Anter
- 1. Loaʻa mau ʻoe i ka ʻalemi ma hope o ka male lōʻihi
- 2. E ʻōlelo maikaʻi i kāu kālā līkaia a i ʻole ka hapalua o ia mea
- 3. Inā mālama ʻoe i ka hale a laila hāʻawi ʻoe i kekahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi
- 4. ʻO kāu keiki kekahi mea nui pū kekahi
- 5. Hōʻalo i ka hoaaloha ʻana me kāu ex
I kēia mau lā, aia ka male male ma kona piko a ʻaʻole wale no ka hanauna ʻōpio akā no ka poʻe ʻelemākule.
Hoʻomaka ka haʻalele ʻana o ka haʻalele ʻana i ka wā kahiko ma mua o ka hala ʻana o ka manawa a ʻike ʻia kēia mau haʻalele he "hemo wahine hina." ʻO ka helu o kēia mau hemo ʻana ua aneane pālua i nā makahiki i hala.
ʻOiai ʻo ka hemo ma waena o nā kāne e like me nā hemo male ʻē aʻe, hele mai lākou me kekahi mau pilikia. Inā makemake ʻoe e like me kāu hauʻoli ma hope o ka pau ʻana, a laila i ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo nā mea ʻelima āu e pono ai e ʻike ma mua o kou koho ʻana.
1. Loaʻa mau ʻoe i ka ʻalemi ma hope o ka male lōʻihi
ʻOiai nā ʻāpana ʻōpio i nā ʻae alimony manawa e hāʻawi iā lākou i ke kākoʻo kālā e pono ai mai kā lākou hoa hana mua; Lōʻihi wale kēia alimony e kōkua iā lākou e hoʻi i ko lākou wāwae.
Akā ke iho mai i ka alimony no ka lōʻihi o ka male, he mea ʻokoʻa loa ia.
Ma ka mokuʻāina ʻo Nu Ioka, hāʻawi ka ʻaha i ke kanaka i ka ʻāpana kālā no ke ola. ʻOiai ʻokoʻa ka maʻamau no ka alimony mai kekahi mokuʻāina a i kekahi mokuʻāina, akā naʻe; ʻ claimlelo nā loea loio i ka hana a nā kāne makua i nā hana o ka hemo.
I ka wā hemo makua, inā e hana ana kekahi mau kāne, pono lāua e uku i ka alimony i kekahi ala a i ʻole kekahi.
2. E ʻōlelo maikaʻi i kāu kālā līkaia a i ʻole ka hapalua o ia mea
I ka wā o ka hemo hina, ʻaʻole ia he mea nui ka hewa a me ka hewa ʻole. Wahi a nā loio no ka haʻalele male ʻana, i ka wā o kēlā hemo ʻana, e hoʻokaʻawale like ʻia nā waiwai āpau ma waena o nā kāne a me nā kālā hoʻomaha.
No laila he aha ke ʻano o ke kālā e like me ka nui i kou mau makahiki kiʻekiʻe ʻaʻole like me ka nui i ka manawa e māhele ʻia ai i ka hapalua.
Eia nō naʻe, hāʻawi kekahi mau kāne i ka nui o ka penihana i mea e hōʻalo ai i ka uku ʻana i nā uku alimony o ka mahina. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo maikaʻi no ka wahine ʻē aʻe e ʻae i kēlā ʻaelike e ʻae iā lākou e kālepa i nā hoʻopukapuka ʻauhau ʻauhau ʻia no ka loaʻa kālā ʻauhau.
3. Inā mālama ʻoe i ka hale a laila hāʻawi ʻoe i kekahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi
Nui nā wahine e pale i ka nalowale ʻana i ko lākou noho male.
ʻAʻohe kānalua ka lilo ʻana o ka hale i mea hoʻoholo naʻau maoli, ʻo ia ka mea e ʻoi loa ai ke kālā, keu hoʻi, ke kaʻawale like ka ʻaha i nā waiwai.
Inā koho ʻoe i ka ʻohana a laila ʻaʻohe ou manaʻo i kekahi mea waiwai, akā naʻe; e like me ka ʻaha, e loaʻa ana kāu kāne i kekahi mea e like me ka hale i mea e kaulike ai nā waiwai i waho.
Hiki i kēia mea ke lilo i kuleana kuleana liʻiliʻi a i ʻole ka mahele nui o ka penihana. Ma kēlā me kēia ala, mālama maʻalahi ka hale hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi i nā uku kālā a me nā mālama kālā hoʻomaha a waiho i ke kanaka i kahi pilikia.
Hele mai nā hale me nā kuleana ʻē aʻe he nui a me nā kaʻina hana uku e like me nā lilo mālama, nā ʻauhau waiwai, a me nā kumu kūʻai ʻē aʻe.
4. ʻO kāu keiki kekahi mea nui pū kekahi
Paʻakiki ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻaʻohe mea o ke kahua.
ʻO ka pale kālā no ka hemo kiʻekiʻe ʻo ia ka ʻaʻohe pilikia o nā keiki ʻōpili e hana pū me ka hapa nui o nā kāne ʻōpio.
No ka hapa nui o ka haʻalele male, nā kauoha kipa, kākoʻo keiki, a me nā mea like ʻē aʻe i waho o ke kiʻi. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole kēia he kumu no ka noʻonoʻo ʻole ʻia o nā keiki makua i ka wā hemo.
ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻamau na nā mākua e hāʻawi i kā lākou keiki makua me ke kākoʻo kālā. I kēia manawa ʻoiai makemake paha nā keiki makua i kēia kōkua kālā e hoʻomau, akā ʻaʻole ia he mea i kākau ʻia i ka wā hemo a ke hele a ke ʻole ke keiki i ke kula a i ʻole he kīnā.
5. Hōʻalo i ka hoaaloha ʻana me kāu ex
I ka wā o ka hemo ʻana, hiki i nā manaʻo ke ma nā wahi āpau; huhū ʻoe, ʻeha, kumakaia i ka manawa like. Eia nō naʻe, ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ka poʻe loea i ka poʻe i loko o ka hemo male e noho kūlike ʻole a hoʻāʻo e mālama i ke kamaʻilio olakino maikaʻi.
He mea ʻole ia i kou mau makahiki, akā he mea nui e hoʻāʻo ʻoe e noho aloha e like me kāu hiki.
Loaʻa ka loaʻa ʻole o ka male i ka hemo hakakā. ʻO ka leʻaleʻa ʻaʻole ia he kumu e lilo ʻoe i puke wehe; kaʻana like i ka ʻike e like me kāu mau waiwai punahele, ka waiwai āu e makemake ai a i ʻole nā hoʻolālā e hiki mai ana ke hāʻawi i kāu wahine i ka lima kiʻekiʻe i ka wā o ka hemo ʻana.
E hoʻāʻo e hoʻohanohano, e noho kīwila, akā naʻe, i kahi ʻano ʻoihana.
ʻO ka hemo he hoʻoholo nui a ʻaʻole pono e lawe ʻia ma ke kumu o "makemake wau e hoʻāʻo i nā mea hou." ʻO ka hoʻolimalima ʻana ma mua o 30 mau makahiki me kekahi ʻaʻole pono e hoʻolei ʻia ma nā kumu lapuwale a liʻiliʻi.
E hōʻoia i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e hoʻoholo ai e haʻalele i ka hemo, he kumu maoli ke kumu. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi e koho no ka hoʻokaʻawale ma kahi o ka hemo keu inā ʻo ʻoe i hele i nā hanana he nui i ka wā i hala. E hoʻomanaʻo, inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kou mau pilikia i kou wā ʻōpio, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i kou mau pilikia i kou wā ʻelemakule.