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50% o nā kāne male i ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, inā ʻaʻole ʻoi aku, hoʻokaʻawale. ʻAʻole i loli nā helu helu i nā makahiki.
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ʻAʻole ia. Ua hana wau me kekahi o nā hanana craziest loa, e like me ka hana ʻino loa i ka male, kahi e kūʻē ai i nā pilikia āpau, ua kōkua wau i ka wahine e hoʻohuli i kā lāua male i hoʻokahi o nā pilina hohonu a nani hoʻi aʻu i ʻike ai.
Ma kahi e ʻōlelo ai ka poʻe he nui "pono maoli lākou e hemo", ʻōlelo mau wau e kali i kahi minuke, e kali a ʻike.
Inā ʻae ʻelua mau kānaka, a i ʻole inā hoʻokahi wale nō o lākou i ka hoʻomaka, e ʻae i kā lākou mau puʻupuʻu, nui nā mea nui e hiki iā mākou ke hana e mālama i nā pilina ma mua o ka make lohi, a me ka make ʻehaʻeha.
Eia kahi moʻolelo e pili ana i kahi mau kāne aʻu i hana pū ai me nā makahiki i hala aku nei e kokoke ana i ka hemo ʻana:
Aia ke kāne i kahi hihia, ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia makemake ʻo ia e hoʻopau i ka hihia, a ʻoiai ʻo ia i limbo ke hoʻāʻo nei kāna wahine e hoʻoholo inā pono e faila no ka hemo a ʻaʻole paha. Ke haʻi aku nei kona ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha iā ia, no ka mea ʻaʻohe ona hoihoi koke e haʻalele i kāna ipo, pono wale ʻo ia e faila koke. Akā ma kahi o, ua kaʻana wau iā ia i nā ʻanuʻu ʻelua ma lalo, a ua ukali ʻo ia iā lākou i kēlā me kēia kiko, a ua mālama ka pilina.
Ma hope o ka hana pū ʻana me ia ma kahi o hoʻokahi mahina, ua hele mai ke kāne a hoʻomaka i ka like o ka papahana like, a pūʻiwa ʻo ia me ka pīhoihoi o kona ʻohana, ua hiki iā lākou ke kiʻi hou i ko lākou aloha a kūkulu i kahi male i ʻoi aku ka ikaika, ʻoi aku ka ikaika ma mua o ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka hihia.
ʻO ka hāhai wale ʻana i kēia mau kiʻina 2 e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa kūpono loa loa i ka mālama ʻana i kāu male. Eia kāu mea e hana ai-
1. Hoʻomaikaʻi i nā kākā'ōlelo aʻoaʻo no 6 mau mahina
ʻ telllelo wau i nā kāne āpau e pono lākou e hana i ka wā e pilikia nui ana ka male, i ka liʻiliʻi o ʻeono mau mahina o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. ʻAʻole wau piliwi i ka ʻōlelo aʻo kuʻuna male. I ka makahiki 1996 ua hoʻokuʻu mākou i ka papa aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo male kuʻuna, kahi aʻu e hana pū ai me ke kāne a me ka wahine i ka hola like ma o ke kelepona, Skype a i ʻole ma ke kino.
Ua ʻike au mai ka makahiki 1990 a hiki i ka makahiki 1996 he mea maikaʻi ʻole kēia ala. Ua haʻi wau i kaʻu mau kāne hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma ka home, e like me kā lākou i hana ai i ka wā kau me aʻu, me ka manuahi. He mea pohō wale ko lākou manawa a me kā lākou kālā.
Akā inā koʻikoʻi lākou i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana inā pono ka mālama ʻana i ka pilina, e hana pū wau me lākou pākahi no ka liʻiliʻi o ʻeono mahina.
A ʻeono mau mahina ka manawa liʻiliʻi o ka manawa aʻu i ʻike ai no ka hoʻōla ʻana i ka male a haki paha o ka pilina. I kekahi manawa hiki ke hala i hoʻokahi makahiki. Akā i ka helu ʻekahi, loaʻa iā mākou e hana i ka liʻiliʻi o ʻeono mau mahina o ka hana pū ʻana me aʻu hoʻokahi i kēlā me kēia pule no hoʻokahi hola. ʻO lākou kekahi nā haʻawina haʻawina home. Nā Hana Kākau. Ka heluhelu ʻana i kekahi o nā puke. Inā lākou e hāhai i kēia papahana, loaʻa kahi manawa kūpono loa e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻomaka e hoʻohuli i ka male.
2. Koho no ka hoʻokaʻawale kuikawa
Inā ma ka hopena o ʻeono mau mahina e like paha me ka haunaele o ka pilina, paipai wau a laila e kaʻawale ka wahine. Noho i nā hale kaʻawale ʻelua. Hiki i ka hoʻokaʻawale ke hele ma hea mai ʻekolu mau mahina a i ʻeono mau mahina, ʻoiai lākou e hana pū nei me aʻu ma ke ʻano he kākāʻōlelo.
I kekahi manawa ka ikehu maikaʻi ʻole i kūkulu ʻia i loko o nā makahiki, ikaika loa e hoʻāʻo e hana i ka wā e noho pū ana lākou. ʻO kekahi mau kāne aʻu i hana ai i kēia, makemake e haʻalele i ka minuke a lāua i hele ai i loko o koʻu keʻena, ʻike ʻia ma hope o ke kōkua ʻana ʻaʻole kōkua iā lākou e mālama i ka pilina ma loko o nā mahina ʻeono mua, ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale a me ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ka pane i kā lākou pule.
ʻOiai lākou e kaʻawale ana, a ke hana pū nei lāua ʻelua me aʻu i kēlā me kēia pule, ua ʻike lākou ua emi ka negatiate, ua hoʻomaka ka huhū o ko lākou huhū, ua piʻi aʻe ka huhū i loko o lāua ʻelua, ma o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i hoʻomaka ai e hoʻomaha. .
Ma hope o ka hemo ʻana o 90 mau lā ua hiki iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo pono, wehe i ko lākou mau puʻuwai a neʻe i ko lākou pilina i kahi ākea hou nani.
Inā ma hope o ka hahai ʻana i nā ʻanuʻu ʻelua i luna, aia nō i ka haunaele ka pilina, ʻo ia ka manawa e ʻōlelo aʻo wau e hele lākou i loko o ka hemo. Ke hahai ka poʻe i ka ʻanuʻu ʻekahi a me ʻelua ʻelua ma luna, hiki i kahi keu maikaʻi loa hiki iā mākou ke mālama i ka pilina. Akā ʻaʻole ia he 100% hoʻohiki ʻia. Ma ka liʻiliʻi inā hoʻoholo lākou e haʻalele i kēia manawa, hiki iā lāua ke nānā i hope, hele wāwae me ka ʻike ua hana lākou i nā mea āpau i kā lākou mana e hoʻopakele i ka male a me ka pili.
Inā he mau keiki, paipai nui wau i nā ʻanuʻu ʻelua i luna, e hāhai ana i nā ʻanuʻu a hiki i ka hoʻopau ʻana. Inā ʻaʻohe keiki, i kekahi manawa e hoʻoholo ka wahine ma hope o nā mahina ʻeono a i ʻole makahiki o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻana ua hala loa ka pilina e mālama.
Ma nā ʻano ʻelua, ʻike wau i ka manawa e hoʻāʻo ai kahi kāne i kēia hana nui, inā haʻalele lāua i ka hemo, e hele lākou e aʻo nui e pili ana iā lākou iho, aloha a me nā mea e hana ai e hana i kahi pilina hohonu a olakino a me kā mākou male. ʻO kēlā me kēia ala, pono ka hana.
Akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e makemake e hoʻāʻo i kēia manawa, ʻo nā mea hiki ke hana hou ʻoe i nā ʻano hana like ʻole i kāu pilina hou. E hoʻolohi. E nānā i loko. E hana pū kākou i ka hana