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ʻO kekahi hanauna i hala aku nei, he mea maʻamau ka hele ʻana mai ka hale o kou mau mākua a i kahi dorm a laila pololei i ka noho ʻana me kāu kāne.
I nā makahiki 1970, ua male nā wahine ma kahi o iwakālua mau makahiki. I kēia manawa, ʻoi aku ka maʻamau o ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi aʻo a me kāu ʻoihana i kou mau makahiki iwakālua a laila e ʻike i kāu kāne i ke kanakolukūmālima mau makahiki. Inā ʻoe e hoʻokokoke ana i kāu kanakolukū, ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ake ana e ʻike i kāu ʻuhane.
Hiki ke ʻai i ka makemake no ka male i kekahi manawa.
Heʻoiaʻiʻo maoli kēia inā he nui o kāu mau hoaaloha i male i ko lākou iwakālua. A laila hoʻomaka kēlā mau hoaaloha like i ka hānau keiki, waiho ʻana i nā hoʻoilina liʻiliʻi, ʻoiai ma mua o kou hālāwai ʻana me kāu wahine. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka male ʻana i kāu kanakolikūmākahi paha mau keu pono.
Wahi a Psychology I kēia lā, ʻoi loa ka haʻahaʻa o ka male male no ka mea i male ma mua o iwakāluakūmālima mau makahiki.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i nā drawbacks ke male i kāu mau makahiki kanakolukū, keu paha inā makemake ʻoe i keiki a ʻoi aku ka wikiwiki o ka uaki olaola. Akā aia kekahi mau pōmaikaʻi nui loa no ka poʻe e male i ko lākou mau makahiki he ʻekolu.
ʻIke ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
Ke male iki ʻoe ma hope i kou ola makua, loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa e ʻike pono ai iā ʻoe iho. E loaʻa paha iā ʻoe nā hoa noho i kou mau makahiki he iwakālua i hiki ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka pane olakino i ke ʻano o ka noho pū me ʻoe i kēlā me kēia lā.
He manawa kūpono kāu e huakaʻi ai, e ʻimi ai i nā leʻaleʻa, noho i kekahi kūlanakauhale ʻokoʻa, a i ʻole hoʻololi i kahi ʻoihana wikiwiki. Hāʻawi kēia mau hanana āpau iā ʻoe i kahi ʻike hohonu i kāu mea e aloha ai, nā mea āu e inaina ai, a pehea ʻoe e pane ai i nā ʻike like ʻole.
Inā ua hana ʻoe i ka hana e ʻike ai iā ʻoe iho, e ʻoi aku kou naʻau ʻike i ka manawa.
E ʻike ʻoe i kou ʻano e pili ana i nā mea, nā mea e hauʻoli ai ʻoe, a me nā mea e kaumaha ai ʻoe, a pehea kāu e pane aku ai i nā manaʻo a me nā hana a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Ma hope o ka noho ʻana me nā hoa noho, ʻike paha ʻoe i kekahi o nā ʻino o ka noho like ʻana.
ʻO Bu ka pōmaikaʻi maoli i ke ʻano o ke ʻano o ka naʻau i loaʻa mai ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kāu mau kumu ponoʻī a pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i ka honua.
Ua ola ʻoe
Ma ke ʻano he makua hoʻokahi, makemake kou mau makahiki he iwakālua e kia i ka hoʻonaʻauao, kūkulu ʻoihana, a me nā huakaʻi. Ua loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa e hoʻopaʻa ai i nā kumuhana āu e mālama ai a laila e hoʻopukapuka i kāu mau mākau a me kāu mau taleni i kahi kahua āu i koho ai e alualu.
Me ka ʻole o nā kuleana o ka wahine a me nā keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo e kau i kāu kālā i kāu mea i koho ai.
Inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻākoakoa i kekahi mau hoaaloha a hele i ka holoholo holoholo, hiki iā ʻoe. Inā makemake ʻoe e noho i kahi ʻē, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻokō. Inā makemake ʻoe e neʻe a mākaʻikaʻi i ka noho ʻana ma kahi hou, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo i kahi mea maʻalahi a lele i kahi mokuna hou.
ʻO nā hoa aloha i male ʻōpio loa a hānau keiki hoʻi he mau ʻōpio e hōʻike i kāu huakaʻi a puni ka honua. E lili paha lākou i nā makahiki āu i mākaʻikaʻi ai i nā kūlanakauhale hou, nā wahi hoihoi, a i noho paha ma Manhattan e pili ana me Central Park me nā hoa noho.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, aloha nui kēia mau hoa aloha i kā lākou hoa kāne a me kā lākou keiki, akā ke ola nei lākou i ka manawa ma o ka pīhoihoi āu e hoʻopili nei i loko o kāu mau makahiki hoʻokahi.
Mākaukau ʻoe
I ka iwakāluakūmālima, e hele aku nei me kahi luina holoʻokoʻa o nā hoaaloha a hiki i nā hola āpau o ka pō e poha. I ka manawa o kou mau makahiki he kanakolukū, ʻoluʻolu ka manaʻo o ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kekahi mau ahiahi mālie me ka mea āu i aloha ai.
Pono ka male i ka mōhai a me ka hoʻopili.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kahi hana ma ʻō a puni ka ʻāina me ke kūkākūkā ʻole ʻana pehea e pili ai i kāu wahine. Hoʻohui i nā keiki i kou ʻohana a ulu pono nā mōhai.
Ma 22 mau makahiki, hiki i kēia mau mōhai ke manaʻo he kaumaha kaumaha a hoʻoneʻe i nā manaʻo o ka nalo ʻana. ʻAʻohe kānalua i kēia mau kuikahi a me nā mōhai i hiki ke manaʻo paʻakikī i kāu mau makahiki he kanakolu. Akā, ma hope o ka ʻimi ʻana i kāu mau moemoeā no nā makahiki he 10 a ʻoi paha, e mākaukau paha ʻoe no ka mea e koi ʻia ai iā ʻoe e hana i kahi male.
Hiki i ka noho hoʻokahi ʻana ke hoʻolōʻihi
He ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki i ka noho kaʻawale hoʻokahi ke hoʻolōʻihi i kekahi manawa i kekahi manawa. Akā, weliweli loa ka male ʻana i kāu kanakolukūmāiwa. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, He kūpono ke kali.
Inā ʻoe e male i kou mau makahiki kanakolukū, ke manaʻo nei paha ʻoe keiki ma mua o ka hope. Hoʻohiki wau hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama i ke aloha i kāu male ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o kahi pēpē.