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He hui nani ka male ma waena o ʻelua mau kānaka, akā ma o ke aloha e hoʻonui pinepine ai. Ma ke ʻano he male o ʻelua mau poʻe e hoʻololi i ka hoʻomaka o kahi ʻohana, he mea nui ka noho pū ʻana o ka anakahi. Inā loaʻa nā pilikia a me nā pilikia ma ka home, he mea nui ʻaʻole loaʻa i ke kāne wale ke alakaʻi, akā ʻo ka ʻohana pū kekahi.
E ʻike paha ʻoe i ka ʻ Counlelo Aʻoaʻo ʻohana »a noʻonoʻo he mea pono wale nō ia inā pilikia ka ʻohana, akā hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia no ka ʻano o ka mokuʻāina. E lawe i kekahi mau minuke a nānā i ke kumu o ka lawelawe ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana, a laila kekahi o nā pono o ka hoʻopukapuka manawa, kālā, a me ka ikehu i mea aʻoaʻo no kou ʻohana.
He aha ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana?
ʻO ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana kahi ʻano o ka aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻana i hoʻolālā ʻia e māka a hoʻonui i kekahi mau wahi o ka ʻohana ikaika. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana no nā kumu he lehulehu. Inā loaʻa i kāu keiki nā pilikia pili i ke ʻano, ʻo ke kākāʻōlelo ʻohana paha ka mea mua e ʻimi ai i ke kōkua. Inā loaʻa i kekahi o kou ʻohana ka maʻi ʻaʻai a i ʻole kekahi ʻano olakino koʻikoʻi ʻē aʻe, makemake paha ʻoe e ʻimi i ke kōkua a kahi kākāʻōlelo kōkua e kōkua i ke kākoʻo ʻana o ka ʻohana ma kēlā manawa hoʻāʻo.
I ka pōkole, hoʻohana ʻia ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana e kākoʻo i ke olakino, naʻau, a me ke olakino olakino o kahi ʻohana. Ke kōkua nei paha i kahi ʻohana e neʻe ma hope o kahi pōpilikia a i ʻole ikaika ikaika no kekahi kanaka, ua aʻo ʻia kahi kākāʻōlelo ʻohana i ka hana ʻana i nā mea āpau e hana ai i kahi palekana e hoʻōla ai.
Pehea e hana ai?
Nui nā ala e hiki ai i ke kākāʻōlelo ʻohana ke lawe, me kekahi i ʻoi aku ka makemake o kekahi ma mua o kekahi.
- ʻOihana Bowenian: Hoʻokomo ʻia kēia hana no ka poʻe e hakakā nei me nā kūlana o ko lākou ʻohana akā ʻaʻole makemake e hoʻopili i nā lālā āpau. He paʻakikī e ʻae i kēlā me kēia e ʻae e noho i lalo a hana pū me kahi kākāʻōlelo, no laila kēia ala e ʻae ai i kekahi e komo i loko a kālele i ke kōkua a lākou e loaʻa ai a puni kā lākou ʻohana ʻohana. ʻOiai ʻaʻole kūpono kēia ala no ka mea ʻaʻole i kēlā me kēia mea i ka hana e hana ʻia, ʻae ia i kēlā me kēia mea e loaʻa ka ʻike mai kahi ʻaoʻao ʻekolu. ʻO ka manawa pinepine hana nui kēia ʻano aʻoaʻo ʻohana me ka hana a ke kanaka i ka poʻe a me nā kūlana i loko o ka ʻohana.
- Nā hana hana: Kuhi ʻia kēia ala i ke kūkulu ʻana i kumu paʻa hou aʻe no ka ʻohana i ka pilikia. Ma mua o ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa e hana ai i nā hana o kēia manawa, e nānā ke kākāʻōlelo i nā pae hoʻokumu o ka ʻohana a ʻike i nā mea e hiki ke hoʻoponopono ʻia e pale aku ai i nā ʻohana ʻohana e hiki mai ana.
- ʻŌnaehana ʻōnaehana: Ma kēia ala, e nānā aku kahi kākāʻōlelo ʻohana i nā hana a me nā kamaʻilio kamaʻilio ʻana o nā lālā o ka ʻohana a hoʻāʻo e huki i kekahi ʻeha ahonui e peʻe nei ma hope o kēlā mau hana. ʻO ka manawa pinepine mākou e ʻōlelo a hana i nā mea i ka poʻe kokoke iā mākou a ʻaʻole mākou ʻike maoli i ke kumu. Me ke ʻano ʻōnaehana, hana kahi mea aʻoaʻo i kā lākou mea e hiki ai ke hana i kēlā mau ʻehaʻeha ʻole i mea e ʻike ai i hiki ke hana ʻia.
He aha nā pono?
Nui nā keu pono i loko o kēlā me kēia ala i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana, akā ma ka hapanui he maʻalahi ka pōmaikaʻi: kahi ʻano ʻohana i hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia.
Inā pilikia maoli kekahi lālā ʻohana me ka hana a ko lākou makuahine iā lākou, e ʻae ka hana ʻo Bowenian iā lākou e kamaʻilio me kekahi ma waho o ka ʻohana e pili ana i kēia mau pilina. Inā hoʻāʻo ka mea e hele i ka makuahine –na ia e hana ʻino ʻia ai – me ia mau hopohopo, ʻaʻole paha lākou e hele lōʻihi loa.I ka hiki ʻana iā ia ke holo aku i kahi kākāʻōlelo e pili ana iā ia a laila loaʻa i kekahi mau aʻo aʻoaʻo pehea e hana ʻokoʻa ai i nā hana a ka makuahine, hiki i ke keiki ke hana i kahi maluhia hou aʻe ma ka home.
Inā pilikia kekahi ʻohana me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kekahi o nā keiki i ka maʻi ʻaʻai, hiki i ka ʻōnaehana Systemic ke nānā i ka lawena makaʻu ʻole e pili ana i kēlā ʻeha. Ke kipaku nei paha ka makuakāne i kāna mau keiki ʻē aʻe no ka mea makemake ʻo ia e mālama pono i ka mea i loaʻa i ka maʻi ʻaʻai. Huhū paha nā keiki ʻē aʻe no ka mea makemake lākou e pili pū me ko lākou makuakāne. Hiki ke lawe ʻia i kēia ʻano hana noʻonoʻo ʻole ʻole ʻole āpau i ka lewa o ka ʻolelo aʻoaʻo ʻohana Systemic.
Inā loaʻa kahi ʻohana i kahi neʻe koke i ka ikaika a me ka mahalo i ka home, hiki i ke Structural hoʻokokoke i ala e wehe ai i kekahi o kēia mau mea pūʻiwa. Hiki i ke kākā'ōlelo ʻohana ke nānā i ka mōʻaukala o ka ʻohana, ko lākou mau manaʻoʻiʻo a pehea lākou e hana ai a hoʻomaka e ʻili i nā papa. Ma hope o ka hana ʻana i kēia hana no kekahi manawa, hiki paha iā lākou ke wehe i kahi o ka ʻohana i huli hewa ai a kōkua i ka hui i ke hoʻi ʻana i ke ala kūpono.
Panina hopena
He mea ʻole ka pilikia a ka ʻohana e loaʻa nei, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kākāʻōlelo e kōkua ai i ka holoholo ʻana i loko o kēlā ahi hiki ke lilo i mea maikaʻi loa. Hiki i kā lākou hoʻokokoke pahuhopu a me ko lākou ʻike ke kōkua i ka hao i nā wrinkle a kekahi ʻohana e lawe mai ai i ka papaʻaina. ʻO kā lākou kuanaʻike wale nō e kōkua i ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana i nā wahi makapō i ʻike ʻole ʻia e kekahi ʻohana.
He hoʻopukapuka kūpono ia i kou manawa a me kou ikaika, no ka mamao o kou ʻohana ma kā lākou huakaʻi.