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- 20 mau hōʻailona hōʻailona maka e hoʻohālike e aloha iā ʻoe
- 1. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e manaʻo iā ʻoe he mea nui
- 2. Makemake ʻo ia i kahi pilina malū
- 3. Nui loa PDA
- 4. ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻike i kou wahi i kona ola
- 5. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe i kona manawa kaʻawale
- 6. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e kamaʻilio pū e pili ana i kou mua
- 7. mahalo ʻo ia iā ʻoe a me kou manaʻo
- 8. ʻO ka pilina pilikino ka mea nui nona
- 9. Hōʻalo ʻo ia i ke kamaʻilio
- 10. Makemake wale ia inā hiki ke loaʻa iā ia kekahi mea
- 11. ʻAʻole ʻae kou ʻohana a me kou mau hoaaloha i kou pili
- 12. Hūnā ʻo ia iā ʻoe
- 13. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia iā ʻoe e launa me kona mau hoaaloha a me kona ʻohana
- 14. Loaʻa ʻole mau ʻo ia
- 15. Na ʻoe ka hewa mau
- 16. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e ulu me ʻoe
- 17. Hōʻalo ʻo ia i nā nīnau "paʻakikī"
- 18. Poina i nā lā a me nā hanana kūikawā
- 19. ʻAno luhi paha ʻo ia ke noho ʻo ia me ʻoe
- 20. Hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe
- Panina hopena
Ke pili mākou, hoʻāʻo mākou i kā mākou pono e hana i hope i ke ola holoʻokoʻa. I ka hopena, ʻimi mākou āpau i ke aloha. Ke ʻano mau o ke aloha. Makemake mākou āpau i ko mākou pili i kēia manawa e lilo i "mau loa."
ʻO kekahi o nā mea kaumaha loa o ke ola ke haki ʻoe me ke kanaka āu e aloha ai, akā ua ʻike anei ʻoe aia kekahi mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kēia?
Ke noho nei ia i kahi pilina kahi e hoʻohālikelike ai kāu hoa aloha iā ʻoe.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i loko o kahi pilina, a hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i ka hōʻike ʻana o kāu hoapili i nā hōʻailona ke hoʻohālike ʻo ia e aloha iā ʻoe?
20 mau hōʻailona hōʻailona maka e hoʻohālike e aloha iā ʻoe
Hiki i nā ʻōuli he nui e makaʻala, a hohonu i loko, ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻōpū e manaʻo like ʻole me ke ʻano o ke kanaka āu e aloha ai.
No laila, eia nā ʻōuli hāmama he 20 e hōʻike ana i kāna aloha iā ʻoe.
1. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e manaʻo iā ʻoe he mea nui
ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hana i nā hoʻoikaika āpau e kāhea iā ia, e hoʻolālā e hele i nā lā, a noi iā ia e noho manawa me ʻoe?
Hana ʻoluʻolu paha kāu ipo e pili ana i kāna hana, kāna nohona hana, a me kāna mau hoʻolālā no ka wā e hiki mai ana, a noi iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo no ke aha ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻolilo manawa no ʻoe?
ʻO ke kumu wale nō ia o kāna mau makana ʻē aʻe.
2. Makemake ʻo ia i kahi pilina malū
Nīnau aku paha kāu ipo iā ʻoe e mālama pilikino i kou pilina? Nīnau ʻo ia iā ʻoe ʻaʻole e kau i kekahi mea e pili ana i kāu pilina ma ka pāpili kaiaulu?
ʻO ke kumu paha ia ʻaʻole mākaukau kāu ipo no ka hoʻokō, a i ʻole ʻaʻole maopopo iā ia e pili ana iā ʻoe. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi, ke hūnā nei ʻo ia iā ʻoe.
3. Nui loa PDA
ʻIke paha ʻoe e hōʻike wale ana kāu ipo iā ʻoe i kona aloha ke noho ʻoe i ka lehulehu? Hoʻololi paha ia i kona ʻano ke ʻoe hoʻokahi me ia?
Inā hoʻomaka ʻo ia e nānā ʻole iā ʻoe inā ʻoe wale nō a ʻoluʻolu a aloha wale paha i ka wā e ākea ana ʻoe, a laila ʻo kēia kekahi o nā hōʻailona āna e hoʻohālike ai e aloha iā ʻoe.
4. ʻAʻole ʻoe ʻike i kou wahi i kona ola
Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kēia noʻonoʻo e ʻike ʻole i kou wahi i kona ola?
Hoʻomaka ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe i kekahi o kāna hoʻolālā e hiki mai ana. ʻAʻole hoʻāʻo kāu ipo kāne e hoʻoikaika i kou manaʻo a me kou mau manaʻo i kāu pili.
5. ʻAʻole ʻo ia e noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe i kona manawa kaʻawale
Ke ʻike nei ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e kali ana i kāu ipo kāne e launa aku iā ʻoe? Kamaʻilio mau ʻoe a kāhea paha iā ia ma mua?
Nīnau pinepine kāu ipo iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo iā ia i nā manawa āpau āu e noi ai iā ia e kamaʻilio pū me ʻoe? Inā ʻoe e kali no kou manawa no ka mea ʻoi aku kāna hana me nā mea ʻē aʻe, no laila ʻaʻole ia ma kāna papa inoa kiʻekiʻe loa.
6. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e kamaʻilio pū e pili ana i kou mua
ʻO ke aloha aloha i ka pilina e hōʻike lohi. Hōʻoluʻolu paha kāu ipo ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e kūkākūkā i nā kumuhana e pili ana i kou wā e hiki mai ana. Hoaʻo paha ʻo ia e hōʻalo i ke kumuhana a hoʻohuli iā ia?
ʻO ka mea hope loa, e hoʻāʻo ʻo ia e hōʻalo i ke kumuhana a i ʻole e haʻi iā ʻoe ʻaʻole e hoʻolālā mua i ʻole ai ʻoe e hoʻohoka.
7. mahalo ʻo ia iā ʻoe a me kou manaʻo
ʻAʻole e mau ke aloha hoʻomeamea no ka mea ʻaʻohe ona kumu o ka mahalo.
Inā ʻaʻole mahalo kāu ipo iā ʻoe a me kou mau manaʻo, a laila ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona āna e hoʻohālike ai e aloha iā ʻoe. E ʻike ʻoe pehea e hoʻolohe ai akā hoʻolohe ʻole i kāu mau manaʻo a me kāu mau manaʻo. E ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e mahalo ʻia i kāu pilina.
E hoʻāʻo hoʻi: Ke mahalo nei kaʻu kāne iaʻu i ka pāʻina
8. ʻO ka pilina pilikino ka mea nui nona
Inā kuhi wale ʻoe e aloha i kekahi, hiki iā ia ke hōʻike inā kau wale ʻoe i ka pili kino.
Hōʻike wale kāu ipo i kona ʻaoʻao ʻoluʻolu ke makemake ʻo ia i ka pili kino? Ma waho aʻe o kēlā, ʻano lōʻihi a hoihoi ʻole paha ia iā ʻoe.
Inā ʻo kēia ka hihia, a laila ke hana nei ʻo ia i ka pilina.
9. Hōʻalo ʻo ia i ke kamaʻilio
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona maopopo ke hoʻohālikelike ʻia e aloha iā ʻoe ke alo ʻo ia i ka kamaʻilio.
No laila, inā hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i ka makemake ʻole o kāu ipo ke kamaʻilio ʻo ia iā ʻoe a hoʻohālike wale paha e hoʻolohe, a laila pono ʻoe e alo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Eia kekahi, ke nīnau ʻole kāu ipo iā ʻoe a nīnau paha iā ʻoe, a laila hoʻokahi wale nō mea - ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo i kāu pili.
10. Makemake wale ia inā hiki ke loaʻa iā ia kekahi mea
ʻO kekahi o nā ala ʻehaʻeha loa e ʻike ai ʻaʻole ʻo ia i aloha iā ʻoe ke hui pū ʻoe ʻo ia ke aloha aloha ke makemake ʻo ia i kekahi mea mai iā ʻoe.
ʻAe, he ʻano maʻamau kēia o kekahi e hoʻomeamea wale ana he aloha ʻo ia.
He moekolohe paha ia, kālā, pili, a i ʻole nānā - hōʻike wale ʻo ia iā ʻoe aloha ʻo ia iā ʻoe ke pono ʻo ia i kēia mau mea.
Ma hope lilo ʻole a mamao aku paha ke loaʻa iā ia ka mea e pono ai.
E nānā i kēia wikiō kahi a Kev Hick e wehewehe ai pehea e lawelawe ai i ka launa pū ʻana me ke kāne ʻino a no ke aha e pono ʻole ai iā ʻoe e makuahine iā ia:
11. ʻAʻole ʻae kou ʻohana a me kou mau hoaaloha i kou pili
Inā ʻoe e ʻike i kou ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha e hōʻole ana i kāu ipo o kēia manawa, maliʻi paha ua hiki i ka manawa e hoʻolohe ai iā lākou. ʻIke lākou ke poʻo hou ʻoe i ke kuʻekuʻe wāwae i ke aloha a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe noʻonoʻo i kāu mau hoʻoholo.
ʻOiai aia kekahi mau manawa e hana ai ka poʻe i kēia no kā lākou iho kumu ponoʻī, ʻo ka hapanui o ka poʻe kokoke iā ʻoe e makemake ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea e hana nei.
12. Hūnā ʻo ia iā ʻoe
I kekahi ala a i ʻole ʻē aʻe, e ʻike ʻoe inā e hūnā kahi kāne iā ʻoe.
Ua kūʻai paha ʻo ia i kahi waiwai hou me ka ʻike ʻole? Ua haʻalele anei ʻo ia mai kāna hana a ʻaʻole i hoʻopilikia i ka haʻi ʻana aku iā ʻoe? Ua hui ʻo ia me kāna ex e inu kope a ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hopohopo e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kāu mea e manaʻo ai?
Maliʻa he wahi huna iki a mea nunui paha ia- e wahaheʻe wale ana iā ʻoe ʻo ia ke hilinaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe a makemake ʻole ʻoe e ʻike ʻoe i kāna hana.
13. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia iā ʻoe e launa me kona mau hoaaloha a me kona ʻohana
Hana hewa paha kāu ipo ke nīnau ʻoe e pili ana i ka hui ʻana me kāna mau hoaaloha a ʻohana paha?
Ua noʻonoʻo ʻo ia i nā kumu ʻaʻole ia ka manawa kūpono, a i ʻole makemake ʻo ia e pili pilikino me ʻoe?
ʻO kēia wale nō ke hōʻike nei ua hōʻike ʻo ia i nā hōʻailona hōʻike iā ia ke aloha iā ʻoe a ʻaʻole hoihoi i ka neʻe ʻana me ʻoe.
14. Loaʻa ʻole mau ʻo ia
Aia i loko o kahi pilina kahi mea e hilinaʻi ai, akā pehea inā ʻaʻole ma laila kāu ipo ke pono ʻoe iā ia?
ʻAʻole hiki iā ia a loaʻa mau nā kala i nā manawa a pau āu e makemake ai iā ia - inā he pilikia ia.
15. Na ʻoe ka hewa mau
ʻO ke kuhi hewa ʻole i ka pilina ka mea maʻamau. Hiki iā ia ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ulu pū, akā pehea inā ʻo ʻoe wale nō ka mea e hewa ai nā mea āpau?
ʻAʻole ʻāpono iki kāu ipo i nā hewa a makemake ʻo ia e hoʻopaʻapaʻa no ka mea hewa ma mua o ka ʻōlelo e kala mai.
He hōʻailona kēia o ka manipulative a me kahi kanaka i hiki ke loaʻa i ke kukui uila.
16. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia e ulu me ʻoe
ʻO ka mea aloha iā ʻoe e ʻaʻa aku iā ʻoe e ulu a lilo i kanaka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
Inā ʻaʻole paipai kāu hoa kāne iā ʻoe a hoʻoponopono iā ʻoe, pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻelua e pili ana iā ia.
ʻO ke kāne nānā ʻole iā ʻoe a i kou ulu pilikino ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo me kāna mau manaʻo iā ʻoe.
17. Hōʻalo ʻo ia i nā nīnau "paʻakikī"
Ua huhū paha kāu ipo ke hoʻāʻo ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāu pilikia ma ke ʻano he kāne ʻelua? Hōʻalo paha ʻo ia i ke kamaʻilio hohonu ʻana me ʻoe?
ʻO nā kāne e hoʻohālike wale nei e aloha iā ʻoe e hōʻalo i nā nīnau paʻakikī e hoʻokau iā lākou ma ka noho wela.
ʻAʻole ia e hele wāwae e pili ana i ke kūpaʻa, hālāwai ʻana me ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha, e neʻe ana i mua i kāu pili, a me ka pili aloha ʻana me ʻoe.
18. Poina i nā lā a me nā hanana kūikawā
I kekahi manawa, maʻamau ka nalo ʻana i nā manawa nui a i ʻole nā lā, akā inā ʻaʻole hoʻomanaʻo kāu ipo i hoʻokahi o lākou, a laila e noʻonoʻo i kēia.
No ka nui o kāu hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā ala e hoʻomanaʻo ai i nā hanana a i nā lā nui paha. Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻaʻole hōʻike iki kāu ipo kāne ua kala ʻo ia a hili wale iā ʻoe, no laila ʻaʻole ia e mālama i kou huhū.
19. ʻAno luhi paha ʻo ia ke noho ʻo ia me ʻoe
Ke aloha ʻoe, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kali e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa me kāu hoa.
He aha inā e hoʻomaka ʻoe e ʻike i ka mamao loa o kāu ipo kāne, huhū, a luʻuluʻu pū ke hui pū ʻoe? E makemake paha ʻo ia e pāʻani i nā pāʻani pūnaewele ma mua o ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i ka manawa maikaʻi me ʻoe?
ʻO ia kekahi o nā ʻike ʻehaʻeha loa a mākou e pono ai ke alo.
20. Hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe
Mai nīnau iā ʻoe iho, “No ke aha mai ʻo ia i aloha ai iaʻu inā e hoʻopunipuni wale ia iaʻu?
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e nānā i nā hōʻailona ʻē aʻe e hoʻohālike ʻo ia e aloha iā ʻoe inā ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe. ʻO kēia ka mauʻu hope loa a me kahi maopopo loa āu e pono ai e hoʻokuʻu i kēia kanaka.
Panina hopena
ʻO ke aloha he manaʻo nani. Hoʻoikaika ia iā ʻoe, pua, a ʻoiaʻiʻo, hauʻoli.
Akā e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia; ʻaʻole pili kou hauʻoli i kekahi kanaka.
No laila, i kēlā me kēia hanana, inā ʻoe e ʻike i nā ʻōuli ke hoʻohālike ʻo ia iā ʻoe e aloha iā ʻoe, a laila ua hiki paha i ka manawa e nānā hou i kāu hoʻoholo o ke aloha iā ia.
Mai hoʻonā i kahi kanaka ʻike ʻole i kāu waiwai. Mai ʻae i kahi kāne i mahalo ʻole iā ʻoe a i ʻike ʻole i kou nani a me kāu mea nui e loaʻa ai kahi wahi i kou ola.
Inā ʻoe i kēia kūlana, e hoʻomanaʻo e pono ʻoe i ka ʻoi aku.