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- Pehea e ʻike ai i ka lawena passive-agresive
- Kahaʻōlelo
- Hoʻomaikaʻi pālua
- Ka nānā ʻole ʻana i ka poʻe a i ʻole ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kekahi mea
- Ke hoʻokau nei i nā mea
- Ka helu ʻana
- Ke haʻalele nei i ka poʻe i waho a kamaʻilio paha ma hope o lākou
- Skipping ka mahalo
- Hoʻāʻo sabotaging
E wehewehe i kahi mea nui ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kēia ʻatikala; ʻaʻole mākou e hōʻike nei i ka lawena passive-agresive e lilo ʻoe i kanaka maikaʻi ʻole, ʻaʻole loa. Akā ke kumu ia inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻano passive-agresive, hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoluʻolu ʻole i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a puni ʻoe.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke sabotage i kāu mau moeʻuhane a me kāu mau pahuhopu ma muli o kāu hana. A maikaʻi, e hauʻoli nui ke ola nou inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana me kāu pilikia, hoʻoponopono i kāu pane, a aʻo pehea e hōʻike pono ai iā ʻoe iho.
Mai kī i ka ʻelele; Loaʻa iā mākou a pau nā keʻa ke amo. Akā inā ʻoe hopohopo inā paha ʻoe e hōʻike i kahi hana passive-agresive, e nānā i lalo no kekahi o nā hōʻailona passive-agresif a laila, nā mea āpau āu e pono ai e hoʻoponopono iā lākou.
I mea e hoʻoponopono ai i nā lauana, pono e ʻike e pili ana ʻoe i ka lawena passive-agresive a laila hoʻoponopono iā ia e leʻaleʻa ai i kahi ola piha.
Pehea e ʻike ai i ka lawena passive-agresive
Ke ʻike ʻoe i nā ʻōuli o ka hana passive-agresive, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ke kumu o kāu hana a hana pēlā paha? Ma muli paha o kou huhū a manaʻo pale paha ʻoe (e hoʻokomo i kekahi ʻano ʻē aʻe) i kahi manaʻo a i ʻole kūlana, a inā pēlā, no ke aha?
He aha ka mea i huhū ai ʻoe, a no ke aha? A i hana pēlā ʻoe ma autopilot?
ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kēia mau mea e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike he pono ʻoe e hana i kekahi ʻano manaʻo i repressed a i ʻole hoʻololi paha i kekahi mau kaohi palena.
Hiki iā ia ke hoʻokalakupua wale nō he ʻano maʻamau kāu e pono ai ke kuʻi. Hiki ke hana maʻalahi ʻia i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ke ʻano ke ʻike ʻoe - e hopu koke kou manaʻo a lawe i kāu mau hana hou inā kūpaʻa ʻoe ma ia.
Eia kekahi (akā ʻaʻole nā mea āpau) o nā hana passive-agresive:
Kahaʻōlelo
Makemake ʻoe i nā mea, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e noi pololei iā lākou; ma kahi o, kuhikuhi paha ʻoe ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea wistful e pili ana i nā mea āu e makemake ai.
ʻO kahi laʻana, he ʻeke hou kā kekahi ma ka hana, a ʻōlelo ʻoe he ʻekeʻeke maikaʻi kēlā, makemake wau e loaʻa iaʻu, akā ʻaʻole lawa kaʻu kālā.
ʻO kēia ʻano hana passive-agresive e hoʻohalahala a hewa ʻole paha ka mea loaʻa no ka loaʻa ʻana o nā mea maikaʻi (a i ʻole nā mea āu e noʻonoʻo ai).
Hoʻomaikaʻi pālua
ʻO ka lili, ka hoka, a me ka ʻike ʻole i kekahi manawa ma hope o nā mahalo pālua a i ʻole backhanded. ʻO kēia ʻano hana hoʻomāinoino passive-agresif e hana kolohe ai ʻoe no ka mea he kolohe ka ʻōlelo.
Loaʻa paha i kāu hoaaloha kahi leʻaleʻa e pili ana iā lākou, a e ʻōlelo paha ʻoe, he hoʻomākeʻaka mau kou ke ʻōlelo ʻoe i nā mea lapuwale e like me kēlā. A i ʻole, 'no ke aha ʻoe e hana mau ai i kēlā?'.
A i ʻole, he kaʻa hou kahi a kahi hoaaloha, a ʻōlelo paha ʻoe he 'maikaʻi ia no ka budget' a laila hoʻomaka e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka mana o ke kaʻa e hiki mai ana ma ka pae o ka hanohano. ʻO kēia mau ʻano maʻamau he kāne passive-agresive.
Ka nānā ʻole ʻana i ka poʻe a i ʻole ka ʻōlelo ʻana i kekahi mea
Hoʻohana kekahi mau mea hoʻomāinoino passive-agresive i ka hāmau e like me kā lākou mea hana. ʻAʻole paha lākou e hanu i kahi huaʻōlelo, e waiho ana i kahi hāmau hōʻoluʻolu ʻole. Akā ke ʻōlelo nui nei paha ko lākou ikaika a me ko lākou manaʻo.
Pēlā nō, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻihoʻi i kahi kāhea, a i ʻole e kali hou aku i kekahi ma mua o kou kamaʻilio ʻana iā lākou. Kū pinepine kēia ma hope o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa.
Pono mākou āpau i kahi e hōʻoluʻolu ai, akā ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio me kekahi no nā hola me ka ʻole o ka ʻōlelo ʻana he pono ka manawa. A, paʻakikī kēia mau hiʻohiʻona o ka poʻe passive-agres e kuhikuhi i ka hoʻomaka.
Ke hoʻokau nei i nā mea
Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e haʻalele ana i ka hana ʻana i kekahi mea no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae, mai makemake e kōkua i ke kanaka e pili ana i nā mea āu e hana nei, a e huhū paha i kekahi mea.
Kū a nīnau iā ʻoe iho he ʻano kēia o ka lawena passive-agresive no ka mea ʻo ia paha.
Ka helu ʻana
Inā haʻo kekahi i kou lā hānau, ua haʻo ʻoe i kā lākou a i ʻole hana i kahi mea nui.
Inā haʻi mai kekahi i kekahi mea āu i huhū ai i nā mahina i hala aku nei mai haʻalele ʻoe iā lākou e hoʻopoina a hoʻolilo ʻoe iā lākou e uku no ia mea he ʻumi.
E ʻimi paha ʻoe e hoʻopaʻi i ka poʻe no nā mea āu i manaʻo ai ua hana lākou, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e kū. Inā hoʻomaka ʻoe i ka launa me kekahi, e manaʻo ʻoe e hoʻomaka lākou i ka hoʻopili ʻana i ka manawa aʻe, a i ʻole e loaʻa kahi pilikia.
ʻO kēia nā ʻano āpau o ka hana passive-agresive i nā pilina.
Ke haʻalele nei i ka poʻe i waho a kamaʻilio paha ma hope o lākou
ʻO kēia kahi i loaʻa i ka poʻe he nui i kekahi manawa a i ʻole no ka hana kolohe ʻole ʻana me ka hana passive-agresive.
ʻO kēia mau ʻano wahine passive-agresive!
Akā inā ʻoe e ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole ana ma hope o ke kua o kekahi, a i ʻole me ka haʻalele ʻana iā lākou (e akahele a i ʻole ʻē aʻe), a i ʻole inā ʻoe e ʻōlelo ana a noʻonoʻo paha i nā mea maikaʻi ma hope o ke kua o kekahi akā e hele wāwae ʻoe ma luna o nā lānahu wela ma mua o kou haʻi ʻana iā lākou i ko lākou alo. ʻo kēia mau hiʻohiʻona āpau o ka hana passive-agresive.
Skipping ka mahalo
ʻAʻole mahalo i kekahi ma kahi e pono ai, ʻaʻole hauʻoli no ka kūleʻa o kekahi, a hōʻike iā lākou i kekahi ʻano o nā hiʻohiʻona passive-agresive i ka pilina.
Inā ʻoe e hoʻokūkū, maikaʻi paha ka huhū no kou nalowale ʻana, akā he hana passive-agena inā ʻoe e waiho i ka mea āu i nalowale e ʻike pono i kou ʻeha.
E nānā i kēia wikiō:
Hoʻāʻo sabotaging
ʻĀ, no laila ʻoi aku ka nui o kēia ʻano o ka passive-agresive behavior. Eia nō naʻe, inā hoʻonohonoho ʻoe i kekahi no nā pilikia, hoka, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e haʻi i ka poʻe i kahi o ka pāʻina e kuhi nei a ʻaʻole hoʻi e aʻoaʻo iā lākou i kahi loli i nā lā palena pau, a laila ke sabotaging ʻoe, a he passive-agresive ia.
I kēia manawa ua ʻike ʻoe i nā ʻōuli ʻōnohi e hoʻāʻo inā loaʻa ʻoe i kahi pilina passive-agresive.
Inā he mau hoa passive-agresibo ʻoe, mai wikiwiki e kuhikuhi iā lākou iā lākou. ʻAʻole paha e lawe ka poʻe passive-agresist i ka pāʻani hewa i ke ala kūpono.
Inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻomau i kou pilina a maikaʻi me ka manawa, pono ʻoe e wehe i nā laina o ke kamaʻilio olakino. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e haʻi aku i kāu pakanā i ka hopena o ka hopena a pehea ka hopena o kā lākou hana i ka holo lōʻihi.
Mai manaʻo i nā loli nui. Akā, hiki nō ke hana ma ka hana passive-agresive. Hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i ke kōkua loea mai nā kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole nā therapist e hana i nā ʻano hana maikaʻi ʻole.