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- Nā kaikuaʻana hou
- Hōʻole ka Stepchild i ko lākou makua mua
- Hōʻole ka stepchild e hoʻokuʻu i kā lākou makua ola
- Pono ʻoe e koho
- Mai hoʻohoka i nā hakakā ʻohana maʻamau me nā pilikia ʻohana i hui ʻia
ʻOkoʻa ʻokoʻa ka ʻohana dynamics o kahi kāne hou i mare ʻia me nā keiki hānau. ʻO nā keiki keiki ma mua o ka hala o ke keiki kamaliʻi a ma mua o ke kula kiʻekiʻe e ʻike nui ʻia kēia ʻano.
ʻO nā mākua i mare i ka hoa me nā keiki, maopopo leʻa i ka mea a lākou e hana nei. Ma ka liʻiliʻi ua lana ko mākou manaʻo. ʻO nā kamaliʻi, ʻo nā keiki liʻiliʻi loa, ʻaʻole maopopo piha i ke kūlana. Hoʻopilikia paha kēlā i nā mea.
Eia nā pilikia o nā keiki keiki a pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā lākou e hoʻomaʻa iā ia
Nā kaikuaʻana hou
ʻO nā keiki he mau hoahānau hou he makana.
Akā hiki ke hoʻohoka iā lākou i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kaupae. Inā ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻolilo i ka manawa nui i ka wā e pili mau ana ka wahine, mai pūʻiwa ʻoe inā hōʻole kekahi a i ʻole nā ʻanuʻu ʻelua i kekahi.
ʻAʻole kēia ka hihia i nā manawa āpau, keu hoʻi inā e hoʻolōʻihi ka manawa o nā keiki me kekahi i ka wā o ka male ʻana o ka wahine. Akā ʻoiai ʻoe ma aneʻi, ke manaʻo nei paha ʻoe a i ʻole ke ʻike nei i ka hopena o ka lāʻau.
ʻO nā keiki wale nō o nā mākua hoʻokahi e hoʻohana i ka ʻike piha o ko lākou makua. ʻAʻole maʻa lākou ma kaʻana like ʻana i kekahi mea me kekahi. ʻO nā mea āpau mai ka meaʻai, nā mea pāʻani, i ka makua ponoʻī, maopopo ia lākou e huhū lākou i kēlā me kēia mea i kuleana kīnā ʻole i ka manaʻo o kēlā keiki i ko lākou honua holoʻokoʻa.
E kūpaʻa nā mākua ʻelua, ʻo ia hoʻi ka meaola i ke aʻo ʻana i nā keiki i nā ʻano maikaʻi o ke kaʻana like ʻana. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, he haʻawina ola ia e pono ai lākou e aʻo ʻaʻole ma muli o kā lākou kaikaina, akā no lākou iho, i ko lākou hele ʻana i ka honua.
ʻO ke kaʻanalike ʻana, ke ahonui, a me ke ahonui me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe he pono ia e pono ai nā kānaka ke lilo lākou i poʻe mākua. He manawa maikaʻi kēia e like me kēlā me kēia, e aʻo a noi iā ia.
Hōʻole ka Stepchild i ko lākou makua mua
He pilikia paʻakikī kēia, a pehea e pili ai i ka makahiki a me ke kumu o ke keiki. E like me ke kuni, he mea kēia e ʻae ʻia e holo i kāna papa a hoʻomanawanui ʻoiai e hoʻoliʻiliʻi ana i nā ʻōuli.
Nui nā kumu kumu e hōʻole ai ke keiki i kahi makua hānau. ʻO ka hapa nui o ia e hiki ʻole ke hoʻoponopono ʻia a kūpono ʻole paha e lawelawe pololei ʻia. ʻO kekahi mau laʻana:
- Makemake lākou e hoʻi hou ko lākou mau mākua ola
- Loaʻa iā lākou nā bias maikaʻi ʻole e kūʻē i ka stepparent
- ʻAʻole lākou makemake e kaʻana like (ʻo ke keʻena moe hoʻi) me ka stepparent
- Nā lili
- Hauʻoli lākou i ke kūlana quo a ke hōʻino nei kēia "kanaka" iā ia
Hāʻawi ʻia i nā laʻana i luna aʻe nei, ʻaʻohe pila hoʻokalakupua e hiki ke hoʻonā i kekahi o kēlā mau pilikia a ka keiki i manaʻoʻiʻo ai no ke aha lākou e hōʻole ai i ka stepparent. Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo wale i ke kuanaʻike o ke keiki -ʻo wai ke ʻano o ka manaʻo o ka hapa nui o lākou, a laila hiki ke maopopo a kūpono hoʻi kēlā mau kumu āpau, ʻoiai inā he kūpono ʻole.
I ka manaʻo o ke kanaka makua, ʻo ia mau mea a pau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ke keiki i kāu mau makemake pilikino. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, inā hōʻole ke keiki i ka makua hānau a hele aku ʻoe i mua a male iā lākou, he aha hou aʻe kā mākou e kāhea aku ai ma mua o kahi kuko.
Ma muli o ka poʻe mākua i koho ai e hana i kahi hanana hakakā, aia nō i ka ʻelua e hoʻomanawanui a lanakila i kēlā mau ʻano i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa. Mai hoʻonui i ka uku no ka hewa. E mālama wale i ke keiki e like me kāu e pono ai, a ma hope o ka manawa, e hoʻololi nā keiki i ko lākou manaʻo. Lana ka manaʻo.
Hōʻole ka stepchild e hoʻokuʻu i kā lākou makua ola
Maʻalahi ke ʻike inā ʻo kēia ke kumu o nā pilikia o kāu keiki hānau. E lohe ʻoe i ka “cupcake a kuʻu makua ola ma mua o kāu”. Inā ʻo kēia ka pilikia kumu e loaʻa nei iā ʻoe me kāu stepchild, a laila hiki ke hōʻike ʻia i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa.
- ʻO ka hōʻole ʻana e ʻai i ka meaʻai āu i hoʻomākaukau ai
- ʻAʻole hoʻolohe i kāu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ʻōlelo aʻo paha
- Nānā ʻole iā ʻoe
- Makemake mau e hele i kā lākou makua ola
- Hoka loa ke hoʻi i ka home
Mai hoʻowahāwahā i ka pilina ma waena o ka makua olaola a me ke keiki.
Aia kekahi hihia kahi i ulu ai kahi keiki i ka hale o kahi makua makua, nāna i uku no ke aʻo ʻana, a noho ke keiki ma ka hale a hiki i ka wā e pili ana i ka male. Ua mahalo ʻole ka makua hānau i ka manawa holoʻokoʻa. ʻO ka makuakāne "maoli" wale nō e hōʻike i hoʻokahi manawa i ka mahina polū a mahalo ke keiki i ke kū ʻana o ka makuakāne maoli. Ua pau ka moʻolelo me ka hōʻole ʻana i ka makua ʻeke i ka uku no ka male male a kipaku ʻia i kēlā me kēia. Moʻolelo 'oiaʻiʻo.
Pono ʻoe e koho
Inā ʻaʻohe inaina ma waena o kāu hoa hou a me kā lākou hoa ma mua a noho ke keiki "kūpaʻa" i ko lākou makua "maoli", a laila pono ʻoe e koho.
Manaʻo ʻoe he pono kāu pilina i kēia manawa e ale i kou haʻaheo a kūʻai aku paha, a i ʻole makemake ʻoe e kahaki i kahi laina i kahi o ka makaʻu o ka hoʻohoka ʻana i kou ʻohana hou? Maikaʻi nā koho ʻelua, na ka manawa wale nō e haʻi inā ua koho pololei ʻoe.
I ka hopena, he keiki wale nō nā keiki hānau. E hana lākou e like me nā keiki, noʻonoʻo e like me nā keiki, a hana e like me nā keiki. Ma ke ʻano he mākua, na ʻoe e hana, a hana nui i ka ʻohana āu i koho ai e hana. Hoʻopili kēlā i nā keiki hānau āpau a me kāu ex o kāu hoa, kāu ex, a me ko lākou mau hoahānau.
Makemake nā keiki a ʻike ʻole i kahi ʻoi aku, ʻaʻohe kumu o nā poʻe mākua, ʻo ka mea minamina, ʻo nā mākua he mau manaʻo kūpono ʻole no nā ʻohana hui.
Mai hoʻohoka i nā hakakā ʻohana maʻamau me nā pilikia ʻohana i hui ʻia
Loaʻa nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no nā pilikia ʻohana i hui ʻia. Hele aku ka hapa nui o nā pilikia ʻohana ma hope o ka nui o ke ahonui a me ke aloha nui mai ka wahine a ʻae nā keiki i ka ʻohana hou e like me kā lākou. E hōʻoia ʻaʻole ʻoe e huikau i nā hakakā ʻohana maʻamau me nā pilikia ʻohana i hui ʻia. Loaʻa nā pilikia me nā keiki a hiki i nā ʻohana kuʻuna.
I ka manawa he keiki keiki kāu me kāu mea hou, e wehe ia i kēpau ilo āpau a hoʻomaka hou i nā pilikia. A i ʻole hiki ke lilo i makana i kēia manawa i kou ʻohana i hui ʻia he kaikaina koko maʻamau a lawe pū i nā mea āpau. He mea laki a me ke ʻano o kāu keiki hānau. Nānā ʻole ʻia, nā ʻohana āpau, kāwili ʻia a i ʻole hele i nā ala pōhaku.
'O ka loaʻaʻana o nā pilikia o nā keiki keiki ma mua o ka hana hewaʻana o kouʻohana. Aia iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine e hōʻoia ai e hoʻomaikaʻi nā mea āpau mai laila.