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- He aha ke ʻano o ka male olakino
- 1. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa lākou i ka ʻae pono pilikino
- 2. Lawe lākou i ke kuleana piha no ko lākou naʻau ponoʻī
- 3. Hoʻonohonoho a mālama lākou i nā palena olakino
- 4. Hana lākou i nā hakakā me he kime
- 5. Leʻaleʻa pū lākou
- 6. Kākoʻo lākou kekahi i kekahi
- 7. ʻAʻole lākou i kuhi i ka manaʻo o kā lākou hoa
- 8. ʻO ia ka manaʻo ke ʻōlelo lākou e kala mai
- 9. Manaʻo lākou me he mea lā ʻo kā lākou hoa pili ka upena palekana
- 10. Ke ulu pono nei ko lākou ola moekolohe
- 11. Poha ka hale o lākou me ka ikaika maoli
- 12. ʻAʻole lākou e paʻa i ka huhū
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā maikaʻi ke olakino a me ka ʻole o kāu male? ʻO kēia kahi nīnau e kūpono e nānā i loko, keu hoʻi inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo ana ma kēlā mau laina.
E like me ka mea maikaʻi e hele i kahi nānā kino kino mau me kāu kauka, no laila maikaʻi pū ka nānā ʻana i ke olakino pilina mai kēlā manawa a kēia manawa e hoʻoholo inā kūpono i ka male maikaʻi.
Pīhoihoi paha ʻoe a pīhoihoi paha i kou lohe ʻana i ke ʻano o kou kaomi koko a me nā heluhelu kolesterol, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe i manaʻo he hewa kekahi.
Pēlā nō, ke nānā pono ʻoe i kou olakino male, aia paha ʻoe i kekahi mau mea pūʻiwa.
He aha ke ʻano o ka male olakino
Nui nā mea e loaʻa ai kahi male hauʻoli a olakino hoʻi.
Aia ka mea huna i ka nohona pili olakino a me ka hana aloha ʻole.
Ma ka lawe ʻana i kahi nānā o nā hōʻailona o ka male hauʻoli, hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kahi hoʻokolohua kūlike i kou olakino male, hoʻopakele i kāu male ʻana mai nā ʻano hana e pōloli iā ia mai ka hauʻoli, a hāʻawi i ka pilina i ka mana noho.
Inā ma ke ʻano he wā lōʻihi ʻoe ma loko o kahi male, pono ʻoe e hana i kahi hōʻoia male me nā nīnau e like me, "he aha ka mea e maikaʻi ai ka male?" "He mau hōʻailona paha ko ka pilina maikaʻi?"
ʻO nā hōʻailona aʻe o ka male olakino e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manaʻo inā ʻoe e hauʻoli i ka male ikaika a ʻaʻole paha.
1. Hoʻomaʻamaʻa lākou i ka ʻae pono pilikino
ʻO ka hana mua i ke kāne a wahine maikaʻi e ʻae iā ʻoe iho. ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona nui o ka male maikaʻi ke kanu ʻana i ka ʻae ponoʻī pilikino.
Ke hoʻopaʻa ʻoe i ka mahalo a me ka ʻapo ʻana iā ʻoe iho me kāu ikaika a me nā nāwaliwali, he hōʻailona male maikaʻi loa ia. ʻO ia pū ka mea e ola ai ka male olakino, e like me ka ʻae ʻana iā ʻoe iho e hoʻomaikaʻi i kā mākou pili.
ʻO ke kumu, pono ʻoe i kahi pilina maikaʻi me ʻoe iho, ma mua o ka hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo e loaʻa kahi pilina maikaʻi me haʻi.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hele kēia no nā pilina āpau, akā ʻoi aku i ka male. Inā huhū ʻoe e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a ke manaʻo nei ʻoe e hālāwai kāu wahine me kāu pono āpau a me ka manaʻo pilikino, ke kau nei kēia i kahi ukana kūpono ʻole a kūpono ʻole i kāu wahine.
Ma hope a ma hope e hoʻohoka ʻia ʻoe a laila e hōʻeha ʻoe. Ke ʻae ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e like me ʻoe, ma ke ʻano he hana i ka holomua, ʻo kou hoʻoikaika e hāʻawi ma mua o ka loaʻa, e aloha a kōkua, ma mua o ka makemake a me ka pono.
ʻO ka mea kupaianaha me kēlā ʻano āu e hoʻopau mau ai i ka hoʻopōmaikaʻi ʻia, ma mua o kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai.
2. Lawe lākou i ke kuleana piha no ko lākou naʻau ponoʻī
He mea nui ka manaʻo nui i ko mākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā. Pākuʻi lākou i ke kala i kā mākou pili - nā kala ʻālohilohi a me nā ʻōuli, maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole hoʻi.
ʻO ke ala olakino e ʻike ai i ka naʻau i ka male ʻana ke kuleana piha o nā hoa ʻelua no kā lāua mau manaʻo ponoʻī, me ka ʻole o ka hōʻino ʻana i kekahi i kekahi, a me ke koi ʻana i kā lāua pakanā e hoʻokō i ko lākou manaʻo pono.
ʻO ka hōʻino ka hana punahele a nā mea hōʻino e ʻōlelo pinepine nei "Ua hoʻokau ʻoe iaʻu e hana ..." He mea weliweli ka nānā ʻole ʻana i nā manaʻo a hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā lākou ma mua o ke alo ʻana iā lākou a hana pū me lākou ma ke ākea.
ʻO nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o ka hale ilalo o ko mākou naʻau ʻaʻole e nalo kilokilo - piʻo lākou a hiki i ka hopena o nā "pahū" i kumu e kaumaha ai ka ʻehaʻeha, a i kekahi manawa no nā makahiki e hiki mai ana.
Hoʻāʻo ka poʻe i nā ʻano mea like ʻole e pale aku i ko lākou naʻau maikaʻi ʻole, e alakaʻi pinepine nei i nā mea hōʻalo a me nā koi. I ka male olakino, hōʻike ākea ʻia me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole nā manaʻo, a i ka wā e hiki ai.
ʻO kekahi o nā hōʻailona e paʻa ai kāu male ka prevalence o ke kamaʻilio hāmama, ʻoiaʻiʻo a maopopo ʻole i kāu pili.
3. Hoʻonohonoho a mālama lākou i nā palena olakino
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o nā palena paʻa a mālama pono ʻia kekahi hōʻailona o ka maikaʻi o ka male male.
ʻO ka hana mua i nā palena olakino ke ʻike nei i kāu mau palena.
He ʻokoʻa kēia no kēlā me kēia kanaka a i ka male ʻana, pono i kēlā me kēia wahine e ʻike i kā lākou mau palena ponoʻī, a me kā lākou mau kaʻana like me nā kāne.
Uhi kēia i kēlā me kēia wahi mai ke kālā a i kahi pilikino, kaʻai a me nā waiwai. Pono e haʻi maopopo loa i nā palena i ka mea e pili ana, a i ka wā e hōʻeha ai nā hewa, na ʻoe e hana i nā hana kūpono.
ʻO kahi laʻana, inā hōʻaiʻē ʻoe i kālā i kekahi, e ʻōlelo ana makemake ʻoe e hoʻi i loko o hoʻokahi mahina, inā ʻaʻole pēlā, ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole e hōʻaiʻē hou i kēlā kanaka.
4. Hana lākou i nā hakakā me he kime
ʻAe, hiki ke loaʻa nā hakakā maikaʻi! Inā ʻōlelo kekahi, "ʻaʻohe a mākou hakakā."
I kēlā hihia, aia kekahi ʻae āpau āpau a i ʻole hoʻokahi hoa e pili pono a hoʻolohe i ka mea nui. ʻAʻole hiki ke pale ʻia ka hakakā inā hoʻoholo ʻokoʻa nā kānaka ʻokoʻa a kaʻawale hoʻi e noho i ko lākou ola ma kahi kokoke a me ka pilina.
Kū ka hakakā olakino ke kamaʻilio ʻia nā pilikia, me ka ʻole e hōʻeha i ke kanaka a me ke ʻano o kāu mea i aloha ai.
I nā hakakā maikaʻi, aia ka nānā i ka hana ʻana i ka pilikia a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i ka pilina.
ʻAʻole ia no ka lanakila ʻana i ka paio a i ʻole nā helu ʻai. E pili ana i ka lanakila ʻana i kahi ālaina i hiki iā ʻoe ke ulu kokoke loa kekahi i kekahi ma mua o kou mua.
ʻO ka hōʻailona maikaʻi loa o ka pilina olakino kou hiki ke hiki i kahi ʻelua e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia ma ke ʻano he kime.
ʻIke paha ʻoe i kahi kūlana ʻokoʻa, akā ke ʻike ʻoe a lohe i ka manaʻo o kāu hoa, ʻae ʻoe e hele i kēlā mile keu a hui i ka honua waena.
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5. Leʻaleʻa pū lākou
He olakino ka male ʻana ke hiki iā ʻoe ke leʻaleʻa pū a nānā ʻoe i mua me ka wahine me kāu wahine a hana i nā mea āu e leʻaleʻa ai.
I kekahi manawa hiki i ke ola male ke lilo i hana nui a piha i ke koʻikoʻi a me ke kūpikipiki i nalowale ke ʻano o ka leʻaleʻa.
He pohō kaumaha kēia, a pono e hana i nā hana āpau e loaʻa hou ai kekahi o nā pāʻani a me nā leʻaleʻa puʻuwai māmā āu i hauʻoli ai i ka hoʻomaka o kāu pili.
E kau inoa no kahi papa a hele pū paha i ka heʻe ʻana i ka hau, a e nānā pū i kahi hoʻomākeʻaka pū, a lawe mai i kahi leʻaleʻa olakino i kāu male.
6. Kākoʻo lākou kekahi i kekahi
He aha ka mea e hana i ka male nui?
I ka male olakino, kākoʻo ʻia kahi kāne e kahi hoa e hoʻolohe, mahalo, kaʻana like, a hana i ka kamaʻilio hāmama a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Hōʻike lākou i ka makemake e hoʻokūkū a hāmama i nā loiloi kūpono.
I ka male olakino, hauʻoli a palekana pū kekahi me kā lāua wahine.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi kākoʻo kākoʻo maikaʻi i kāu male he mea nui ia i kahi pilina olakino. Ke lilo ka kāne a me ka wahine i insular a hoʻokaʻawale ʻia i ka nui o kā lākou pili ma waho, he hōʻailona maikaʻi ʻole ia.
ʻAno ʻike mau ʻia nā pilina hōʻino e ka kaʻawale. Hoʻokaʻawale ka mea hoʻomāinoino i kāna wahine a manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻohe ona "hele aku".
I loko o ka male olakino, hauʻoli nā hoa ʻelua i nā launa aloha like ʻole me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, inā he ʻohana paha, nā lālā o ka hale pule a i ʻole nā hoa hana a me nā hoa aloha.
7. ʻAʻole lākou i kuhi i ka manaʻo o kā lākou hoa
E hōʻole i ka lele ʻana i nā hopena a i ʻole ka loaʻa ʻana o ka manaʻo i manaʻo mua ʻia e pili ana i ka manaʻo a me ka manaʻo o kāu hoa.
E hoʻomaka i ka nīnau e nīnau e pili ana i ke kūlana, e hoʻopili i nā ʻaoʻao āpau a mai manaʻo i ka hoʻomanawanui ʻana o kāu hoa me ka hoʻolohe ʻole iā lākou me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo.
Ma ke ʻano he kāne, e nānā i ka pōʻaiapili o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma ka lima, mai noho a hana i nā kahaha nui.
8. ʻO ia ka manaʻo ke ʻōlelo lākou e kala mai
Hiki i nā kāne makua ke hoʻomaopopo i kā lākou kuleana i ka ʻeha a kā lākou hoa.
ʻAʻole lākou i hoʻāʻo i ka hapalua i ka hoʻāo ʻana e kala aku me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "E kala mai iaʻu, ua like ʻoe me kēlā."
Hōʻike kā lākou noi i ke aloha a me ke aloha no kā lākou hoa, hōʻike ia i ko lākou minamina i nā hana hewa a hōʻike e mākaukau lākou e hana i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā meaʻino.
Lawe lākou i nā ala kūpono e hōʻole ʻole ai ia.
9. Manaʻo lākou me he mea lā ʻo kā lākou hoa pili ka upena palekana
Kiola ke ola i nā curveball i nā manawa āpau. ʻO kekahi o nā pōmaikaʻi nui loa o ka male olakino ke hele nei i ka ʻoluʻolu o ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi ma laila e nānā i kou kua.
I nā male olakino, nā pahuhopu kūleʻa e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i ka ukana ma mua o ka hoʻohui ʻana iā ia. ʻAʻole maikaʻi kāu male ma kahi maikaʻi, inā hoʻohui kāu kāne āpau i kāu mau ʻeha a hoʻopilikia paha i kahi kūlana paʻakikī na ʻolua.
Hoʻakaʻaka lākou i kā lākou pakanā i nā pilikia nui, a nānā i kahi kūlana paʻakikī mai nā aniani i hoʻoluli ʻia o kahi aniani hoʻonui, e hoʻolahalaha i kona nui.
I loko o kahi pilina hauʻoli, hiki i nā hoa i ka ʻae like o ka hiki ʻana i kahi hopena i kahi pilikia a hoʻonāukiuki ʻole ia. ʻAʻole lākou i lawe i kā lākou hoa no ka hāʻawi ʻole a hāʻawi i ka palekana i ka naʻau i kā lākou wahine.
10. Ke ulu pono nei ko lākou ola moekolohe
ʻAʻole kēia he lolo. He mea nui ka moekolohe, cathartic a leʻaleʻa - kēia mau mea āpau a keu aku ke ʻoliʻoli nei ka wahine i ka male olakino olakino.
ʻAʻole mākou e ʻōlelo i ka moekolohe ka mea āpau, a i ʻole ua hoʻonui ʻia. Akā, ʻo ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana i ka moekolohe ma ka male ʻana ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o kahi male olakino.
Inā ʻae nā hoa ʻelua i ka male ʻole male ʻole, ʻaʻole ia he kāhea o ka hopohopo, akā, inā huhū kekahi o nā hoa me ka pili ʻole o ka pilina ma ka male, hiki iā ia ke ʻai i ka ikaika o ka male a hiki i ke alakaʻi. i ka hoʻomaloka.
Hoʻoulu ka moekolohe i ka pilina a ʻo ia ka hana pilikino pili loa, hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu pakanā ke ʻike e pili.
11. Poha ka hale o lākou me ka ikaika maoli
ʻO ka hale olakino e hū mau me ka ikehu. Aia mau kahi buzz me kahi kamaʻilio maikaʻi a i ʻole kahi banter leʻaleʻa e hana i mua a hoʻi.
Loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ala e hoʻohui ai me kāu wahine ma nā kumuhana he nui. Hāʻawi ʻoe i ka puʻuwai leʻaleʻa i nā kamaʻilio puʻuwai, a aia kahi ikaika o ka pilina a me ka vivacity.
ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻo kahi hale hāmau me ka male male ʻole kahi pilina ʻino. Inā hōʻino ka hamū make i kāu male, e ʻimi i kahi ala e hoʻopili ai i kāu mea nui ʻē aʻe.
E nīnau i nā nīnau, e launa pū me nā pilikia kumuhana, nā wā hoʻomaha, nā keiki, nā pilikia o kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole hoʻololi i kahi loiloi ma kahi kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, inā makemake ʻoe e hoʻomālamalama. Eia kekahi mau mea hoʻomaka kamaʻilio no nā kāne a hoʻi e pili hou.
12. ʻAʻole lākou e paʻa i ka huhū
Hoʻokahi mea i hoʻokaʻawale i kahi male olakino mai kahi male maikaʻi ʻole ka hiki i ka male ke hoʻokuʻu i nā pilikia nui.
ʻAʻole pili wale nā hewa a me nā hakakā i kēlā me kēia male. He par ia no ka papa, akā he mea nui like ʻole e hoʻokuʻu i ka huhū huhū.
E hōʻole i ka hoʻohilahila ʻana i kāu hoa no kā lākou nānā ʻana a e hōʻike i kāu mau hana i kou aloha a me kou ʻike. ʻO ka hiki ke haʻalele i nā lawehala i hala ka hōʻailona o kahi kāne makua.
Mai lilo i mea hōʻiliʻili hōʻino a i ʻole ka hopu lima mana. Hana nā kāne kūleʻa i kā lākou ʻokoʻa a neʻe i mua me nā haʻawina i aʻo ʻia.
Hoʻolālā nā kāne olakino olakino i kahi kamaʻilio noʻonoʻo kahi a lākou e hōʻike ai i kā lākou pilikia, kahi ʻōlelo hoʻoholo e hōʻalo ʻole ai i ke kuhihewa, e ʻae i ke kala ʻana, a hoʻokuʻu, e hoʻomau i ka noho ʻana i kēia manawa.
Inā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole kēia mau hōʻailona ikaika o ka male olakino i kahi nui i kāu pilina, e ʻoluʻolu mai nānā ʻole i nā lepa ʻulaʻula āu e ʻike ai a mai hoʻokaʻulua e ʻimi i ke kōkua ʻoihana.
Inā ʻaʻole maopopo ʻoe inā ʻoe e kōkua a kōkua paha, makemake paha ʻoe e ʻimi i ka pūnaewele no kahi hulina olakino male e hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe i nā manaʻo hou aʻe. Loaʻa ke kōkua, a ʻaʻohe pono e hoʻonā no ka mea liʻiliʻi ke hiki iā ʻoe ke loaʻa ka ʻoi loa.