Anter
- Kuhi manaʻo Obligation
- Nā Manaolana
- Pehea e ʻokoʻa ai kēia hiʻohiʻona?
- Kuhi manaʻo Obligation
- Nā Manaolana
- 1. E noi i kahi noi āu e makemake ai
- 2. ʻ Saylelo ʻae a hāhai, a i ʻole ʻaʻole ʻaʻole
- 3. E ʻae i ka hoʻohoka a ʻeha
- 4. Nānā i nā mana uila
- 5. Hana i nā koi
- 6. ʻO ka memnoon
ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻimi ana i kōkua ma pehea e kūkulu ai i nā pilina olakino? Lawe ʻia ka quiz pili olakino i kahi manaʻo maikaʻi e hoʻoholo ai i hea ʻoe e kū ai me kāu wahine.
Inā ʻoe e ʻimi nei i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pili olakino, lawe mākou iā ʻoe i ʻeono aelike e nānā ai ʻoe i loko. ʻO kēia ʻaelike nā kihi o ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina olakino.
- Hana i nā koi
- E neʻe i nā mea i makemake ʻia e neʻe, neʻe i ka moemoe no ka hoʻokō
Caitlyn: Māmā, hiki iaʻu ke hōʻaiʻē i kou mau kāmaʻa hou?
Sherry: aloha meli
Ma hope kēlā lā.
Sherry: huhū ʻo Caitlyn! Makemake au e komo i koʻu mau kāmaʻa hou a hōʻaiʻē ʻo ia iā lākou!
Gabe: Me ka nīnau ʻole aku iā ʻoe?
Sherry: ʻAʻole, ua nīnau ʻo ia. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole, no ka mea, hoʻohoka nui ʻo ia.
Caitlyn: Māmā, he aha ka pilikia? No ke aha ʻoe e huhū mai nei iaʻu?
Sherry: Makemake wau e komo i kēlā mau kāmaʻa i kēia lā! Aloha ʻoe iho!
Caitlyn: E kala mai! ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e lawehala iaʻu no ia! He makuahine hōʻeha ʻoe. Maikaʻi. ʻAʻole wau e noi hou.
Kamaʻāina paha kēia ʻano hiʻohiʻona?
Kāhea wau iā ia ʻo "ʻO ka Manaʻo Obligation." He manaʻo koi kā Sherry e hāʻawi ʻo ia i kāna mau kāmaʻa iā Caitlyn.
Pehea kēia ?:
ʻO wau ma kahi hālāwai limahana: “E kuʻu akua, kēlā kanaka ʻōpio hou, ʻo Colton, ʻaʻole i hāʻawi e holoi i kaʻu mau kīʻaha. ʻAʻohe ona mahalo i kāna ʻelemakule. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻu ke piliwi ua hoʻolimalima ʻia ʻo ia! ”
ʻO kēia huhū a me ka hoʻokolokolo ka hopena o kaʻu mau mea i manaʻo ai.
Pili nā pilina ma muli o nā mea i manaʻo ʻia a me nā kuleana e ʻeha
Manaʻo lākou aia kekahi puke nunui o ka pono a me ka hewa, i hiki i kēlā me kēia o mākou ke komo, i hiki ai iā mākou ke ʻike, a ʻae i ka mea maikaʻi, kūpono, a kūpono hoʻi.
Manaʻo lākou ʻaʻole maikaʻi ka hoka. Inā manaʻo hōʻeha kekahi, a laila hewa kekahi. Ma kahi o ka ʻike ʻana i ka hoka ka manaʻo kūlohelohe a kekahi e lawe nei iā lākou iho i ke kaulike me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo - ʻaʻole e hoʻokō ʻia ka mea a lākou e makemake ai.
E nānā i ka mea i hana ʻia i kēia mau hanana
Kuhi manaʻo Obligation
Noi ʻo Caitlyn.
ʻO Sherry, ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei he manaʻo ko Caitlyn e hāʻawi ʻia i nā kāmaʻa, ua hana ʻia i loko ona iho kahi 'manaʻo noʻonoʻo.' Ua manaʻo ʻo Sherry he kuleana, e like me kāna 'hāʻawi' iā Caitlyn i nā kāmaʻa. No laila ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia 'ʻae' ke manaʻo ʻo ia 'ʻaʻole.'
Ua huhū ʻo Sherry iā Caitlyn.
Ua hoʻohewa ʻo Sherry iā Caitlyn iā Gabe.
Ua hōʻike aku ʻo Sherry i ka huhū iā Caitlyn, e hōʻike ana iā Caitlyn i hana hewa, a ua hewa ʻo Sherry. Ua kiola ʻo ia iā Caitlyn i ka laina lawaiʻa me ka lawehala me he maunu lā.
Ua kūʻai ʻo Caitlyn i ka hopena, a nahu i ka maunu, a laila hewa ʻo ia.
Ua hoʻohewa ʻo Caitlyn iā Sherry no ka 'hoʻohewahewa ʻana iā ia.
Ua hoʻonā ʻo Caitlyn i ka pilikia ma ka hemo ʻana mai ka pilina. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ʻaʻole e hana hou i nā noi no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke heluhelu i ka noʻonoʻo o Sherry a ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hilinaʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kā Sherry ʻae.
Nā Manaolana
Ma kahi hālāwai limahana, ʻo wau ka 'ʻelemakule' o ka hui. He manaʻolana koʻu na ka poʻe ʻōpio, nā limahana hou loa, ʻo Colton, e 'hōʻike i ka mahalo i kona poʻe kūpuna.' He aha kēlā e like me aʻu, e hāʻawi ʻo ia e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kaʻu mau kīʻaha. Manaʻo wau hiki iā Colton ke nānā maʻalahi i ka puke nui o ka pono a me ka hewa, a ʻike ʻo ia e 'hoʻomaʻemaʻe' i kaʻu mau kīʻaha.
ʻO ka mea e hiki ke hana ʻia e loaʻa i kēia kanaka ʻōpio ke kiʻi like like o ke kuleana i kūlike i kaʻu mau mea i manaʻo ai. A i ʻole hiki iā ia ke heluhelu i koʻu manaʻo. Manaʻo wau e hiki pū kekahi. I kēlā hihia, holoi ʻo ia i kaʻu mau kīʻaha. ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa i hiki ke hana ʻia ma waho o kēia kūlana, ʻaʻole huhū wau iā ia. ʻO kēlā ke kūlana maikaʻi loa.
Akā ʻoi aku paha, ʻaʻole e loaʻa iā ia nā kuleana like e kūlike me kaʻu mau mea i manaʻo ai. A laila e huhū wau iā ia, e hoʻokolokolo iā ia, e hoʻolei iā ia i ka lawaiʻa lawaiʻa hewa, a 'e' manaʻo hewa a maikaʻi ʻole hoʻi iā ia.
Pehea e ʻokoʻa ai kēia hiʻohiʻona?
E hoʻōla i ka hana maikaʻi ʻole i loko o nā pilina e pili ana i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia, e ʻōlelo maʻalahi i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai ma ke ʻano he noi.
Hāʻawi kahi manaʻo i ka mea ʻē aʻe e ka kuleana pono. Pono lākou 'hana' ia, a inā ʻaʻole lākou he maikaʻi ʻole / hewa / moekolohe.
Hoʻomaopopo kahi noi i ke kūʻokoʻa kūlohelohe o ka mea ʻē aʻe, a ʻae inā inā ʻōlelo lākou he ʻae, he makana ia iā ʻoe, a i ʻole he hoʻoholo a lākou i hoʻoholo ai (no ka hoʻololi paha) mai kahi kūʻokoʻa.
Wehe kēia i kahi manawa hou aku no ke kūʻokoʻa, ke aloha, a me ka mahalo i ka pilina.
Kuhi manaʻo Obligation
Ua noi ʻo Caitlyn i kahi olakino olakino.
ʻ saidlelo ʻo Sherry ʻae, akā manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole.
Kekahi
- Hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo "ʻAʻole, Caitlyn, ke hoʻolālā nei wau e komo i nā kāmaʻa i kēia lā," a i ʻole
- Inā paha e hauʻoli ʻo Sherry i ka hālāwai ʻana i kāna pono ponoʻī i ka hāʻawi kālā ʻana ma o ka hōʻaiʻē ʻana i nā kāmaʻa iā Caitlyn, a laila hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo ʻae, a ʻoluʻolu i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kēia makana.
Ua hiki iā Gabe ke ʻōlelo “Inā hoʻohilahila ʻo Caitlyn, maikaʻi kēlā. Maikaʻi ʻo ia. E like me kēia manawa, ʻo ia ka mea i loaʻa i kāu hoʻopiʻi ʻana. Pili wau inā makemake ʻo ia inā ʻoe ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻōlelo ʻole.
Ma kahi o Caitlyn e kūʻai aku nei i ke kuhi manaʻo ua hana hewa paha ia, a i 'ole ke kuleana no ka hoka o Sherry ma ke noi ʻana, ua hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo, "Mama, i ka wā i noi aku ai au i nā kāmaʻa, maikaʻi wau inā ua ʻōlelo ʻoe ʻaʻole. ' Makemake wau e hoʻohoka akā no ka manawa wale nō. E ʻike wau i kahi hoʻolālā ʻokoʻa e kū i koʻu pono.
Ke nīnau aku wau iā ʻoe i ka wā e hiki mai ana e ʻōlelo wau 'Māmā, e kūpono anei ia i kou pono no ka hāʻawi a hauʻoli paha ʻoe e hāʻawi kālā mai iaʻu i kou mau kāmaʻa?' No ka mea ʻo ia ka manaʻo o kaʻu noi. A lana koʻu manaʻo e pane pololei ʻoe iaʻu. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo ʻole iaʻu, no laila ʻaʻole wau e paulele i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kāu ʻae.
Nui nā poʻe e paʻa nei i nā manaʻo noʻonoʻo ʻole e hōʻike i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia mai kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. He mea kōkua pinepine e hōʻoia i ka manaʻo, ma ke noi ʻana i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe inā he noi kā lākou e makemake ai e hana.
E hele ana paha kahi makuahine i nā ʻano pilikia like ʻole e hana i keke no ka lā hānau o kāna keiki ma ke kula, akā ʻaʻole makemake ke kula iā ia e hana. Hiki iā ia ke nānā me ke kula ma mua o ka lawe ʻana i ke kuleana. A ʻoiai, hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo i kahi ʻae manuahi a i ʻole ʻole i ka noi.
Nā Manaolana
ʻO kekahi hanana i hiki ke hana ʻia ma ka hālāwai o nā limahana e hoʻohuli wau i kaʻu mea i noi ai. “E Colton, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe e holoi i kaʻu mau kīʻaha naʻu? He mea kōkua ia iaʻu e hiki ke hoʻopau i kēia papahana aʻu e hana nei. ” A laila ʻo Colton, i kona kūʻokoʻa, hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo ae ʻaʻole paha. Inā ʻae ʻo ia, mahalo wau iā ia, kāna mea e hauʻoli ai.
A i ʻole, i kahi hanana ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻohe oʻu mea e manaʻo ai iā Colton. Akā paha, hāʻawi ʻo ia e holoi i kaʻu mau kīʻaha naʻu. A laila pihoihoi wau, piʻi koʻu mau kuʻemaka. A laila ʻakaʻaka wau a mahalo nui wau. ʻIke ʻo ia i koʻu mau kuʻemaka a me kuʻu minoʻaka, a hauʻoli ʻo ia. Ua hoʻokō ʻia kāna pono no ka hāʻawi a me ka pilina. Lanakila pālua.
1. E noi i kahi noi āu e makemake ai
Ke ʻaelike ʻia hiki i kahi kanaka ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole, hoʻomaha kēia i ka nui o ke kaomi e pili ana i ka noi ʻana. Inā makaʻu ʻoe e ʻōlelo mai ke kanaka i ka wā a lākou e manaʻo ai ʻaʻole, a laila makaʻu paha ʻoe i ka noi ʻana.
Akā ke ʻike ʻoe e lawe lākou i ke kuleana e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i nā mea āu e makemake ai. "E palu anei ʻoe i ka papahele?" he noi nani ʻoi loa.
2. ʻ Saylelo ʻae a hāhai, a i ʻole ʻaʻole ʻaʻole
I ka manawa e noi ai ke kanaka, kōkua nui inā pane ka mea ʻē aʻe me ka ʻae a me ka ʻole. A i ʻole me kahi hoʻololi i manaʻo ʻia i ka noi e kūleʻa hoʻi ia i kā lākou mau pono. "Pono wau e hōʻaiʻē iā ʻoe i nā kāmaʻa, akā hiki anei iā ʻoe ke hoʻihoʻi iā lākou ma ka hola 4 i hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻokomo iā lākou i kaʻu papa ahiahi?"
ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole maikaʻi maikaʻi i ka noi ʻana.
Ke kamaʻilio nei no ke aha ʻoe e ʻōlelo nei ʻaʻole, ʻo ia hoʻi ka haʻi ʻana i nā mea e pono ai kāu e hoʻāʻo nei e hālāwai me ke keakea nei i kāu ʻōlelo ʻana he ʻae, he mea kōkua pinepine ia e hoʻopalupalu i ka ʻeha o ka no. "Makemake au e hōʻaiʻē iā ʻoe i koʻu mau kāmaʻa, akā manaʻo wau e ʻaʻahu iā lākou i kēia ʻauinalā."
Inā ʻōlelo kekahi kanaka he, a laila he kūpaʻa kēia.
He kānana maikaʻi loa ia i ka pilina inā ʻaʻole kahi kanaka e ukali me kā lākou hoʻohiki.
Loaʻa iā mākou āpau nā mea kūpilikiʻi ʻole i kū i ke ala o mākou e hāhai nei i kā mākou hoʻohiki, a maikaʻi kēlā. E noho pono me kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe, pono mākou e kamaʻilio pū me lākou i ka wā hiki, a e hāʻawi, i ka mea hiki i kou hiki, e hoʻoponopono.
A e like me kā mākou i ʻike ai me Sherry, e ʻae i ka wā āu e manaʻo ai ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole ia he makana i ka mea ʻē aʻe.
I kekahi manawa, hoʻoholo ʻoe e ʻōlelo ʻae, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e hāʻawi i ka noi. Ke uē kāu pēpē i ka pō, ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e ala aʻe, akā hoʻoholo ʻoe, i kou kūʻokoʻa, e hana pēlā.
3. E ʻae i ka hoʻohoka a ʻeha
ʻO ka hōʻeha a ʻeha ka naʻau olakino olakino, e lawe ana i ke kanaka i ka hoʻopili ʻana me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
He kumu kōkua kēlā me kēia naʻau i ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina olakino.
Kuhi mākou i ka wā e ʻae ana mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole mākou e kiʻi i kahi mea a mākou e makemake ai. Ua ʻeha mākou ke ʻae aku nei mākou ʻaʻole makemake kekahi iā mākou, e like me kā mākou i makemake ai iā lākou. He mea nui loa e ʻae i kēia naʻau e hana i kāna hana, a lawe iā mākou i kahi e ʻae ai i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ko mākou honua.
Kūlohelohe kēia mau ʻike naʻau. ʻAʻole lākou e hōʻino.
Inā hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i kēia, kākoʻo i ke kanaka e ʻae i ka naʻau, a hāʻawi i kahi empathic no ke kanaka ʻoiai lākou e ʻike nei i kēia ʻeha kūlohelohe, ke hana nei mākou iā lākou i kahi lawelawe ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hōʻino i kekahi, e hōʻole i ka manaʻo, a i ʻole wahaheʻe e pale aku i nā manaʻo mai ka hanana ʻana. Maikaʻi ke manaʻo.ʻO ia ka mea e pono ai lākou e ʻike.
Me he mea lā ʻo ka makaʻu o ka hōʻeha a hōʻeha paha ka mea e hoʻohuli i ka poʻe i loko o nā ʻano pili olakino.
ʻO kekahi pilikia e kipaku i nā pilina olakino ke ʻaʻole mākou e mahalo aku i kā kāua. No ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ʻaʻole no ka mea noi e ʻeha a hōʻeha paha.
Ma ke ʻāpana o nā ʻaelike ʻeono, pono i kēlā me kēia mea e ʻae i ke kuleana o kēlā me kēia mea no ko lākou mau manaʻo iho, a mai lawe i ke kuleana no ka manaʻo o haʻi.
Ma ka hōʻino ʻana i ka mea nāna i ʻōlelo ʻaʻole no kou mau manaʻo, ke hana nei ʻoe i ka mea e hiki mai ana i ka wā e hiki mai ana e ʻōlelo lākou i ka wā a lākou e manaʻo ai ʻaʻole, a laila e hoʻokau ʻia lākou i ka inaina, a i ʻole ka ukali ʻana, a pēlā wale aku.
4. Nānā i nā mana uila
I ka hapanui o kā mākou pilina i kēlā me kēia lā, hiki iā mākou ke hana i kēia ʻaelike ʻeono no ka pilina olakino, akā he mea nui nō hoʻi e makaʻala i kekahi mau pilina, ʻaʻole hiki i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe a nele i ka hana ʻole a i ʻole nā kapu moʻomeheu e kūʻē i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole lākou .
I kēia hihia, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kahi noi maopopo loa, e hāʻawi nei i kahi ʻae no kahi no ka manuahi. "E ʻoluʻolu e hōʻole i kaʻu noi, inā ʻaʻole ia e pōmaikaʻi iā ʻoe ma kekahi ʻano, a i ʻole e hoʻohauʻoli iā ʻoe, e hāʻawi iā ia. Makemake wau e ʻōlelo ʻoe inā he memnoon kēia. ” ʻO kahi memnoon kahi hana e pono ai nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua. He lanakila / lanakila.
I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole hiki i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole - e like me Mother Earth, a i ʻole nā holoholona, a i ʻole nā keiki ʻōpio.
I kēia hihia, hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i ke kuleana e hoʻolohe i kā lākou no nā mea āpau e loaʻa ana iā ʻoe, e like me ka nīnau ʻana iā ʻoe iho, 'Inā ʻo wau lākou, e ʻae wau ʻaʻole paha?'
5. Hana i nā koi
I ka Nonviolent Communication, kamaʻilio lākou e pili ana i nā koi ma ke ʻano e like me kou makemake e pale aku iā lākou.
Eia kahi ʻokoʻa iki koʻu noʻonoʻo. ʻOiai ʻae wau i ka noi ʻana, ma kahi o kahi noi, hana i ka hoʻokaʻawale i kahi pilina, aia kekahi mau manawa kahi e manaʻoʻiʻo nei wau ʻo ka noi ʻana ke ala olakino loa e hele ai.
Inā koho kekahi kanaka ʻē i nā hoʻolālā, me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i kāu mau pono a pēlā lākou e hana nei / ʻaʻole hana i nā ʻano hanaʻino iā ʻoe, a pale iā ʻoe mai ka hoʻokō ʻana i kāu mau pono, a laila manaʻo wau ʻo ka noi ʻana i kēlā kanaka ke ʻano o ka hana me ka hopena maikaʻi loa i ka hopena.
Ma ke koi, makemake wau e hāʻawi ʻoe i ka mea i ka makana o ka ʻike.
E hōʻike ana ʻoe iā lākou, ma mua o lākou e hoʻoholo nei i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa, he aha kāu e hana ai i kou kūʻokoʻa i ka pane ʻana i kā lākou koho.
Hāpai kahi koi i kahi inā ʻoe-a laila hōʻano wau. "Inā koho ʻoe e waiho i kāu mau pā ma ka papa, a laila wau e koho ai e waiho iā lākou ma luna o kou wahi moe."
Eia hou, e hoʻohana wale wau i kahi koi inā makemake ʻole kekahi kanaka e kamaʻilio me ʻoe e ʻike i kāu mau pono ʻelua a loaʻa i kahi hoʻolālā e kū i nā pono ʻelua. A i ʻole inā hana kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe akā ʻaʻole e hoʻāʻo e hahai ma muli o ka hoʻokō.
Manaʻo wau he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka lawe ʻana i ke kuleana no kāu pono ponoʻī, a e hoʻohana i ka mana i loaʻa iā ʻoe e pale iā ʻoe iho i ka hana hewa ʻia.
ʻAno laha kēia ʻano kūlana, a hōʻike pinepine ka mea ʻē aʻe i kekahi ʻano ʻeha a me ke aloha a me ke kōkua. No laila ma hope o ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kāu palena pale ponoʻī, koho paha ʻoe e hāʻawi iā lākou i kōkua.
6. ʻO ka memnoon
ʻO ka mea a mākou e hana nei i ka pilina, kapa ʻia ʻo memnoon.
ʻO ke ʻano Memnoon hāʻawi kekahi i kahi makana i kekahi, a i ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka makana, hauʻoli lākou. No laila he lanakila / lanakila ke kūlana.
E like me ka hāʻawi ʻana a Colton e hana i kaʻu mau pā.
Ma ka hana ʻana i kēia mau ʻaelike ʻeono me nā poʻe i kou ola, manaʻo wau e ʻike ʻoe e nalowale ana ka hapa nui o nā pilina kūpono ʻole o ka pilina, a e mahalo ʻia ʻoe, a e hauʻoli ʻoe i ka poʻe nani i kou ola i. ka piha loa.