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- Ka maopopo ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka male
- 1. Mālama kekahi i kekahi
- 2. Mai loiloi i nā mea i nā manawa āpau
- 3. Hoʻonani maikaʻi ke aloha i ka monotony
- 4. Hiki i ka male ʻana ke hoʻohālikelike iā ʻoe me he kanaka ʻino lā
- 5. Mai hoʻōki i ka hana ʻana i kāu pili
Huikau nā manaʻo o ka poʻe e pili ana i ka makahiki mua o ka male - manaʻo kekahi he paʻakikī a paʻakikī hoʻi ʻoiai manaʻo kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe.
E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe 'Inā ʻoe e hui pū ana me kāu pakanā no nā makahiki he ʻumi a keu a inā ʻoe i ʻae i kekahi i kekahi me kāu mau hemahema āpau, ua loaʻa nō iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono e aʻo ai i kekahi mau mea hou e pili ana i ke aloha.' Akau?
ʻĀ! Kuhi hewa loa kēia. ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi aku iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka male. ʻO ka makahiki mua o ka male e aʻo iā ʻoe i nā mea āpau āu e ʻike ai.
I kēia manawa, hiki i kekahi ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma ke kiko i ke kenekulia 21, ke piʻi nei ka nui o nā ʻōpio ʻōpio i noho pū me kahi hoa kāne ʻole. I ka makahiki 2018, kokoke he 15% o nā mākua e hāʻule ana i loko o ka makahiki he 25-34 i noho ʻia me kahi hoa male ʻole.
Hoʻomaopopo lākou i nā nuances o ka noho pū. No laila, ʻo ka male no lākou e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ʻāpana keke, ʻAe? Hewa hou ʻoe no ka mea maopopo ʻole kekahi kēlā noho pu ʻana a me ka male ʻana he ʻelua wale nō manaʻo ʻokoʻa.
Ka maopopo ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka male
Ka male male he a mea nani, ʻoiaʻiʻo. A, ʻo ka makahiki mua o ka male ʻana he nani loa. Akā, aia mau nō ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o ke kālā.
Aia kekahi mau mea pono e ʻike ma mua o ka male ʻana. ʻOiai ʻo ka noho pū ʻana o ʻolua no kahi manawa nui, i ka manawa a ʻolua e ʻōlelo ai 'hana wau', hoʻololi maoli nā mea.
Eia kekahi, heluhelu - ʻO ka male vs. Cohabitation
ʻO ka loa makahiki mua o ka male ʻo kēia ka manawa ke aʻo nei ʻoe i ka wahine a i ʻole he kāne, ua hana ʻoe i ka huakaʻi mai 'I' a i 'We' kūleʻa. Akā, koke, ʻo ʻoe nō ku me ka papa inoa o ka hopohopo a me nā kuleana ka manawa āu e hehi ai i kēia huakaʻi hou.
ʻO nā mea e like me ke kālā hui, ka hana ʻana i ʻelua mau ʻoihana, ke kumukūʻai piʻi o ke ola, nā kuleana like a me nā hana a nā ʻohana ʻelua, ka hōʻaiʻē hōʻaiʻē like, ka mālama ʻana i nā hana o ka hale, ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole ... hele wale ka papa inoa.
Eia kekahi, heluhelu - Hoʻoponopono i ka hopohopo i ka makahiki mua o ka male
Wahi a ka mea hoʻoponopono pilina, Aimee Hartstein, LCSW, "He ʻokoʻa ka male ma mua o ka noho male ʻana." Pākuʻi hou ʻo ia, “ʻokoʻa ia mai ka noho ʻana. ʻOiai like lākou me ka mea like, me ka noho pū ʻana, maʻa mau kahi maʻalahi. Me ka male, ua kau inoa ʻoe i kahi ʻaelike hoʻopaʻa. Aia ʻoe i loko o kahi hui paʻa, a ʻoi aʻe ka manaʻo o nā mākia i luna. ʻO kēlā me kēia hakakā a me nā hōʻeha paha ma waena o ka male e manaʻo paha he mea nui a hoʻouka ʻia aʻe no ka mea ʻo ia kēia. "
Akā, mai ʻae i ka nā pilikia o ka ʻo ka makahiki mua o ka male ma luna o ʻoe, a ʻaʻohe wahi hāʻawi. Hoʻomanaʻo!
ʻO ka male ʻana kahi huakaʻi, ʻaʻole kahi huakaʻi.
No laila, eia kekahi mau maʻalea a ʻ tipslelo aʻoaʻo e lanakila ai i nā ʻauamo, hakakā i nā pilikia o ka makahiki mua o ka male, a hana pū i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahi pilina olakino. A, ʻo kēia kou makemake aʻo e pili ana i ke aloha ma hope o ka male ʻana ma hope o ke anahulu o ka noho pū ʻana me kāu hoa.
1. Mālama kekahi i kekahi
Malia paha e hoʻonāukiuki ka mea āu e kaʻana like ai i kahi lumipaku i kekahi manawa, akā inā ʻoe paulele kēlā malama kou aloha, pale i ka makemake e hoʻomaka i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa.
I mea e ulu ai kou pilina, ʻolua ʻelua pono e hana i kahi manaʻo aia mau nō kekahi o ia ke nānā nei i kou kua ʻaʻohe mea inā pololei a hewa paha ʻoe.
ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo ʻaʻole pono ʻoe manaʻo ma nā mea hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe, akā e hoʻāʻo e haʻi iā lākou me ka hoʻokolokolo ʻole a wale nō ke noho kaʻawale ʻoe. Ua ʻōlelo mai kekahi kanaka naʻauao -
ʻO ke ahonui kahi pono
A, ʻo ke ahonui kahi mea āu e koi ai e hoʻokō pono i kēia huakaʻi, i kapa ʻia ʻo ka male.
2. Mai loiloi i nā mea i nā manawa āpau
Uoki i ka hoʻokolokolo a loiloi i nā mea.
O kahi laʻana -
Aia kekahi mau manawa ke manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole lawa kāu kōkua mai kāu ipo. A i ʻole, aia kekahi mau manawa ke manaʻo ʻoe e hana ana ʻoe i ka hapa nui o nā hana a ʻoi aku kou hopohopo e pili ana i nā keiki.
Ma kahi o ka hana mau ʻana i nā loiloi ke manaʻo ʻia ʻoe e hoʻoweliweli ʻia, noonoo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kāu he ʻaoʻao ponoʻī ko ka hoa a kau iā ʻoe iho i loko o ko lākou kāmaʻa.
ʻO ke aloha ma hope o ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kekahi i kekahi.
Mai ana kāu nā hana i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa a mai hoʻonoho iā ʻoe iho i ke kūlana o ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia i ka ola ʻohana. Inā ʻoluʻolu ʻolua, olakino a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi kāu mau keiki, a laila lanakila ʻolua.
3. Hoʻonani maikaʻi ke aloha i ka monotony
I ka makahiki mua o ka male, ʻelua ua lawa ka manawa o nā hoa a me ka ikehu - hauʻoli lākou i ka huakaʻi, ka hele ʻana i waho, ke kau pū ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, a pēlā aku.
Ke hānau a lāua keiki, ka ulu nā kuleana a ʻaʻohe like ke ola. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e minamina no ka nele ʻole o ka ikehu a no ka mea hoʻomaka ʻoe e hiamoe ma 9 PM. I kekahi manawa ka aloha iā ʻoe mai kāu poʻe keiki a me kāu hoapili maikaʻi ke nānā aku.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e pili i ka maʻamau like a hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻala i kāu papa kuhikuhi.
4. Hiki i ka male ʻana ke hoʻohālikelike iā ʻoe me he kanaka ʻino lā
Ke male ka poʻe, ʻike pinepine lākou i nā mea maikaʻi loa i kekahi i kekahi. Eia nō naʻe, hāʻawi ka male iā ʻoe i ka manawa e e 'ike hou aku e pili ana i ko haʻi nāwaliwali a e kōkua ke aloha iā ʻoe e lanakila i kēia mau pilikia.
I kekahi manawa e koi aku kāu pakanā iā ʻoe alo i kāu kīnā a he mea kēia e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke manaʻo he kanaka maikaʻi ʻole. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kanaka, ka mea e ʻae i kā lākou kīnā ponoʻī a hoʻoholo e hana ma luna o lākou, e lilo maoli ia i kanaka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka manawa.
5. Mai hoʻōki i ka hana ʻana i kāu pili
Ke ʻike hou aku ʻolua i ke kūlana o ka makua e loaʻa hou iā ʻolua kēlā manaʻo mai ka hoʻomaka o ka pili.
Ma ka lima 'ē aʻe, hiki i nā keiki ke koi nui a e makemake lākou hoʻokahe i ka hapa nui o ka ikehu ua hoʻopuka mua ʻoe i kāu pilina. No ka paʻakikī o ia mea, pono mau ʻoe e loaʻa ka manawa e hana ai i kāu pili.
ʻO kēia wale nō ala e mālama ai i ke aloha ma hope o ka male ʻana a e maʻalahi a kōkua nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i kāu makahiki mua o ka male.