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Nui nā wahine i hele mai a ʻike i ke kākāʻōlelo, e nīnau ana: "Pehea e lilo ai i wahine maikaʻi i kaʻu kāne". Noho mākou i kahi makahiki i loko o mākou e lūlū ʻia ai i loko o ke kai o ka ʻike a me nā ʻāpana aʻoaʻo. Me he mea lā ua maʻalahi ka maʻalahi ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi ʻano kākoʻo a me ke alakaʻi e pono ai. Akā ʻaʻole. Nui wale ka ʻike ma waho. E hōʻuluʻulu kēia ʻatikala i nā pane nui i ka nīnau mau loa pehea e lilo ai i hoa maikaʻi loa no ka ʻoi aku a ʻoi paha o ka maikaʻi ʻole.
E hoʻopono - Ma lalo o nā kūlana
Nui nā kūkākūkā e pili ana i ka hiki i ka wahine ke kūpaʻa pono. Nui ka poʻe akeakamai i ʻōlelo he ʻano ʻokoʻa kā nā wahine i ka ʻike ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a, mai ka manaʻo o ke kāne, hiki ʻole ke hāmama a pololei ʻole. Manaʻo kekahi he mea kēia no ka manaʻo o nā wahine i ko lākou nāwaliwali o ke kino ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia i nā kāne a no laila ʻike ʻole ʻole lākou he huna ka lākou mea kaua.
ʻOiai ʻaʻole mākou e ʻaelike me kahi ʻōlelo cynic ʻaʻole hiki i ka wahine ke ʻoiaʻiʻo, hoʻokahi mea maoli - ʻike nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma kekahi ʻano ʻokoʻa. ʻOi aku ka pololei, manaʻoʻiʻo nā kāne i ka haʻi pololei ʻana i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo, a no lākou, he hōʻailona kēia o ka mahalo a me ke aloha. No nā wahine, aia nā aka o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Manaʻo nā wahine i ka wahaheʻe keʻokeʻo. Manaʻo lākou he ala ia e pale ai i kā lākou mea aloha mai ka ʻeha, ke koʻikoʻi, ka ʻino o ka honua.
ʻOiai he kuhi ko nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua, inā ʻoe makemake maoli e lilo i wahine maikaʻi i kāu kāne, pono ʻoe e aʻo e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma ke ʻano he kāne. He aha ka manaʻo ma ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa e haʻi ʻoe i ka mea i kou noʻonoʻo a mai poina ʻole i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻOiai inā ʻoe e manaʻo he ʻeha, e mahalo ke kāne i kahi kamaʻilio kūkākūkā ma mua o kou koho ʻana i ka mea e ʻōlelo ai a pehea e waiho ai.
Mai pale i kāu kāne
ʻO kekahi lula gula e hoʻomau nei i ka mea ma mua ʻaʻole loa e kākoʻo i kāu kāne. Pehea e pili ai i ka haʻi ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i nā kumukūʻai āpau? ʻĀ, ke wahaheʻe ʻoe a hoʻonani paha i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, mālama maoli ʻoe i kāu kāne ma ke ʻano he kamaliʻi. Manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke lawe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo maikaʻi ʻole. A aneane ʻo ia ʻaʻole.
Akā, pili kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i nā hanana hou aʻe ma mua o ke kamaʻilio pololei ʻana. Ua nalowale nā wahine i kekahi manawa ma waena o kahi ipo a me ka makuahine i ka manawa a lākou e mare ai. ʻO ʻoe a me kāu kāne i kēia manawa ua pīhoihoi loa paha e pili ana kekahi i kekahi a hana e like me nā mākua i kou wā e aloha ana. Akā he nui i hāʻule i ka makemake e pūnana a mālama i ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa me he mea lā he keiki lākou āpau.
ʻAʻole maopopo mākou i ka wā e hiki ai kēia. A ʻo nā kāne ka hewa pū kekahi. Nanea lākou i nā wahine e kuke na lākou, hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma hope o lākou, mālama i nā palapala a mālama i ka uku ʻia ʻana o nā bila āpau i ka manawa. Akā ka mea a nā kāne a me nā wahine e hoʻomākaukau ʻole ai, e neʻe kēia koi i nā wahi āpau o ko lākou ola, a i ka manawa pōkole, e pau lākou i ka hana e like me ka makuahine a me kahi keikikāne (hewa a hoʻolohe paha).
No laila, i ka manawa hou āu e kamaʻilio ai me kāu kāne, e noʻonoʻo e kamaʻilio ana ʻoe me kahi keiki. Hiki paha i kāu kamaʻilio ke unuhi i loko o ia kūlana. Inā ʻae kāu pane, a laila pono ʻoe e huki i kahi haki a hoʻololi koke i kou ʻaoʻao. No ka mea, no ka mea pehea e hoʻomāhuahua ai kāu kāne i kēia manawa, e luhi ʻo ia i ka mālama ʻia ʻana ma ke ʻano kamaliʻi a hele i waho e ʻimi i kahi mea e ʻike hou i kahi kāne iā ia.
Holoi i ka ea
E alo ia - ma hope o nā makahiki o ka male, e nui ana ka huhū a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau ʻana. A he maʻamau maʻamau kēia, mai hoʻohilahila iā ʻoe iho me ia. ʻO kēlā me kēia male i hala no kekahi manawa hiki ʻole ke hele ma waena o nā kūpina a me nā ʻeha, a ʻo kekahi o ia mea e hoʻolōʻihi ma hope o ka hoʻonā ʻia ʻana o ka pilikia maoli.
Akā, inā ʻoe e manaʻo e hoʻomau me kāu male, a ʻoi aku ka nui, e lilo i wahine maikaʻi i kāu kāne, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū me ia a hoʻopau loa i ka ea. Lawe i nā ʻōpala, wehe i ka waihona a hoʻolei i nā iwi iwi. E ʻike iā lākou e hōʻike ana i ko lākou mau poʻo ʻino i ka mālamalama o kahi lā, a laila hoʻopau hope loa i ka lula o nā ʻuhane o nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa i hala. No ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hele pēlā no kekahi mau manawa, akā ʻaʻole mau loa. A ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke holomua pū a i ʻole ma ke ʻano he kanaka inā lōʻihi ʻoe i ka wā i hala. ʻAʻohe lā maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o kēia lā!