Anter
- Hānai umauma
- Hiamoe
- Hoʻonohonoho hou i ka noʻonoʻo / nā kuleana hou
- Nā pilikia i ka pilina
- Hoʻomaikaʻi i kou ola moekolohe ma hope o ka hānau hānau
Ua hoʻolohe hou wau i kahi podcast e pili ana i nā mākuahine a me nā makuakāne a me ka haʻalele ʻana o ka makuahine / paternity a me ka nohona wahine. He mahele e hōʻike ana i ka paʻakikī o ka moekolohe ma hope o ka hānau ʻana.
Ua hoʻi ka hapa nui o nā kāne ma mua o ka huli ʻana o kā lākou keiki i hoʻokahi, akā no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hiki ke liʻuliʻu iki.
I kekahi manawa ke kumu o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa moekolohe haʻahaʻa a ʻaʻohe makemake i ka pili aloha ka hiki ʻole ke loaʻa ka ikehu nona - ma ka noʻonoʻo a me ke kino hoʻi.
ʻO ka mea mua loa, pono ʻoe e ʻike i ke ola moekolohe ma hope o ka pēpē hiki ke lilo i mea maʻalahi. ʻO ka mea i hana iā ʻoe i hoʻokahi makahiki i hala aku nei ʻaʻole e holo pono i kēia manawa. A ʻo ka mea hana no kāu kāne ʻaʻole pono ia nāu. Kū hoʻokahi ka moekolohe, a he ʻano iki kona o kona ola.
ʻO wau, ʻo wau iho, ma luna o ʻekolu mau lā makuahine, a ʻokoʻa koʻu ʻike o kaʻu moekolohe i kēlā me kēia manawa.
Ke kamaʻilio wau i nā wahine ʻē aʻe, kaʻana pinepine lākou ua ʻike lākou i ka loli o kā lākou mau ʻike.
ʻO kēia no ka mea ua loli ʻia kā mākou moekolohe e nā mea like ʻole i loko o ko mākou ola, a ʻoi aku ka nui o ka nuances a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokomo pono ʻia i loko o nā pahu me ka nānā ʻole i ka nui o kā mākou makemake.
Ua helu wau i nā kumu maʻamau ʻehā no ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa o ka wahine i nā wahine a me nā kāne, kahi e kumu ai ka nele o ka pilina ma hope o ka pēpē, akā aia nō kekahi mau mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻopili i kāu ola wahine pū kekahi.
E ʻoluʻolu e makaʻala i ʻōlelo wau "hiki hoʻololi ”; ʻaʻole paha e hoʻopili ʻia kou kuko a i ʻole ka hoʻokele kolohe, a i ʻole maikaʻi paha ka hopena.
E nānā pū kekahi:
Hānai umauma
Ke hānai ʻoe i kāu keiki, hoʻonui nui kāu pae prolactin. Ua ana ʻia kēia mau pae i mea kiʻekiʻe ma nā kāne e haʻalele ana i ka paternity.
Eia kekahi, loaʻa ia i loko o nā kāne ma hope pono o ka ejaculation / orgasm a manaʻo ʻia ʻo ia ke kumu e pono ai iā ia e hoʻomaha iki ma mua o ka mākaukau no nā mea hou aʻe.
Hoʻoemi ʻo Prolactin i ke kuko no ka moekolohe, a no laila ke hoʻonāukiuki nei i kahi kalakeke haʻahaʻa i kāu kāne. Yep, sneaky ʻo Mama Nature!
E hoʻomaka i ka hana pololei ʻana ma hope o ka hānau ʻana ʻaʻole paha ia ka mea ʻoi loa e hana inā ʻoe e noho ana i ka Pōhaku Makahiki, no laila, yep, i kēia hihia, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa i ka manaʻo olaola.
Hiamoe
Ke lilo nā pō o ka hiamoe haki i mau mahina o ka hiamoe haki - a i ʻole ka hiamoe ʻole - hoʻomaka kēia e zap iā ʻoe.
Ua like ia me ka waihona panakō āu me ka nui nui loa, a ua piha wale i nā helu ʻulaʻula, a ke nānā aku nei kāu kākāʻōlelo kālā me ka hopohopo nui.
E ʻae wale wau: ʻae, e hiki mai kekahi mea i kou kuko a i kāu moekolohe. Kaha ka ikehu, a ʻoiaʻiʻo, makemake ʻoe e hiamoe.
Ke heihei nei kou noʻonoʻo; hoʻomaka kou ʻike ʻike e 'mana i lalo,' lilo ia paʻakikī iā ʻoe e hoʻomau i ka noʻonoʻo, a ʻo ka mea āu e makemake maoli ai-ʻo ka hiamoe.
Makemake ʻoe e kiʻi i ka maka maka ma mua o ka ala hou ʻana o kāu keiki a hoʻomaka i ke koi ʻana i nā mea maiā ʻoe.
He mea pupule ka hiamoe i ke ola laulaha a me ke olakino o nā kānaka. A ua ʻike mākou he mea nui ka olakino laulā a me ke olakino inā makemake ʻoe e loaʻa kahi ola maikaʻi a maikaʻi.
No laila - inā makemake ʻoe e hiamoe a inā ʻaʻohe ou ikehu no ia mea, ʻoiai he manaʻo maikaʻi ia: Welina i ka hui o nā mākua luhi, he maʻamau maʻamau kēia.
Hoʻonohonoho hou i ka noʻonoʻo / nā kuleana hou
Ke lilo ʻoe i makua (hou, maliʻa paha), hiki mai kekahi mea iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka. ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā ʻo kāu pēpē 5th, ʻike ʻoe i ka loli ma mua o kāu keiki 1st.
Eia nō naʻe, ua ʻōlelo ʻia: lilo hou i makua (hou) he mea hou mau ia, a e loli mau ia ka pilina a me nā ʻohana hōkū. A 'o' oe.
No laila, hiki ke hana i kahi redecorating noʻonoʻo, a malia paha e luhi ʻoe iā ʻoe, e hoʻohele ana i ka wahine haʻahaʻa.
ʻOi loa, inā ʻoe e ʻimi nei i nā kuleana hou ma ke ʻano he makuahine a makua kāne paha e hōʻaʻo ana, e hoʻomaka ia e hoʻopili i kou ʻano noʻonoʻo.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana i nā hopena i ka hānau ʻana ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻamau. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻoi aku ka maʻamau ma mua o ka manaʻo o ka nui o nā mākua hou, a ʻo ia nō hoʻi kaʻu e ʻike ai i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hoʻokipa wau i nā kamaʻilio no nā mākua hou i nā hui makua (hoʻonohonoho ʻia e ke kaona kahi aʻu e noho ai).
Ke hana nei ka psyche i ka manawa ʻoi aku ka manawa, 'kākaʻikahi loa ke ola o ka wahine ka mea nui mua.
Nā pilikia i ka pilina
"Inā makemake ʻoe e hōʻoia e hemo ka wahine, loaʻa kahi keiki" ʻo ia ka ʻōlelo a ka mea hoʻoponopono ma kahi papa aʻu i hele ai i mua. A ʻoiai he ʻoiaʻiʻo paha kēia, he ʻālina iki kona.
Eia nō naʻe, ke nānā nei i nā helu helu hemo, hōʻike ia iā mākou e hiolo ana ka pilina ke hele mai nā keiki liʻiliʻi i ka honua.
He paʻakikī maoli ka loaʻa ʻana a hānai ʻana i nā keiki, a he hana nui keu. A ʻoiai he mea kupaianaha ia, ʻaʻole nā kāne a pau - ma kahi lōʻihi - e hana.
A ʻo kēia kahi e hoʻomaka ai nā pilikia i ka pilina - a me nā pilikia ʻē aʻe - e hōʻike.
ʻAʻole paha maikaʻi kāu hoa i ka hana pū ʻana ma lalo o ke kaomi a ke hiamoe lākou? A i ʻole, kani iki paha ka loiloi?
A i ʻole ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hiamoe me nā knot i loko o kou ʻōpū i kahi manawa pinepine? Paha paha nā mea i ka hau a paʻakikī lākou e kamaʻilio? Maliʻa paha ...?
ʻO nā pilikia i loko o ka pilina kahi hewa maoli i ka wā e hele ai i kahi kalokalo haʻahaʻa.
He mea maʻamau ka ʻike ʻana i nā pilikia - huhū e like me ia - akā e hoʻomanaʻo he nui nā mea i hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e hana i kahi pilina ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi me kekahi me ka paʻakikī. Inā, ʻo ia nō ka mea āu e makemake ai.
Hoʻomaikaʻi i kou ola moekolohe ma hope o ka hānau hānau
Eia nā mea he 3 i hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e pale aku ai i kāu kalaiwa haʻahaʻa ma hope o ka hānau ʻana.
1. E ʻae i kēlā no kekahi manawa, ʻo kēia wale nō ka ʻano o nā mea
E hoʻomanaʻo he maʻamau a kūpono loa ia. Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā kumu - ʻo ia hoʻi, inā ʻike ʻoe he pilikia hiamoe ia, a laila hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā ke hana iā ʻoe e hoʻomaha hou ana nāu no ka hana i ke ao.
Basically, ʻo kahi ʻano o ka ʻae a me ka hoihoi i ka manaʻo nui ma aneʻi.
ʻAno paʻakikī hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i nā mea a mākou e hōʻole ai. A no laila, inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻololi i kāu kalaiwa haʻahaʻa, e hoʻomaka me kaʻae ʻana i ke kūlana o nā hihia i kēia manawa a laila, mai aneʻi, e hana me kāu pakanā i ka hana ʻana i ka loli.
2. E hoʻolālā i ka pilina a hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i ka lima kōkua
Inā ʻoe nalo i ka pili kino, a laila hoʻolālā i kahi hui-hoa - maopopo e hemo paha kēia i kāu keiki, akā a laila e hoʻolālā wale ʻoe i kahi hālāwai hou.
Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo no ia mea, hiki iā ʻoe ke lomilomi kekahi i kekahi (e kuʻu aloha, he aha ka cliché akā ʻo wau, maikaʻi loa ia a hāpai ʻia i ka moekolohe pū kekahi) a i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka ma ka pili a me ka ʻōlohelohe. ka moe a hana i ka lōʻihi o kou makemake.
Nui paha kēia na ʻoukou, a i ʻole makemake paha ʻoe e lawe i kahi mea i mua.
Inā ʻoe e ʻaʻaʻa, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i ka lomilekiki a hāʻawi i ka leʻaleʻa wahine ʻē aʻe - inā ʻo ia ka mea āu e makemake ai. E nānā paha i kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni a hoʻolohe paha i kahi moʻolelo erotic a i ʻole pāʻani paha i kahi pāʻani ʻaihue.
3. E kōkua i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā mea e pono ai ke hoʻoponopono
Inā maopopo iā ʻoe he "mea" e pono ai i kahi nānā hou aʻe a pono paha ʻoe i kahi kōkua me kāu kaʻi wahine haʻahaʻa, a laila e pane iā ia.
Inā he hopena ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, a laila e kikoo i waho. Inā ʻoe e hakakā nei me nā pilikia pili, a laila e nānā i ka mea hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe.
Mai poina i ka liʻiliʻi loa o ka hana ʻana o kēia mau mea iā lākou iho, aʻo kēia ke kumu e hana nei ʻoe i kahi hōʻino iā ʻoe iho ma ka lawe ʻole ʻana i ka hana koke.
ʻOiai nā ʻanuʻu mua e paʻakikī a haʻalulu hoʻi, hōʻoia ʻia ʻoe, ma ka manawa he 3-6 mau mahina, mahalo iā ʻoukou iho no ka hana ʻana. Inā ʻoe i ka wā hānau makuahine, piha pinepine ka kahu i nā kumuwaiwai a me nā manaʻo pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke loaʻa i ke kōkua e pono ai no kāu moekolohe haʻahaʻa.
ʻ tiplelo Aʻoaʻo a Maj: Inā e pāʻani ana kāu ola wahine i ka wā o ka haʻalele makuahine, e ʻoluʻolu e ʻike he maʻamau maʻamau kēia, a ʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne he 'hoʻi ia' i loko o ka makahiki mua o ke ola o ke keiki.