Anter
- Nā ʻōuli i ka haʻalele ʻia o kāu kāne
- Nā kumu e koho ai nā kāne e haʻalele i ka naʻau
- 1. Ua ʻeha ʻo ia
- 2. Aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe
- 3. ʻAʻole maopopo iā ia ka mea e hana hou ai
- Ka mea nui o ka pilina ʻuhane - pehea e hoʻihoʻi ai
- 1. Hoʻohanohano
- 2. Hoʻolohe
- 3. Hana pū
ʻO nā kuʻikahi a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa i ka male ka mea maʻamau, ʻoiai ʻoe e noho lōʻihi i kahi pilina, e maʻa mau ʻoe i kēia mau ʻaelike a laila ua emi pinepine lākou. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau hihia kahi e ʻike wale ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e ulu maoli ana i ka male a ʻike paha ʻoe ua male ʻia ʻoe i kahi kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau.
Ke kiʻi ʻana i kēlā lapaʻau hūnā a i ʻole i kēlā ʻano manaʻo e noho kino ana kāu kāne akā mamao aku me ʻoe paha kekahi o nā mea a ka wahine e inaina wale ai. ʻO nā wahine, i ka nui o ka inaina i ka hāʻawi ʻia ʻana i kēia lapaʻau akā he aha ka mea e hoʻonāukiuki ai i ke kāne e koho i ka hiki ʻole i kāna wahine?
Nā ʻōuli i ka haʻalele ʻia o kāu kāne
Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻohe ou ikaika hou pilina pilina me kahi kāne? Manaʻo ʻoe ua hoʻomaka kāu kāne e haʻalele i ka naʻau ʻaʻole wale iā ʻoe akā me kāu male pū kekahi?
Inā ʻoe e hana, a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka e kālailai i ke kumu o kona haʻalele ʻana i ka naʻau ma mua a laila e hana pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻohui me kāu kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau.
ʻO nā mea mua, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ke kanaka nāna i ʻike maikaʻi i kāu kāne ʻo ʻoe ia a ʻike ʻoe inā ua male ʻoe i kahi kāne manaʻo nui a ʻaʻole paha. E hoʻomaka kākou mai aneʻi a e ʻike kākou i nā hōʻailona ke kīpē o ke kanaka me ka naʻau i ka naʻau.
- Ka nele o ka pilina naʻau i ka pilina aiʻole e hōʻike ka male i nā hoʻoholo maopopo e like me kāna mau hoʻolālā no ka hopena pule a i ʻole kāna wā hoʻomaha. Inā ʻike ʻoe ua hana ʻē ʻo ia i kekahi mau hoʻolālā a ʻaʻole ia e hoʻopili iā ʻoe a laila makemake ia e noho hoʻokahi. ʻOiai mākou a pau e pono i kahi manawa wale mai kā mākou mau wahine, inā hana ia i nā manawa āpau, ʻo ia hoʻi no ka mamao loa o ka naʻau.
- ʻAʻole ʻo ia mālama. Ua ʻeha a ʻehaʻeha ʻoe a hoʻāʻo ʻoe e haʻi iā ia akā kūlia ʻo ia iā ia me he mea ʻole lā. Holo aku ʻoe a uē hoʻi akā hoʻomau ʻo ia e kiaʻi i kāna pāʻani kinipōpō a pāʻani paha i nā pāʻani ma kāna kelepona. He ala pololei loa ia o ka hōʻike ʻana i kāna mālama ʻole.
- An kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau hiki ke kumu manaʻo kūpono ʻole i ka pilina aiʻole kou male male. Manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole holo pono kāu mau hana āpau e hoʻoponopono ai i ka male. ʻIke paha ʻoe i kāu kāne hiki ke hana waha akā ʻaʻole hana maoli i kekahi mea e hoʻololi i kāu kūlana o kēia manawa.
- ʻO ka haʻalele ʻana i ka naʻau i nā pilina ke lawe i ka uku i kēlā me kēia male. Ke manaʻo ʻoe ʻo nā mea āpau āna e hana nei e hōʻino a hōʻino paha iā ʻoe no nā pilikia āpau, ke ʻike nā mea āpau āna e hana ai i kāu mau hewa a manaʻo ʻoe e like me kahi ukana a laila e ʻike ʻoe e hōʻike ana kāu kāne i kahi hōʻailona ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke loaʻa iā ʻoe a me kāu. male male.
- ʻIke mākou āpau i kekahi o nā mea maʻamau hōʻailona nā kāne e pili i ka naʻau iā ʻoe ʻo ia ke pānaʻi a hoʻomaka paha i ka pili aloha. ʻO ka nele o ia mea ʻaʻole ia i hoʻopukapuka hou i kāu pilina.
Nā kumu e koho ai nā kāne e haʻalele i ka naʻau
Makemake paha mākou e ʻike i kēia manawa no ke aha e hana ai kēia. Hoʻomaopopo paha kekahi o mākou he ʻāpana ʻāpana o kā mākou hewa akā he clueless paha kekahi e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei.
Ma mua o ka hiki iā mākou ke kuhi ke ʻike nei ʻo ia i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, pono mākou e ʻike mua i nā kumu maʻamau loa i loaʻa iā ʻoe kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau a he aha hiki iā mākou ke hana e hoʻoponopono ai.
1. Ua ʻeha ʻo ia
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka nā hōʻailona hōʻeha ke ʻano o ke kāne? A pehea e pili ana i ka ʻokoʻa mea hoʻoulu manaʻo no nā kāne hiki ke hoʻolilo iā lākou i an kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau?
Pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole nā mākou wale nō e ʻeha a i kekahi manawa ke ʻeha ke kanaka i ka naʻau, ma kahi o ka uē ʻana, ka uē ʻana, a me ka hoʻopuka ʻana i ko lākou mau ukiuki, koho lākou e mamao.
Ua hana anei kekahi mea ma waena o ʻolua? Aia paha he make i loko o ka ʻohana? Aia paha kekahi mea e koho i kāu kāne e mamao.
2. Aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe
ʻIke mākou. Kū'ē paha kēia i ke kūʻē akā nānā i kēia ala, no ke aha i haʻalele ai nā kāne ke makemake lākou iā ʻoe a aloha paha iā ʻoe no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou makemake i ka pilikia e nui a paʻakikī paha.
ʻO kahi laʻana, ke uē nei ʻoe a huhū ʻoe a ʻike ʻoe iā ia i kahi naʻau mamao a ʻano paha ʻaʻole ia e mālama. E kālailai i kēia ma mua. Makemake paha kāu kāne e hāʻawi i ka pilikia i kekahi manawa a ʻaʻole makemake e hana i kahi mea nui.
E hoʻomanaʻo, hana nā kāne me ka ʻeha ʻokoʻa ma mua o kā mākou hana no laila makemake paha ʻo ia e hoʻopau i ka pilikia.
3. ʻAʻole maopopo iā ia ka mea e hana hou ai
Makemake nā wahine e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilikia a ʻimi i kahi hopena. Hiki ke kani e like me ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa i kekahi manawa akā he ala ia e pale ai i ke koʻikoʻi a me nā kūlike ʻole. Pehea nā kāne?
No ke aha e pani ai nā kāne ke koʻikoʻi? a pehea e kiʻi ai iā ia e wehe i ka naʻau me mākou? E nā kāne, ke manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hana hou i kekahi mea e hoʻoponopono ai i ka pilikia a i ʻole manaʻo lākou he nui loa a ʻike lākou ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi i kahi hopena - pani lākou.
Koho wale lākou i kahi mamao, hoʻomaha, hoʻomaha manawa a neʻe wale aku. I kekahi manawa, hiki i ka hana ʻana i kēia ke kōkua maoli i nā pilikia akā ʻo ka hoʻolōʻihi ʻana i ka manawa kūpono ʻole e lilo i mea nui i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Ka mea nui o ka pilina ʻuhane - pehea e hoʻihoʻi ai
I kēia manawa ua akāka ke kumu o ka kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau, ʻo kēia ka manawa e ʻike pehea e pili ai i ka naʻau me ke kāne a ma kahi e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻomaka.
1. Hoʻohanohano
He aha e hana ai ke haʻalele ke kāne mai kou pilina? I ka manawa mua e hana ai kēia, e hāʻawi iā ia i kahi e pono ai. E mahalo i ka manawa a kāu kāne e pono ai e noʻonoʻo a kālailai i ke kūlana.
Pono mākou āpau i kahi a i kekahi manawa, pono kahi kāne i kēia wahi e recharge. Eia naʻe, inā hana mau ia ʻo ia ka manawa e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike i ka mea e hana ai ke haʻalele ke kāne iā ʻoe ma mua o ka pono.
2. Hoʻolohe
ʻO ka ʻanuʻu ʻelua ke kamaʻilio a e ʻike pono ʻoe pehea e hoʻolohe ai. Loaʻa iā mākou āpau i kā mākou monster ponoʻī e hakakā a ʻo kāna wahine, ʻo kāu kuleana ia e ʻike he aha e hana ai inā pani kekahi i ka naʻau.
ʻAʻole wale mākou e kamaʻilio a kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea e pono ai ia e hana a i ʻole nā mea āu e lawe ai etc. Pono mākou e hoʻolohe. He ʻōlelo paha kāu kāne.
3. Hana pū
ʻAʻohe male hemolele no laila pono mākou e ʻike pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka naʻau i ka pilina. ʻAʻole mākou maʻaneʻi e ʻimi i ka nānā a e hoʻolaʻa ʻia. Maʻaneʻi mākou e aʻo ai pehea e hana ai i kā mākou male a me ka hoʻopau ʻana i ka naʻau ʻaʻole ia ka hopena.
Ke hana nei me kahi kāne i haʻalele ʻia i ka naʻau lilo i mea paʻakikī akā e like me kā lākou e ʻōlelo ai, ʻo nā makahiki mua o kāu male ka paʻakikī loa.
Aia mau kekahi mea e aʻo ai, aia mau kekahi mea e ʻike ai akā inā ʻike ʻoe pehea e hoʻopaʻa ai i ke kanaka āu e aloha ai, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā ala e launa hou ai me ia a hoʻokō i kahi paʻa paʻa ma ke ʻano he kāne a wahine.