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- ʻO nā keiki ʻōpio a me ka hemo male
- ʻO ka male male a me nā keiki makua
- ʻO ka male male a me nā keiki a me nā pili hou
ʻAneʻane 50% o nā male āpau e hoʻopau i ka male male. 41% o ka male mua e manaʻo ʻia e loaʻa ka hopena like. ʻOi aku ka likelika o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki i ka wā o ka male mua ma muli o ka wā ʻōpio ke male ka poʻe no ka manawa mua.
Inā pau ka 41% o lākou i ka hemo male, a laila nui ka nui o nā kāne ma ke ʻano he makua hoʻokahi. ʻO kekahi o nā ʻāpana pilikia loa o ka male male ke makemake ʻole kekahi e hāʻawi i kā lāua keiki. Hoʻokaʻawale like ʻia ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi male male a me nā keiki ma waena o nā hoa like ʻole.
Hiki ke kūʻai aku a hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ke kālā a me ka waiwai. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hiki i ka mea like me nā keiki ke hōʻike ʻia e ke akamai o ka Mōʻī Solomon.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hemo a me nā mālama ʻana o nā keiki ʻaʻole ia e aloha ʻia e ke kaiāulu. ʻO kona lākiō prevalence kiʻekiʻe ma waena o ka lehulehu i hoʻolilo iā ia i mea maʻamau i waena o ke kaiāulu.
ʻO nā keiki ʻōpio a me ka hemo male
Nui nā kumu i hoʻopau ai nā kaua mālama i kekahi ala a i ʻole ʻē aʻe.
ʻO nā mākaukau kālā, kumu hoʻokaʻawale, hoʻomāinoino, a me nā makemake o ke keiki kekahi o nā kumu maʻamau e noho aliʻi ai ka luna kānāwai a i ʻole kūʻē i kekahi makua.
ʻO kahi mea nui i mālama pinepine ʻole ʻia i ka wā o nā kaua mālama ka mea nui o ka hoʻokumu ʻana no ka ulu ʻana o kahi keiki. Pono lākou e hoʻomohala i nā aʻa ma kahi, ʻoiai inā he makua wale nō ia.
Pono lākou e lilo ma ka liʻiliʻi he 12 mau makahiki i ke kula, a he mea nui nā hoa aloha o ke keiki no ko lākou ulu ʻana o ka nohona.
ʻAʻohe kānalua aia he mau mākua hoʻokahi hiki ke lawe i nā kuleana o ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine. ʻO ka hapa nui o lākou e maopopo hāʻule pōkole. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hōʻino i hoʻokahi kanaka no ka hana ʻole i ka hana a ʻelua mau kānaka. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hōʻino iā lākou āpau.
ʻO kēlā ʻae, ʻaʻole ia e hoʻololi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o nā keiki ʻōpio e ʻeha i nā hopena paʻakikī. ʻAʻole huikau nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi a me ka hemo.ʻO nā mākua noho hoʻokahi e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻopau i ke kālā, eia naʻe, mālama ʻole i ka manawa kūpono me kā lākou keiki no ko lākou ulu a ulu ʻana.
Pono nā mākua kaʻawale e ʻimi i ke kōkua, keu hoʻi mai nā hoaaloha a ʻohana ʻē aʻe. Pono nā poʻe a pau e kokoke iā ʻoe e hāʻawi i ka lima kōkua, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻohe mea koʻikoʻi e like me ka nānā ʻana i nā keiki no kekahi mau hola.
E ʻohi hoʻi nā kaikuaʻana i ka palau. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻohe o lākou ka hewa (lana ka manaʻo). Akā nā kūlana e like me ka hemo a me nā hopena i nā keiki, kahi e helu nui ai ke koko a me ka ʻohana, hiki ke luku ʻia.
ʻO ka ʻAlamona a me nā kuleana kōkua keiki ʻē aʻe he laʻa. E hoʻohana i nā kālā āpau e kākoʻo i nā keiki i ka wā e hiki mai ana, ke ulu koke lākou ma ke ʻano he kanaka kūʻokoʻa, ʻo ka wikiwiki o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻia o kēlā me kēia mea mai ka ukana.
Akā, ke puka ʻana mai ke kula kiʻekiʻe a i ʻole ke kiʻi ʻana i ka makahiki kū kānāwai e hoʻomaka i kahi ola kūʻokoʻa ʻaʻole ia he pahuhopu. ʻAʻole hiki i nā poʻe he nui i kū i kēlā mau milestones ke mālama iā lākou iho.
Akā, nui ka hapa nui o ke kākoʻo keiki i kēlā manawa. No laila, e mālama pono i kāu kālā mai kēlā a me kāu ʻohana e hoʻomau, keu hoʻi inā hele ke keiki i ke Kulanui.
E ahonui a me nā wā i loko ona, ulu nā keiki a i kēlā me kēia makahiki, hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi i nā mea hou aku i ka ʻohana. E nānā pono ʻaʻole ʻoe e hūnā iā lākou. ʻOiai ʻōpio, maopopo i nā keiki a mākaukau e kōkua i ko lākou ʻohana iho.
ʻO ka male male a me nā keiki makua
Hoʻololi pinepine ka male male i nā keiki makua a makua paha i ʻelua mau ʻāpana ʻokoʻa, ka manaʻo aloha a me ke ʻano pono ʻole.
Hana ke ʻano aloha ʻole i ka mea hiki iā lākou ke mālama i ka ʻohana ma ke ʻano he pani no ka makua kāne i hele ʻole. E like me ko lākou makua hoʻokahi, ʻaʻole lākou e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ko lākou ola iho a me ka wā e hiki mai ana. Pau ko lākou mea holoʻokoʻa me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hānai i kā lākou mau kaikaina me ka manaʻolana e ulu aʻe lākou ma ke ʻano he kanaka ikaika a kūpaʻa hoʻi i lālā o ke kaiāulu.
Hiki i nā kaikuaʻana ponoʻī ʻole ke hana i nā hana manawa manawa e kōkua ai i nā bila (Pono lākou e hāʻawi manawaleʻa, mai noi iā lākou). He ʻike maikaʻi no lākou i ka lilo ʻana i makua makua. Pono i nā mākua kaʻawale e mahalo i nā kaikuaʻana makua ʻole a paipai mau iā lākou. He mea maʻamau ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā mākua hoʻokahi e kaukaʻi i ka hāʻawi a ke keiki makua ʻole nona iho, a hoʻohoka ʻia ke hāʻule ʻole lākou.
E hoʻomanaʻo mau ka makua hoʻokahi ʻaʻole hewa nā keiki. Inā kōkua lākou, akā hāʻule pōkole, mahalo i kā lākou hana. E aʻo hoʻomanawanui iā lākou i mea e hana hou aku ai i ka manawa aʻe.
ʻAʻole hāʻawi ka ʻano aloha iā ia iho.
ʻO kēlā wale nō ka mea i hiki ke haʻi ʻia e pili ana i kēlā.
ʻO nā keiki ʻelemakule a ʻeha paha a i ʻole he hoʻouna a ke Akua i nā manawa e like me kēia. Pākuʻi me lākou a hoʻōki i ka mālama ʻana iā lākou e like me nā keiki, ʻike i kahi e kū ai a hana pū me ia. Inā huhū lākou ma ka hemo ʻana, he kūlohelohe ia, a hoʻomanaʻo ʻole e hōʻino iā lākou, kau ʻoe iā lākou i kēlā kūlana.
Mai hāʻawi i kāu kuleana iā lākou. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole hewa ia ʻoe e noi iā lākou no ke kōkua, inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio me lākou a hōʻike iā lākou i ke kiʻi nui.
ʻO ka male male a me nā keiki a me nā pili hou
I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha no ka nui o nā hemo i hālāwai me kekahi mea hou. Hiki iā lākou ke lilo i mau mākua hoʻokahi iā lākou iho, a kamaʻilio ʻoe e pili ana i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kahi ʻohana i hui ʻia. Ke hele nei i ka wili o kēlā me kēia lā ʻo ka mālama wale ʻana i nā keiki ʻaʻole neʻe. He pōʻai wale wale nō ia i ka manawa āu e ʻike ai i kahi mea hou āu e aloha nui ai ma mua o kāu wahine i hala.
ʻAʻole ʻoluʻolu nā keiki, ʻōpio a ʻelemakule, e ʻoluʻolu e noho me kahi makua hou a me nā kaikaina. He mea nui ko lākou mau manaʻo mai ka noho pū ʻana a ʻo ke ala ʻoi loa e hoʻolōʻihi. Hiki i nā keiki Delinquent a me nā pilikia ke kolohe i kā lākou mau kaikaina hou a pono i ka nui o ka micromanaging e pono ai. Mai noʻonoʻo i ka waiho ʻana iā lākou āpau ma lalo o ka hale like e aloha lākou i kekahi i kekahi i kēia manawa.
E aʻo e heluhelu ma waena o nā laina.
ʻAʻole hoʻopono nā keiki me ko lākou mau manaʻo ma hope o ka hemo ʻana. Pili ka mea like ke noho pū me kahi makua hou a i ʻole mau kaikaina.
Pono ʻoe a me kāu pakanā e hoʻomaopopo i ka haʻalele ʻana i ka hemo a me nā keiki e kaʻanalike i ko lākou ola me nā malihini ʻaʻole hiki ke huakaʻi maikaʻi no ʻolua. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he hana lōʻihi, a inā ʻaʻohe a lāua keiki ponoʻī, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī iā lākou e hoʻoponopono.
ʻAʻole hoʻi i loko o ka lani ka male ʻana, ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia kēlā me kēia male ʻana
Hoʻopilikia ka male male a me nā keiki i ko mākou ola, akā ʻo nā hopena ʻelua wale nō ia o kā mākou hana ponoʻī.
Hiki iā mākou ke hōʻino i ka haʻalele male i kā mākou ex, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hōʻino i nā keiki no kekahi mea. ʻO kā mākou hanohano a me ke kuleana e hānai i nā keiki ikaika a me ka pono, me ka nānā ʻole i ka paʻakikī. Hiki i ka male male a me nā keiki ke hoʻomaikaʻi i ko mākou ola.
ʻAʻole male ʻia ka male ma ka lani.
No laila, ʻoki maikaʻi i ka maʻi ʻaʻai. Akā, ʻo ka hānai ʻana i nā keiki he mea maikaʻi mau, ʻoiai inā aia kekahi manawa makemake mākou e ʻoki iā lākou.