Anter
- 1. Kālā
- 3. ʻO ka hoʻokūkū hale
- 4. pulakaumaka pēpē
- 5. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hana i nā mea maʻa mau
- 6. Nā makuahōnōwai wahine
- 7. Luhi ʻoe
- 8. Lilo nā ʻano nani i mau ʻano ʻano ukiuki
- 9. Hoʻololi i ka helehelena
- 10. Ka nele o ka ʻike
Hoʻopili ʻia ka male e ka moemoeā kino a laila kahi naʻau. ʻO ka moemoeā a i ʻole ʻāpana "male" hou kahi o hoʻokahi a ʻelua mau makahiki o ke aloha pēpē kahi i kūpono loa nā mea āpau. ʻAe ʻae ʻolua ma nā mea a ʻaʻole loa ʻoe e hakakā. Eia naʻe, lōʻihi wale kēia lōʻihi ma mua o ka lilo ʻana o nā hana nani i mea hoʻonāukiuki a hoʻomaka ʻoe i ka hakakā e pili ana i nā mea liʻiliʻi loa i hiki ke noʻonoʻo ʻia. Eia nā pilikia pilikia maʻa mau o ka male i kou mau makahiki mua ma ke ʻano he kāne a wahine.
1. Kālā
ʻO ke kālā ke kumuhana maʻamau a nā hakakā e hakakā ai. ʻO ka lilo ʻana i ʻohana kū kānāwai i ke ʻano o ka kaʻana like ʻana i nā waihona panakō a me ka mālama ʻana i kāu kālā pili e kākoʻo i kou ola hou. Pono e moʻohelu ʻia nā mōlaki, hoʻolimalima, nā bila, a me ka hoʻolilo kālā ʻana, a ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike mau ka maka a me ka maka i ka ʻohi ʻana.
Lilo ka mālama ʻana i ke kālā i mea kaumaha. Na wai e uku no ke aha? He aha ka maikaʻi? ʻO wai ka mea loaʻa kālā hou? Maliʻa paha, kuleana ʻole kāu hoa me kā lākou hoʻolilo kālā ʻana a ke plummeting nei i kāu helu ʻaiʻē maikaʻi i ka hōʻaiʻē. He mea hopohopo nui nā mea kālā no nā kāne hou.
2. ʻO ka sex-pectations maikaʻi ʻole
Ua hihiu paha ka moekolohe ʻoiai e pili aloha ana a male hou ʻoe, akā ma hope o ʻekolu mau makahiki ua hoʻomaka ia e komo i loko: ʻaʻole ʻoe (maikaʻi) me kahi hoa ʻē aʻe. Mai kēia wahi i mua, ʻaʻohe alualu hou no ka moekolohe. E hāʻawi wale ʻia ia. No kekahi, lawe kēia i kekahi o nā leʻaleʻa mai ka hana moena.
I kekahi ʻaoʻao, malia paha ʻaʻole lawa ʻoe i ka moekolohe. Ma hope ke aloha ʻoe e haehae ana i nā kapa o kēlā me kēia manawa ke loaʻa iā ʻoe, akā i kēia manawa me he mea lā ke komo nei i ke kuko liʻiliʻi a emi iki paha.
Mālama i ke kuko i ke ola ma ka ʻimi ʻana e ʻala iā ia i loko o ka lumi moe a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka pilina ma nā ʻano ʻē aʻe e like me ka honi ʻana, ka paʻa ʻana o nā lima, a me ka pelu ʻana. ʻIke kekahi i ka lawe ʻana i ka moekolohe mai ka papaʻaina e hōʻemi loa i ka kaomi e loaʻa iā ia a kūkulu i ka nui o ka moekolohe.
3. ʻO ka hoʻokūkū hale
ʻO nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa liʻiliʻi e pili ana i nā hana o ka hale i kēia manawa e lilo i ʻāpana o kāu hopuna ʻōlelo hou. ʻO nā kuʻikahi e pili ana i ka lawe ʻana i ka ʻōpala, ke waiho pū ʻana i ka compost, ka holoi lole ʻana, a me ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka ʻōwili pepa wili e lilo i mau hoʻopiʻi liʻiliʻi e hemo ana i kou alelo. ʻO ke kumu, nā mea āpau āu i manaʻo ai ma luna ʻoe i ka wā i hoʻomaka mua ai e aloha.
4. pulakaumaka pēpē
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i kamaʻilio i kēia ma mua o kou male ʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoia e piʻi aʻe ia i kēia manawa. Kuʻi ka fiva pēpē i kekahi mau wahine e hoʻokokoke ana i kā lākou 30s me ka huhū. Inā ʻaʻole mākaukau kekahi hoa no nā keiki a ʻo kekahi ʻē aʻe, hiki ia i kumu nui ʻeha.
E hōʻole i kēia kuee paʻakikī ma ke kūkā ʻana i ke ʻano o kāu hoʻolālā ʻohana ma mua o kou hoʻololi ʻana i nā hoʻohiki. E hoʻomaʻemaʻe kēia i kekahi huikau e pili ana i kahi āu e ʻike ai i kou ola e hele nei.
5. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hana i nā mea maʻa mau
I ka wā e pili wale ana, he leʻaleʻa kekahi i kekahi. I kēia manawa ua male ʻoe a hoʻolilo pū i kēlā me kēia manawa manuahi a hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e ʻike i kāu hoa ʻaʻole hana i nā mea a lākou e hana ai ma mua. ʻAʻohe pua pūʻiwa, ʻaʻohe makemake i ka moekolohe impulsive, ʻaʻole hele i ka ʻaina ahiahi. Hiki iā kēia ke hoʻonāukiuki loa ma hope o kekahi manawa a hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe i ka mahalo ʻole ʻia.
6. Nā makuahōnōwai wahine
ʻO ka makuahōnōwai kāne huhū ʻaʻole loa ia he kaʻao o ka male, a me ka minamina. Hoʻokahi mea e hakakā ai nā kāne male ka pili ʻana o kā lāua mau mākua kāne i kā lāua male. Kūhewa paha nā makuahōnōwai kāne i ke kāne hou a wahine paha, e pahu aku paha i nā moʻopuna, a hoʻohui i ke koʻikoʻi a me ka hoʻokaʻawale pono ʻole ma waena o ka ʻohana a me kāu male.
Inā hakakā kou pilikino i kou wā e aloha ana, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻololi i kēia no ka mea ua male ʻoe i kēia manawa. He mea nui e hoʻāʻo a hōʻike i ka mahalo i nā mākua o kāu hoa.
E hōʻalo i ka huhū o ka hūnōna kāne ma ke kūkākūkā ʻana i nā laina palena me kēlā me kēia o kou mau mākua ma mua o ka male ʻana.
7. Luhi ʻoe
Ua manaʻo paha ʻoe ua mākaukau ʻoe no kahi nohona paʻa, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke nalo nei ʻoe i ke ola hoʻokahi. ʻAʻole ka hiʻohiʻona o ka launa pū ʻana, akā ke ʻano o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi e lurking a puni nā kihi. E hakakā i nā blues o ka male ma o ka hele ʻana i nā pō me nā hoaaloha a kūpaʻa kūpaʻa i kāu male male a me kou ola kaiaulu.
8. Lilo nā ʻano nani i mau ʻano ʻano ukiuki
He kūlohelohe wale nō ia i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i kou manawa āpau e uluhua ai kekahi i kekahi. ʻO nā ʻano āu i ʻike ai ke aloha i kēia manawa e ʻāʻī ai kou mau niho. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe i ke aloha, ʻo ia wale nō ua hele ʻoe i waho o ka wā honeymoon. E aʻo e ʻae i kāu kāne e like me lākou. E hoʻomanaʻo ua male ʻoe iā lākou no ka mea ua aloha mua ʻoe i kā lākou foibles liʻiliʻi. Hāʻawi i kahi manawa a hoʻomaʻa maoli ʻoe i kā lākou ʻano quirks.
9. Hoʻololi i ka helehelena
Hoʻokahi mea i loaʻa i nā kāne a me kahi pilikia ma hope o nā makahiki mua o ka male ʻana pehea ka loli o ka helehelena o kā lāua hoa. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e pāʻani hou i ka pāʻani aloha, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele nui i waho. ʻO ke alakaʻi ʻana i kahi nohona ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka hana hiki ke hopena i kahi loli i ka helehelena, e like me ke kaupaona.
Hiki i nā hoa ʻelua ke ʻoluʻolu hou aku, e alakaʻi ana i ka liʻiliʻi o ka manawa o ka ʻaukā a me ka manawa i hoʻolilo ʻia i nā lole lole. E hakakā i kēia pilikia hou e ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā lā a me ka pili ʻana iā lākou. I kēia mau pō e ʻaʻahu ʻoe e like me ʻoe inā e pili aloha ana ʻoe a aloha hou kekahi i kekahi.
10. Ka nele o ka ʻike
ʻO ka lōʻihi o kou hui pū ʻana ʻo ka mea liʻiliʻi paha ia e like me ʻoe iho. Ua pili mau loa kou ʻike me kāu ipo. No kekahi, manaʻo paha kēia e like me ka moeʻuhane. No kekahi poʻe, manaʻo lākou ua nalowale ko lākou ʻano iā lākou iho. Ua hoʻokaʻawale paha ʻoe i kāu mau hoaaloha pili a hoʻomaka nei e haʻalele i kou ola hoʻokahi. E hakakā i kēia pilikia ma o ka noho ʻana i nā ola kaiaulu ma waho o kekahi. E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e hauʻoli a hoʻokō i nā ʻano āpau o kāu pili pilikino.
ʻO nā makahiki mua o ka male ʻana he rollercoaster o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana kekahi i kekahi a me ke aʻo ʻana pehea e noho like ai. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka mea nui o ka mālama ʻana i ke ahi i loko o kāu pilina a hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke ahonui a me ke kala ʻana. ʻO kēia mau ʻano e lawe lōʻihi iā ʻoe ma kou ala o ka hānau aloha.