Anter
Ua hoʻomaka wau e ʻike i ka nui o nā pilikia a nā kāne i hele mai ai iaʻu, no ka mea, mai loko mai o nā pilikia nui ʻelua a i ʻole e hoʻonui ana i ko lākou mau pilikia. Akā i ka manawa e aʻo ai nā kāne pehea e kamaʻilio ai i kēia mau pilikia ʻelua, hoʻomaka paha nā mea āpau e hāʻule pū i kahi.
ʻO nā pilikia nui ʻelua e pili ana i ke kamaʻilio a me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia.
ʻO ka nui o nā pilikia i ʻike ʻia e nā mākua me he mea lā mai ko lākou nele i ka hiki ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi a i ʻole nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia. Eia naʻe, ka manawa, hoʻomaikaʻi nā kāne i kā lākou hiki ke kamaʻilio ākea a kūkulu, a me ka loiloi ʻana, ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana, a me ka hālāwai ʻana me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia e kekahi.
No laila, e nānā kaʻawale i kēia mau pilikia nui ʻelua, e ʻike ai i nā mea e pono ai mākou e ʻike, a e noʻonoʻo e hana i ka hauʻoli i kāu pilina.
Palapala
ʻO kekahi o nā pilikia maʻamau a ke alo o nā kāne e kamaʻilio ai. Loaʻa pinepine kekahi manawa o ka nele loa o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, ka kamaʻilio hewa mau ʻana a i ʻole ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO ka hopena he aneane mau loa ka huhū, ka hauʻoli ʻole, a me nā pono kūpono ʻole. ʻO nā kumu he nui ke kumu o ka hoʻopuka kamaʻilio ʻana ma "ka wehewehe ʻana." Kuhi hewa ʻoe i ka mea a ka mea ʻē aʻe e ʻōlelo nei a hoʻolilo i ka manawa a me ka ikaika i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana i kahi kikoʻī a kāu hoa i manaʻo ʻole ai. He hana makehewa ia. No laila, pono ia e lawe i ka manawa e hoʻomaopopo piha i ka mea a kāu hoa e hoʻāʻo nei e ʻōlelo. Eia kekahi, inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea e kamaʻilio ana, he mea nui ia e ʻike maopopo e kamaʻilio pololei ana ʻoe a me ke kikoʻī āu e manaʻo ai i hiki i kāu hoa ke hoʻomaopopo. Pono ʻoe e ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole like ko lākou kuanaʻike me kāu. ʻAʻole like ko lākou ʻike, nā manaʻo a me nā ukana e like me kāu. Akā koi maikaʻi ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi.E ʻike ia i ka honua ma o ko lākou mau maka e like me ka hiki a laila mālama iā lākou i ke ala āu e mālama ai iā ʻoe iho.
ʻO ka pono e pololei mau
ʻO kekahi pilikia maʻamau me ke kamaʻilio ʻana ka pono e "kūpono" mau. Akā eia ka mea, ʻaʻole pololei kekahi. No laila, koʻikoʻi, no laila, ʻae ʻelua iā ʻolua ke hewa ʻoe a maikaʻi pū me ia. I kēia manawa, inā pono ka pololei o kekahi o ʻoukou i nā manawa āpau, e mākaukau no ka haʻalele ʻana o kāu pakanā a nalowale ʻoe i ka pili aloha i mea nui i loko o nā aloha aloha.
Eia kahi nīnau aʻu e nīnau maʻamau ai i nā kāne: "Makemake ʻoe e pololei (mau), a i ʻole makemake ʻoe e hauʻoli?" E hoʻolohe, hiki i ka kamaʻilio ke paʻakikī, ke ʻike ʻole kāu pakanā a hana paha i ke ala āu e makemake ai, a ua maikaʻi. ʻO ke kuhi ʻaʻole pono ka ʻokoʻa o ka manaʻo e alakaʻi i kahi pilina hauʻoli.
Nā Manaolana
ʻO kekahi o nā ala wikiwiki loa e hana i ka hauʻoli ʻole a me ka paʻa ʻole o ka pilina ma o ka hoʻohoka. A ʻo nā mea liʻiliʻi loa e hana i ka hoka me ka hikiwawe e like me nā mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia.
Akā, ʻelua mau pilikia me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia i ka pilina.
- manaolana kūpono ʻole
- maopopo ʻole i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, paʻakikī nā mākua e hālāwai me nā mea i manaʻo ʻia e kekahi no ka mea ʻaʻole kūpono ʻole lākou. He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka manawa pinepine a kā mākou mau mea i manaʻo ai mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, nā ʻike i hala, nā manaʻoʻiʻo, a i ʻole nā waiwai kūloko. Akā, ʻaʻole ia e hoʻololi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kekahi manawa he ʻawahia loa ia i kā mākou pilina. ʻOkoʻa, paʻakikī nā kāne i kekahi manawa e hoʻokō i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia e kekahi me kekahi no ka mea ʻaʻole maopopo iā lākou ka mea a kekahi e manaʻo ai mai iā lākou, a i ʻole i kā lākou pili. I kēia manawa, maopopo paha iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka mea āu e manaʻo ai mai kāu pilina a me kāu hoa, akā ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo hiki i kāu pakanā ke heluhelu i kou manaʻo ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻohe o lākou kuhi āu e manaʻo ai. Inā makemake ʻoe e hōʻalo i ka hauʻoli ʻole i kāu pilina, ʻo kāu kuleana ia e akāka loa e pili ana i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai a kaʻana like i kēlā me kāu hoa. Inā i ka hana ʻana pēlā, ʻike ʻoe he mea kūpono ʻole paha kekahi o kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai, a he hiki ʻole paha ke hālāwai, makemake paha ʻoe e loiloi i kahi e kū mai ai kēlā mea i manaʻo ʻia a ʻo ka mea nui loa - he unrealistic a hauʻoli paha.
Pono ka pilina e pili no ʻolua
Ma ke ʻano he ʻelua, he mea maʻalahi ke lawe i nā ukana he nui i loko o kahi pilina, akā koʻikoʻi ia e kaʻana like ʻoe i kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai kekahi a laila e kia i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi pilina e hana no ʻelua o ʻolua. ʻAʻole ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina e leʻaleʻa ai i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e hālāwai wale me kekahi o nā mea a ka hoa e manaʻo ai. He meaʻai kēlā no ka pōpilikia. Lawe ... E hoʻolohe, pehea ʻoe e kūkākūkā ai i nā pilikia i loko o kāu pili pili loa iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kāne. ʻAʻohe o nā pane kūpono a hewa paha - koe wale nō ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā kamaʻilio āpau, ʻoluʻolu, aloha a me ka huhū ʻole a hōʻino paha. I ka hopena o ka lā, he kime ʻoe a ʻaʻole hoa paio. E kamaʻilio maikaʻi. E kakali i nā mea hou aʻe ma mua o kāu hoa.