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- 1. E hoʻopaʻa i nā palena a paʻa iā lākou
- 2. Mai ʻae e hana i kāu keiki i ka wāwae wāwae
- 3. E hoʻokūpaʻa a mālie, no ka mea
- 4. Kākoʻo ʻelua i ke kū hoʻokahi o kāu keiki
- 5. Hana i kāu pono ponoʻī
ʻO ka co-makua he mea paʻakikī loa ia, akā inā ʻoe e pili pū ana me kahi hoahānau makua narcissistic, hiki i nā mea ke pilikia loa. Minamina, ke ʻano o ka narcissism ʻaʻole ia he manaʻolana ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka laulima ʻana.
Ua hala ʻoe ma waena o ka lua ahi hemo. He paʻakikī paʻakikī nā Narcissists e haʻalele iā ʻoe. I kēia manawa he kaua hou kāu e kaua ai. E luhi loa ʻoe a like me ka pau ʻole o ka haunaele.
Akā e maikaʻi nā mea, i ka hopena.
Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pehea e ola ai i ka wā koi nui loa:
1. E hoʻopaʻa i nā palena a paʻa iā lākou
ʻAʻole e hana ka narcissist i kēia mea nāu. E like me ka mea o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e hana lākou i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe.
E hoʻomanaʻo, kahi narcissist, ke pili lākou i kekahi mea a i ʻole kekahi, manaʻo iā lākou he mea hoʻonui i ko lākou honua ponoʻī. ʻAʻole lākou i aloha nui iā lākou. ʻAʻole, ma laila lākou e kūkulu ai i ko lākou moemoeā o ka waiwai ponoʻī ʻo ia ke kumu i koi ʻia ai ʻoe e hemolele ke male ʻia ʻoe.
No laila, i kēia manawa ua hele ʻoe ma waho o kahi male, pono ʻoe e kūkulu hou i nā palena.
E pili ana kēia i nā kahawai a me ke alapine o kāu kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu ex akā ʻo kāu ex a me kāu poʻe keiki.
E hoʻomākaukau no kāu ex narcissistic e uhaʻi ana i nā lula, akā pili ʻoe iā lākou. I ka manawa, hāʻawi lākou i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana iā ʻoe e nāwaliwali.
2. Mai ʻae e hana i kāu keiki i ka wāwae wāwae
I kēia manawa ʻike maoli ʻoe pehea e hiki ai i kāu narcissistic ex ke hana iā ʻoe i nā mea āu e hana maʻamau ʻole ai.
ʻO lākou nā manipulate haku a ʻaʻohe o lākou mea āu e hana ai - empathy a me kahi ʻano o ka maikaʻi o kekahi.
No laila, e hoʻāʻo lākou i nā mea āpau e hiki i ke ala, me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki ma ke ʻano he pawns i kā lākou pāʻani.
ʻO ʻoe ka mea e pono e hōʻole e pāʻani i ka pāʻani. ʻO nā mea āpau a lākou e hana ai, hoʻomau ʻoe i ka mālama i kāu mau kumu. Mai hoʻohana i kāu keiki e lawe i nā leka i kāu ex.
Mai badmouth i kāu ex i mua o kāu keiki. Mai ʻae i ka hoʻowalewale e hoʻokūkū me kāu ex ma mua o ka nānā o kāu keiki. Hoʻohanohano wale i kāu waiwai ponoʻī a me nā mea e hoʻokaʻawale iā lākou iho i kou pono.
3. E hoʻokūpaʻa a mālie, no ka mea
E like me kā mākou i ʻōlelo ai, hiki i ka narcissist ke ola e hoʻoikaika iā ʻoukou āpau. E hauʻoli paha lākou i ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe e lilo ana kou mālie. A, ke manipulative a me ka oha, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana i kāu hopena maʻamau i kā lākou hana lapuwale a hoʻomāinoino paha e hōʻike iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano kūpaʻa ʻole.
No kēia kumu, pono ʻoe e hoʻohiki e mālama i kāu ʻoluʻolu ma nā kumu kūʻai āpau.
Ke manaʻo ʻoe e kokoke ana ʻoe i ka hopohopo a huhū paha a lele i waho, e lawe i kahi manawa. E kala mai iā ʻoe iho a hoʻi i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, inā pono, ma hope. Ma ke kūpono, e mālama ʻoe i kāu kamaʻilio ʻana i kahi palapala i kākau ʻia, hemolele nā leka uila.
Ma kēlā ala, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi manawa e noʻonoʻo hou ai i kāu mau hopena, a e hoʻopaʻa ʻia ia mea āpau inā pono ʻoe e hōʻike ʻo wai ka mea hōʻino.
4. Kākoʻo ʻelua i ke kū hoʻokahi o kāu keiki
He paʻakikī loa nā mākua Narcissistic i kā lākou keiki. He hopena maikaʻi ʻole kā lākou i ko lākou manaʻo pilikino, ʻike pilikino, a me ka ulu ʻana o ka naʻau.
Eia kekahi, he nui nā poʻe maʻi makua o psychotherapists nā keiki a nā mākua narcissistic. ʻO ke kumu no ka mea ʻaʻole hoihoi ka makua narcissistic i ke keiki, manaʻo lākou iā ia he ʻāpana o kā lākou moʻopuna ponoʻī.
ʻO kēia ke kumu e kākoʻo mau ai ʻoe i ke kū hoʻokahi o kāu keiki a hōʻike iā lākou ʻaʻole lākou ʻo ka mea hoʻolōʻihi. He kanaka lākou, ʻaʻole hemolele akā nani. A aloha ʻole ʻia i nā mea a lākou e hana ai. ʻAʻole lākou e ʻoluʻolu i ka makua narcissistic. Akā ʻoe e hōʻoia he ʻelua a ʻoi aku ko lākou aloha a kākoʻo ʻia e ʻoe.
5. Hana i kāu pono ponoʻī
ʻO ka hope, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i makua maikaʻi inā hoʻokahe ʻia ʻoe i waho o kāu hiki.
ʻIke mākou i ka hōʻino ʻana o ka male. A laila, ʻo ka hemo ʻana mai ka narcissist, ka mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi loa o ka hemo male. Pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kou ola, ʻoiai e hakakā ana i kāu ex. He paʻakikī kēlā me kēia male male, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī i ka wā o nā keiki e pili ana, a me ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā ʻoe iho mai kahi narcissist kahi pilikia maoli.
ʻO kēia ke kumu e mālama ai ʻoe i kāu pono ponoʻī.
E kiʻi i kahi mea hoʻoponopono e kōkua iā ʻoe e kūkulu hou i kou hilinaʻi a ʻike i ka zest hou no ke ola.E ʻimi i kāu mau hoihoi kahiko, e hoʻi i kāu mau leʻaleʻa, a loaʻa i nā mea hou. E kiʻi i ke kākoʻo mai kou mau hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana. E mālama iā ʻoe iho i ke ala o kāu ex e mālama ai iā ʻoe. E pau ana ka pilikia.