Anter
- 1. Ka hūnā hū ʻole ʻana
- 2. hoihoi hou i ka ʻenehana
- 3. Ke haʻi pinepine ʻana i ka haʻi
- 4. Hoʻokaʻawale mai iā ʻoe
- 5. Ke lilo nei i mea hōʻino iā ʻoe
- 6. Ke hōʻole ʻole ʻana i ke kī ʻōpū
- Ke ola nei i nā hihia naʻau
Hiki i nā hihia Emotional ke lilo i mea hoʻopunipuni a pau loa, a me ka manaʻo o ka hapanui o ka poʻe, ʻaʻole lākou i ka noʻonoʻo a hoʻolālā. ʻOi aku ka maʻamau o nā hihia ʻona i ka wahi hana ma mua o kou makemake e manaʻoʻiʻo.
No laila, pehea e hoʻomaka ai nā hihia me kahi hoa hana? ʻO ka pili ʻana me kahi mea hana e like paha me kahi manaʻo aloha a me ka nani, ke manaʻo nui kekahi e ʻoluʻolu kekahi o kā lākou mau hoa hana. Inā hopohopo ʻoe e pili ana kāu hoa, aia paha kekahi mau hōʻailona e pili ana kāu wahine, a sabotaging i kou pili.
ʻOiai ka nui o nā hihia i lilo i ke kino, ʻo nā mea pili i ka naʻau nā ala maʻamau e hiki ai i nā hoa ke hōʻeha i ka pilina o kā lākou pili, a ʻo kahi hana kahi kahi e hoʻomaka ai nā hana naʻau.
I nā manawa he nui, ʻaʻole paha i ʻike ke kanaka e pili ana i ka naʻau i ko lākou neʻe ʻana i kahi palena ʻole e pili ana i ka pilina e pili ana i ka pilina, a ʻo kēia pilikia ka mea nui i ka wahi hana.
ʻO ka pilikia me nā mea e pili ana i ka naʻau me kahi hoa hana ʻo ia ka mea e ʻimi nei me ka hoa hana e hoʻoweliweli nui ana; ko lākou male, ko lākou kūlana, kā lākou hana, a me ko lākou pilina me kā lākou hoa hana. A e like me kā mākou i ʻōlelo ai i mua, ma muli o ke ʻano maʻalea o ka pili pili i ka naʻau, ʻaʻole paha lākou e ʻike i ka nui o kahi makaʻu a lākou e lawe nei ma ka hoʻopili ʻana i nā hana naʻau i ka hana.
Inā kānalua ʻoe e pili kokoke ana paha ʻoe i kahi mea hana, a inā hopohopo paha ʻoe e hoʻomaka ana kāu wahine i kahi hana naʻau me kahi hoa hana, ua helu mākou i ʻeono mau hōʻailona e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i kahi hihia naʻau.
Eia nā hōʻailona infidelity naʻau e kiaʻi inā ke kānalua ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi ʻole o ka naʻau:
1. Ka hūnā hū ʻole ʻana
Inā lilo kāu pakanā i mea hūnā a ua hoʻonāukiuki ia i ka pū waikaua, a laila aia kahi manawa e hūnā ʻia ana lākou no kekahi kumu, a he kumu paha kāu e hopohopo ai.
Inā ʻaʻole kokoke i kou lā hoʻomanaʻo a lā hānau paha a ke hoʻonohonoho nei lākou i kahi pāʻina pākaha no ʻoe, hiki paha i ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai e nīnau i kekahi mau nīnau.
Inā ʻo ʻoe ka hoa i mamao aku mai kāu wahine aku, akā ,, ua ʻike paha ʻoe ua oki ʻoe i ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā mea me kāu wahine āu e kamaʻilio maʻamau ai no ka mea ua kamaʻilio mua ʻoe i kēia mau kumuhana me kāu hoa hana.
A i ʻole inā ua hoʻomaka ʻoe e hūnā i kāu kelepona mai kāu wahine a i ʻole hoʻololi i kāu leka uila a me nā ʻike ʻeʻe pūnaewele i kēia manawa inā paha e huhū kāu kamaʻilio me kāu mea hana i kāu wahine, he hōʻailona paha kēia ke hele nei ʻoe i kahi pilina pili hiki ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kāu male. Hoʻokaʻawale me kāu kāne ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona pili i ka naʻau e kiaʻi.
2. hoihoi hou i ka ʻenehana
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona a kāu wahine e hoʻopunipuni nei me kahi hoa hana, ʻo ia kā lākou hoihoi i ka ʻenehana, keu hoʻi i kahi ala malū.
Ua hoʻomaka kāu hoa e hoʻohana pinepine i kā lākou kelepona? Ke ʻeʻe nei paha lākou i kā lākou moʻokāki kaiaulu a me ka leka uila hou aku i kēia mau lā.
A i ʻole ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hana i kēia mau mea, i hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo i kāu mea hana?
Inā ua hopu ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole kāu wahine i kēia hana, hiki i kēia ke lilo i hōʻailona no ka pili manaʻo.
3. Ke haʻi pinepine ʻana i ka haʻi
Ke hoʻomaka kekahi e lilo i mea naʻau e hoʻopukapuka me kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, paʻakikī e hoʻopaʻa i kēlā mau manaʻo a paʻa paha kahi hihia naʻau. Hōʻike paha kāu pakanā i nā hōʻailona o ka pili pili i ka naʻau me kahi hoa hana ma ke ʻōlelo pinepine ʻana i ke kanaka.
Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohālikelike a haʻi iā ʻoe i nā anecdotes liʻiliʻi (me he mea ʻole ʻole) e pili ana i kēlā kanaka - he nui.
ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo nui nei i kāu mea hana i ke kamaʻilio? Maliʻa iki paha ma mua o kou haʻi ʻana i nā hoa hana ʻē aʻe? Inā ʻoe e hana, he hōʻailona kēia e lilo nei ʻoe i mea aloha me kāu mea hana i ke ala e hōʻeha ai i kou pilina me kāu hoa.
4. Hoʻokaʻawale mai iā ʻoe
Ke pili nei ʻoe i kahi pilina, loaʻa iā ʻoe ka nānā a me ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka naʻau mai kāu hoa. Akā inā e ʻike ana kāu wahine i kēlā wahi ma kahi ʻē, hoʻomaka paha lākou e haʻalele iā ʻoe, a hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e manaʻo ʻaʻole kākoʻo ʻia ʻoe, a hoʻomaka paha e hoʻoliʻiliʻi ka ʻike mai kāu wahine.
E hoʻomaka paha kāu hoa e kūkākūkā i kā lākou pilikia me kā lākou hoa hana ma kahi o ʻoe.
ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻo kāu wahine (inā e pili ana ka naʻau me kahi hoa hana) i kā lākou kākoʻo mai kā lākou hoa hana ma kahi o ʻoe.
Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e kūkākūkā ana i kāu mau pilikia me kāu hoa hana ma mua o kāu wahine, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kēia ma ke ʻano he ahi ahi hōʻailona paha e hoʻomohala ana ʻoe i kahi hihia naʻau me kahi hoa hana.
5. Ke lilo nei i mea hōʻino iā ʻoe
Inā loaʻa i kāu pakanā kahi hihia pili i ka naʻau me kahi hoa hana, hoʻomaka paha lākou e lilo i mea hōʻino iā ʻoe a waiho iā ʻoe i lalo ma kekahi ala a i ʻole ʻē aʻe. A ʻike paha ʻoe ua mālama lākou i kā lākou mahalo a me ka nānā maikaʻi no kā lākou hoa hana ma kahi o ʻoe.
Hiki paha i kāu hoa ke hoʻokalakupua e pili ana i ka mea ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ke hoʻolālā ʻana i ka hewa iā ʻoe ma o kā lākou hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā ʻoe. ʻOiaʻiʻo i kekahi mau hanana, e hala ʻole ʻole kēia, akā hiki nō hoʻi ke lilo i hōʻailona o ka hana naʻau.
6. Ke hōʻole ʻole ʻana i ke kī ʻōpū
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona nui loa o ka pilina o ka naʻau me kahi hoa hana, ʻo ia ke kaha ʻōpū. Ke huhū nei kāu wahine me kahi hoa hana inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e nānā ana i kā lākou launa pū ʻana, ke uaki nei i kekahi mau inoa o ko lākou inoa, ke huhū inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a puni ka mea hana i nīnau ʻia.
He hōʻailona ia e pololei paha ʻoe e pili ana i kāu hopohopo no kēlā hoa hana.
Inā ʻo ʻoe e haʻohaʻo nei inā pili ʻoe i ka naʻau, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i kou hele ʻana i waho o ka laina, ke kau nei me kahi hihia me ka hoa hana male, i kekahi manawa ke hele nei i kahi huakaʻi hewa a noʻonoʻo pehea e pau ai. nā manaʻo nui e pili ana i ka mea hana a hopohopo e hele hewa koke paha nā mea.
Ke haʻi aku nei paha kou ʻōpū iā ʻoe ke ʻimi nei ʻoe i ka pīhoihoi i kahi ala pōpilikia i ke ʻano o ka hihia naʻau.
ʻO kahi kuʻi kuʻi wale ʻana i ka ʻaʻahu ʻana i ke ʻano ʻano maʻamau ʻole o ke kaila o kāu hoa he hae ʻulaʻula surefire. Inā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu wahine a kāne paha e ʻaʻahu ana i nā mea ʻoi aku ma mua o ka maʻamau a hana i nā mea a pau ma luna o ko lākou helehelena, hiki ke lilo i hoʻokahi o nā hōʻailona o ka hihia naʻau i ka hana.
Ke ola nei i nā hihia naʻau
Ke hopu ʻoe i kāu kāne me ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana me kahi hoa hana, a i ʻole ke hoʻomaka nei ʻoe e ʻike i kekahi o nā ʻōuli ʻōniʻoniʻo e pili ana i ka leʻaleʻa o kāu kāne, ʻeha paha ʻoe a ʻimi paha ʻoe i nā ala e pale ai i ka male ʻole o ka male.
Inā he pili piliwi kāu kāne me kahi hoa hana, a i ʻole hewa kāu wahine i ka moekolohe hilahila ʻole, ʻo ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka hihia ke kī nui e hoʻopakele ai i kāu male. He mea nui ia ʻoe a i ʻole kāu ipo e hōʻike i ka manaʻo a hoʻoikaika e nānā i nā ala pehea e hoʻopau ai i kahi pilina me kahi hoa hana.
Hiki ke paʻakikī i ke ola ʻana i nā hopena ʻeha o ka moekolohe male ʻole, ʻoiai e waiho hoʻopunipuni ʻia ka hoa hoʻopunipuni.Hoʻohaumia kahi pilina i ka male, akā nui kāu male iā ʻoe a ʻo ke koho e hoʻopau i ka male a hoʻomau paha iā ʻoe ia.
Inā ʻae ʻolua e hoʻomaka hou, e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka wahine no ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ʻōlelo aʻoi maikaʻi loa no ke ola hou ʻana o ka male i kū i ka moekolohe.