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- 1. Nā hakakā a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau
- 2. Ka nele o ka hilinaʻi a me ke kamaʻilio kūpono
- 3. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e like me ka mea nui a i ʻole he hoa like i ka pilina
- 4. Kūpono ʻoe i ka hoʻohewa a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ma ka lima o kāu hoa
- 5. Hoʻohuoi, lili a me ka pāʻani pāʻani
- 6. ʻAʻole makemake kou mau hoaaloha a ʻohana i kāu hoa
- 7. ʻIke ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e noʻonoʻo nei i nā manawa maikaʻi
ʻO ka pilina e pili ana i ka aloha, ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka paʻa me kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe.
Inā pili ʻoe i ka pilina e hōʻike ʻole iā ʻoe i kekahi o kēia mau mea, aia ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO kahi pilina e nīnau iā ʻoe i kāu mau koho, ʻaʻole lawe i ke aloha ʻelua a manaʻo ʻole ʻoe i makemake ʻole hiki ke kapa ʻia he pilina ʻawahia.
ʻAʻohe mea e noho i kahi pilina a male paha o kēia ʻano no ka mea ʻo ia mau pilina ke hopena pinepine i nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole kahi e alakaʻi ai i ka wāwahi ʻana o ka wahine akā loaʻa paha kahi maʻi i ka olakino a me ke olakino olakino o ka hoa pili.
Hoʻokumu pinepine nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole i ka hopohopo, kaumaha a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ʻoe iho i kekahi o nā hoa, ʻo ka maʻamau ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia, a hoʻolilo iā lākou i nā pilikia hilinaʻi nui i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Kakaikahi o nā hōʻailona maʻamau o ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole i ʻōlelo ʻia ma lalo. Inā pili ʻoe i kekahi o kēia, ʻo ka manawa ʻoe e kamaʻilio ai me kāu hoa e pili ana i kāu hopohopo a i ʻole hoʻopau wale iā ia ma mua o ka hopena weliweli.
1. Nā hakakā a me nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa mau
ʻOiai manaʻo ʻia kekahi mau hakakā ʻana he olakino no kahi pilina, inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hakakā mau ana a hoʻopaʻapaʻa pū me kāu hoa, aia kahi manawa nui i ka nalowale ʻana o kāu pilina i ka leʻaleʻa i paʻa mua ʻia.
Kū pinepine ke kuhi hewa ma waena o nā kāne akā he mea kōkua ke kamaʻilio ʻana iā lākou. Eia nō naʻe, inā koho ʻole nā kāne a pili i kekahi i kekahi, e hoʻonui wale nā hakakā a hoʻonui i ke koʻikoʻi hou i kāu pilina.
2. Ka nele o ka hilinaʻi a me ke kamaʻilio kūpono
ʻO ke kumu o kekahi pilina olakino i ʻōlelo ʻia he ʻoiaʻiʻo a hilinaʻi hoʻi.
ʻO ka pilina pili i nā hoa i hilinaʻi ʻole ʻole i kekahi i kekahi ua like ia me ka pilikia o ka kamaʻilio ʻana, ka pili a me nā pilikia pili.
ʻO ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole ma waena o nā hoa ʻelua kahi kumu maikaʻi loa no ka hoʻokele pilina i ka make. ʻO ka huhū, nā ukiuki a me nā kuhi hewa ʻole e hoʻomau i ke kūkulu ʻana a hiki paha ke hoʻopili i ko lākou pilina pili kino.
3. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e like me ka mea nui a i ʻole he hoa like i ka pilina
Inā mālama nui ʻole kāu pakanā iā ʻoe a ʻaʻole kākoʻo iā ʻoe, hana paha ia iā ʻoe me he mea lā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e waiwai iā ʻoe a i ʻole nā mea i ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ʻoe i ko lākou ola.
He mea kēia e hoʻopili ai i ka manaʻo pilikino a me ka waiwai o kekahi kanaka. Pēlā nō, he kaulike kaulike ʻole o ka mana i loko o ka hale a i ʻole ka hoʻoholo ʻana he hae ʻulaʻula hoʻi ia o kahi pilina maikaʻi ʻole kahi e paʻa ai ka mana o kāu hoa a manaʻo ʻia ʻoe e hoʻokō.
4. Kūpono ʻoe i ka hoʻohewa a me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ma ka lima o kāu hoa
ʻO ka bashing a hōʻino paha i kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe i kahi pilikino a i ʻole ka lehulehu he hōʻailona nui ia e mahalo ʻole ai kēlā kanaka i kā lākou hoa. Ke hana nei i nā mea hoʻomākeʻaka a i ʻole nā ʻōlelo hōʻino ʻole i hala e pili ana i ka makemake o kāu pakanā e hoʻohoka iā ʻoe i ka maka o nā mea āpau.
Inā hōʻino a hoʻohaʻahaʻa paha kāu hoa iā ʻoe i kēlā me kēia manawa a lākou e loaʻa ai, he hōʻailona maopopo ia e haʻalele koke ʻoe i kēia pilina ʻona.
5. Hoʻohuoi, lili a me ka pāʻani pāʻani
Ahalihali ka pilina maikaʻi ʻole i hoʻokahi hoa insecure e makemake ana e kaupalena i ka pilina o kā lākou wahine me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
Nānā pinepine lākou i nā hana a kā lākou hoa, ka poʻe a lākou e launa pū ai e ʻike i kahi manawa kūpono e hōʻino iā lākou no ka hōʻino ʻana i ko lākou pilina. Makemake pinepine kēlā poʻe e mālama i kā lākou hoapili iā lākou iho i mea ʻaʻohe ona kākoʻo i koe a waiho wale ʻia lākou i ka manawa e haʻalele iā lākou.
6. ʻAʻole makemake kou mau hoaaloha a ʻohana i kāu hoa
ʻO ka mea maʻamau ke makapō pinepine ʻia mākou e ke aloha ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ka ʻaoʻao maikaʻi o kā mākou hoa.
I kēlā mau manawa, ʻo ko mākou mau hoaaloha a me ko mākou ʻohana ka mea maʻamau i loaʻa ʻole iā lākou kahi maikaʻi.
ʻOiai ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kou manaʻo a me kou puʻuwai, he mea nui ia e noʻonoʻo i nā hopohopo o kāu hoaaloha a me kou ʻohana no ka mea mālama nui lākou iā ʻoe a makemake ʻole i kekahi mea e hōʻeha iā ʻoe.
7. ʻIke ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e noʻonoʻo nei i nā manawa maikaʻi
ʻO ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i nā manawa i hala aku nei ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona maikaʻi keu hoʻi a puni ʻoe i ke kaumaha a me ka hewa.
Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e noʻonoʻo ana i kāu wā i hala, e haʻohaʻo ana i ka hopena o kāu pilina i kahi pae kahi e nalowale ai ke aloha āpau a ʻike iki ʻole ʻoe i kahi wā e hiki mai ana me kāu hoa, he hōʻailona maopopo kēia aia kou pili ma kahi o ka hiolo a pono ʻoe e hoʻopau iā ia ma mua o nā hopena weliweli.
ʻAʻole pono e koi ʻia kekahi e noho i kahi pilina hauʻoli, olakino ʻole.
Pono mākou āpau e noho a hoʻopuni iā mākou iho me ka poʻe a mākou e aloha ai a mālama lākou iā mākou. ʻO ka pilina maʻa mau ke hoʻohaunaele mau i ke ola o nā mea āpau e pili ana. No laila, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻopau ʻana iā ia ʻoiai ʻaʻohe mea i ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ke olakino a me ke olakino o kekahi.