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- Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
- 1. Nā mākau kamaʻilio kūpono ʻole
- 2. ʻAʻohe hoʻopaʻapaʻa hana hou a olakino hoʻi
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ka wā e hiki mai ana
- 4. Noho kaʻawale ʻoe
- 5. ʻAʻohe moe kolohe a aloha aloha hou paha i ka male
- 6. ʻIke ʻoe i ka maluhia ʻole i ka male
- 7. ʻAʻole ʻoe pili hou i kekahi
Inā pili kou pilina me kāu wahine i ka wai choppy e heluhelu ai. E aʻo pehea e ʻike ai i nā hōʻailona o ka male hauʻoli ʻole. E aʻo pehea e hoʻoholo ai i ka hoʻoholo kūpono loa i ka maikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli o nā hoa ʻelua i ka pilina.
Inā hōʻike kāu male i kekahi o kēia mau hōʻailona maikaʻi ʻole i ka manawa e lawe i nā mea, ʻike i nā hae ʻulaʻula a nānā paʻakikī i ka male. E hoʻāʻo e ʻike i nā mea e pono ai e hoʻololi a hoʻopaʻa ʻia i loko o ka male ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e noho a i ʻole hele i nā ala kaʻawale.
ʻO ke aloha ke kumu pono, ke kumu moe a me ke kahua o ka male. ʻAʻohe makemake i ka mare aloha ʻole a hauʻoli ʻole.
Akā inā ʻaʻole hauʻoli ʻoe a hauʻoli hoʻi i kāu male ʻana, ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. "ʻO 60 wale nō pākēneka o ka poʻe e hauʻoli i kā lākou mau ʻuniona" e like me ka National Opinion Research Center.
He paʻakikī paha e haʻi inā aia ʻoe i loko o ka male hauʻoli ʻole, keu hoʻi inā he lōʻihi loa kou pili ʻana. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo me ka leo nui aia ʻoe i loko o ka mare aloha ʻole a hauʻoli ʻole, aia kekahi mau hōʻailona e hōʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka male he aloha ʻole a hauʻoli ʻole ia.
Paipai ʻia - Mālama i kaʻu papa male
Ma lalo iho nei kekahi o nā hōʻailona aia ʻoe i loko o ka male aloha ʻole a hauʻoli ʻole
1. Nā mākau kamaʻilio kūpono ʻole
ʻO ka nele o ke kamaʻilio ākea kekahi o nā hōʻailona nui o ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
E like me ke kamaʻilio ʻana ke ola loa o ka pilina olakino, ʻo ka hemahema o ia mea he olakino ka pilina. ʻAʻole ʻoe e kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi he alo a he alo inā ʻoe e puni ana kekahi i kekahi. Makemake ʻoe e hoʻohana i nā hōʻailona a me nā huaʻōlelo ma kahi o ka kamaʻilio waha.
He mau hōʻailona kēia e hakakā nei ka kamaʻilio.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio kūpono i kahi male hauʻoli ʻole. ʻO ka manaʻo ʻaʻohe āu mea e ʻōlelo hou aku ai i kāu hoa. Ke piʻi aʻe kekahi mea i ke ola, inā he hopena ia, hanana a hanana paha a ʻaʻole kāu hoa ka mea mua āu e kaʻana like nei. Aia kekahi hewa i ka pilina.
Pehea e mālama ai i kāu male inā piha me nā pilikia kamaʻilio male?
E hoʻonā i nā pilikia kamaʻilio ma ka male, ke ʻimi ʻana i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka male ʻana a i ʻole ke kiʻi ʻana i kahi papa male pūnaewele kūpono i ka manaʻo maikaʻi. Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka ʻōlelo aʻo male kūpono e hoʻihoʻi i ka hauʻoli a me ke aloha i ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
2. ʻAʻohe hoʻopaʻapaʻa hana hou a olakino hoʻi
Inā ʻoe i haʻalele i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana me kāu hoa, akā manaʻo ʻoi aku ka mamao ma mua o ka manawa, he hōʻailona ia aia ʻoe i loko o ka male aloha ʻole a hauʻoli ʻole. ʻO nā hakakā ke alakaʻi i ka nui o ke aloha inā hana nā kāne i ka hakakā a hana e hoʻoponopono i ka pilina. Akā ʻo ka hamū e like me kēia ke lilo i hōʻailona o ka male hauʻoli ʻole i hoʻopiha ʻia me ka ukiuki.
I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, aia kekahi mau ukiuki i hiki ai ke alakaʻi i nā paio i kāu pili akā inā i hoʻoholo ʻia i kēia mau mea hiki ke hoʻoikaika i ka pilina.
Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana i ke kōkua ʻana e hoʻohuli i kāu hoa pili e pili ana i ka nohona āna i koho ai e ola, a laila ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona maopopo loa aia ʻoe i loko o ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe e ʻike i ka wā e hiki mai ana
He aha ka maikaʻi o ka male inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi wā e hiki mai ana? Aia nā hoa male i loko ona no ka maikaʻi, a ke ʻike nei i kahi wā e hiki mai ana me kahi wā e hiki mai ana me ka nui o ka hauʻoli a me ka manaʻolana. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e nānā i kahi lā e hiki mai ana, aia kahi ʻaʻohe aloha i kāu male.
Eia kekahi, inā ʻike pinepine ʻoe i ka wā e hiki mai hauʻoli me ka ʻole o kāu pakanā, ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona surefire o ka male hauʻoli ʻole a ʻaʻole kūpono nā mea i ka male. Hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hōʻoia iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole ʻoe e mālama hou i mea e hōʻeha ai ka ʻeha loa.
Eia kekahi, inā ʻoe e ʻike i ke ola me ka ʻole o kāu hoa a laila ʻo ia ka manaʻo ua puka mua kahi wāwae i waho o ka puka a ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻokau piha i ka male.
4. Noho kaʻawale ʻoe
ʻAʻole ʻoe e noho kāne hou. Noho kaʻawale ʻoe, a māʻona ʻolua i kēlā ʻano ola.
Inā pili ʻoe i loko o ka male hauʻoli akā ʻaʻole hiki ke haʻalele, koho ʻoe e hana i nā mea iā ʻoe iho me ka nīnau ʻole ʻana i kāu hoa. Ma ke ʻano he hōʻailona o ka male hauʻoli ʻole, ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻolua a ʻaʻole makemake e hāʻawi i ka poʻohiwi i kekahi.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e nīnau aku i kāu hoapili e pili ana i kona manaʻo e pili ana i nā hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi. Ke male, lawe kāu hoa i ke kuleana o kou hoa a me kou kākāʻōlelo i nā hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi. Inā ʻaʻole lākou i kēlā kuleana, maopopo leʻa ka nele o ka hauʻoli i loko o ka male a e hakakā ana ʻolua i kahi pili hauʻoli.
5. ʻAʻohe moe kolohe a aloha aloha hou paha i ka male
ʻO kahi hōʻailona hōʻailona o ka male hauʻoli ʻole, ʻaʻole ʻoe e moekolohe me kāu hoa. Inā he moekolohe kāu ʻelua a ke moekolohe nei ʻoe ma lalo o 10 mau manawa i ka makahiki, he hōʻailona ia o ka male hauʻoli hauʻoli ʻole.
Ke hōʻike ʻole ʻoe i kou aloha i kāu hoa e like me ka honi ʻana, ka pūliki ʻana, ka pelo ʻana, he hōʻailona nui ia o ka pilina hauʻoli.
ʻO ka nele o ka pilina a me ka hōʻike kino o ke aloha i mau hōʻailona haʻi moʻolelo no ka male hauʻoli ʻole a me kekahi o nā hōʻailona e haʻalele ʻoe.
6. ʻIke ʻoe i ka maluhia ʻole i ka male
Ke manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe kahi e kū ai ʻoe a i kāu kuleana i loko o ka male. Ke hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ʻoe, kānalua ʻole, a hopohopo paha e pili ana i kahi e hele ai ka male, hiki i kēia ke hōʻailona maopopo o ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
ʻO nā insecurities a me nā makaʻu, inā ʻaʻole hoʻokumu a maoli paha nā hōʻailona o ka male hauʻoli ʻole. He kāne hauʻoli ʻole kahi kāne a wahine paha e hakakā ana e ʻike i kahi pane i ka nīnau, pehea e ola ai i ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
ʻO ka insecurities a me ke kānalua nā mea nui ʻelua i ka male e ulu i ka wikiwiki inā ʻoe e ʻae iā lākou a hiki i kahi hopena ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole i loko o ka male.
7. ʻAʻole ʻoe pili hou i kekahi
ʻO ka manawa a ʻolua e pili pū ana akā ʻaʻole pū pū, he hōʻailona maopopo ia no ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
Hiki iā ʻoe ke noho i ka lumi like, akā ke heluhelu nei kekahi o ʻoe a ke hana nei kekahi o ʻoe ma ka kamepiula.
ʻAʻole ʻoe pili i kekahi i kekahi inā moe pū ʻoe i ka moena hoʻokahi.
I kekahi manawa, hoʻomaka ka poʻe hoa he miliona mile ke kaʻawale ʻoiai ke noho ʻelua kapuaʻi ka mamao mai kekahi me kekahi.
He hōʻailona kēia mau mea a pau i ka pilikia o kāu male ʻana.
Inā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e launa pū pū, ʻo ʻolua pū kekahi, akā ke hana nei ʻoe i kāu mea ponoʻī, he hōʻailona kēlā ʻaʻole pili ʻoe i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ka nalowale ʻana i kahi ʻano pilina me kāu kāne ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona kiʻekiʻe o ka male hauʻoli ʻole.
No laila, ke noi nei i ka nīnau, he aha ka mea e hana ai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe hauʻoli i kāu male ʻana?
He makaʻu ka haʻalele ʻana i ka male akā ma ka manawa like e hoʻomau nei i kahi male hauʻoli ʻole e lilo i ka maikaʻi o ka naʻau, ka noʻonoʻo a me ka noʻonoʻo o nā hoa ʻelua i ka male hauʻoli ʻole. Hiki i kahi hui ʻoluʻolu ke hoʻi hou mai ka hemo ʻana akā ke huki nei i ka pilina ma luna o ka mea i pilikia me nā hopena hakakā i ka waiho ʻana i nā poʻe me ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa a me ke kaumaha.
E kāhea i ka hoʻokolokolo kūpono e pili ana i ke koho ʻana e noho male ʻole ʻole, a i ʻole ke nānā ʻana pehea e haʻalele ai i kahi male hauʻoli ʻole. Ke ʻike koke ʻoe i nā lepa ʻulaʻula o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole, a ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e ʻōlelo ana, "e hiolo ana kaʻu male", pono ʻoe e ʻimi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka male a i ʻole ka hoʻōla male e hoʻonā ai i ka hakakā male ma kāu pilina, a lawe i ke ala kūpono o hana - hoʻokaʻawale a hui hou paha.