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- Palapala Aloha; he aha ka mea i loko o laila
- ʻO ka mālama mau ʻana i nā palapala ʻāina aloha kahi e nele ai nā kāne ma hope
- No ke aha he mea nui nā palapala ʻāina aloha?
- He ʻinikua nā palapala ʻāina aloha
- 1. ʻilllelo haʻi pillow
- 2. Aloha nui
Ua manaʻo ʻo John Gottman ʻo ke aloha aloha ka mea nui a koʻikoʻi e pono ai i ka hana male ʻana i ka wā lōʻihi. Akā he aha ke ʻano o kahi Palapala Aloha?
ʻO kahi palapala aloha kahi ʻike i loaʻa i kāu pakanā. Ke kūkulu koke ʻoe i kahi palapala ʻāina aloha, e loaʻa kāu hoa i kāu lima.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole ia maʻalahi. ʻO ka nui o kou ʻike e pili ana i kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe, ʻo ka waiwai a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka palapala ʻāina aloha.
No laila he aha ka mea e hele i loko o ka palapala aloha a pehea e hana ai? E ʻike ai i kēia, e hoʻomau i ka heluhelu.
Palapala Aloha; he aha ka mea i loko o laila
E kūkulu i kahi palapala ʻāina aloha, e ʻike ʻoe e pili ana i kekahi mau mea maʻamau a me kekahi mau mea maʻamau ʻole e pili ana i kāu hoa.
ʻO kahi laʻana o ka mea e hele i loko o kahi palapala aloha e komo pū me:
- E inoa ʻelua o kaʻu mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa
- E inoa i kekahi o kaʻu leʻaleʻa
- He aha nā mea koʻikoʻi aʻu e kū nei i koʻu ola
- He aha kaʻu wahi huakaʻi punahele
- He aha kaʻu hana kūpono
- He aha kaʻu meaʻai punahele
Ke noi nei i kēlā mau nīnau ʻaʻole wale ia e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i ka nui o ke ola o kāu hoa akā e ʻike kikoʻī ʻia i ka honua o kāu hoa. Eia nō naʻe, e noʻonoʻo i ka ʻike ʻana e pili ana i kāu pakanā kahi hana mau a pono ʻoe e mālama mau kekahi i kekahi. lawe manawa i waho me kekahi a hopu.
E hoʻomanaʻo i ka nui o kāu ʻike e pili ana i ka ikaika o ka pilina, a ʻo ka uku nui ʻia e lilo ai kāu pilina.
E hōʻuluʻulu i nā palapala ʻāina i aloha ʻia ai; nā pahuhopu a me nā moemoeā, nā makaʻu a me nā hopohopo, nā kūlanakauhale punahele, nā lā hoʻomaha, nā meaʻai, a pēlā pū me nā hanana nui e kū nei i ke ola o kāu hoa.
ʻO ka mālama mau ʻana i nā palapala ʻāina aloha kahi e nele ai nā kāne ma hope
I ka hoʻomaka o kahi pilina, maʻalahi ka kūkulu ʻana i nā palapala ʻāina aloha. I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa he mea maʻamau ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā kāne e lawe i kekahi i kekahi no ka mea i pale ʻia a pale i ka hoʻohou hou ʻana i nā palapala aloha a kekahi a i ʻole e nīnau kekahi i kekahi e pili ana i kā lākou lā.
Ke kū nei i ka mālama ʻana a i ʻole ka haʻalele ʻana paha ka hōʻailona mua o ka kumakaia a hiki ke make i kahi aloha aloha piha.
No ke aha he mea nui nā palapala ʻāina aloha?
ʻO nā kāne e noho pū kekahi me kekahi no ka wā lōʻihi i ka pilina no kekahi kumu. ʻAʻole ke kumu ke moe kolohe nui, ka mana o ka makemake a i ʻole ka ʻole o nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa akā no ka mea makemake lākou i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ke kumu ma hope o kēia ʻano e like me ka ʻike o nā hoa ʻelua kekahi i kekahi.
Me ka ʻole o kahi palapala ʻāina aloha he mea paʻakikī paha iā ʻoe e ʻike e pili ana i kāu hoa a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe ʻike iā lākou, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha iā lākou.
Ke noho pū nei me ka ʻole o kahi palapala aloha e hiki ai ke hoʻouna i kahi leka maikaʻi ʻole; inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e lawe manawa a ʻike e pili ana i kāu pakanā a kamaʻilio pū me lākou i kēlā me kēia lā a laila pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke noho pū a mau loa aku.
He ʻinikua nā palapala ʻāina aloha
Hana nā palapala ʻāina i ʻinikua no kāu male; hana ʻia kahi palapala ʻāina aloha hohonu i kahua paʻa no kāu male, a like pū, hana ka mea nāwaliwali ma ke kahua nāwaliwali.
Hiki i nā kāne i loaʻa kahi aloha aloha nui ke kū ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i ka wā o nā hanana koʻikoʻi e hana nei i ko lākou ola. Hiki i kahi aloha aloha ikaika ke hoʻoikaika i ka hoʻopaʻa āu i loaʻa ai a like ka mea nāwaliwali e lilo ai ʻoe i ka nalo ke kuhikuhi ke paʻakikī nā mea i kāu male.
Nā laʻana o ka palapala ʻāina aloha
Ua ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo iho nei kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona o ka palapala ʻāina aloha i kahi pilina.
1. ʻilllelo haʻi pillow
I kekahi manawa hiki i nā kamaʻilio lumi lumi ke lilo i manawa kūpono loa e hoʻonui ai i kāu palapala ʻāina aloha. I kēia manawa nāwaliwali nā hoa ʻelua a pili i ka pili ʻana i ka manawa kūpono e kūkākūkā ai i ke ola o kekahi, nā hopohopo, nā makaʻu a me nā mea hou aʻe.
2. Aloha nui
ʻO ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni Ma mua o ka puka ʻana o ka lā ke kumu hoʻohālike piha o nā palapala ʻāina aloha hohonu. Hoʻokumu ʻia ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni āpau i ke aloha o ka hoʻokalakupua o ka ʻike ʻana i kāu hoa e like me ka mea ʻole i hana ʻia e kekahi.
Pēlā nō, ʻo ke kiʻi ʻoniʻoni ʻo Fargo kahi laʻana o ka pilina me ka ʻole o kekahi Map Map. Hoʻouna kēia kiʻiʻoniʻoni i kahi leka maopopo ke ʻike ʻole ʻoe i kekahi mea e pili ana i kāu hoa a laila "aloha wau iā ʻoe" kani ʻole.
E hōʻuluʻulu iā ia, no ke aha e noʻonoʻo ai kekahi i nā palapala ʻāina aloha a e ʻike maikaʻi ai i kā lākou hoa? ʻĀ, ʻo ka pane i kēia; ʻo ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e ʻike ai ʻoe i kāu pākana ka ʻoi aku ka paʻa a me ka paʻa o kāu pili.
ʻO ka nui o kāu noi ʻana no ka hoa, ʻo ka nui o ka mālama āu e mālama ai a me ka mālama nui a lākou e manaʻo ai. ʻO ka nui o kāu kaʻana like ʻana, ʻo ka hohonu o ka pili o ka pili o ka pilina, a ʻo ke kiʻekiʻe o kou pilina e loaʻa.