4. Kūkākūkā mākou i ka waha waha ʻole ma mua o ka waha, a hiki i ke kumu o ka hakakā
ʻOiai e make ka hapa nui i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana e komo i loko o kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻo a nā kāne, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, no ka mea paʻakikī nā pilina a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ʻoiai, he pilikia.
Hiki i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kamaʻilio ʻana no nā kāne ke hoʻopakele maoli i kahi pilina.
No laila he mea kūpono ia e ʻike ma ke kumu e aʻo ai i ke aʻo ʻana i nā kamaʻilio no nā kāne i kōkua i kāu pilina i kēia lā.
1. ʻAʻole hoʻolohe ka hapa nui o ka poʻe
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hapanui o ka poʻe i ka hoʻolohe ʻana.
Ma kahi o lākou, makemake maoli lākou e kamaʻilio a hōʻike iā lākou iho a ke kamaʻilio ʻole lākou, e noʻonoʻo ana lākou i ko lākou manaʻo e pili ana i kahi kūlana a i kā lākou e ʻōlelo aʻe ai. Pono ke akamai e aʻo e hoʻolohe pono.
ʻO kēia ke kumu nui o ka hakakā ma ka pilina, keu hoʻi inā he paio, hoʻopiʻi a hōʻoluʻolu paha i ka pilina.
Maliʻa paha ʻike ʻoe i ka nui o nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa a i ʻole hoʻohoka me kāu hoa no ka mea manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻolohe, a i ʻole hoʻopiʻi pinepine ʻia ʻoe no ka hoʻolohe ʻole.
Ma kahi o ka ʻae ʻana i ka huhū, nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa, a me nā paio e kūkulu, no ke aha e noʻonoʻo ʻole ai i ke aʻo ʻana pehea e launa pū ai me ka maikaʻi ma o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻana no nā kāne. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻoluʻolu i ka maluhia i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano hopena.
2. He ʻokoʻa nā manaʻo o nā huaʻōlelo no nā kānaka like ʻole
Lawe mākou i nā huaʻōlelo no ka mea ʻole, me ka manaʻo ua ʻike mākou i ke ʻano o ia mau mea a ʻo ke ʻano o ka paʻa ʻana o kēlā me kēia huaʻōlelo no ka mea āpau.
Akā inā koho ʻoe i kekahi mau huaʻōlelo kuʻina ʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi nā huaʻōlelo e hōʻike i ka naʻau, a nīnau i kekahi mau poʻe ʻokoʻa i ke ʻano o ia huaʻōlelo iā lākou (me ka ʻole o lākou e kuhikuhi ana i kahi puke wehewehe ʻōlelo) ʻo ka manawa āpau e piʻi lākou a pau me kahi mana i hoʻololi iki ʻia o ke ano.
E mākaʻikaʻi hou aku a nīnau i ka poʻe i ke ʻano o ka huaʻōlelo a lākou e hoʻohana ai e wehewehe i ka huaʻōlelo kumu a ʻike ʻoe i kahi mamao loa o ka wehewehe ʻana o kēlā me kēia kanaka mai kahi i hoʻomaka mua ai e ʻike ai ʻoe no ke aha e huikau pinepine ai ka ke ala e pili a kamaʻilio ai mākou.
I kekahi manawa ʻike paha ʻoe i kahi hoa e pane ana i kahi mea āu i ʻōlelo ai ma ke ʻano e ʻike ʻia ma luna o ka luna a ʻano pīhaʻu iā ʻoe, a no ka mea he ʻokoʻa loa ka manaʻo o ka ʻōlelo i kāu hoa ma mua o kāu. .
Kūkākūkā aʻoaʻo no nā kāne hiki ke kōkua iā ʻolua, ma ke ʻano he kāne, e hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o kāu koho ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo e hoʻoulu ai i ka manaʻo i loko o kekahi a aʻo aku iā ʻoe pehea e loaʻa ai kahi ala e kamaʻilio maikaʻi ai i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
3. Kuhi ka kamaʻilio a lawe pinepine ʻia no ka hāʻawi ʻole
Ma muli o ke aʻo ʻana iā mākou e kamaʻilio me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka ʻōlelo a me nā huaʻōlelo mai ka manawa a mākou i hānau ʻia ai, hiki iā mākou ke lawe i ke ala a mākou e kamaʻilio ai me ka hāʻawi ʻole a hiki ke hoʻohuli i ka poʻe kokoke iā mākou i kekahi manawa maikaʻi ʻole.
ʻAʻole maopopo mau iā mākou pehea mākou e ʻeha ai kekahi i kekahi me kā mākou ʻōlelo, a i ʻole ke kuhi hewa ʻole o kā mākou i nā kaila kamaʻilio. A ʻo kahi kamaʻilio hewa ʻole ʻana ma waena o ka poʻe a mākou e aloha nui ai e hoʻoili mau i ka hakakā a me ka haunaele i kāu pili pili - pinepine ʻole ma ka mea ʻole.
ʻAʻole anei e aho e aʻo pehea e kamaʻilio maikaʻi ai ma ke ʻano he kāne a i ʻole ʻoe e pili pū me kēia pilikia kamaʻilio i kāu pili?
ʻO ke aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻana no nā kāne a hiki i kekahi o nā hoʻopukapuka waiwai nui āu e hana ai i kou ola a me kou pilina.
4. Kūkākūkā mākou i ka waha waha ʻole ma mua o ka waha, a hiki i ke kumu o ka hakakā
Ua kamaʻilio paha ʻoe me kahi hoa a ʻohana paha a ʻohana pili paha a me ka manawa ʻole e nīnau ana kāu hoa i kāu pane a i ʻole e ʻaʻa ana i kou helehelena?
Malia paha pelu oe i kou mau lima me ka maka ʻole, ʻolokaʻa i kou mau maka a kānalua paha i ka wā i nīnau ʻia ai kahi nīnau nui, a he nui loa ia i kāu hoa e lawelawe no ka mea, ke hana nei ʻoe i nā mea e like me kēia i nā manawa āpau.
Hiki i kēia pilikia kamaʻilio maʻamau ke waiho i ka naʻau o ka 'culprit' huhū a pīhoihoi, ma hope o nā mea āpau, he aha kā lākou i hana ai?
Hiki i kā mākou mau ʻano kamaʻilio waha ʻole ke hoʻopuka iā mākou i kahi pilikia, i kekahi manawa i ka pilikia hohonu pinepine a pinepine.
ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i manaʻo e kamaʻilio i ka hoa i ke ala āu i hana ai, ʻike pinepine ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka pilikia inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka mea āu e hana nei e hoʻonāukiuki ana i kāu hoa.
A ʻoiaʻiʻo, e huhū paha ʻoe i ka huhū o kāu hoa iā ʻoe e kū i nā paio a me nā hakakā pono ʻole.
ʻAʻole pono ia pēlā inā ʻoe e hoʻohana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā kāne ma ke ʻano he mea hana e kōkua iā ʻoe ʻelua e hoʻomaopopo i ke ala e kamaʻilio ʻole ai a kamaʻilio ʻole ai a aʻo e hoʻomaʻa i kāu kaila kamaʻilio nonverbal a aʻo e hoʻomaopopo i ka wehewehe. ke kamaʻilio waha ʻole mai kāu hoa.
Manaʻo hope
I loko o kēia ʻatikala, ua hoʻokomo wale mākou i ʻehā mau kumu i hiki ai i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana no nā kāne a me nā kāne ke lilo i mea koʻikoʻi no kekahi pilina a me kahi waiwai waiwai nui i kāu pilina, akā nui nā mea hou aʻe kahi i hele mai ai lākou.
Inā ʻoe naʻauao a hoʻomaka e aʻo pehea e kamaʻilio kūpono ai me kāu hoa, ʻike ʻoe i nā ala hou aʻe i hiki ai iā mākou ke kuhi hewa ʻole a pehea e hoʻoponopono ai iā lākou. Ke waiho nei iā ʻoe i kahi pilina maluhia a hauʻoli kahi e kamaʻilio maikaʻi ai ʻolua a inā ʻaʻole ia ke kumu e makemake ai e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kamaʻilio no nā kāne a ʻaʻole maopopo iā kāua.