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Inā ua kaʻawale ʻoe i kahi ʻohana i kāwili ʻia a i ʻole inā he ʻohana makua ʻoe i kēia manawa, ʻike ʻoe i ka paʻakikī e hiki ai i nā pilikia ʻohana i hoʻohui ʻia ke ola ʻohana.
I kekahi manawa manaʻo ʻia e like me ka hope a me ka hope ma waena o nā home, nā manawa manawa ʻokoʻa, a me nā mākua manaʻo e kaohi ana i nā mea āpau.
Maʻalahi e hoʻopoina aia iā ʻoe ka mana e hoʻohuli i kēia ola hou me ka maikaʻi, a maʻalahi hoʻi e poina i nā keiki o ka ʻohana i hui ʻia e nānā ana a me nā mea āu e hana ai (a hana ʻole paha) hiki ke hoʻoholo i ke olakino o ko lākou ola makua.
Ma ke ʻano he mākua ma ka ʻohana i hoʻohui ʻia, ua hoʻohiki ʻoe e kōkua i kāu wahine e hānai i kā lāua keiki a hāʻawi i ka paʻa, nā keiki e ulu pono ana.
"He hale paʻa, kahi kula paʻa e hiki ai i nā keiki a me ka poʻe ʻōpio ke hana i ka pilina maikaʻi a hilinaʻi hoʻi i hiki ai iā lākou ke holomua, a paʻa hoʻi, a me nā pilina paʻa me nā loea kūpaʻa, kōkua āpau i ke kōkua ʻana i nā keiki a me nā ʻōpio e noʻonoʻo a palekana a mākaukau hoʻi e kūleʻa. "Wahi a Debbie Barnes, Luna Nui o nā lawelawe kamaliʻi ma ka ʻaha kūkā kamaʻāina ʻo Lincolnshire.
Ma mua o nā mea āpau, pono ke aloha a me ka mahalo i nā keiki. He hana paʻakikī ka noho ʻana i kahi mākua, akā me ka noʻonoʻo a me ka hoʻomau ʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke pale iā ʻoe iho a me nā keiki mai ka ʻeha e hiki ke loaʻa mai ka ʻohana hui ʻana.
Eia kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a nā ʻohana hui ʻia i ka hana ʻana me nā ʻohana i hui ʻia ma ke ʻano he mākua.
Mai hana no ka hōʻaiʻē
ʻO kekahi o nā ʻanuʻu mua e pili ana i ka hakahaka ma waena o nā hale ʻelua ʻaʻole hoʻokō ʻia no ka hōʻaiʻē.
Ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e ʻōlelo a hana i nā mea kūpono e mahalo ai nā keiki a me ko lākou mau mākua, e hoʻohoka koke ʻoe iā ʻoe iho a ʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻonāukiuki e hoʻāʻo hou.
E hoʻomanaʻo he makua bonus ʻoe, a ʻoi aku ʻoe i kāu poʻe keiki hānau inā mālama maoli ʻoe.
Hiki i kahi makua makua ke lilo i hana mahalo ʻole, akā mai haʻalele ʻoe i kēlā mea; he kuleana nui ʻoe e hoʻokani ai.
Inā ʻo kāu kumu wale no ka hana ʻana i kāu mea e hana ai no ke keiki (a i ʻole nā keiki) a me ke ola o ko lākou wā e hiki mai ana, e hele mau ana ʻoe me he mea lā ʻaʻole e ʻike ʻia kāu mau hana.
He alakaʻi nui ʻoe; e aloha i kāu mea e hoʻoulu ai. E ʻike ana kāu makana i ka hauʻoli o kāu mau keiki bonus a me ko lākou loli.
He uwao ʻoe
ʻO ka lua, ʻo ʻoe ka mea uwao i ke ola o ke keiki ke hele a maikaʻi ʻole nā mea ma waena o nā mākua olaola.
ʻAʻole kūpono nā keiki e lohe i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ka makuakāne ke hiki lākou i ka hale o ka makuahine a me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ka makuahine ma ka home o ka makua.
ʻAʻole pono ke keiki i loko o ka lumi like inā ʻaʻole lākou he mākua a pono e pili.
ʻO kahi laʻana, inā i loko o kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia, ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa nei nā mākua olaola ma ke kelepona ʻoiai ke keiki e nānā ana i ke kīwī, lawe i ke keiki i kahi lumi ʻē aʻe e nānā i ke kīwī a pāʻani paha.
Hiki i nā paio ke huhū, a hiki i nā huaʻōlelo kūpono ʻole ke kūʻai aku.
Ma muli o ke ʻano, ke ʻohi nei ke keiki i nā ʻokoʻa, ke manaʻo nei ʻaʻole makemake ʻo mommy a me pāpā i kekahi i kekahi. He pilikia nui kēia me nā ʻohana i hui ʻia.
Inā he kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i ka makua ʻē aʻe, alakaʻi i ke keiki.
E nānā iā ia mai kēia kuanaʻike: inā he keiki ʻoe ʻelua mau hale ʻokoʻa, hele ʻoe i ka hale o ka makuakāne e noho manawa me ia, ʻaʻole e lohe i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i kou makuahine.
E nīnau e pili ana i nā lālā ʻohana ʻē aʻe
Inā hele lākou i waena o nā hale, nīnau pehea kā lākou makua ʻē aʻe a me nā lālā ʻohana ʻē aʻe ke noho pū lākou me ʻoe. E ʻoluʻolu mai hana e like me ka ʻole o lākou.
Makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio manuahi lākou me nā lālā ʻohana ʻē aʻe. Hāʻawi kēia i kahi nohona seamless no lākou.
He mea nui kēia ke noho lākou i nā hale ʻelua, me nā ʻano lula ʻelua a me nā poʻe like ʻole. E hāʻawi i kahi ʻano o ka hui pū ʻana me ka haʻi pinepine ʻana i ko lākou makua ʻē aʻe i kahi kukui maikaʻi.
Eia kekahi mau ala kūpono e hoʻohui i ka ʻohana:
- E maʻalahi i ke keiki e kāhea i ko lākou makua ʻē aʻe mai kāu kelepona paʻalima a kelepona kelepona paha
- Hoʻopili i nā kiʻi a puni ka hale o ko lākou makuahine a makua paha
- E haʻi i ke keiki he mea kūikawā kāna makuahine a makua paha iā ʻoe
Kono i ka poʻe ma ʻō
ʻO ka mea hope loa, e kono i kekahi manawa i nā lālā mai nā ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o kāu keiki i kou hale. He mau hoahānau paha no ka hiamoe a i ʻole ʻo ke kupunawahine a me ke kupuna kāne no ka ʻaina ahiahi.
ʻElua mau home o ke keiki, akā ʻaʻohe o lāua ʻohana ʻokoʻa.
Hoʻohui ʻia ka huaʻōlelo nui. Ke kono nei i nā lālā ʻohana ʻē aʻe i kou home e lawe i ka mea pohihihi mai ke ʻano o ke ola o ke keiki ke hele lākou.
Hāʻawi iā ia i nā hoahānau, nā kūpuna, a me nā ʻanakē i ka manawa e ʻike ai i ka poʻe ʻē aʻe i ke ola o ke keiki.
Aloha au i ke kono ʻana mai i ka makuahine a kaʻu kaikamahine hānau i loko o ko mākou hale. ʻAno liʻiliʻi paha ia no mākou, akā na kaʻu moʻopuna wahine e hōʻike i ka poʻe āna i aloha nui ai. A hana kēlā i nā mea āpau.
E noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole i koho ke keiki no kēia ke ʻano o kona kūlana; ʻaʻole ia i noi no nā mākua kaʻawale. Aia i ka poʻe mākua ke hana i nā mea ʻoluʻolu a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi e hōʻalo i ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki me ka huhū i ka nohona ʻohana.
He manaʻo paha kāu ma pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻohui maikaʻi i ʻelua mau home? Inā ʻoe i noho i ka home ma mua o hoʻokahi, pehea ka hopena iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano kamaliʻi? Pehea ia e hopena ai i kāu mākua ponoʻī?