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- No ke aha ʻoe e hewa ai e pili ana i kahi male kūleʻa ʻole?
- Hana hoʻomāinoino ʻino
- Nā maʻi ʻai
- Ke neʻe nei ma hope o ka hemo
Aia i loko o kā mākou kaohi kekahi mau mea i ke ola, akā paʻakikī ʻole ke ola, a ʻaʻole holo pono nā mea e like me kā mākou i hoʻolālā ai.
Ke hoʻopaʻa nā kānaka i nā pona a male i ke kanaka a lākou e aloha nui ai, ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo e haʻalele lākou i ka wahine a i ʻole e ʻeha i kahi male kūleʻa ʻole. Akā no nā kumu like ʻole he nui, hiki nō ia. A ke hana ia, hiki ke loaʻa nā hopena weliweli no nā poʻe āpau e pili ana, keu hoʻi inā he keiki ʻōpio i ka ʻohana.
No laila e nānā i ke kumu o ka hemo a i ʻole ka male ʻole i hopena i ke kaumaha, he aha nā mea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i ke ala olakino a ʻo ka mea nui: pehea e neʻe ai i kahi ala olakino no kēlā me kēia, a pehea e hoʻopau ai i kahi male lōʻihi me ka manaʻo ʻole hewa?
Ke pau ka male, pili nui ia i ka ʻeha a me ka hopohopo - e pili ana i ka lawehala, ka hilahila, a me ka stigma pili kaiaulu o ka male male ʻole. Nānā ʻoe i nā ala e pale ai i ka hewa mai ka hōʻino ʻana i kāu pili a makemake e hōʻoki i ka lawehala no ka hoʻopau ʻana i kāu male.
No ke aha ʻoe e hewa ai e pili ana i kahi male kūleʻa ʻole?
He manaʻo paʻakikī loa ka hewa, e hana pū a wehewehe, no laila e hoʻāʻo e wāwahi.
ʻO nā hemahema, inā ua kaʻawale ʻoe me kāu wahine me nā huaʻōlelo maikaʻi a hauʻoli pū ʻolua i ke ʻano o ka hemo ʻana o kāu ola, ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawehala nui.
Ma hea ia e komo ai i ka wā āu e manaʻo ai ua ʻeha kekahi ʻē aʻe i kēia, inā ʻo kāu wahine, kāu mau keiki a i ʻole kekahi ʻē aʻe. Ke hoʻomaka nei ʻoe e kānalua inā ua koho pololei ʻoe, a inā ma ka hana ʻana ua hana ʻeha ʻoe i kekahi.
Hoʻomaka ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho inā ʻoe e pili wale me ia no ka pono o nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau. A hiki i kēia ke hoʻomaka e ʻai aku iā ʻoe, e alakaʻi nei i kekahi ʻano hana hoʻomāluna maikaʻi ʻole.
Hana hoʻomāinoino ʻino
Ke hele nei i loko o kahi male male ma hope o ka male ʻole ʻana he koʻikoʻi, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hele ʻana ma waena o kahi male male ʻole.
E lawe i ka lihi o ke koʻikoʻi, huli ka poʻe he nui i nā mea like ʻole, mai ka wai ʻona i nā lāʻau. He ala maikaʻi ʻole kēia o ke kāpae ʻana, akā ʻaʻole ma muli o ke kūpono ʻole o ke olakino iā ʻoe. ʻOiai ke hilinaʻi nei ʻoe i nā mea, ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawe i nā ʻanuʻu e pili ana i ka hoʻopili ʻana i kou mau manaʻo a ke hoʻomāhuahua wale nei ʻoe i nā mea ma ke kanu ʻana i kou mau manaʻo.
No laila, ke ʻike maoli ʻoe i ka ikaika e hana ai me kou mau manaʻo, e ʻike ʻoe i ka ʻoi aku o ka paʻakikī o ke kaʻina ma mua inā ʻoe i hana pū me lākou i kahi ala olakino mai ka hoʻomaka. A ma luna o kēlā, e hele ana ʻoe i ka haʻalele ʻana i ka lāʻau, ka mea e hoʻonui ai i nā mea.
ʻAʻole hiki ʻole ke hana me kēia a inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi ʻōnaehana kākoʻo kūpono a loaʻa i ke kōkua āu e makemake ai, e hele ʻoe ma o a ma ke ala kūpono, akā e loaʻa nā hopena maikaʻi loa inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e waiho i kēlā. ma ka mua.
Nā maʻi ʻai
Kākau i kahi male ʻole i kūleʻa ʻole, hele pū ka maʻi ʻai a me ka hōʻino ʻana i nā mea i loko o ka lima, me ka hapalua o ka poʻe me nā maʻi ʻai pū kekahi e hōʻino nei i nā lāʻau a ʻalekohola paha.
A hiki i ka hemo male ke hoʻomaka pinepine i kēia mau ʻano hana, ke kau ʻana a puni ka pae o ED. Ma kekahi ʻaoʻao, hemo ka poʻe i hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā lākou iho a me ka ʻike i ka haʻalele ʻana o kā lākou pakanā iā lākou (mahele hapa a maʻa paha) ma muli o ko lākou helehelena, e hoʻomohala i ka bulimia, anorexia a i ʻole kekahi o nā maʻi e pili ana i hopena i ka lilo wikiwiki a me ke olakino maikaʻi ʻole.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, aia kekahi e ʻike i ka hemo ʻana ma ke ʻano he wahi haki ma hope a ʻaʻohe mea nui a ke hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokuʻu a haʻalele i ka nānā ʻana i ka mea a lākou e ʻai ai a pau, i hui pū ʻia me nā ʻano hana hoʻopono maikaʻi ʻole e alakaʻi ai i ka maʻi ʻai. a me ka ʻai nui compulsive
I ka manawa hou, e paʻakikī kēia i ka hana ʻana me nā naʻau i ke ala olakino a hoʻihoʻi iā ʻoe i kou ala i ke ola olakino.
Ke neʻe nei ma hope o ka hemo
ʻElua mau hewa a ka poʻe e hana ai ma hope o ko lākou haʻalele male.
Hele pololei lākou i kahi pilina hou a i ʻole hoʻoholo wale lākou ʻaʻole no lākou ka loaʻa ʻana o ke aloha. ʻAʻole kūpono kēia mau mea ʻelua e hele koke ma hope o ka male ʻole o ka male, a e like me kāu e kuhi ai, ke ala e hele ai ma kahi ma waena.
Pono ʻoe e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kahi manawa e kaumaha ai i kāu male a hana me nā manaʻo āpau e hele mai ana i kou ala. ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mea laikini laikini a kamaʻilio ma o nā manaʻo āpau āu e ʻike ai ua maluhia loa ʻoe me ka hemo a hiki iā ʻoe ke neʻe i mua i kahi ala olakino i kahi pilina hou.
E lawe i kēia manawa e hana i nā mea āpau āu i hiki ʻole ke hoʻokaʻawale manawa no ka wā e male ana ʻoe. E kiʻi i ka hulahula a me ka pena ʻana a ʻike i kāu mau hoaaloha ma nā hopena pule. Hoʻopiha i kou manawa me nā mea maikaʻi e hoʻomaikaʻi ai iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole no ka mea pono ʻoe e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i ʻole e hana hou ʻia kahi mea e like me kēia, akā no kou aloha iā ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka male male, akā ka loaʻa ʻana o ka ikaika e alo i kou naʻau a hana pū me lākou i ke ala olakino e pōmaikaʻi ai ʻoe a me nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau i ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o nā ʻano hana ʻē aʻe. Ma hope o ka male ʻole o ka male, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho ua haʻalele ʻoe no kahi kumu, a ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo ma ke ʻano he mea kupaianaha ʻole kou ola mai kēlā manawa.