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- He wahine kaohi - ʻae, aia lākou!
- Nā hōʻailona ua male ʻoe i ka wahine kāohi
- Pehea ʻoe e hana ai me ka wahine kaohi
- 1. Hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu
- 2. Noho mālie
- 3. E noi iā ia e hana pū me ʻoe
- 4. E ʻimi i ke kōkua
- ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka noho ʻana me ka wahine kaohi
ʻAʻole ia he mea hou e hoʻolohe ai i ka ʻōlelo a nā kāne e pili ana i kā lākou wahine. ʻO ka hapanui o nā manawa, ʻōlelo mau nā kāne i ka lilo ʻana o kā lākou mau wahine a i ʻole pehea e manaʻo ʻia ai lākou e mālama ʻole ʻia, a me nā mea hou aku.
Pēlā ka male ʻana. Aia kekahi mau mea a mākou e makemake ʻole ai e pili ana i kēlā me kēia, akā ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, me ka hoʻoikaika - hiki i nā mea āpau ke holo pono.
Akā pehea inā inā ua male ʻoe i ka wahine kāohi? ʻAʻole kēia kahi mea a mākou e lohe pinepine ai, keu hoʻi mai nā kāne. Eia naʻe, ʻoi aku paha ka maʻamau ma mua o kā mākou e manaʻo nei. Pehea ʻoe e hana ai me ka wahine kaohi me ka hāʻawi ʻole i kāu pilina?
He wahine kaohi - ʻae, aia lākou!
Ke komo mua ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina, makemake ʻolua e hoʻopūʻiwa kekahi i kekahi. Makemake ʻoe e lilo i mea ʻoi loa i hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo a hōʻike i kēia kanaka i nā mea a lākou e loaʻa nei ma ke ʻano he hoa.
Eia nō naʻe, ma ka male ʻana, hoʻomaka mākou e ʻike i ke ʻano maoli o ka mea a mākou e aloha ai. ʻOiaʻiʻo, mākaukau mākou no kēia, akā pehea inā ʻoe e ʻike i ka loli ʻana i ka wahine i kāu wahine?
Aia paha ʻoe i kahi kūlana kahi e hoʻomaka nei e nīnau iā ʻoe iho, "Ke kāohi nei kaʻu wahine iaʻu?" Inā hana ʻoe, a laila ua male paha ʻoe i ka wahine kāohi.
ʻO ka wahine kaohi ʻana i ke kāne ʻaʻole ia kahi pilikia male ʻole. Nui aʻe nā kāne i kēia kūlana ma mua o ka mea āu e noʻonoʻo ai.
ʻO ia wale nō, ʻaʻole makemake nā kāne, ma ke kūlohelohe, e hōʻike i nā poʻe āpau e pili ana i ko lākou mokuʻāina no ka mea ua hōʻemi ʻia ia mau mea iā lākou, a ʻoiaʻiʻo, maopopo kēia.
Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻo ʻoe kekahi e noho nei me ka wahine kaohi, a laila kamaʻāina i nā hōʻailona!
Nā hōʻailona ua male ʻoe i ka wahine kāohi
Inā ʻoe e ʻike, lima mua, nā ʻōuli o ka wahine kaohi, a laila ʻo ka mea paha, ua male ʻoe i ka wahine kāohi.
E hele i kahi o nā hanana maʻalahi e pili wale i ke kāne male i ka wahine kaohi -
- Ke noi nei kāu wahine iā ʻoe e hōʻike iā ia e pili ana i kahi āu e hele nei, ʻo wai ʻoe me ʻoe, i ka manawa hea ʻoe e hoʻi ai i ka home? A maikaʻi, pili kēia i nā kāhea a me nā nīnau a puni ka lā e pili ana i kāu hana a me hea ʻoe.
- ʻO kahi hōʻailona wahine kaohi ke maopopo inā pololei mau ʻo ia. ʻO nā pilikia a me nā ʻae ʻole āu e loaʻa nei, pau ʻoe i ka lilo no ka mea hiki iā ia ke hoʻohuli i nā mea a ʻeli i nā hewa i hala.
- Ke manaʻo nei ʻoe i ka wā e hakakā ai a i ʻole kūlike ʻole, ʻoiai inā ʻike ʻoe he pono ʻoe, e pau paha kāna pāʻani ʻana i ka mea i hōʻino ʻia? Hoʻonāukiuki paha ʻo ia iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka hoʻomāinoino ʻia ke huhū ʻoe a koʻikoʻi paha iā ia?
- ʻIke paha ʻoe hiki iā ia ke hana i nā mea āna i ʻae ʻole ai iā ʻoe? ʻO kahi laʻana, inaina ʻo ia iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio pū me nā hoa wahine, akā ʻike ʻoe iā ia e kamaʻilio manuahi ana me kāna mau hoa kāne kāne?
- Loaʻa paha i kāu wahine ka mea āna e makemake ai i kekahi ala a i ʻole ʻē aʻe? Hana ʻo ia i ka hana a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manawa paʻakikī ke loaʻa ʻole iā ia kāna ala?
- ʻAe paha kāu wahine i kāna mau hewa? A huhū paha ʻo ia a hoʻohuli i ka pilikia?
- Hoʻomaopopo paha ʻoe i ka huhū huhū o kāu wahine? Hoʻonāukiuki pinepine paha ia, huhū, a me kahi ʻano maikaʻi ʻole?
- Hōʻike ʻo ia i kekahi poʻe i kona kūlana ʻoi aku iā ʻoe a i ʻole me kou ʻohana?
Ke kaena pinepine nei pehea ʻo ia ke "poʻo" o ka ʻohana!
- ʻAe ʻia ʻoe e hōʻike iā ʻoe iho a noho pū me ʻoe, a i ʻole ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike iā ʻoe iho?
- Hōʻike anei ʻo ia iā ʻoe ʻaʻole lawa ʻoe, kūpono ʻole e hoʻoholo, a kūpono ʻole i kona mau maka?
- Manaʻo ʻoe aia ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina ʻawahia, a ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e kiʻi i ke kōkua no kāu male?
Inā pēlā ka hihia me ʻoe, a laila, ua male ʻoe i ka wahine kāohi.
Pehea ʻoe e hana ai me ka wahine kaohi
Inā male ʻoe i ka wahine e kāohi iā ʻoe, akā aia nō ʻoe i ka male, ʻo ia hoʻi ke aloha maoli ʻoe iā ia a makemake ʻoe e hana i ka pilina.
E ʻike i nā ala maʻalahi loa i ka hana me ka wahine kaohi a pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana pū.
1. Hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu
E loaʻa nā hihia kahi e loaʻa ai nā pilikia i ka wahine kaohi, e like me ka hōʻike ʻana i nā ʻano narcissistic a i ʻole nā pilikia psychological. Hiki iā ia mai ka trauma a i kahi pilikia pili i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma mua.
E ʻokoʻa kāu ʻano holoʻokoʻa mai ke kumu o ka ʻano āna e hōʻike nei. Inā ʻeha ʻo ia i kekahi ʻano o nā pilikia psychological, pono paha ia i ke kōkua ʻoihana.
2. Noho mālie
Ma kahi o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa a hoʻonui paha i ka pilikia i kahi hakakā o ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e noho mālie.
ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi ma kēlā ala, a mālama ʻoe i kou ikehu. E ʻae iā ia e walaʻau a nīnau iā ia inā hiki iā ia ke hoʻolohe. I kēia manawa, hiki i kahi wahine kaohi ke haʻalele.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike iā ʻoe ʻike ʻoe i kāna kiko a laila hoʻohui i kāu mau helu ponoʻī.
3. E noi iā ia e hana pū me ʻoe
Kahaha paha ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana pehea e kōkua ai ke kamaʻilio i kēia mau hanana.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka ma ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo a me nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi nona i ʻole e kuhi hewa ʻo ia iā lākou.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻike i nā hōʻailona ʻae like me ia, a ʻae ʻoe e hana i kahi hoʻolālā e pili ana iā ia. E hoʻomaopopo kēia iā ia ua hāʻawi ʻia i mea nui ʻoiai hiki iā ʻoe ke wehe i ke ala e komo ai i loko ona a kōkua iā ia.
4. E ʻimi i ke kōkua
Hiki i nā manawa ke ʻike ka wahine hoʻokele i kāna hana a makemake e loli.
I kēia hanana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke noi ʻana i ke kōkua ʻoihana a hōʻoia iā ʻoe e ʻae i kahi manawa nona e maopopo ai pehea e pono ai kēia a pehea e mālama ai i kāu pilina.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka noho ʻana me ka wahine kaohi
ʻO wai i ʻōlelo he maʻalahi ka noho ʻana me ka wahine kaohi?
Ua luhi paha ʻoe i ka hana, a hoʻi ʻoe i ka home me nā pilikia hou aku, keu hoʻi inā hoʻokahuli a hoʻomalu kāu wahine. He luhi, hoʻoluhi, a ʻawahia, akā inā ʻoe e makemake e kaua no kāu hoʻohiki, maikaʻi kēlā.
Hana i ka mea hiki ke hiki a hōʻike iā ia ʻo ʻoe ke kāne o ka hale e makemake e hoʻihoʻi i ka male hauʻoli mua āu.