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- He aha nā ʻano o nā mākua narcissistic?
- 1. Ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī:
- 2. Lili a me ka waiwai
- 3. Ka nele o ke aloha
- 4. Kaukaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi ʻana
- 5. Manipula
- 6. Hoʻowahāwahā a me ka hoʻokae
- 7. Nānā ʻole
- Pehea ka hopena o nā keiki ke hoʻāla aʻe kahi makua narcissistic iā lākou?
- ʻAʻole lākou i aloha ʻia no wai lākou
- Hoʻopiʻi nā kaikaina i kekahi i kekahi
- Nānā ʻole ʻia, kāohi ʻia, a hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ʻia nā pono o ke keiki
- Hiki i ke keiki ke manaʻo he hoa ma mua o ke keiki
- Ke hakakā nei ke keiki e hoʻomaopopo i kā lākou makemake, pono, a me nā pahuhopu
- Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke pale i nā hopena o ka makua narcissistic?
- Lawe mai ka ʻike a me ka ʻike i ka hoʻōla
- Pono kahi kaʻina kaumaha
- Pono e hoʻokumu i nā palena
- Pono e aʻo ʻia ke ʻano o ke aloha maoli
Ua lohe paha ʻoe i ka makua narcissistic? Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i kahi makua me kahi maʻi pilikino narcissistic?
Ke lilo nei ka huaʻōlelo 'narcissism' i huaʻōlelo home i kēia mau lā, a i kekahi manawa hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia ma ke ʻano he wehewehe no kēlā me kēia mea mai ka manaʻo pilikino a i ka huhū huhū. ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia kahi ākea ākea o nā ala i hiki ai i ka narcissism ke hōʻike ma kahi o ka hoʻomau ʻana mai ke olakino a hōʻino.
ʻO ke olakino olakino olakino ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho, ʻoiai ʻo ka narcissism malignant e pili ana i ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī me kahi ʻano palupalu, palekana ʻole a me ka hiki ʻole ke hana i nā pilina olakino. He hopena weliweli loa kēia ʻano narcissism ʻino ke loaʻa ia i kahi kūlana makua.
E ʻimi ana kēia ʻatikala i kekahi o nā hōʻailona o ka makua narcissistic, pehea ka hopena o ke ʻano o ka narcissist i kā lākou keiki, a pehea e hana ai me nā mākua narcissistic, no ka mea ʻo ka pili ʻana i nā mākua narcissistic ʻaʻole pāʻani a kahi keiki.
He aha nā ʻano o nā mākua narcissistic?
1. Ka noʻonoʻo ponoʻī:
Ke narcissistic kahi makua, pili mau nā mea āpau iā lākou, a hoʻohana lākou i kā lākou keiki e hoʻokō i kā lākou mau moemoeā a me nā makemake.
ʻO kahi laʻana o kēia ka makuakāne narcissistic nāna i koi mai e lilo kāna keiki i kauka, me ka nānā ʻole inā pili nā hoihoi a me nā hiki o ke keiki me kēia koho ʻoihana.
Kūleʻa pinepine kēia mau ʻano makuakāne narcissistic, akā nānā pinepine ʻole mākou iā lākou, me ka manaʻo he maʻamau kēia mau ʻano!
2. Lili a me ka waiwai
Lana ka manaʻo a ka makua narcissistic i ka mālama ʻana i kā lāua keiki ma lalo o ko lākou manamana nui a mau loa aku.
No laila, ke hoʻomaka ke keiki e hōʻike i ke kūlana makua a i ʻole ke kanaka, e hana ana i kā lākou koho ponoʻī a me nā makemake i ʻike ʻia, hiki i ka makua ke huhū a huhū, e lawe iā ia ma ke ʻano he pilikino a hoʻoweliweli.
3. Ka nele o ke aloha
ʻAʻole hiki i nā Narcissists ke noʻonoʻo pono i nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo o kekahi poʻe, e like me kā lākou keiki. Iā lākou, ʻo ka mea nui wale ka manaʻo a me ka ʻike. ʻO kēia nā hōʻailona maʻamau o ka makua narcissistic.
ʻO nā keiki e noho nei me nā mākua narcissistic e ʻike i kēia ʻano invalidation i ka manawa pinepine e hoʻomohala i kahi pale huna wahaheʻe e hoʻokipa ai i ka makua, a i ʻole mamao aku lākou iā lākou iho mai ko lākou makua, ʻoiai e hoʻāʻo paha kekahi e hakakā hou.
4. Kaukaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi ʻana
Hoʻokomo pinepine ka makua Narcissistic i ka hānai ʻana i kahi pilina codependent me nā keiki a hiki i ka manaʻo o nā mākua e mālama ke keiki iā lākou no ko lākou koena o ko lākou ola.
Hiki ke nānā pinepine ʻia kēia mau mea ma ke ʻano he mau ʻano makuahine narcissistic, a kapa ʻia paha nā keiki i ko lākou makuahine me he 'over-pale' a i ʻole 'ka mea nona.'
Hoʻohui pinepine kēia i nā kumukūʻai a me nā mōhai pilikino ma ka ʻaoʻao o ke keiki, kahi a ka narcissist e ʻike ʻole ai.
5. Manipula
Mahalo paha ʻoe no ke aha e hōʻole ai kahi makua narcissistic i kā lāua keiki?
Akā, he mākua ka makua narcissistic ma ka manipula ma o ka hoʻopaʻi, nā ʻōlelo hoʻoweliweli, a me ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i ke aloha i mea e koi ai i ka hoʻokō. Hoʻokau pinepine lākou i ka hewa wahaheʻe ma luna o kahi keiki, a me ka hōʻino ʻana, ka hoʻohilahila ʻana, a me ka hoʻokau ʻana i ke kaomi kūpono ʻole e hana ai.
ʻO nā hoʻohālikelike maikaʻi ʻole ("no ke aha ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke maikaʻi e like me kou kaikaina?") A me ka hoʻoikaika kino ("inā ʻoe he keikikāne a kaikamahine paha ʻoe e hana ana ʻoe i kēia a i ʻole iaʻu") ʻo ia nō hoʻi nā hana maʻamau o ka makua narcissistic.
6. Hoʻowahāwahā a me ka hoʻokae
Ke nui a hoʻokahi keiki i loko o ka ʻohana, e hoʻokau pinepine ka makua narcissistic i kekahi o lākou ma ke ʻano he "keiki gula" i hoʻomākaukau ʻia e pale i nā pono a me ka ego o ka narcissist.
I ka makua narcissistic, lilo kekahi o nā keiki ʻē aʻe i ka 'scapegoat' i hoʻopiʻi ʻia no nā mea āpau. Ma kēia ala, ua kūʻē kekahi i kekahi i kekahi, e hōʻino hou ana a me nā haunaele i kēia home i hoʻopilikia ʻia.
7. Nānā ʻole
Hiki i ka makua Narcissist ke koho e alualu i kāna mau pono ma mua o ke kū ʻana i nā koi o kēlā me kēia lā o ka makua. Hiki iā lākou ke lilo i workaholics. Haʻalele kēia ʻano hoʻowahāwahā i ke keiki me ka makua ʻē aʻe a i ʻole me ka hānai nui ʻana iā lākou iho.
Pehea ka hopena o nā keiki ke hoʻāla aʻe kahi makua narcissistic iā lākou?
ʻAʻole ka ʻiʻini o ka makua narcissistic i nā mākua e ʻike i ke keiki e like me ke aloha, makamae, a waiwai ʻia i kā lākou kuleana ponoʻī.
Ma kahi o lākou, mahalo wale ʻia lākou i ka nui a lākou e hui ai a pander ai i nā pono o ka makua.
Kūpono kahi nui o ka hoʻokūkū kaikaina i kekahi ʻohana, akā kahi e pili ai ka makua narcissistic, hiki i kēia pae hakakā i nā pae weliweli. ʻO kēia kahi manawa he mākaukau triangulation tactical o ka narcissist e lawelawe i kā lākou mau pono ponoʻī.
Ke hoʻāʻo ke keiki a nā mākua narcissistic e hōʻike i kā lākou pono ponoʻī a me nā makemake, ʻokoʻa paha ia mai ka makua, hoʻokau pinepine ʻia lākou a hoʻohilahila ʻia, e manaʻo ʻia nei he kūpono ʻole a kūpono ʻole ko lākou mau manaʻo, manaʻo, a me nā manaʻo.
I kekahi mau hanana, pili ka makua narcissistic i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana a me ka haʻi ʻana i ke keiki, a manaʻo ʻia e hōʻoluʻolu ke keiki a hui me nā pono o ka makua.
ʻO kēia hoʻohuli ʻana i nā hana i kahi o ke keiki i kahi kūlana kūpono ʻole o ka manaʻo e like me ka hoa a i ʻole hilinaʻi ma mua o kahi keiki.
Ke hele a maʻa ke keiki i ka hālāwai ʻana me nā makemake o ka makua narcissistic, ka hoʻopanee ʻana i kā lākou mau hoʻoholo a pau, a me ka ʻae mau ʻana me kā lākou mau hoʻolālā a me nā manaʻo, hiki iā lākou ke hōʻea i ka ʻike hou ʻole i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me ko lākou mau manaʻo.
Ke noi ʻia lākou e hāʻawi i kahi manaʻo a hōʻike paha i kahi makemake, e kānalua paha lākou, makaʻu, a hoʻoholo ʻole paha, e kaupaona ana i ka pane 'kūpono' e manaʻo ʻia ana iā lākou.
E nānā i kēia kamaʻilio Ted e kiʻi i nā ʻike hou aku i ka makua narcissistic:
Pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke pale i nā hopena o ka makua narcissistic?
E ʻike e like me ka hiki iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka narcissism, a hoʻomaka e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea i loaʻa iā ʻoe inā ua hānai kahi makua narcissistic iā ʻoe. E hoʻokuʻu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a ʻoluʻolu i ka ʻike ʻana he nui nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ʻike i ka ʻeha like. ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi.
Inā narcissistic kekahi a ʻelua paha o kou mau mākua, pono ʻoe e kaumaha i ka nalowale ʻana o ka makua āu i loaʻa ʻole ai. No kekahi manawa, he mea nui e kaumaha i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā ʻoe ke aloha hānai āu e pono ai ma ke ʻano kamaliʻi.
Ke hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻae i kāu mau pohō a hoʻokuʻu i nā moemoeā a ke narcissist e aloha maoli ai iā ʻoe i kekahi lā, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke mākaukau e neʻe i kou ola.
I kou ola ʻana mai nā hopena o ka makua narcissistic, pono ʻoe e hoʻomohala i kāu mau palena, ka mea e hoʻokaʻawale ai iā ʻoe mai kou mau mākua.
ʻAʻole paha lākou e lawe maikaʻi i kēia, akā inā makemake ʻoe e manuahi, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui ma waena o nā tantrums a me ka manipulation a hiki i kou kūʻokoʻa ʻana e lilo i ʻano kanaka āu e makemake ai.
E hoʻonoho i kahi palena i ka manawa āu e lilo ai me nā poʻe ʻona a hoʻopuni iā ʻoe iho me nā hoaaloha olakino e aloha a ʻae iā ʻoe e like me ʻoe.
Ke neʻe aku ʻoe mai ka mana maikaʻi ʻole o ka makua narcissistic, e ʻike paha ʻoe i ka hoʻōla e hana ʻia ana ma kahi o ka manawa.
A laila hiki iā ʻoe ke mahalo a aʻo ʻia he aloha ʻoe - ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hana mau a hoʻokō ʻana paha i kekahi mea i mea e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i kou waiwai. Aloha ʻoe no ka mea he ʻuhane kanaka waiwai a waiwai ʻoe.