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- 1. Mai hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho i ka maluhia
- 2. E launa i kāu mea pili e pili ana i kāu palekana
- 3. Hoʻokumu i kahi maʻamau o ka nānā ʻana i kāu mau mea maikaʻi i kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole pinepine ma ka liʻiliʻi
- 4. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke aloha iho a kūkulu i kahi manaʻo pilikino
- 5. E hana i kāu nāwaliwali a ʻae iā lākou
- 6. Mai lilo i poʻe ʻoluʻolu
Ka palekana ʻole i nā pilina - He manaʻo a mākou i ʻike ai i loko o ko mākou ola i kekahi ala a i ʻole ma kahi kiko aʻoi aʻe paha.
Mai ka manaʻo kānalua iā ʻoe iho i ka lili a me ka inaina e hoʻomau iā ʻoe i nā pō, ke lana nei ko mākou manaʻo ua ʻae pū ʻoe me mākou i ka wā a mākou e ʻōlelo nei ʻo ka manaʻo insecure ka mea ʻoi loa o nā manaʻo āpau, ʻeā?
Akā no kekahi poʻe, ʻo ka hilahila ʻole i ka pilina ka mea i ʻoi aku ma mua o kahi mau lā a mau manawa paha. ʻIke kēlā poʻe i ka hopohopo i nā manawa āpau i kā lākou mau pilina, a ʻoiai he mea kūlohelohe ia, hiki i nā insecurities ke ʻawaʻawa i kāu pilina.
No laila, pono e nānā i waho no nā manawa ke manaʻo ʻole ʻoe e palekana a hana iā ia mai ka hoʻomaka. E kōkua iā ʻoe e hana i kēlā, ma lalo nā ala ʻeono e pili ai i ka pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka palekana ʻole i ka pilina.
1. Mai hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho i ka maluhia
Inā palekana ʻole ʻoe i ka pilina, ʻo ka hana mua loa no ka hana ʻana me ka palekana ʻole e hōʻoki i ka hoʻokau ʻana i nā mea iā ʻoe iho.
I kekahi manawa, lilo ʻoe i mea noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe iho a hoʻomaka ʻoe i ke kuleana no nā mea āpau e hewa iā ʻoe. A, kahi ʻano kaulahao e hoʻokuʻikuʻi iā ʻoe i lalo i ka quagmire o ka palekana a me ka hopohopo.
Maikaʻi ka nānā pono pilikino ʻana. Akā, e nānā ʻaʻole lilo ia i mea hopohopo nāu e hoʻonui ai i ka pilina o ka pilina.
E hoʻāʻo e hoʻomohala i ka noʻonoʻo kūpono. ʻAʻole nā ʻino āpau nāu. E ʻimi i nā kōkua kōkua a heluhelu paha i nā puke kōkua iā ʻoe iho e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻopili i kou mau manaʻo a hoʻopau i ka palekana.
2. E launa i kāu mea pili e pili ana i kāu palekana
ʻO kekahi o nā ala maikaʻi loa no ka pale ʻana i ka maluhia ʻole i nā pilina e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou i kāu hoa.
E kamaʻilio me lākou, a haʻi iā lākou i ka mea e hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ai ʻoe.
ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻoluʻolu loa paha iā lākou i kekahi kaikamahine a i ʻole keiki kāne ʻē aʻe ma mua ou? E haʻi iā lākou a kamaʻilio pū me lākou e pili ana i ia. He mea nui kēia i kekahi manawa pono mākou i ka hōʻoia pilikino e hoʻonui i ko mākou hilinaʻi iā mākou iho.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻo kahi hiʻohiʻona nui ma aneʻi ʻo ia ʻoe e haʻi aku i kāu pakanā e pili mālie ana ma kahi o ka hōʻino ʻana iā lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole ia no lākou ka hewa.
No laila, e kamaʻilio pū me kāu hoa, a ma kahi o ka ʻeha ʻana, e ʻimi e hahai pū i kahi hopena.
3. Hoʻokumu i kahi maʻamau o ka nānā ʻana i kāu mau mea maikaʻi i kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole pinepine ma ka liʻiliʻi
He aha ke kumu o ka maluhia o ka pilina?
Inā ʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe i ka pilina, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho - ke manaʻo pinepine nei ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e aloha ʻia?
ʻAʻole paha kēia ka hihia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻokau i kēia mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe iho. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kaupaona i kou mau kīnā ma ʻō aku, e hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ʻoe iho e pili ana iā ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻole ia he mea hūnā e puka mai nā insecurities mai nā mea a mākou e hemahema a puni i kā mākou maikaʻi ʻole a kīnā ʻole. Hoʻomaka kēia mau insecurities e hōʻemi iā mākou i ka waiwai āpau āpau ma ke ʻano o kā mākou mea nui i kā mākou kīnā i kēlā manawa.
No laila, he mea nui e nānā i kāu mau mea maikaʻi i kēlā me kēia manawa ke manaʻo ʻole ʻoe e palekana i kēia manaʻo.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e hoʻolilo i kahi maʻamau. Hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe iho i kou waiwai a me ka waiwai āu e hāpai ai a hauʻoli e pili ana iā ʻoe.
Eia nō naʻe, e ʻike pono ʻaʻole kēia e hoʻowalewale iā ʻoe i ka haʻaheo a haʻalele i ka haʻahaʻa, kahi ʻano ʻona ʻē aʻe hiki ke hōʻeha iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka a me kāu mau pilina ʻē aʻe.
4. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke aloha iho a kūkulu i kahi manaʻo pilikino
ʻO ka poʻe palekana ʻole i ka pilina pili i ka loaʻa ʻole o ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. A wehewehe nui ia ke ʻike ʻole mākou i ka ʻoluʻolu i loko, ʻo ka ʻimi ʻana i ka hōʻoia ma waho ʻaʻole kōkua nui iā ʻoe.
No laila, he mea nui ia hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoe iho i ke aloha a kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho. Hāpai kēia i kahi leʻaleʻa e pili ana i kou ʻano holoʻokoʻa a ʻae iā ʻoe e aloha iā ʻoe iho.
ʻO kēia ma kahi kiʻi nui aʻe e ʻoki i ke kumu kumu o kāu insecurities i ka pilina, e kōkua ana iā ʻoe e hoʻokō i ka maluhia āu e pono ai.
Hāʻawi ka mea aʻe iā ʻoe i kahi ʻāpana koʻikoʻi o ka ʻōlelo aʻo e haʻalele ai i ka palekana ʻole i ka pilina.
5. E hana i kāu nāwaliwali a ʻae iā lākou
I mea e hōʻoki ai i ka palekana ʻole i ka pilina, he mea nui e ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻohe kanaka i hemolele loa.
Loaʻa iā mākou a pau kā mākou hoʻonohonoho ponoʻī a me nā hemahema, a maikaʻi loa ia e kīnā ʻole. ʻO lākou kahi ʻāpana o kou ʻike.
No laila, ʻona iā lākou a hoʻomanaʻo hoʻi ʻaʻole nā hemahema wale nō kāu. Lawe i kahi ʻano maikaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe pū kekahi.
A eia kekahi, hana i kāu mau kīnā inā hiki iā lākou ke hoʻoponopono.
6. Mai lilo i poʻe ʻoluʻolu
No ka loaʻa ʻole o ka maluhia i loko o kāu male, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻohuli i ka maʻamau o ka hōʻoluʻolu i kāu kāne me ke kumu ʻole. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻopili i ka wāwae hewa, e kono ana iā ʻoe iho i nā pilikia hou aʻe.
E hoʻomanaʻo ma ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e leʻaleʻa i kāu kāne a i ʻole nā ʻohana ʻē aʻe a i ʻole nā hoaaloha, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hemo i ka palekana. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki i kekahi poʻe manaʻo aloha a puni ke hoʻohana maikaʻi i kēia ʻano.
No laila, pehea e pau ai i ka insecurities i kēia hihia?
Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke aloha ponoʻī inā makemake ʻoe e haʻalele i ka palekana ʻole i ka pilina. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e aloha iā ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻoe aloha iā ʻoe iho e like me ʻoe.
A, i kēia kaʻina hana, inā hōʻeha ʻoe i kekahi a puni ʻoe, e hoʻokuʻu! ʻAʻole ʻoe kuleana e mālama i ka hauʻoli o kēlā me kēia. Inā kuhi hewa ʻole ka poʻe i kāu mau hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e wehewehe iā ʻoe iho i kahi ʻano hanohano, akā ma ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kou poʻo kiʻekiʻe.
Inā ʻoe e ʻike pono iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i ka pehea e hana ai i nā pilikia hilinaʻi a me nā palekana ʻole i kahi pilina, pono ʻoe e ʻimi i ke kōkua ʻoihana.
ʻO ka palekana ʻole i ka pilina ʻaʻole ia e hōʻino wale i kāu pilina, akā ʻo kou olakino ponoʻī a me kou olakino maikaʻi.
Hiki i ke kākāʻōlelo loea a mea hoʻoponopono paha ke kōkua iā ʻoe e wehewehe i nā pilikia ma lalo e alakaʻi nei i ka palekana a me nā pilikia lawena ʻē aʻe. Ma ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi ʻōnaehana ʻōnaehana, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻolako iā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu mau hopohopo a hoʻokau pono iā lākou.