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- He aha ka narcissist?
- He aha ka gaslighting?
- Nā malu o ke kukui uila
- ʻIke paha nā mea narcissist ke hoʻomālamalama nei lākou?
- Pehea wau e hana ai me ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana o kaʻu hoa?
Ua male ʻoe i kahi narcissist? Manaʻo ʻoe he narcissist kāu hoa? Hopohopo paha ʻoe i ke kiʻi ʻana i ke kukui.
Eia nā wehewehe o kēia mau huaʻōlelo a me nā ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke lawe e hōʻalo i ka hana
He aha ka narcissist?
ʻO kahi narcissist kahi ʻano noʻonoʻo kahi i loaʻa i nā mea maʻi i ka wahaheʻe, hoʻonui i ko lākou nui a me ka waiwai. Ma waho o ia ʻano, koi lākou i ka nānā nui a me ka mahalo, ke hoʻomohala pū nei hoʻi i ka nele nui o ke aloha no haʻi.
He paʻakikī loa ka Narcissism e hōʻoia a hoʻokaʻawale ʻia mai ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me ka puʻuwai. A ʻo kahi hopena, he nui ka poʻe e komo i nā pilina me nā narcissists me ka ʻike ʻole i ko lākou ʻano noʻonoʻo a hiki i ka wā e ʻike ʻia ai nā hōʻailona o ka hōʻino naʻau, he aha nā mahina ma hope.
E kahaha paha ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana ma kahi o 7.7% o nā kāne a me 4.8% o nā wahine e hoʻomohala i ka NPD i ko lākou wā e ola nei, e like me kahi noiʻi i mālama ʻia e ka National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism. A pili kēia ʻano i ka hoʻohana nui ʻia o ka pāpili kaiaulu, keu hoʻi ke kau ʻana i nā kiʻi a me nā hopena selfies i kahi hoʻonui aʻe o ka narcissism.
Inā male ʻoe i kahi narcissist, a laila hoʻokaʻawale i kou mau ala mai lākou e lilo i mea paʻakikī. Akā ma mua o kou kipa ʻana i kahi loio hemo, e hōʻoia i ka male ʻana i hoʻokahi. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, aia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka haʻalele ʻana i kahi ʻano hakakā kiʻekiʻe.
E nānā i nā ʻōuli ʻōnohi āu e male ai i kahi narcissist a loaʻa i nā ala e haʻalele ai i kahi narcissist.
Aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona maʻamau o nā narcissist a me nā gaslighters e hōʻike nei ʻaʻole nui ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā mea ʻelua. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hoʻohana nā sociopaths a me narcissists i nā hana gaslighting e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kā lākou mau hoa a hana iā lākou.
Inā male ʻoe i kahi narcissist, a laila e lilo paha ʻoe i mea hōʻeha ʻia no ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana o ka gaslighter ma hope a ma hope paha. Akā pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i nā hōʻailona hōʻailona ʻoe i ka gaslighting? Ma mua o kēlā, he mea nui e aʻo i kekahi mau mea e pili ana i ke kukui ʻana iā ia iho.
He aha ka gaslighting?
ʻO Gaslighting kahi ʻano nui o ka hana ʻino i hana ʻia e kahi narcissist.
Hoʻopili ia i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kekahi kanaka ma ka nīnau ʻana i ko lākou iho noʻonoʻo pono a loaʻa ka mana ma luna o lākou. Hiki ke hana lohi i ke kukui a hana i nā manawa lōʻihi no laila ʻaʻole ʻike ka mea i hōʻino ʻia i ka hana.
Aia nā ʻano ʻokoʻa o ke kukui uila a inā ʻoe i male i kahi narcissist, ʻike paha ʻoe i hoʻokahi a i ʻole ʻelua mau ʻano ona.
Nā malu o ke kukui uila
ʻO Kauka Robin Stern, ka mea kākau o ka puke, 'The Gaslighting Effect', i ʻōlelo ʻia "ʻO ka Gaslight Effect nā hopena mai ka pilina ma waena o ʻelua mau kānaka: kahi gaslighter, pono e kūpono i mea e mālama ai i kona ʻano ponoʻī, a me kona ʻano o ka loaʻa ka mana i ka honua; a he gaslightee, nāna e ʻae i ka mea mālamalama e wehewehe i kona ʻano maoli no ka mea ua makemake ʻo ia iā ia a ʻimi i kāna ʻae. "
Eia kekahi, ʻo ka National Center On Domestic Violence And The Domestic Violence Hotline ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "ʻO ka hapa nui o nā mea i pakele i hōʻike i kā lākou mau hoa hana kolohe i kōkua nui i nā pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo a i ʻole ka hoʻohana ʻana o nā mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ua hoʻoweliweli kā lākou mau hoa e hoʻohana i nā pilikia a hoʻohana i nā lāʻau iā lākou. me nā luna koʻikoʻi, e like me nā loea mālama kānāwai a i ʻole keiki, e pale aku iā lākou mai ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mālama a i ʻole nā mea ʻē aʻe a lākou e makemake ai a e pono ai paha. "
ʻO Gaslighting ke kumu o ka kānalua iā ʻoe iho a me ka dissonance o ka noʻonoʻo.
No laila, inā ua male ʻoe i kahi narcissist, ʻike paha ʻoe i nā ʻano hana i lalo i kāu hoa.
- Hoʻomaʻamaʻa nā Gaslighters i ka hana o ka hōʻole ākea, inā e nīnau ʻia i kā lākou hana e like me ka infidelity
- ʻO ka hilahila iki a me ka invalidation o ka naʻau kahi mea kaua i hoʻohana ʻia e nā gaslighters e pani i kā lākou mau hoa a hōʻole ikaika i kā lākou mau hoʻopiʻi
- Hōʻalo i ke kuleana o kā lākou hana ma ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana i kā lākou mau hoa, a
- I ke kūlana maikaʻi loa, hiki i nā Gaslighters ke hoʻokele i kā lākou mau hoa e hana i ka make
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka hoʻōla ʻana mai ke gaslighting a aia kekahi mau hana hoʻopunipuni e hoʻokō ai i kahi hana humongous.
ʻIke paha nā mea narcissist ke hoʻomālamalama nei lākou?
Inā ʻoe e ʻike nei i kahi hiʻohiʻona o ka hoʻomāinoino gaslighting, akā no ka mea ʻike ʻole ʻole lākou, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hoʻomanawanui ʻoe me ia.
Inā ʻoe e ʻike i nā hōʻailona lahilahi o ka hoʻomālamalama ke komo ʻoe i kahi hoʻopaʻapaʻa me kāu hoa, pono ke hāmama, aʻo iā lākou i ka gaslighting a haʻi iā lākou pehea kou manaʻo. Inā maopopo iā lākou ka hana a lākou, a laila loaʻa nā mea hana e hoʻololi ai.
Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻoe e ʻike i ka hōʻino ʻōnaehana ʻōnaehana, pono ia ke ʻike aku i kahi kākāʻōlelo male a ʻike iā ʻoe iho inā hiki ke hoʻonā a haʻalele paha i ka pilina, keu hoʻi inā e hōʻino ia i kou olakino noʻonoʻo.
Pehea wau e hana ai me ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana o kaʻu hoa?
Inā hoʻomālamalama ʻia ʻoe e kahi hoa, he mea pōmaikaʻi ke kau mau i kahi mamao ma waena o ʻoe a me ka hana noʻonoʻo a lākou e hana nei.
Hele i kahi huakaʻi me nā hoaaloha a i ʻole hoʻolilo manawa me ka ʻohana a i ka lawe ʻana i kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo ai, hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo inā makemake ʻoe e hana pū me kāu hoa e kāpae i ka hoʻomālamalama ʻana a pale i ka hoʻomāinoino hou ʻana i ka naʻau.
Inā pēlā, paipai i kāu hoa e ʻimi i ka lāʻau. ʻAʻole hiki i nā Narcissists ke hoʻololi i kā lākou ʻano inā noi wale ʻia, pono lākou i ka lāʻau ikaika i mea e loli ai.
ʻO ka hana mua e hōʻoki ai i ka hōʻino i ka naʻau ke hoʻomaopopo nei i ka hana maoli ʻia ʻana o ʻoe. Akā ke ʻike ʻoe i nā ʻōuli, mai hana i kekahi mea, ʻo ka manawa kēia e mālama ai i kou pilina akā ʻo ka mea nui loa, kou olakino noʻonoʻo.