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- E kuhi i nā mea i hūnā ʻia i kāu pilina
- 1. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea i manaʻo ai e hemolele lākou
- 2. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea i manaʻo ai he poʻe heluhelu manaʻo lākou
- 3. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea i manaʻo ai e ʻae mau ʻoe
- 4. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea e manaʻo ai e pololei mau ana ʻoe
- 5. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea e manaʻo ai e maʻalahi kāu pilina
Loaʻa iā mākou āpau nā mea e pili ai ka pilina; he mea kūlohelohe a olakino hoʻi e hana. Kōkua ia i ka pilina e neʻe i mua i ke kuhikuhi āu e makemake ai no kāu pilina.
Akā pono ʻoe e noho ma ka ʻaoʻao like me kēlā mau mea i manaʻo ʻia.
E kuhi i nā mea i hūnā ʻia i kāu pilina
Eia naʻe, ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i kā lākou mau manaʻo pilikino a i ʻole nā moemoeā a lākou e kaʻanalike ʻole ai me kā lākou hoa a wahine paha. Ma kahi o lākou, hoʻolālā wale lākou iā lākou a manaʻo ʻole ʻole e hāʻule kā lākou hoa kāne a kāne paha i ka laina.
ʻO kēia ke hiki i nā mea e pili ana i ka pilina ke lilo i olakino. Ua kakali paha ʻoe a laila manaʻo ʻoe he ʻelua like ka manaʻo o kāu ipo a wahine paha akā ʻaʻole i kūkā kamaʻilio hou ʻia. ʻO kāu hoa kāne a pākahi paha, i ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, e kūʻē paha i kēlā manaʻo.
ʻO ka pilikia, ʻaʻole e kūkākūkā kekahi o ʻoukou aia kahi manaʻolana e kū nei. ʻO ka manaʻo ia ma kekahi manawa i ka wā e hiki mai ana ka wahine i hana ʻole i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia a me ka mea e kūʻē iā ia e waiho i kā lākou hoa.
A ʻaʻohe o lākou manaʻo no ke aha a he aha ka mea i hana ʻia a he aha ka mea e hana inā ʻo kekahi o kēlā mau mea i manaʻo ʻia he mea nui e like me ka lā e hele ʻoe e noho i ka home home o kou makuahine, a i ʻole he ʻelima mau keiki āu.
ʻO kēia kahi e hana ai i nā mea i hiki ke hoʻopōʻino i kā mākou pilina.
No laila e kōkua iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i nā mea i hūnā ʻia i kāu male a i ʻole ka pilina ma aneʻi kekahi o nā mea e pili ana i ka pilina āu e loaʻa ai a e hoʻokuʻu ʻia ana inā makemake ʻoe e ulu pono kou pilina (a i ʻole e kūkākūkā pū ana me lākou me kāu pakanā a wahine paha. ).
1. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea i manaʻo ai e hemolele lākou
E hoʻomaka kāua i kēia papa inoa me kahi mea a mākou e lawehala āpau ai - ke manaʻo nei e hemolele kā mākou mau hoa.
ʻO ka hoʻomaka o kaʻu pili mua e holo maʻalahi.
Aloha au iā ʻoe i ka waena o ke awakea. Kahaha nā lā awakea. Kakahiaka kakahiaka a me nā leka pō maikaʻi. ʻAina ʻaina pule. ʻOluʻolu māua kekahi. He hemolele loa mākou. Iaʻu, ua hemolele ʻo ia.
A hoʻoholo mākou e neʻe pū. ʻO ke kanaka hemolele āna i lilo ai i manawa maʻamau.
ʻO nā lā awakea pūʻiwa a 'aloha wau iā ʻoe' ua lilo i mea emi pinepine. Ua lawa ia e ʻōlelo, ua huhū wau no ka mea ua hoʻomau wau i ka nīnau ʻana iaʻu iho, a ʻo ia hoʻi i kekahi manawa, he aha ka mea i loli?
Ua ʻike wau ua hana hewa wau i ka manaʻo ʻana e hemolele ʻo ia i nā manawa āpau ma kēia hope aku, koʻu huhū.
Ke manaʻo nei i nā poʻe e hemolele i nā manawa āpau ke kau i ke kaumaha o kēlā mea i lana ʻia ma luna o lākou.
Ma ke ʻano he kānaka, pono kākou e hoʻomanaʻo he kanaka like kā mākou hoa me mākou. E hāʻule lākou i kekahi manawa. E nānā kīnā ʻole lākou i kekahi manawa, a no ka mea he kanaka lākou, e like me ʻoe.
2. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea i manaʻo ai he poʻe heluhelu manaʻo lākou
"Hiki i nā mea ʻelua ke hoʻopau i kekahi pilina: nā manaʻo kūpono ʻole a me ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole" - Anonymous
Ua ulu wau i loko o kahi ʻohana kahi e ʻike ai koʻu makuahine i ka mea e hana nei i koʻu manaʻo. I koʻu ʻohana, ua lōkahi loa mākou i ʻike mau lākou i kaʻu mau pono inā ʻaʻole wau e hoʻopuka i hoʻokahi huaʻōlelo. Ua ʻike wau ʻaʻole holo ia i nā pili aloha.
ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i ke akamai o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu mau pono i kāu pakanā e hoʻomaha iā ʻolua mai ka nui o nā kuhi hiki ʻole ke pale ʻia a hoʻopakele iā ʻoe mai ka nui o nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa naʻau.
3. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea i manaʻo ai e ʻae mau ʻoe
Inā ʻoe e manaʻo ana i kāu hoa e lilo i aniani hiʻohiʻona o ʻoe iho ma nā ʻano āpau, weliweli paha kāu pilina.
Ke ʻōpio a ʻōleu naʻe mākou, ʻo ka mea e ʻae ʻoe e ʻae mau i ka pilina pili i ka manawa maʻamau i loaʻa iā mākou. Ua noʻonoʻo paha mākou e kaʻawale nā pilina mai nā mea kūlike ʻole no ka mea aloha nui ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi.
I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ʻike mākou i ka pololei ʻole o kēia manaʻolana no ka mea ʻelua mau kānaka ʻokoʻa a ʻaʻole ʻae mau.
ʻO ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia, manaʻo wau ʻo kahi mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ke kali i nā kūlike ʻole.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o nā kūlike ʻole he mea ia e hoʻomanaʻo ai aia kekahi mea e pono ai ka hakakā ʻana i loko o kā ʻoukou pili; ke hana nei kāu ʻōnaehana kamaʻilio.
4. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea e manaʻo ai e pololei mau ana ʻoe
ʻO kekahi o nā mea mua āu e haʻalele ai ma waho o ka puka ma mua o ka komo ʻana i kahi pilina ʻo kāu ego ia a me ia, kou manaʻo e hele pololei ʻoe.
ʻO ka noho ʻana i kahi pilina e hana i nā hana he nui, a ʻo kahi ʻāpana o ka hana e pono ai e hana nei iā mākou iho.
Ke manaʻo nei e hele pololei ʻoe i ka manawa ʻoiaʻiʻo loa a me ka narcissistic. Ke poina nei ʻoe i kou pilina me kahi kanaka?
ʻAʻole ʻoe e pololei i nā manawa āpau, a maikaʻi kēlā. Aia i loko o kahi pilina kahi hana aʻo a ʻike iā ʻoe iho.
5. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mea e manaʻo ai e maʻalahi kāu pilina
Ke pani nei wau i kēia papa inoa me kahi hoʻomanaʻo e ʻaʻole maʻalahi nā pilina.
Poina ka hapa nui o mākou e koi nā pilina i ka hana nui. Nui loa ka poʻe o mākou e hoʻopoina i ka pili e koi i nā hua he nui.
Nui loa ka poʻe o mākou e hoʻopoina i nā pili e koi i nā kuʻikahi he nui. Manaʻo ka hapa nui o mākou e maʻalahi ka pilina, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole.
ʻO ka mea e hana ai i ka pilina pili ʻaʻole ia i ka leʻaleʻa āu i kēia mahina a me ka nui o nā lā āu i hele ai a me ka nui o nā mea nani āna i hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe; i loko o ka nui o ka hoʻāʻo āu ʻelua e hana ai i ka pili o kāu pilina.
ʻAʻole maʻalahi ke ola, a ʻaʻole maʻalahi nā pilina. Ke loaʻa nei i kekahi e pale i ka hauʻoli o ke ola, kahi mea e mahalo ai.