Anter
- 1. ʻAʻole kāu kāne kāu makahiapo mua
- 2. manipulative / hōʻino kāu hoa
- 3. Kuhi hewa ʻole a me nā manaʻo wahaheʻe
- 4. Hoʻoipo
ʻO ka matrimony hemolele kahi pilina paʻa ma waena o nā mea ʻelua kahi i hui pū ʻia ai a hui ʻia i hoʻokahi kanaka; hōʻailona ia i ka huakaʻi o ke ola holoʻokoʻa kahi e nakinaki pū ʻia ai nā hoa ʻelua no ka mau loa ma waena o ka mānoanoa a lahilahi a i ʻole ka maʻi a i ʻole ke olakino maikaʻi. me kahi hoʻohiki e noho mau ma kēlā me kēia ʻaoʻao a ʻoiai he mea paʻakikī ka hopena.
I nā huaʻōlelo mīkini, he ʻaelike ʻaelike hao e ʻae ai i ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine i hōʻoia ʻia e ke Kānāwai ponoʻī, akā i kāna ʻano ʻuhane, hoʻohui ia i ʻelua hapa o ka ʻuhane like e hoʻopiha iā ia, no laila ka huaʻōlelo ʻuhane.
ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kahi male kūpono he mea laha ʻole
ʻOiai nani ka manaʻo o ka male ponoʻī i kona ʻano akua, eia naʻe, noho mākou i kahi honua kīnā ʻole, a ʻano laha ʻole ka mālama ʻana i kahi male kūpono.
Hoʻopaʻa pinepine ʻia ka poʻe i loko o ka male kaumaha a me kahi hoa kolohe a i ʻole kino kino paha, a i ʻole e omo ʻia lākou i loko o kahi male i hoʻonohonoho ʻole ʻia ma waena o nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua, malia paha he wahi kūkā kamaʻilio nui ma waena o nā kāne ʻelua a i ʻole he nui loa. hoʻopilikia i nā ikaika e hoʻohaunaele i ka pilina.
ʻAʻole maikaʻi nā male ma ke ola maoli, a ma kēia ʻatikala, e hele mākou i kekahi o nā hanana ākea loa o ka male maikaʻi ʻole i maʻa mau.
1. ʻAʻole kāu kāne kāu makahiapo mua
ʻO kou mau hoaaloha, pili ʻohana, a me kou mau mākua he mea nui ia i kou ola; he mea nui lākou i ka hoʻomohala ʻana iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he kanaka, a aloha lākou iā ʻoe a mālama mua ʻia ʻoe ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana o kāu wahine.
ʻAʻohe ʻaiʻē āu ʻaiʻē iā lākou i kou aloha a me kou kūpaʻa, akā pono i kēia mau poʻe like e hoʻomaopopo he pono lākou e noho i hope i ka wā e pili ana i kāu wahine.
I loko o kā mākou kaiāulu manaʻo mākou he ʻōlelo mākou i kekahi ola pilikino a haʻi ʻē aʻe e haʻi ana iā lākou pehea e ola ai i ko lākou ola; He kuhi wale kēia, a pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo i kā mākou palena kaiaulu.
Inā ʻoe hana nui i ka hoʻolohe ʻana i ka mea a kou mau hoahānau e ʻōlelo ai e pili ana i kāu wahine / kāne a i ʻole ke hoʻokau mua nei ʻoe i kou mau mākua, kou hoahānau, a me kou mau hoahānau ma mua o kāu wahine a laila ʻaʻohe ou pilina kūpono me kāu wahine.
He mea ʻole ka hana mua a kāu wahine / kāne! Inā ʻaʻole lākou, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka i ka nīnau ʻana iā ʻoe iho a me kāu wahine a me kahi e kū ai kāu male. ʻO kēia kūpono ma aneʻi kahi hōʻailona ʻino, a ʻike pinepine ʻoe iā ia i loko o kā mākou kaiāulu.
2. manipulative / hōʻino kāu hoa
E noʻonoʻo pono e pili ana i kēia a hoʻomanaʻo i ka manawa hope āu i kamaʻilio aku ai i kāu wahine me ka ʻoluʻolu e loaʻa mai kahi pane huhū passive-agresive i kau ʻia e ia.
E ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole kēia ka manawa mua i loaʻa ai iā ʻoe kahi ʻano ʻano like, hana ʻia kēia ma kahi maʻamau.
E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā manawa āpau āu i ʻimi ai i ke kākoʻo a kaʻana like paha i kahi hopena hoihoi me kāu wahine, akā hoʻokau paha lākou iā ʻoe no ka ʻehaʻeha a hoʻokuʻi loa paha iā ʻoe i lalo e ka hāpai ʻana i kāu nūhou maikaʻi he mea nui ʻole.
Aia ma hea kahi hoa ʻona ʻino i loko e inaina ʻole iā ʻoe iā ʻoe a i ʻole inaina iā lākou iho i kahi pae hohonu.
Kuʻi paha kāu kāne iā ʻoe a laila kuleana ʻoe iā ia?
Hoʻopiʻiʻo ia iā ʻoe no ko lākou mākaukau ʻole a hoʻohālikelike iā ʻoe me he mea lā ʻaʻohe mea hiki ʻole? Ke nānā ʻino nei lākou iā ʻoe a i ʻole ka hoʻohewahewa ʻana iā ʻoe no ka mea ʻo ʻoe wale nō?
Inā pēlā, a laila maopopo leʻa ʻaʻole hauʻoli ʻoe i ka liʻiliʻi, ke ʻū nei ʻoe i kēia concoction manaʻo a me ka noʻonoʻo i kapa ʻia he male. Maluhiluhi ʻoe hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i wahine kēia. Hoʻomaopopo i ka hapanui o nā wahine i ka huhū ʻoiai koho pinepine nā kāne no ka huhū kino.
3. Kuhi hewa ʻole a me nā manaʻo wahaheʻe
Kūkulu ʻia kāu male ma luna o nā hopohopo, nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, a me nā manaʻo pōʻino?
Inā paha i loaʻa i kāu kāne kahi leka uila, a ʻoiai e kamaʻilio pū ana me ʻoe, pane malū ʻo ia a komo i ke kamaʻilio hou ʻana. Kuhi ʻoe me he mea lā e kamaʻilio pū ana ʻo ia me kekahi mea kūikawā ma kāna kelepona, a ʻaʻohe ona aloha iā ʻoe; I kēia manawa ʻike he kuhi wale kēlā, ʻaʻole ka hopena ʻoiaʻiʻo ua kākau wale ʻo ia iā "I Love You" i kona makuahine.
He aha inā ʻoe e ʻike i kāu wahine e kamaʻilio pū ana me kāna kāne kāne a manaʻo ʻoe he hoʻopono ʻole ʻo ia iā ʻoe, ʻoiai ʻo ia e nīnau wale nei no nā faila hihia o ka lā ʻapōpō.
ʻAʻole ʻolua e kamaʻilio a hāmau i ka inaina, ʻeha, a me ka kānalua i kekahi i kekahi, ua hoʻopunipuni ʻia ʻoe a kumakaia ʻia a hoʻokaʻawale hou iā ʻoe iho a hāʻawi paha kekahi i kekahi i ka poʻohiwi anuanu, a i ʻole hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ʻoe iā ʻoe i ka wahine i kekahi mea a lākou i hana ʻole ai. hana.
ʻO kēia wale nō ke ana i ka mamao ma waena o ʻoe a hohonu a haʻalele iā ʻoe ʻelua a huikau, a hoʻopau paha i kāu male.
E ʻoluʻolu e hilinaʻi a mahalo i kāu mau hoa a kamaʻilio i nā kānalua a i ʻole nā pilikia i loaʻa iā ʻoe; hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi manawa e hana ai ma luna o lākou.
4. Hoʻoipo
Hiki i kēia hae ʻulaʻula nui ke hele i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua; ʻo ka hoʻopunipuni ʻaʻole ia he kino wale nō, akā he naʻau pū kekahi.
Inā paha he hoaaloha hana maikaʻi kou ma kou keʻena, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua akā hoʻokokoke aku iā ia; Hele aku ʻoe i waho no kahi kofe a kamaʻilio kūkā maikaʻi, a ʻo ia wale nō kāu e noʻonoʻo ai ʻoiai ʻoe me kāu kāne.
Ma hope o ka nui o ka manawa e lilo i kāu leʻaleʻa punahele kēia, a hoʻopau iki ʻoe i ka manawa me kāu kāne.
ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻopunipuni kino ʻana i kāu wahine, akā ma kahi pālākiō ʻano ʻoe, a he ʻehaʻeha ia no kāu kāne / wahine.
E hoʻopaʻa iā ʻoe iho i ke kola a nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ka mea e hana nei; no ka hauʻoli ʻole paha ʻoe i kēia male a i ʻole kekahi ʻano e pili ana i kāu wahine e hoʻokuke iā ʻoe mai o lākou aku?
Hoʻopili ʻana
Mai waiho i kēia i kahi manawa ke ʻike ʻoe he pilikia i loko o paradaiso. Hana pū like i ka hao ʻana i nā hakakā o ka male, inā ʻike ʻoe i kēia mau māwae i kāu pilina.