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ʻEha mau nā breakup. Ua wāwahi ia iā ʻoe a loaʻa koke ʻoe ka mea kōkua ʻole a māka ʻole. ʻAʻole maopopo iā ʻoe ka mea e hana ai ma hope ke hele ka mea āu i aloha nui ai i kou ola.
ʻO ka mea mua, ke komo mākou i loko o kahi pilina ʻaʻole mākou e manaʻo e haki. Makemake mau mākou e mau loa ia; akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo hope loa o ke ola e pau nā mea āpau.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ka ola ʻana i kahi ola me kahi ʻole i ke ola, akā pono e hoʻopau kekahi. Ke kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i nā haʻihaʻi, he mau ʻano like ʻole nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka hana ʻana me ia. ʻO kā lākou hopena mua i ka haʻihaʻi ʻokoʻa.
E nānā kāua wāwahi nā kāne vs nā wahine a pehea lākou i pane ai iā ia.
Heluhelu Pili: ʻO nā ʻōlelo hōʻoki hōʻino maikaʻi loa i hāʻawi ʻia e nā kāne
ʻO ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me ka pilina
Ke pili i ka pilina, loaʻa nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka leʻaleʻa ʻokoʻa mai iā ia. ʻOiai ka hapanui o nā kāne e manaʻo nui ʻia e ka aloha aloha o kekahi, loaʻa i nā wahine ka pilina ikaika e ka ipo wahine a kekahi.
Ke huhū nā mea, a haki ka haʻihaʻi, ʻike nā kāne ʻelua i ka ʻeha no nā kumu like ʻole. Hōʻoki i nā hopena ma nā kāne ʻokoʻa ke ʻike lākou i ka haʻihaʻi o ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī, manaʻo nā wahine i ka nalowale o ka pili.
No laila, ʻoiai ke ʻuhane nei lāua ma kahi o ka haʻihaʻi, ʻo ke kumu o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana no ka nalowale ʻana iā lākou iho a me ka pilina paʻa.
Paʻi hope hope -
He aha nā wahine e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana?
Uē nui lākou. Ma muli o ko lākou nalowale ʻana i kahi pilina, kahi mea a lākou i aloha nui ai, manaʻo ʻole lākou me ka uē ʻole.
Hele pū lākou i kahi ʻano hōʻole a hōʻole i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole e ʻae ua haki lākou. Pupule nā kāne ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi. He mea paʻakikī lākou e ʻae i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻike pinepine i ka hōʻoluʻolu i ka inu ʻana i ka waiʻona.
Hoʻomaka lākou e inu nui a hoʻomaka e noʻonoʻo i ka mea i hewa i ka pilina. No lākou e ʻike i kahi kumu paʻa e wehewehe ai i ka haʻihaʻi he mea nui. He nīnau ia no ko lākou manaʻo ponoʻī ma hope.
Heluhelu Pili: Pehea e hana ai me ka hoʻokaʻawale
Huhū a me ka makemake e hoʻihoʻi iā lākou -
He ʻokoʻa koʻikoʻi kēia ma waena o nā kāne a me nā hana haʻihaʻi wahine. Ke wāwahi nā kāne, hauʻoli mua lākou i ka hiki iā lākou ke hana i nā mea āpau a kā lākou ipo wahine i pāpā ai iā lākou mai ka hana ʻana, a laila manaʻo lākou i ka ʻole a ma hope ua hoʻoholo lākou e hoʻihoʻi iā lākou.
Huhū lākou no ke aha i haʻalele ai ke kaikamahine iā lākou. No lākou e ʻeli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he paʻakikī. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i nā wahine ke hoʻomaopopo lohi ua loaʻa iā lākou kahi haʻihaʻi a pono lākou e neʻe i mua. Kōkua kēia ʻike iā lākou e neʻe i mua i ke ola a hiki iā lākou ke lanakila me ka wikiwiki.
Heluhelu Pili: Pehea kahi kāne e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana
Ke haʻalele nei i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa e hala wikiwiki i ka puʻuwai, e nānā i kahi ala i ka neʻe wikiwiki ʻana ma hope o ka haki.
1. Ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo me kou mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha
ʻO ka mea ʻehaʻeha loa ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o nā naʻau i hōʻuluʻulu ʻia. Hūnā mau nā kāne ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi ʻana i ko lākou mau naʻau a hoʻāʻo e ikaika, a he mea ʻeha nō ia iā lākou a puka i waho a ʻona lākou. ʻO nā wahine, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē, uē wale a hōʻole e kaʻana like i ko lākou naʻau me haʻi.
2. E hoʻomohala i kahi leʻaleʻa e hoʻohuli i kou noʻonoʻo
ʻAe, ke nānā wale nei ʻoe i kou haki ʻana hele ʻoe i ke kaumaha. ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e hoʻomohala i kahi mea leʻaleʻa. ʻO ka hapanui, nā mea a nā kāne e hana ai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana ua lawe lākou i nā mea i haʻi ʻia iā lākou e hana ʻole i ka wā o kahi pilina. No laila, inā hoʻomau lākou me kēlā, a i ʻole inā hiki i nā wahine ke hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kēlā, hiki i nā mea ke hoʻomaikaʻi koke. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole pau ke ola me kēia, ʻeā?
3. Hoʻopili i kāu mau ʻeke a haʻalele i kahi huakaʻi
E like me kā mākou i ʻike ai ma luna i nā kāne a me nā wahine e wāwahi nei i ka lawena, e hoʻomaha iki nā kāne no kekahi manawa ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana e komo i loko o ka manaʻo ʻoiai e ʻae nā wahine a uē ma luna o laila a ma hope e puka mai lākou. ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa, no nā kāne ʻelua, e hele huakaʻi. E hele i kahi āu e makemake ai e kipa a mākaʻikaʻi. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, pono ka hoʻohuli i ka manaʻo.
Heluhelu Pili: Pehea e pau ai ka male ʻana o nā kāne?
4. Kakau inoa no kahi polokalamu hoʻolauna a hui me kekahi poʻe hou
Hana nā kāne i kēia. ʻO kēia ka ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi. Hele pinepine nā kāne a hiamoe e pili ana i ka wāwahi a i ʻole e ʻōlelo e māʻona i ko lākou manaʻo pilikino. Wahine, akā pale i ka hana pēlā. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi inā hiki i nā wahine ke hana pū me ia no ka mea hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopau i kā lākou mau pilina i hala aku nei e ka hālāwai ʻana me nā poʻe hou.
5. Eʻoki i nā pilina āpau a noʻonoʻo e like me ka wā i hala. He pono ia. I kou wā i haki ai ua pani ʻia ka mokuna. Ua hele i waho ke kanaka i kou ola. ʻAʻole pono lākou i kou nānā hou. No laila, e ʻoki loa i nā pilina me lākou. ʻAʻole maʻalahi a maʻalahi paha e like me ke kani ʻana, akā he mea nui ia. E hōʻoia e hana ʻoe.
No Mars nā kāne a ʻo Venus nā wahine. 'Lelo kēlā me kēia e pili ana i kēia kaʻina a kuhikuhi pinepine iā ia i kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā. Wahi nā kāne a me nā wahine i ka hopena ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa a ma kekahi mau hihia i kū pono ʻole kekahi i kekahi. ʻO nā ʻokoʻa i hōʻike ʻia aʻe nei e wehewehe i kēia.