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- No ke aha e paʻakikī ai nā pilina?
- Nā kumu e aloha mau ai mākou
- Hoʻāʻo hou - Ke hoʻomaikaʻi nei
- Loaʻa nā mea 5 i nā pilina olakino āpau
- 1. Aloha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
- 2. E kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi
- 3. ʻOiaʻiʻo
- 4. Wehe kamaʻilio
- 5. Hoʻoholo
ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha e lohe i nā ʻōlelo e pili ana i ka paʻakikī o ka pilina ma waena o ka poʻe e hele nei i loko o kahi manawa paʻakikī e hoʻopaʻa a hakakā paha no kā lākou pili.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻae ka hapanui o mākou i ka mālama ʻana i kahi pilina maikaʻi he luʻi ia.
ʻAʻole anei he mea hoʻomakeʻaka pehea mākou e lohe ai e pili ana i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo kaumaha e pili ana i ka pili a pehea e hoʻokahe ai a ʻawahia ai naʻe e hāʻawi hou kēia mau mea like? Inā paʻakikī ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina a laila no ke aha mākou e makemake nui ai iā ia?
No ke aha e paʻakikī ai nā pilina?
Hui ʻoe i kekahi, kaomi ʻoe a aloha aku, a laila neʻe ʻoe i loko a male paha a ʻo ia kāu ʻoliʻoli mau loa - ʻaʻole!
ʻAʻole like ka pilina maoli i kēia a ʻaʻole e like me kēia ke ʻole ʻoe makemake e moeʻuhane i kou ola āpau. ʻO nā pilina maoli e pili ana i nā mea ʻokoʻa ʻelua e hāʻule nei i ke aloha a komo i kahi pilina kahi e hoʻohiki ai lāua e hauʻoli a maikaʻi aʻe i ka ulu ʻana o ka pilina. Eia nō naʻe, paʻakikī paha kēiaʻoiaʻiʻo i kekahi manawa.
No ke aha paʻakikī ka pilina? He aha inā inā ʻeha ka mea āu i koho ai e aloha ai i ka narcissism? He aha inā inā ua piha kēlā kanaka i ka insecurities a me ka lili? He aha inā ua ʻike ʻoe he wahaheʻe kēia kanaka? He aha inā ʻoe e hakakā mau me kēia kanaka?
ʻO ke kaumaha, nui nā pilina pili ʻole no ka mea ʻaʻole aloha kekahi i kekahi akā no ka mea aia kekahi mau mea, no ka nui o kou hakakā ʻana no ia - ʻaʻole e holo pono. ʻO ka nīnau nui ma aneʻi, no ke aha e paʻakikī ai ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina?
Paʻakū nā pilina ma muli o ʻolua a me kāu pakanā ʻelua mau kānaka ʻokoʻa a ʻaʻole ʻoe manaʻo like. ʻElua mau mea ʻokoʻa loa e pono e hoʻoponopono a hui me ka hapalua ala akā ʻo ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ʻaʻole kū kēia. Ke hōʻole kekahi i ka ulu a hoʻololi a i ʻole ke ʻike kekahi ʻaʻole mākaukau lākou e hana - ka hopena, ua pau ka pilina.
Nā kumu e aloha mau ai mākou
Loaʻa paha iā mākou āpau nā ʻāpana ponoʻī o nā pilina kūpono ʻole a ua haʻi paha iā mākou iho, paʻakikī nā pilina a ʻaʻole mākou e aloha hou akā laila ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hāʻule hou ana i ke aloha.
ʻAno akāʻoiaʻiʻo! I kekahi manawa, nīnau mākou iā mākou iho, paʻakikī paha ka pilina? Hoʻomaka paha kekahi poʻe e hoʻopiʻi iā lākou iho a nīnau paha inā aia kekahi mea hewa iā lākou akā pono mākou e ʻike ʻoiai inā paʻakikī nā pilina, nani nō ia. ʻO kēia ke kumu no ka mea inā he traumatic a he kaumaha paha kā mākou mau moʻolelo aloha, hāʻawi mākou i ke aloha i kahi hoʻāʻo ʻē aʻe.
Nani ke aloha a lilo ia i mea nui i ke ola. Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i kou ola me ke aloha ʻole? ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou, ʻeā? He paʻakikī nā pilina akā pono. Ua haki paha ʻoe i kou puʻuwai ma mua o kāu e noʻonoʻo ai akā no ka haʻalele ʻana i ke aloha a me nā pilina ʻaʻole ia he mea e noʻonoʻo ai. Ke aloha mau nei mākou no ka mea he mea nui ia o ke ola. Aloha hou mākou no ka mea he mea ia e ola ai mākou a no ka mea paha ʻo kekahi o kā mākou kumu i ʻaneʻi e ʻike i kā mākou aloha maoli hoʻokahi - ko mākou hoa ola.
Hoʻāʻo hou - Ke hoʻomaikaʻi nei
ʻOiai maopopo iā mākou ka paʻakikī o ka pilina, pono mākou e nīnau iā mākou iho keu hoʻi i ka wā e pili ana mākou i kahi pilina hou e pili ana i nā mea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana e hoʻomaikaʻi ai. Ke pale hou mākou i ko mākou puʻuwai a aloha aku, i kekahi manawa, makaʻala mākou i ka mea he makaʻu loa mākou i ka lilo ʻana o kēia kanaka akā ʻaʻole hou, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike pehea e noʻonoʻo ai kā mākou hoa a manaʻo paha lākou paʻakikī e mālama i kahi pilina me kēia noʻonoʻo.
No laila, pehea ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kahi pilina?
Loaʻa nā mea 5 i nā pilina olakino āpau
He paʻakikī anei nā pilina a pau e mālama?
ʻAe, he paʻakikī kēlā me kēia pilina akā inā paʻakikī e mālama, ʻaʻole hiki ʻole ia. ʻAʻole pono kou pilina e hemolele no ka mea ʻaʻohe mea e like me ia; pono ke olakino e holo pono ia. Lawe iā ia he pilikia a hōʻoia i ka loaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe kēia mau mea 5 i kahi pilina olakino.
1. Aloha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho
E like me kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei, hoʻomaka nā mea āpau me mākou a like like kēia me kā mākou pili. Ma mua o kou hiki ke aloha i kekahi kanaka, pono ʻoe e aloha iā ʻoe iho ma mua. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i kahi pilina olakino inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e aloha iā ʻoe iho. E koa e alo i kekahi manawa hou i ke aloha ma ke ʻano he kanaka ʻoi aku ka wiwo ʻole, a makua hoʻi.
2. E kūkulu i ka hilinaʻi
Ua lohe mākou i kēia i nā manawa ma mua akā he hoʻomanaʻo nui ia e hilinaʻi i kāu pilina. ʻO kahi kuhi hewa maʻamau ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kāu hoa aʻo ia nō. Eia naʻe, pono e hoʻomanaʻo kekahi e hoʻomaka nō kēia me mākou.
ʻO kahi kanaka hilinaʻi i oʻo i ka mākua e hilinaʻi maʻalahi a e kāhili i nā kānalua kūpono ʻole a me nā hopohopo ʻole.
3. ʻOiaʻiʻo
He paʻakikī nā pilina akā inā pili ʻolua i ka pilina, a laila maʻamau ka hana ma ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake i kāu kānalua e kānalua a manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe i ka maopopo āpau - hana i kēia a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kāu pilina.
4. Wehe kamaʻilio
Nani ke aloha a kūpono wale ia e hana mākou i nā mea āpau e hoʻokō pono ai. E kamaʻilio pū me kāu hoa a ʻaʻole kēia wale no ke kamaʻilio ʻana akā e pili ana i ka wehe ʻana i kou ʻuhane i kēia kanaka.
Inā makemake ʻoe i kēia kanaka i kou ola a laila hoʻomaka ma ka wehe ʻana iā ʻoe iho e pili ana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana. Manaʻo ʻole e haʻi i kou mau manaʻo, kou kānalua, a inā paha e huhū ʻoe. E hoʻomaka kēia i kahi hana maikaʻi e hoʻomaikaʻi ai ka pilina.
5. Hoʻoholo
Inā makemake ʻoe e hana i kahi pilina - hana. E nui nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o ʻolua akā e mākaukau e hana i nā mea, e hālāwai me ka hapalua a ʻoiaʻiʻo, e mahalo i ka manaʻo o kekahi. ʻO kēia ala, e manaʻo ʻolua i ka nui i ka pilina.
Paʻakikī nā pilina? ʻAe, maopopo akā ʻaʻole hiki ʻole i ka pilina olakino. Lawe i kēia i kahi hōʻaʻo e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻaʻole wale ma ke ʻano he hoa a ma ke ʻano he kanaka. Nani loa ke aloha i kou hāʻawi ʻana mai no laila mai hana. Hana ma ka pilina ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i hiki ke hoʻopau i ke ola holoʻokoʻa.