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- He aha ka ʻike naʻau?
- Pehea ʻoe e kūkulu ai i ka ʻike naʻau?
- Alakaʻi ʻike naʻau
- ʻO nā mākau a mākou e haʻi aku nei:
- ʻIke o nā manaʻo
- Ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā naʻau
- Ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā naʻau
- Ka mālama ʻana i ka naʻau
ʻAʻole ka manaʻo ka mea mua e hiki ai i ka noʻonoʻo ke noʻonoʻo ʻole mākou i ke alakaʻi a me ke alakaʻi.
Ua aʻo ʻia mākou he brawn a i ʻole lolo ka alakaʻi ʻana; he alakaʻi nui wale kēlā inā hōʻike lākou i ka mākaukau i ka ʻike a i ʻole ka haku o kā lākou hana. Eia nō naʻe, hōʻike ʻia nā noiʻi psychological hou he mea nui ka puʻuwai e like me ka brawn a me ka lolo ke hiki i ke alakaʻi ʻana i kahi kime.
Ua aʻo ʻia mākou e pili ana ka male i ke aloha, a ʻo ia wale nō e ʻike i ka male ma o nā hoʻāʻo a me nā pilikia i ke ola ke ʻike mākou āpau e koi ana ka male i ka nui o ka hana a me ka hoʻoikaika pilikino.
He hōʻike hōʻikeʻike poʻokela manaʻo o ka haku o ko ke alakaʻi ponoʻī a me nā manaʻo o haʻi e hiki ai ke hoʻohua i nā hopena kupaianaha ma ka wahi hana a hoʻopakele i nā male he nui.
No laila, he aha ka ʻike naʻau? A pehea ke kanaka e kūkulu ai?
He aha ka ʻike naʻau?
ʻO Emotional Intelligence (EI) a i ʻole Emotional Quotient (EQ) kahi manaʻo o nā kānaka noiʻi, ʻo Peter Salovey lāua ʻo John Mayer (ʻaʻole ʻo ka mea mele). Hāʻawi kēia mau mea noiʻi ʻelua iā mākou i ka wehewehe o ka huaʻōlelo e like me ko mākou hiki ke hoʻoponopono i kā mākou iho a me nā manaʻo o haʻi. Ua hoʻolōʻihi lākou i kēia wehewehe e hoʻokomo i kā mākou hiki ke hoʻohana i kēia ʻike e alakaʻi i ko mākou noʻonoʻo a me ka lawena pū kekahi.
Pehea ʻoe e kūkulu ai i ka ʻike naʻau?
ʻO ka ʻike naʻau ka naʻau o ka lawelawe ʻana i nā naʻau, kahi mākau e aʻo ʻia ma o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
Wahi a kahi ʻatikala i kākau ʻia e Preston Ni, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā kaʻakālai aʻe e hoʻonui ai i kou ʻike naʻau āpau.
- E aʻo pehea e hoʻokele ai i ke koʻikoʻi
- Kūkulu resilience
- Koho i lilo i mea hānai ma mua o ka hana hou
- E aʻo e hōʻike i ka naʻau i ka pili a pili loa
- E aʻo e hoʻokūpaʻa a ʻike i ke ʻano o ka naʻau e kūpono ana ma muli o kahi kūlana
- E hōʻemi i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a me nā manaʻo
Alakaʻi ʻike naʻau
Ua ʻike ʻo Pioneers Salovey, Mayer, a me Caruso i ke koʻikoʻi o ke alakaʻi me ke akamai o ka ʻike naʻau i ke alakaʻi ʻana i kahi kime i ke kūleʻa.
Ua hāpai lākou i mea e pono ai. Hiki i nā alakaʻi ke hōʻike i kā lākou mākaukau ke hiki mai i ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā mākau o ka ʻike naʻau i ke ʻano o ke alakaʻi.
Akā hiki ke hoʻopili ʻia nā loina like i ka male pū kekahi.
Ke ʻike ʻoe i kēia mau mākau a hoʻopili iā lākou i kāu male, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i ka hoʻokalakupua no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoia i kou alo a hana ma waena o nā pilikia a me nā pilikia pū kekahi a maopopo pehea e kākoʻo ai i kāu wahine i ka naʻau a me ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe e hōʻoia ai e noho ʻolua. ikaika pū.
ʻO nā mākau a mākou e haʻi aku nei:
- Kaʻike o nā manaʻo
- Hoʻohana ʻana i ka naʻau
- Ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā naʻau
- Ka mālama ʻana i nā naʻau
Hiki ke hōʻike ʻia kēia mau mākau i nā ala aʻe:
ʻIke o nā manaʻo
Maikaʻi nā alakaʻi alakaʻi noʻonoʻo (a me nā kāne) i ka heluhelu ʻana i ka poʻe. ʻIke pū lākou i ka naʻau naʻau e ʻae iā lākou e hōʻiliʻili i ka ʻike hou aku e pili ana i ke kūlana naʻau o kā lākou wahine, kime a mea ʻē aʻe paha a lākou e pili pū ana.
Ma o ke alakaʻi ʻana i ka ʻike naʻau a me ka ʻike, hiki i nā kāne ke nānā i nā mea i haʻi pinepine ʻole ʻia.ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo i kahi manawa a no ke aha paha e hakakā nei kā lākou wahine me kekahi mea, a i ʻole i ka manawa paʻakikī, a hiki iā lākou ke paipai i kā lākou wahine e kamaʻilio, a kōkua iā lākou e loaʻa i kahi hopena i kā lākou pilikia.
ʻOiai inā pili iā lākou ka pilikia - no ka mea ʻike akamai lākou i ka noʻonoʻo e hiki ke hana i kēia mau mea a koi lākou i ka nānā a me ka hoʻonā e mālama i ka hauʻoli o ka male.
He mea nui kēia hoʻolālā i ka wā e hoʻoholo ai.
Ke hōʻike nei i ka mākaukau o ka heluhelu ʻana i ka poʻe ma o ke alakaʻi ʻana i ka naʻau i loko o ka male, e maʻalahi iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine e wehe e pili ana i kā lākou mau manaʻo me ka manaʻo ʻole e kuhihewa ʻia.
Ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā naʻau
Ke hōʻike ka wahine i ke alakaʻi alakaʻi naʻau ʻole, ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i ka ʻike i loaʻa i ka naʻau, akā hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana i ka mana o nā manaʻo ma kahi o ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kaohi a me ke kaomi ʻana a i ʻole nā ʻano mana hoʻomalu ʻē aʻe e hiki ai i kahi pilina pili. e like me ka male ʻana.
ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki i kahi kāne a wahine paha (a i ʻole ʻelua) hiki ke alakaʻi i ko lākou ʻohana i ka kūleʻa a me nā manawa hauʻoli ma o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā ʻohana āpau e pono ai a me ke aʻo ʻana i kā lākou keiki i ka ʻike naʻau pū kekahi.
Ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā naʻau
ʻAʻole hiki i nā kānaka āpau ke minamina a minamina, no laila, ka hiki ke ʻike a hōʻike i kēia mau mea ʻelua he mākau o ke alakaʻi naʻau naʻau a maikaʻi loa ke pili i ka pili pili e like me ka male.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo loa ka ʻōlelo 'familiarity breeds' hoʻowahāwahā akā inā he naʻau ʻike ʻoe, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka wā i komo ai ka hoʻowahāwahā i loko o kāu male a kiki iā ia i ke kaʻe e pale ai i nā pilikia hou mai ka hānau ʻana.
Ka mālama ʻana i ka naʻau
ʻO ka lilo pinepine ʻana i kāu ʻoluʻolu ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona maikaʻi no ke alakaʻi alakaʻi naʻau.
ʻO ka huhū huhū ma luna o kahi pilikia a kuhihewa paha ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona maikaʻi no ke alakaʻi alakaʻi naʻau, a ʻaʻole ia he mea kūpono i kahi male hauʻoli a maluhia hoʻi!
Kū pinepine nā manaʻo kipi ma muli o ke kuhi hewa maʻamau i hiki i kahi alakaʻi alakaʻi i ka naʻau ke kāohi i kēlā mau manaʻo.
He mea kūpono ʻole ke kāohi ʻana, a he alakaʻi alakaʻi naʻau e ʻike ia.
Akā, e noʻonoʻo maopopo kahi alakaʻi alakaʻi naʻau i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kēia mau manaʻo. E ʻike lākou e hala ana kēia mau manaʻo a ua nui ka nānā ʻana i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka pilikia i kēia manawa.
Ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana "huhū wau i ka manaʻo, a kuhi hewa paha a kaʻu wahine i hana ai," e ʻōlelo ke alakaʻi alakaʻi naʻau, "Ke huhū nei kēia kūlana. Akā, he aha kā mākou e hana ai e hoʻoponopono i kēia a hoʻohuli i ka maikaʻi ʻole i kahi maikaʻi?
I loko o kahi laʻana i ʻike ʻia, ʻike ka wahine noʻonoʻo naʻau i ko lākou mau manaʻo ukiuki i ke kuhi hewa, akā neʻe i hala a nīnau koke a nānā i kahi hopena.
Hiki i ka naʻau ke lilo i mea hana ikaika i ka male, ma hope o nā mea āpau, kūkulu ʻia ia ma luna.
Akā ma o ke alakaʻi ʻana i ka ʻike naʻau, ka hiki ke ʻike i ka naʻau, e hoʻohana i kona mana ma nā ʻano huahana, e hoʻomaopopo iā ia, a e hoʻokele iā ia i mea nui i ka mālama pono ʻana i ka male hauʻoli a kaulike hoʻi.