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- He aha ka leʻaleʻa male?
- Ka hōʻoluʻolu o ka male - no ke aha e paʻakikī ai?
- Nā pilikia kālā
- Optimism a me ka pessimism
- Nā hoʻowalewale
- Hoʻohālikelike
- Nā mea hoʻomanaʻo nui i ka ʻimi ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa male
- 1. Hoʻololi ka poʻe a pili kēia i kāu wahine
- 2. E hoʻāʻo e ʻike i ka waiwai a me ka hoʻoikaika o ke kanaka
- 3. E hoʻowaiwai i kāu wahine
- 4. E hoʻomau i ka hana
- ʻO wai ke kuleana no ka mālama ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa o ka male?
Manaʻo ʻia ka male ʻana ma ke ʻano he pilina kanaka nui loa no ke kumu ʻo ia ke kumu nui o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kou ʻohana ponoʻī. Aia a hiki i kēia lā, nānā ka poʻe i ka male ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana nui o ko lākou ola.
ʻAʻole paha e noʻonoʻo kekahi i ka male ʻana a hiki i ka hala ʻana o 20 a i ʻole 30 mau makahiki akā ʻo ka hopena, ʻo ia kekahi o nā pahuhopu nui o ka hapa nui o nā kāne. I ka manawa i male ʻia, lilo nā pilikia o ka mālama ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa o ka male i mea nui no laila ʻaʻole e alakaʻi ka male i ka male male akā ʻo wai ke kuleana e mālama i ka male a me ka laulima.
He aha ka leʻaleʻa male?
E alo ia, he male hauʻoli ka hāʻawi ʻana ʻaʻole ka ka kāne wale nō akā ʻo ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa kahi paʻa e mau ana. Inā loaʻa ka leʻaleʻa o ka male, lilo ia i kumu ikaika e hānai i ʻohana, kahi ʻano a me ka ʻike i kēlā me kēia i ka ʻohana.
He aha ka leʻaleʻa male a pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā loaʻa iā ʻoe?
ʻO ka ʻoluʻolu i ka male ʻana ʻaʻole ia no ka male hemolele. ʻAʻole ia he pili i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ola hauʻoli-mau loa me ka pilikia ʻole a me ke aloha maoli a me ka hauʻoli. Aia wale kēlā mau mea i nā moʻolelo kaʻao a ʻaʻole i ke ola maoli.
Hoʻoluʻolu maleaia a ʻelua mau mea i male ʻia e ʻae i kekahi i kekahi no kā lākou pilikino pilikino me ka mahalo a me ke aloha ʻoiai e ulu pū ana.
ʻAʻole hiki ke ulu ʻelemakule pū; ke ulu nei ʻoi aku ke akamai a hiki ke kākoʻo kekahi i kekahi ke hoʻokō nei i kā lākou mau moemoeā.
No laila, ʻo ka ʻoluʻolu o ka noho male ʻana kahi kūlana noʻonoʻo kahi e hauʻoli a māʻona ai ke kāne me nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā kumukūʻai o ka male ʻana i kā lāua wahine. I kēia manawa ua ʻike mākou i ke ʻano o ka ʻoluʻolu o ka male, pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ka paʻakikī e mālama i kahi male maikaʻi a maikaʻi.
Ka hōʻoluʻolu o ka male - no ke aha e paʻakikī ai?
ʻOiai ʻo ka male ke koho ʻoi loa loa i ka hana ʻana i kou ʻohana ponoʻī, hōʻike pū nā helu helu i ka hopena kaumaha loa o ka nui o ka male me ka hemo. ʻO kēia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ka male ka hōʻoia e hoʻopau pū ʻoe i kahi hui i ke ola holoʻokoʻa.
ʻO ka hōʻoluʻolu o ka noho male ʻana he pilikia nui ia no ka ikaika o kāu hoʻokumu; nā ho'āʻo a me ke ola ponoʻī e hoʻāʻo iā ʻoe a me kou pilina.
Nui nā kumu no ke aha e paʻakikī ai ka manaʻo o ka wahine ma mua o kā lāua male ʻana, ʻo kekahi o nā mea a me nā kūlana e hoʻopili i ka manaʻo o ka māʻona i ka male ʻana penei:
Nā pilikia kālā
ʻIke mākou āpau i ke kālā e pāʻani nui i ka pilina o kekahi.
He mea hiki ke makemake i kou hale ponoʻī, kāu kaʻa ponoʻī a hiki ke hoʻouna i kāu poʻe keiki i kahi kula maikaʻi. E alo ia, inā ʻaʻohe kuleana o kekahi hoa, e loli nui ka ʻohana āpau a me ka male.
Optimism a me ka pessimism
Pehea ka manaʻo o ke kanaka i kā lākou wahine e loli nui inā māʻona lākou i ka male.
Inā he mea ʻike wale ʻoe i nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole o kāu wahine, a laila paʻakikī ka hōʻoluʻolu e hoʻokō. ʻO ka optimistic e pili ana i kāu male a hiki i kāu wahine ke pāʻani i kahi ʻāpana nui i ka ʻoluʻolu me kekahi.
Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka ko lākou ʻano maikaʻi ʻole. Inā ʻike ʻoe pehea e ʻae ai i kēlā a hana pū e pili ana iā ia, e loaʻa iā ʻoe ka male hauʻoli.
Nā hoʻowalewale
ʻO kēia kahi o nā hoʻokolokolo paʻakikī loa o kēlā me kēia male. Inā hoʻowalewale ʻia kekahi e pili i nā hana extramarital a i ʻole ke komo ʻana i loko o nā hana ʻino a me nā mea hōʻalo, ma hope a ma hope paha, e hoʻopili nui ia ma ka leʻaleʻa o ka male akā ʻo ka ʻohana ponoʻī.
ʻAʻole pono wale kāu male a me kou ʻohana e hoʻopiha, pono ka hānai, aloha a me ka mahalo. Inā hele mamao aku kekahi mai ka male a loaʻa ka "hauʻoli" ma kahi ʻē, a laila pehea e loaʻa ai iā ʻoe ka ʻoluʻolu?
Hoʻohālikelike
ʻO ka lili i nā kāne hou a i ʻole nā ʻohana e lawe i kahi hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kāu male. ʻO wau
ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ka nani o kāu male a me kou ʻohana, e nānā wale ʻoe i ka nui o ka mauʻu o ka mauʻu ma kēlā ʻaoʻao. Pehea ʻoe e māʻona ai i kāu male ponoʻī ke hana nui ʻoe i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana ma kahi o ka hana ʻana i kāu male a me kou ʻohana ponoʻī?
Nā mea hoʻomanaʻo nui i ka ʻimi ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa male
Inā makemake ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu i ka male, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka me ʻoe iho.
ʻAʻole hiki wale ia iā ʻoe; pono ʻoe e hana nui no ia. Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo nei pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e hoʻokō i kēia.
1. Hoʻololi ka poʻe a pili kēia i kāu wahine
ʻO kāu kumu o ka māʻona me kēia kanaka ʻaʻole wale ia e kaukaʻi ʻia i kekahi ʻano kikoʻī.
ʻO ka ʻae ʻia o kāu wahine ma ke ʻano he kanaka me nā ʻano maikaʻi ʻole āpau i loaʻa iā lākou. Hoʻololi ka poʻe, a hoʻomanaʻo i ka wā ma hope a ma hope paha, ʻo ka mea āu e aloha ai iā lākou e loli paha i ʻike ʻoe pehea e ulu ai me kāu hoa.
2. E hoʻāʻo e ʻike i ka waiwai a me ka hoʻoikaika o ke kanaka
Mai kālele nui i kāu ʻano o nā hoa hoʻohoka no ka mea inā hana ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ka ʻoluʻolu a i ʻole ka hauʻoli.
Hiki i ka mahalo ke hana i nā mea he nui no ka male. Inā hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i kāu wahine ma mua o ko lākou nāwaliwali a laila ʻike ʻoe i kou pōmaikaʻi iā lākou.
3. E hoʻowaiwai i kāu wahine
Mai aloha wale iā lākou, mahalo a mahalo i ke kanaka. Inā mahalo ʻoe i kāu wahine a mahalo iā lākou ma ke ʻano he kanaka a laila ʻaʻohe mana o ka hoʻowalewale ma luna ou.
4. E hoʻomau i ka hana
Ke male ʻole ʻoe, e hana paha ʻoe i nā mea e hōʻike ai i kou aloha i kāu hoa pono? ʻAʻole ʻo ka male ka hopena o kēia mau hoʻoikaika ʻana. Hōʻike i kou aloha i kāu wahine; ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo kēia ka manawa e hōʻike ai ʻoe i kou kūlike ʻole ʻana me ka hōʻike ʻana i kou nui i ke kanaka āu i male ai.
Inā hana ʻia kēia i ka male, ʻaʻole ʻoe e noʻonoʻo he mea nui loa ia i ka hui ʻana o ʻelua mau kānaka?
ʻO wai ke kuleana no ka mālama ʻana i ka leʻaleʻa o ka male?
ʻO ka mea hope loa, e nīnau paha ka poʻe inā nā ke kāne ke kuleana e hoʻopaʻa i ka leʻaleʻa male o ka male a i ʻole ka kuleana o ka wahine.
Maʻalahi ka pane; kuleana ʻelua mau mea i male ʻia i ka hōʻoia ʻana ua māʻona lāua i kā lāua male.
ʻO ka hōʻoluʻolu male ka hana o ke aloha, ka mahalo, a me ka mahalo o kekahi mau mea i male ʻia. ʻO ka hui, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻelemakule akā e ulu nō ʻoe i ka naʻauao a kūpaʻa hoʻi i kāu male ʻoiai e hāʻawi ana i nā haʻawina ola nui i kāu mau keiki.
ʻAʻole hiki i ka leʻaleʻa male ke pahuhopu hiki ʻole, he mea paʻakikī ia akā ʻo ka pahuhopu uku nui loa e loaʻa i nā kāne male.