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- ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi
- Aia nō he manaʻolana
- 1. Ka pūnaewele
- 2. Nā kikowaena kaiāulu
- 3. Nā hale kūʻai kaiāulu kūloko a me nā hana
- 4. Nā kaiāulu e noho nei i nā kūpuna
ʻAʻole lohi loa e ʻike i ke aloha. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, manaʻo ka poʻe he ʻehiku a ʻumi a ʻoi paha o ka 75 o ka makahiki ʻaʻole ʻoe i luahine no ke aloha.
ʻAe like nā Gerontologists ʻo ke aloha, ke aloha a me ka hana kaiaulu nā ʻāpana nui o ka hana ʻelemakule. Loaʻa iā lākou nā pono maoli no ke olakino a me ke ʻano o ke ola i nā makahiki hope.
Aia ke makemake nui nei kēlā me kēia mea i kahi hoa, kekahi e kaʻana like i nā moʻolelo me a snuggle a i ka pō. No ka nui o ko mākou mau makahiki, ke aloha ʻia kekahi mea e aloha mau ai.
ʻAʻole make ka makemake no nā ipo aloha, a he mea nui ka launa ʻana i nā pūʻulu pūnaewele a me nā huakaʻi pūʻulu. ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e hālāwai me nā poʻe e hoʻolauna iā ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi
Aia kahi nīnauele i kekahi manawa me Joan Didion; ua kākau ʻo ia i kahi memo e pili ana i ka make ʻana o kāna kāne, The Year of Magical Thinking, ua kūleʻa nui loa ia a me kahi mea lanakila National Book Award ma 2005.
Nīnau ka nīnauele iā ia, "Makemake ʻoe e male hou?" A pane ʻo Joan, i kāna mau 70, "ʻAe, ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole male, akā makemake wau e aloha hou."
ʻĀ, ʻaʻole anei mākou a pau?
ʻO ka mea kupaianaha, ʻo ka poʻe ʻelemakule ka māhele ulu wikiwiki loa i ka launa pūnaewele ʻana. Kohu mea lā, ke pili ana i ka makemake e aloha aku, ʻaʻole wale ʻo Joan.
Ke hiki mai i ke aloha aloha a i ʻole ke kiʻi ʻana i mau hoaaloha hou, he helu wale nō ka makahiki.
No nā mea he nui, ua hele a hala nā pilina aloha i loko o nā makahiki, no ka nui o nā kumu. ʻAʻohe kumu o nā pili i hala i hala, hiki iā mākou āpau ke ʻaelike he pono swoon-phase of any relationship.
ʻO kaʻu ʻōlelo punahele na Lao Tzu a ua ʻōlelo ʻia - Ke aloha nui ʻia e kekahi e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ikaika ʻoiai ke aloha nui nei i kekahi e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka wiwo ʻole.
Aia kekahi mea e pili ana i ke aloha ʻia e hōʻoluʻolu ai ʻoe i loko a i waho hoʻi. ʻO ke aloha i loaʻa iā ʻoe e hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi ʻōlinolino. Ke manaʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe i kou aloha, ʻike lākou i ka hilinaʻi a me ka hauʻoli pū kekahi, ʻo ia ka quid pro quo.
Ke aloha ʻoe i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe āu e ʻike nei e lawe mua nei ʻoe i kahi pōpilikia, aloha paha lākou iā ʻoe, ʻaʻohe o lākou manaʻo aloha like. Ma kēlā a me kēia ala maikaʻi, aloha ke aloha.
Aia nō he manaʻolana
He hapa nui nā poʻe i kēia lā i ko lākou kanaono mau makahiki. ʻO kēia paha ka hopena o ka hemo male, no ka mea he wahine kāne make a wahine kāne make paha lākou, a no ka mea ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā lākou kahi kanaka kūpono i kēia manawa.
ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi, nui nā poʻe ʻelemākule e loaʻa i kahi mea hou, a i manaʻo ʻole ʻole ʻia paha, i ka wā ma hope o ke ola; i kekahi manawa i ka makahiki 70, 80 a 90 paha.
I loko o nā makahiki he 10 i hala aku nei ua māhuahua nā helu o ka hemo, a pēlā nō ka nui o nā kāne a me nā wahine i ʻike hou i ke aloha ma hope o ka pili lōʻihi. Makemake ka poʻe ʻelemakule i kahi aloha i ko lākou ola, he hoa hiki iā lākou ke kaʻana like i ko lākou mau lā, a ʻo ʻoe nō kēlā kanaka.
Nui a makaʻala nā kamaʻāina i nā kaiāulu līkaia e haʻi iā ʻoe e aloha ʻaʻole wale no ka poʻe ʻōpio wale nō, a pololei lākou. Pono mākou āpau e aloha a aloha ʻia.
Ma hea e loaʻa ai kāu aloha hou
1. Ka pūnaewele
Wahi a ka noiʻi 2015 Pew Research Center, 15% o nā mākua ʻAmelika a me 29% o ka poʻe hoʻokahi a e ʻimi nei i kahi hoa i ʻōlelo ʻia ua hoʻohana lākou i kahi polokalamu pili pūnaewele a i ʻole kahi pūnaewele pili pūnaewele e komo i kahi pili lōʻihi.
2. Nā kikowaena kaiāulu
He leʻaleʻa nā keʻena kaiāulu a me nā hele ʻana i nā kaiāulu e ʻae ai i nā ʻelemākule e ʻākoakoa, e hui me kekahi a e hoʻoulu i ka nohona. He ala maʻalahi nā kikowaena kaiāulu makua e hālāwai me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka hoihoi like i kou kaiāulu.
3. Nā hale kūʻai kaiāulu kūloko a me nā hana
Makemake kekahi poʻe e launa me nā poʻe "ke ʻano kahiko", maopopo iaʻu, ʻo kēia ka mea i hālāwai ai wau me kaʻu kāne.
ʻO nā wahi e like me nā hale kūʻai mea kūʻai mai, nā hale waihona puke, nā hale kūʻai kope, a me nā wahi no nā leʻaleʻa nā wahi maikaʻi e hui ai me kahi hoa kūpono a i ʻole he hoa aloha hou wale nō.
ʻOiai kēia ala hiki ke lilo i mea paʻakikī hou aku e hālāwai me kahi hoa i ka manawa kūwaho i ka hale kūʻai, hana ia i kahi moʻolelo aloha.
4. Nā kaiāulu e noho nei i nā kūpuna
Nui nā ʻelemākule e loaʻa ka launa a me ke aloha i nā kaiāulu e noho nei i nā ʻelemākule; i ka nohona kōkua a i ʻole ka noho kūʻokoʻa ʻana, ke kokoke a me ke kaʻanalike ʻana i nā hana, nā pāʻina a me nā ola pū i loko o kēia mau kaiāulu pili pili i ka maikaʻi o ke ola o ka poʻe ʻelemākule.
Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e neʻe i kahi kaiāulu noho kūʻokoʻa a ʻimi paha ma ka pūnaewele, he mea nui e hopu ʻoe i ka lā a hoʻomaka i kāu ʻimi no kāu hoa.
ʻO ke kī ke hoʻokūkū nei i nā kaʻao e pili ana i ka ʻelemakule e laha ana i ko mākou kaiāulu.
Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole hele iki i ka ʻōpio.