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- ʻO ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi mea hoʻoponopono e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hana
- Pono ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu a kākoʻo ʻia
- ʻAʻohe o nā punahele kūpono a ʻohi paha i nā ʻaoʻao
- E nānā i kahi mea hoʻoponopono ʻē aʻe
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka mea hoʻoponopono kūpono ʻaʻole ia he mea nui wale, ʻo ia ka mea hāʻawi nui i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hanana olakino kūleʻa.ʻO nā noiʻi āpau aʻu i hālāwai ai me nā mokuʻāina me ka akāka loa ʻo ke ʻano nui hoʻokahi e pili ana i ka mea hoʻoponopono kūpono ka mea a mākou i kapa aku ai ʻo "therapeutic alliance", i kapa ʻia ʻo "rapport" a i ʻole pehea ʻoe e hoʻopili ai me kāu therapist. ʻOi aku ka pili o kēia pilina ma mua o nā kumu ʻē aʻe e like me ke kiʻekiʻe o ke aʻo ʻana a ka mea lapaʻau a i ʻole ke kaila o ka lāʻau i hoʻohana ʻia.
ʻO ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi mea hoʻoponopono e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hana
Pono ʻoe e hana i kahi kau mua, a ma kekahi ʻano ua like ia me kahi nīnauele. Kamaʻilio ʻoe me ka mea hoʻoponopono, kaʻana like i kāu pilikia, a ʻike pehea ʻoe e "kaomi" me lākou. I kekahi manawa pono paha i kekahi mau kau e noho maoli me kahi mea hoʻoponopono hou, a maikaʻi ia, akā inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻike waiho mua a i ʻole inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu a palekana paha e kamaʻilio pū ana me lākou, ʻo ia nō kāu hōʻailona iā e noʻonoʻo i ka ninaninau ʻole ʻana a hoʻomau e ʻimi i kahi therapist e kū pono iā ʻoe.
Pono ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu a kākoʻo ʻia
Pono kou manawa i ke keʻena o ka mea hoʻoponopono e ʻoluʻolu, paipai, a ma mua o nā mea āpau, e palekana. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e palekana a kākoʻo ʻia, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ka paʻakikī e kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo i loko a me nā manaʻo, ʻo ia ka mea pono loa no nā hopena kūleʻa. ʻO kēia ka hōʻoluʻolu a me ka hiki ke kamaʻilio manuahi e hana kūleʻa ai i kēlā mau kuʻina therapeutic.
No nā kāne, hiki i kēia kūlana ke ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī. Maliʻa paha manaʻo kekahi kanaka i ka pilina ikaika me kahi therapist, akā ʻaʻole like ka hoa ʻē aʻe. A i ʻole manaʻo paha kekahi hoa e like me ke aloha o ka mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kekahi kanaka ma luna o kekahi, a i ʻole “ma ka ʻaoʻao o kekahi”. Koe i nā hihia o ka hoʻomāinoino maopopo ʻia a i ʻole nā hana kolohe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole pinepine ia ka hihia.
ʻAʻohe o nā punahele kūpono a ʻohi paha i nā ʻaoʻao
ʻO kā mākou objectivity kekahi o nā mea waiwai nui a mākou e lawe ai i ka ʻike hoʻomaʻamaʻa. Eia nō naʻe, kēlā mau ʻano manaʻo, inā ʻaʻole lawelawe ʻia, he mea make paha ia i nā manawa āpau i ka kūleʻa. Inā manaʻo ʻoe he ʻaoʻao kūpono ʻole kāu mea hoʻoponopono me kāu hoa, a inā ʻoe e manaʻo "ganged", ʻo ia kekahi mea e kamaʻilio koke me ka mea hoʻoponopono. Eia hou, e hiki i nā mea hoʻoponopono kūpono ke lawelawe i kēlā hopohopo a manaʻolana hoʻi e hōʻike i ko lākou nele i ka bias i ka hauʻoli o kēlā me kēia.
Hoʻololi ʻokoʻa ka poʻe Therapist i ko lākou kaila, ko lākou ʻano, a me ke ʻano o ka therapy a lākou e hoʻohana ai. Kapa ʻia kēia kā lākou "orientation theoretical", a ʻo ia wale nō ke ʻano o ka manaʻo o ka psychology a me ka lawena kanaka a lākou e ʻapo a hoʻohana ai me kā lākou mea kūʻai aku. Heʻuʻuku kēia i nā wā hou e ʻike ai i ka poʻe pili paʻa i kekahi kumumanaʻo. Hoʻohana ka hapa nui o nā therapist i nā ʻano papa hana like ʻole, e pili ana i ka mea kūʻai aku, kā lākou mau pono, a me nā mea e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. A, i ka hapanui o nā hihia, ʻaʻohe hoihoi iki o ʻoe ma ke ʻano he mea leʻaleʻa i kēlā ʻano kumumanaʻo, makemake wale ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea e pono ai nāu!
E nānā i kahi mea hoʻoponopono ʻē aʻe
Inā ʻoe e hele i kahi mea hoʻoponopono i kekahi mau manawa, a ʻaʻole ʻoe e kaomi wale me lākou, makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e nānā i kahi hou. Hoʻomaopopo nā mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa mākaukau ʻaʻole lākou e kaomi me nā mea āpau, a ʻaʻole e huhū iā ʻoe ke ʻimi nei i kahi mea i kūpono loa. I nā manawa he nui, hiki iā ʻoe ke noi i kāu mea hoʻoponopono no kahi mea i hāʻawi ʻia.
Inā huhū a huhū paha kāu mea hoʻoponopono āu e makemake ai e ʻimi i kahi mea hoʻoponopono ʻē aʻe, a laila he hōʻailona maikaʻi ia ke koho pololei nei ʻoe i ka haʻalele ʻana. ʻO kahi laʻana, haʻaheo wau iaʻu iho i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi rapport ikaika me nā mea kūʻai aku wikiwiki loa. ʻO ia, ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo kekahi o nā mea e mahalo pinepine ʻia wau. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo aloha kēlā me kēia mea kūʻai aku iaʻu. ʻAʻole kāomi kekahi poʻe me aʻu, a pono wau e makemake e hoʻomaopopo a ʻae i kēlā. Nīnau mau wau ma ka hopena o kahi kau mua inā ʻoluʻolu ke kanaka e kamaʻilio pū me aʻu, a inā hoihoi lākou e hoʻi no kahi kipa hou aʻe. Mālama wau i kaʻu mau kau ma kahi ala kūpono ʻole, kamaʻilio, ʻano ʻoluʻolu a kamaʻāina hoʻi. Inā loaʻa i kahi mea kūʻai aku makemake nui i kahi ʻano maʻamau, aʻo, a me nā ʻano manuahi o ka launa ʻana, a laila ʻaʻole wau e kūpono kūpono no lākou, a paipai wau iā lākou e ʻike i kekahi mea kūpono i kā lākou mau pono.
E hōʻuluʻulu, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka "kūpono" kūpono me kahi mea hoʻoponopono ʻo ia ka mea koʻikoʻi i kāu koho e hele i ka lāʻau. He mea ʻole inā he wahine a kāne paha ka mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa, ʻōpio a ʻōpio paha, kahi Masters a Ph.D. a i ʻole M.D., i kahi hana pilikino a i ʻole kahi ʻoihana a i ʻole kahi ʻoihana. He mea wale nō ʻoluʻolu ʻoe me lākou, a manaʻo ʻoe i kēlā loulou pono me lākou i kahi e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke wehe wiwo ʻole a kaʻana like iā ʻoe iho.
ʻO ia ke ala i ka kūleʻa!