Anter
I nā pilina, ʻaʻole loa ia e pili ana iā 'I', 'Me' a me 'ʻO wau iho'. Akā, pili ia iā 'We', 'Us' a me 'Ourelf'. Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau manawa ke aloha kekahi me kekahi mea no ka hui mua. He paʻakikī ka hoʻolimalima manawa ʻana me lākou i kahi nohona kaiaulu, noho hoʻokahi i kahi pilina me lākou.
Akā i kekahi manawa e aloha ʻoe me kahi kanaka narcissist. I ka mua, ʻaʻole ia he mea hoʻopilikia iā ʻoe akā ke hoʻolōʻihi ʻoe i ka manawa, ʻike ʻoe he pilikia maoli nō. ʻOiai aloha ʻoe a i loko o kahi pilina, makemake ʻoe e lawe i kēia i kumu no ka haki. Ke hoʻomanaʻo nei i kēia, lawe mākou iā ʻoe i kekahi mau ʻano pane pehea e noho ai me kahi narcissist a hana pū me lākou.
ʻAe
Makemake mākou āpau e noho me kahi kanaka kūpono o kā mākou mau moemoeā, akā he mea ʻokoʻa ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻOiai makemake mākou e hoʻololi i kekahi mau ʻano o nā mea nui ʻē aʻe, pono mākou e ʻike ʻaʻole hiki ke loli i kekahi mau mea. He ʻāpana ia o ko lākou ʻano a me ko lākou ola.
ʻO ke ala kūpono e lawelawe ai ka mea e kuʻikahi me ia. ʻO ka ʻae a mākou iā lākou no ka mea ʻo lākou ia, ʻo ka wikiwiki mākou e hoʻokaʻawale i ko mākou ola.
ʻAʻole kūpono ia e hoʻololi iā lākou no mākou iho akā e ʻae iā lākou me ka puʻuwai hāmama. He paʻakikī akā ʻo ia ka mea kūpono e hana.
Hōʻihi nona iho
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka noho ʻana me kahi kanaka makaʻu ʻole mai ka waiho ʻana iā ʻoe i lalo i nā hanana. He ʻeha loa ia a i kekahi manawa hiki ke hoʻokau iā ʻoe i kahi kūlana hoʻonāukiuki kahi e hoʻopau ai ʻoe e kānalua iā ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻole paha lākou e makemake iā ʻoe e kānalua i kou manaʻo ponoʻī akā ʻike ʻike ʻole. ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e hana me kēia ka mālama ʻana i kou hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, no ka mea.
E lawe i nā mea āpau a lākou e ʻōlelo ai me ka pinch o ka paʻakai a kau i kēlā minoʻaka ma kou alo. ʻAʻole like lākou me ka manaʻo ʻole o lākou aloha iā ʻoe.
Kūkākūkā
He mea nui hiki iā ʻoe ke kūkā maikaʻi ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e aʻo pehea e noho ai me kahi narcissist. Aia kekahi mau mea i hoʻomanawanui a ʻaʻole kekahi. Aia iā ʻoe kahi e huki ai i kēlā laina.
E nānā pono ʻaʻole ʻoe e koʻikoʻi ma luna o lākou ke kahakaha nei i kēia laina a ʻaʻole ʻoluʻolu pū kekahi.
Pono ʻoe e aʻo e kūkākūkā i nā ʻano like ʻole a hoʻomaopopo iā lākou. He kolohe paha ia i kekahi manawa akā e hoʻomaopopo ʻia lākou e pili ana i ia mea ke hele lākou i kā lākou laina.
Nānā
ʻO ka nānā ʻana ke kī o ke kūleʻa. ʻAe, ʻae nō! Pono ʻoe e maopopo i ka wā e hele ai lākou i ka laina a ke pono ʻoe e hāpai i ka hae. Hiki ke loaʻa i kēia ke nānā pono ʻoe iā lākou.
Hana wale paha lākou iā ia ma ka impulsively akā na ʻoe ke kuleana e alakaʻi pono iā lākou. E hoʻopiʻi wale paha kahi narcissist iā ʻoe no nā mea āu i hana ʻole ai. Akā ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike i kā lākou ʻōlelo kino e hoʻopau paha ʻoe i ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana iā ʻoe iho no ke kūlana holoʻokoʻa.
No laila, e aʻo i kā lākou ʻōlelo kino, e nānā iā lākou a hoʻomaopopo i kā lākou kamaʻilio waha ʻole no ka ʻike ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Kūʻokoʻa
Makemake paha kahi narcissist iā ʻoe e hilinaʻi loa iā lākou. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole maikaʻi iki paha kēia iā ʻoe. Pono ʻoe e aʻo i ke kūʻokoʻa. I ka pilina, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ia e kaukaʻi ʻia i kekahi.
Pono mau ʻoe e hoʻomau i kou ʻano maikaʻi a noho kūʻokoʻa.
ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e ʻike akā hiki iā lākou ke hopena iā ʻoe no kou hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me kou kūʻokoʻa.
Kūkulu ego
ʻAe, hana paha ia! ʻOiai ʻo ka narcissist wale nō e pili ana iā lākou iho a hopohopo iā ia iho, ʻaʻole hewa ia e hoʻonui ai i ko lākou manaʻo, akā ma ke ʻano olakino. Hāʻawi iā lākou i nā mahalo i kēlā me kēia manawa. E hoʻomaopopo iā lākou e mahalo ʻoe i kā lākou hana.
ʻO kēia ala, ʻoiai ʻoe e hoʻonui nei i ko lākou mau manaʻo i ke ala olakino, ke kōkua nei nō ʻoe iā lākou e mahalo pū iā ʻoe.
Hiki i kēia mahalo i ʻaoʻao ʻelua ke maʻalahi a maʻalahi i kou ola.
Keʻike nei i nā kūlana hoʻomālamalama kinoea
ʻOiaʻiʻo ka hoʻomālamalama Gas i ka wā e pili ana i ka hana pū ʻana me kahi narcissist. Hiki paha iā lākou ke hoʻopaʻa i nā ʻike pili mai iā ʻoe a hiki iā lākou ke hoʻololi iā ia me kahi mea wahaheʻe. ʻOiai ʻo lākou kāu mea ʻē aʻe koʻikoʻi a hilinaʻi ʻoe iā lākou no wai lākou, pau paha i ka manaʻoʻiʻo iā lākou.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole ʻōlelo ʻia e hana pēlā. Pono ʻoe e ʻike i ke kūlana hoʻomālamalama kinoea a hoʻāʻo e ʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma hope o kā lākou kamaʻilio ʻana. ʻO ka hilinaʻi makapō i nā mea āpau a lākou e ʻōlelo ai e alakaʻi ai iā ʻoe i kahi hanana pilikia.
Ke aloha ʻoe i kekahi e ʻae ʻoe iā lākou no wai lā lākou. Eia nō naʻe, ke aloha ʻoe i kahi narcissist, nā mea i ʻōlelo ʻia aʻe e kōkua iā ʻoe e alakaʻi i ka pehea e noho ai me kahi narcissist. E ʻike pono ua akamai ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou i ka manawa a lawe i kēia mau hana e mālama i ke ola olakino a maikaʻi me lākou.