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- Mai lawe i nā mea pilikino
- ʻAʻole pili iaʻu
- Aniani aniani
- E nānā i ka hōʻike
- ʻAʻohe mea akamai i koʻu mau manaʻo koe wale nō iaʻu
- Take hana kū aʻe
- E noʻonoʻo ma mua o kou pane ʻana
- ʻO ka "hōʻole ʻana i kahi ʻē aʻe" hiki i ka manawa like ke "aloha ʻē aʻe"
- Aia kekahi manaʻo ʻē aʻe i hoʻokumu ʻia i ka huhū
- Hoʻolohe wale
- ʻAʻole paʻa nā mea āpau
- ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke "hoʻoponopono."
- E ʻimi i kou leo
- E noho kaʻawale i mua o kekahi
- Lawe i ke kuleana no koʻu mau manaʻo wale nō
- Palena
- He aha kaʻu mau waiwai?
- E hoʻokuʻu i ka ego
I kekahi manawa ke hele pū wau me kahi mea kūʻai aku, ke ʻike nei lākou i kahi ulia pōpilikia i ka pilina.
Inā koʻikoʻi a paʻakikī paha ka pilikia, kōkua ia i ka mea aʻu e makemake ai e kāhea, "nā flashcards psychological," e huli i nā manawa o ka pilikia kaumaha.
Ke pilikia nei kekahi me kahi kiʻi hoʻopili, ʻaʻole maʻalahi e pane rationally.
E noʻonoʻo i ka manawa hope loa āu e hakakā ai me kāu hoa, wahine, a mea aloha paha e pili ana i kahi kumuhana wela.
ʻO ka maʻamau, kāʻili ʻia kou lolo noʻonoʻo.
ʻO nā flashcards psychological kahi mea hana maikaʻi loa e "lālau," ke hoʻopiha ʻia ko mākou lolo me ka naʻau. Hiki i nā pilina ke hoʻomaka i kekahi o kā mākou mau ʻeha hohonu ʻole ʻole. He kūpono nā Flashcards a hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu no kēlā mau manawa makaʻu i ka pilikia.
Eia kekahi o nā flashcards maʻamau hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana ke ʻike ʻoe i ka weliweli e hele mai ana i ka wā o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa me kahi mea aloha.
Mai lawe i nā mea pilikino
Hoʻokomo ʻo Don Miguel Ruiz i kēia ma ke ʻano he ʻehā aelike.
Ke lawe nei nā mea kūʻai aku i nā mea pilikino, ke hāʻawi pinepine nei lākou i kekahi mau mea i ka mana ma luna o lākou ma mua o ka mea pono. Hilinaʻi lākou i haʻi e haʻi iā lākou ʻo wai lākou, ma kahi o ka hilinaʻi ʻana i ka mea a lākou i ʻike ai he ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana iā lākou iho.
ʻAʻole pili iaʻu
Lawe ʻoe i kāu pakanā i kahi huakaʻi noʻonoʻo pono e uku ai iā ʻoe i ke kālā he nui, a lilo ʻoe i mau lā e nānā ana i mua a hoʻolālā.
Hele ʻoe i ka hale i kēlā ahiahi a ʻōlelo aku kāu hoa, “ʻĀ, luhi nō kēlā.” He maʻamau kēia. ʻAʻole pili iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he hoa.
He kuleana ko kāu hoa i kona manaʻo a me kona mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka lā. Aia kekahi leo mua i loko o mākou e ʻuwā nei, "pili iaʻu !!" Pono ʻoe e hana i ka mea maikaʻi loa e nānā ʻole i kēlā leo, a hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole ia na kou hewa āpau.
* Nānā Wāwae: Inā he "mirroring" kūpono ʻole ʻoe mai kou mau mākua ma ke ʻano he pēpē, e ʻae nei i nā kāleka uila, "ʻaʻole pili iaʻu ia," a i ʻole "mai lawe i nā mea pilikino," ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua iā ʻoe.
Aniani aniani
ʻO ke aniani aniani kahi hiʻohiʻona kahi e mimike ai ka mea mālama i nā ʻōuli nonverbal i kou wā pēpē, e like me ka helehelena a i ʻole nā huaʻōlelo. ʻAʻoleʻike pinepine kēia hana akā hōʻike i ke aloha a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa.
Kōkua ia i kekahi e hoʻomohala i kahi ʻano o kāna honua kūloko, a me ka manaʻo iā ia iho. ʻAʻoleʻike iki mākou iā ia, akā ma ke ʻano he pēpē, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka mommy a makua paha "i ka lōkahi" me mākou ka mea nui i kā mākou ulu naʻau.
Inā loaʻa ʻole nā hana aniani mau, lilo mākou i mea haʻalulu, a hoʻomohala i ko mākou ʻano ponoʻī i kahi ala kekeʻe.
E nānā i ka hōʻike
Manaʻo mākou he hoʻopau ke kāohi i ka hopohopo.
I ka maoli, pono "e kāohi" e hoʻonui iā mākou i ka hopohopo, a me ka hopohopo i ka poʻe a puni mākou. Kū i hope a nānā i ka hōʻike.
Kāohi i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e kuhikuhi a kāohi i kāu hoa. Ke loaʻa kahi manawa haunaele, ʻike i ke ʻano o ka nānā ʻana e wehe aʻe, ma mua o ke komo pololei ʻana i ka haunaele.
ʻAʻohe mea akamai i koʻu mau manaʻo koe wale nō iaʻu
ʻO ʻoe ka loea i kou mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ke haʻi iā ʻoe i kou manaʻo. E ʻae hou wau - ʻo ʻoe nō ka loea o kou mau manaʻo!
E haʻi pinepine kekahi lālā o kahi kāne i kekahi lālā o kekahi ʻelua i ka manaʻo o kēlā kanaka, i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e kaohi i nā pane ʻano chaotic. Eia nō naʻe, ke hana kekahi o nā lālā o ka wahine i kēia, hōʻike ia i ka nele o nā palena psychological ma ka ʻaoʻao o ka hoa hoʻouka, e alakaʻi maʻamau i ka hoa i hoʻouka ʻia e makemake i kahi mamao kino.
Take hana kū aʻe
Ke kaumaha nei ʻoe ma hope o ka hakakā me kāu hoa, e nānā i kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a ʻakaʻaka paha. Kāhea i kahi hoaaloha a hele wāwae paha. Hoʻohui ʻia ko mākou lolo e hoʻomau i ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i nā rumination maikaʻi ʻole. Ke hana ʻiʻo mākou i kahi hana kūʻē, kū mākou i kēia pōʻai i kāna mau ala.
E noʻonoʻo ma mua o kou pane ʻana
Maʻalahi ke kani o kēia, akā i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa, paʻakikī loa.
Eia hou, ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa wela mākou me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, hiki ke maʻalahi ke kīkaha i nā huaʻōlelo.
Lawe i kahi minuke e hanu, a hōʻiliʻili iā ʻoe iho me ka naʻau. E hoʻi i hope a noʻonoʻo i ka mea e puka ana i kou waha. Ke hoʻolei nei ʻoe i nā ʻōlelo "ʻo ʻoe" i kāu hoa? Ke hana nei ʻoe mai kahi wahi i hala, a i ʻole pili i kahi pilina ma mua? E hoʻolohi i nā mea i lalo.
I kekahi manawa makemake ʻia kēlā me kēia hana a kekahi e hoʻohuli iā ʻoe e hana. E nānā i ka hoʻokomo. Mai hoʻokomo ʻia!
ʻO ka "hōʻole ʻana i kahi ʻē aʻe" hiki i ka manawa like ke "aloha ʻē aʻe"
Nui ka paʻakikī o ka poʻe i ka ʻike ʻana i hiki i kekahi ke aloha iā lākou, ʻoiai e ʻike pū i ka ʻeha a i ʻole hōʻole ʻia ma ka lima o kēlā kanaka hoʻokahi. Ke manaʻo a hōʻole ʻia paha kekahi mau kānaka e like me ke aloha ʻole.
He mea kōkua ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻana ʻo "ka hōʻole ʻana i nā mea ʻē aʻe" i kēlā manawa o kēia manawa, hiki i ke kanaka i aloha iā ʻoe. Hiki i ke aloha a me ka hōʻole ke noho pū i ka manawa like.
Aia kekahi manaʻo ʻē aʻe i hoʻokumu ʻia i ka huhū
ʻO ka maʻamau, ke huhū a huhū paha ka poʻe, no ka makaʻu a ʻeha paha. ʻO ka huhū kahi manaʻo lua.
ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo he ʻae ʻia no kekahi e hoʻolei i nā ʻōlelo hōʻino a i ʻole e ʻōlelo hōʻeha iā ʻoe. Kū i luna nou iho inā pono.
Hoʻolohe wale
He flashcard koʻikoʻi kēia.
ʻO ka hoʻolohe ke kī i ke kamaʻilio kūpono me kā mākou hoa.
Poina mākou i kēia ke kuni ʻia ko mākou naʻau. Inā lawe kekahi i kahi pilikia i ka papaʻaina, e hoʻopihapiha iā lākou i ko lākou manaʻo, a ʻike ʻia ua ʻike ʻia a lohe ʻia, ma mua o kou lawe ʻana i kou mau manaʻo iho, nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo i ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana.
E nīnau iā lākou i nā nīnau e pili ana i ko lākou manaʻo. E hōʻuluʻulu i ko lākou mau manaʻo a hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka mea a lākou e ʻōlelo maoli nei, me ka lele ʻole ʻana i loko. Ke pau lākou, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kūkākūkā i kāu pane i ka pilikia a pehea ʻo ʻoe manaʻo e pili ana.
ʻAʻole paʻa nā mea āpau
ʻO kēia kekahi o nā ʻoiaʻiʻo hanohano ʻehā o ka Buddhism. ʻAʻohe mea mau loa. Kulu a heleleʻi nā manaʻo e like me nā ʻale o ke kai. He mea ʻole ʻole ke ʻano o ka insurmountable i kēia manawa, e hala nō kēia.
ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke "hoʻoponopono."
ʻAʻohe ou mana. E hoʻokuʻu.
ʻAno paʻakikī ka pilikino pilikino me kēia kāleka uila. I nā manawa o ka haunaele o ka naʻau, makemake koke mākou e hoʻoponopono pilikia a hoʻoponopono paha. I kekahi manawa pono mākou e hoʻolohe a hana i kahi no ke kanikau, nalo, a ʻeha paha. Hana i kahi nona.
E ʻimi i kou leo
Mai hoʻokuʻu i kou leo, kou mau makemake, a i ʻole kou mau makemake e pohō ʻia e kāu hoa.
E nānā pono e huli i kou leo i nā manawa kānalua ʻole. ʻO kou leo he kī i ka hoʻolālā, hōʻike a me ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, a laila e lilo ʻoe i hoa maikaʻi inā hoʻohanohano ʻoe iā ia.
E noho kaʻawale i mua o kekahi
ʻO kēia kekahi kī i ka pili olakino a me nā pilina.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hilinaʻi i kāu pakanā no kou hauʻoli a i ʻole no kou olakino, kālā, a i ʻole ke olakino olakino. Pono ʻoe e aʻo e noho kaʻawale i mua o kekahi.
Lawe i ke kuleana no koʻu mau manaʻo wale nō
Pono ʻoe e lawe i ke kuleana no kou iho manaʻo.
ʻO lākou nō, a ʻo kāu wale nō. E hoʻolālā ʻoe i kou naʻau me ka naʻau ʻole i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. ʻO ka lawe ʻana i ke kuleana no kou mau manaʻo ponoʻī a me kou naʻau e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu nā mea, a ʻo nā mea ʻaʻole ou.
Palena
Pono mākou e loaʻa nā palena psychological me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e pili kokoke i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a hoʻomohala i ka pilina maoli.
Inā ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻomohala i nā palena psychological, pau mākou i ka lawe ʻana i nā ʻāpana o ka pilikino o haʻi - e like me ka hilahila, ke kūʻē, ka makaʻu, etc.
Lilo mākou i ʻāpala nona ka manaʻo e wānana ʻia ai.
Ke komo a psychologically kekahi kanaka, makemake kekahi e kau i nā palena o ke kino, e like me ka haʻalele ʻana i ka lumi a i ʻole ka haʻalele ʻana, wā. ʻO kēia ka hopena ʻē aʻe o ka mea i makemake ʻia e ka ʻē aʻe. Ke hoʻouka nei i kā mākou mau palena psychological hiki ke hana i ka huhū.
He aha kaʻu mau waiwai?
E wehewehe i kāu waiwai.
E hana i kahi papa inoa a kākau i lalo i nā mea he ʻumi i koʻikoʻi iā ʻoe.
He aha nā waiwai āu e makemake ai e ola? Manaʻo ʻoe i ka manawa ʻohana ma mua o ke kālā? Manaʻo ʻoe i ka mana ma luna o ka ʻike? He aha nā ʻano kanaka āu e mahalo a mahalo ai? ʻO wai ʻoe e hoʻopuni ai iā ʻoe iho?
E hoʻokuʻu i ka ego
Hoʻolaʻa ʻia ka hapa mua o ke ola i ka hana ʻana i kahi ego ola.
Ke hana lohi nei kahi makahiki ʻelua i kona ʻano iho, a he mea nui ka manaʻo nui o ke keiki.
ʻO ka naʻau, i ka wā makua, pono ʻoe i ke kahua o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i kāu ego, ʻaʻole paʻa iā ia.
No laila, i ka manawa aʻe e pilikia ana ʻoe i ka pilina, e hoʻomanaʻo e hiki mau i kāu mau flashcards psychological i loko o kāu ʻeke hope.
I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, e lilo nā flashcards i ʻāpana i loko o kāu pane naʻau, nā pono hana paʻa, a me ka psyche.