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- Loaʻa ka pilina wehe
- Pehea e hiki ai i kahi pilina wehe ke hana?
- Ka launa ʻana me kekahi ma ka pilina hāmama
- No ke aha e holo ʻole ai nā pilina hāmama no kekahi?
"He pilina wehe mākou". Mahalo paha i ke ʻano o kēlā?
Ma ka maʻalahi, ʻo ka pilina hāmama kahi pilina male a pilina pili paha kahi i ʻae ai nā hoa ʻelua e loaʻa i nā kāne moekolohe ʻē aʻe ma waho o kā lāua kūpaʻa mua i kekahi i kekahi.
Ua hele mai kēia kumumanaʻo i ke ʻano i nā makahiki 1970, a he pilina ʻike ʻia i hōʻeuʻeu a hiki i kēia lā.
Pehea e hana ai nā pilina hāmama: nā lula.
Hoʻokumu ʻia kahi pilina hāmama ma ka consensual non-monogamy.
Pili kēia maʻamau i nā hoa ʻelua i ka pilina, akā aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona o kekahi o nā hoa e koho ana e noho monogamous, akā ʻae i, a i ʻole ke kākoʻo ʻana paha, e ʻoluʻolu nā hoa ʻē aʻe i nā pilina moekolohe me nā hoa he nui ma waho o ka pilina nui.
ʻO ke kānāwai maʻamau ka pono e hana palekana ʻia nā hana moekolohe āpau, ma ke ʻano kūpono, a me ka ʻae o nā mea āpau.
ʻO ka hoʻokumu paʻa ʻoiaʻiʻo ka pololei a me ka transparency.
Pono kahi pilina hāmama i ka nele o ka lili a me ka loaʻa ʻole, a i ʻole ʻaʻole holo ia i kahi ʻano olakino.
Pehea e noho ai i kahi pilina wehe?
ʻO wai e koho i kahi pilina hāmama? Hiki i nā pilina hāmama ke holo?
Pono ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu me ka manaʻo o ka exclusivity ʻole no ka mea ma ke ʻano he pilina wehe i hoʻokumu ʻia i kēia manaʻo.
ʻO ka poʻe e ʻapo i kēia kaila pilina ua ʻōlelo lākou "ʻike" ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke monogamous, leʻaleʻa mau lākou i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoa pili, a ʻo ka hoʻohālikelike pilina maʻamau e pili ana i ka kūpaʻa ʻana i hoʻokahi hoa ʻaʻole pono ia na lākou.
ʻLelo lākou he mea maʻamau ʻole a paʻakikī lākou i ka nohoaliʻi ʻana i ko lākou makemake e hiamoe me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio me nā poʻe i loko o kahi pilina hāmama, haʻi paha lākou iā ʻoe i ka pili i ka pilina hāmama e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka mea maikaʻi o nā ao ʻelua: kūʻokoʻa a me ka hoʻokō.
Loaʻa iā lākou kā lākou hoa hele mua, ka mea a lākou e aloha ai a hoʻolilo ai i ka hapa nui o ko lākou manawa me, a he mau moekolohe pili lua ko lākou.
Loaʻa ka pilina wehe
He aha ke ʻano o ka pili i ka pilina wehe?
He mau rula kā kēlā me kēia hāmama, akā maʻamau ka moekolohe lua. Inā ʻike ke kanaka ke kokoke loa nei lākou i ka naʻau i ka hoa pili ʻole, kū pinepine lākou i ka ʻike ʻana i kēlā kāne a wahine paha. (He ʻokoʻa kēia mai kahi pilina polyamorous, e ʻae ai i nā hoa e hana i ka moekolohe a me ka pilina naʻau me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma waho o ka pilina mua.)
Pehea e hiki ai i kahi pilina wehe ke hana?
I mea e kūleʻa ai kēia, pono nā hoa ʻelua ma ka moku.
ʻO ka maʻamau maʻamau ka hauʻoli o ka poʻe ʻelua ma waho o nā hoa kolohe, akā ʻaʻole naʻe. Aia nā pilina hāmama kahi e noho mau ai kekahi pona ʻoiai ʻae ʻia ka mea ʻē aʻe, me ka ʻae piha, e hiamoe me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Hiki i kēia ma muli o ka hiki ʻole i kekahi hoa ke hana moekolohe, a i ʻole ua lilo ka hoihoi i ka moekolohe, akā aloha nō i kā lākou wahine a makemake e noho i ka male a ʻike i ka hauʻoli o kā lākou hoa.
Akā ʻo ka laina lalo kēia: hiki i kahi pilina hāmama ke hana wale inā pili ia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka mea āu e hiamoe nei, e mālama ana i kahi lili i ka lili, a ma luna o nā mea āpau e hōʻike nei i kāu hoa mua ʻo lākou "hoʻokahi".
ʻO ka mahalo, ke kamaʻilio ʻana, a me ka mālama ʻana i kāu ola wahine mua e hauʻoli ai hoʻi he mea nui i ka hana ʻana i kāu pilina ākea.
Ka launa ʻana me kekahi ma ka pilina hāmama
Ua hālāwai wale ʻoe me kahi kanaka weliweli a haʻi iā ʻoe aia ia i loko o kahi pilina wehe. He manawa kūpono paha kēia na ʻoe e aʻo e pili ana i kāu mau palena ponoʻī.
Inā makemake nui ʻoe iā ia a makemake e hoʻomau e ʻike iā ia, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i nā nīnau aʻe:
Pehea kou lili?
Inā ikaika kou ʻāpana lili, ʻaʻole paha hauʻoli ʻoe i ka ʻike he hoa mua kāna a me nā hoa ʻelua ʻē aʻe
Pono ʻoe i ka hoʻokō i ka pilina?
Inā pili kāu kāne i ka pilina mua, ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa i ka pae o ka hoʻokō āu e koi ai mai iā ia.
Inā, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hoihoi ʻoe e hoʻāʻo i ke ʻano kūʻokoʻa i hiki i kahi pilina hāmama ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe, no ke aha e neʻe ʻole ai i mua?
Ua wehewehe ʻo Kristina i kāna pili hāmama i kēia ala: No ka moʻomeheu ʻo ia - Morocco - i ʻike i nā wahine me he mea waiwai lā. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke loaʻa nā hoa kāne kāne; kānalua ʻo ia a mālama mau iaʻu i ka hopena. " ʻO ka hope ua faila wau no ka hemo male a hoʻonohonoho koke i kahi ʻikepili ma Tinder.
Makemake au e launa i nā ʻano kāne like ʻole a hana no ka manawa nalowale!
Ma Tinder ua hālāwai au me Phil, he kanaka Palani e ʻimi nei i kahi pilina pili ʻole. Ua ʻōlelo kāna ʻikepili ma nā mea āpau: E like me aʻu, ua haʻalele wale ʻo ia i kahi pili monogamous lōʻihi loa a makemake e hiamoe me nā wahine like ʻole e like me ka hiki.
Ma muli o koʻu makemake ʻole e hana hou i hoʻokahi kāne, ua kūlike ʻo Phil me aʻu. Ua noho mākou i kahi pilina hāmama no hoʻokahi makahiki, a ʻo mākou kekahi o nā kāne hauʻoli hauʻoli loa aʻu i ʻike ai. ʻO mākou ka hoa mua o kēlā me kēia, akā i ka loaʻa ʻana o Phil i ka makaliʻi e "hoʻāʻo i kahi ʻōpū ʻē aʻe" iā ia e waiho nei, ʻike ʻo ia hiki iā ia ke hana i kēia me kaʻu ʻae piha. A ke makemake wau e loaʻa i kahi ʻano moekolohe iki, maikaʻi ʻo ia me aʻu e pili nei me nā kāne ʻē aʻe. ”
No ke aha e holo ʻole ai nā pilina hāmama no kekahi?
I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hiki i nā pilina hāmama ke hāʻawi i ka moe a lākou e hoʻohiki ai i kahi kahawai kūpaʻa o nā hoa kolohe ʻokoʻa. ʻO kekahi o nā kumu nui i hana ʻole kahi pilina wehe:
- ʻO kekahi o nā hoa ke ʻike nei lākou makemake e kū hoʻokahi ma hope o nā mea āpau.
- Nā hoa moekolohe he nui palena i ka manawa kūpono o ke kanaka e hana i nā paʻa paʻa me nā poʻe a lākou e kaʻana like nei i ko lākou kino.
- Ka makaʻu iā STDs aiʻole hopu maoli a hoʻolaha i kahi STD.
- Pōʻino paha kou manaʻo ponoʻī, ʻoiai inā hoʻomaka kāu hoa mua i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kahi manawa liʻiliʻi me kahi kanaka i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua ou.
- I kou mau makahiki, kūlohelohe ʻoe makemake e hoʻopaʻa i hoʻokahi wale nō kanaka. ʻAʻole e hana hou nā hiʻohiʻona ʻē aʻe iā ʻoe.
I ka hopena o ka lā, hiki iā ʻoe wale nō ke hoʻoholo inā e hoʻokō ana kahi pilina hāmama i kāu mau pono. E noʻonoʻo i ka mea e akahele ai kēia mau mea ma mua o kou kūleʻa ʻana i kēia ʻano pilina ikaika.