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- E hoʻomanaʻo, ke hele nei ʻoe ma luna o nā huamoa
- 1. He mea nui nā ʻoiaʻiʻo a pono e kaʻanalike
- 2. ʻokoʻa nā mea mai nā manaʻo, no laila hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o lākou
- 3. Mai pume, e kahe ke kamaʻilio ʻana
- 4. E hoʻomanaʻo ʻo kā lākou pili kēia
- 5. E ʻike pono iā ʻoe iho e ʻike inā pili iā ʻoe
Ua ʻike ka hapa nui o mākou i kahi mea a mākou e aloha ai, ko mākou hoahānau, hoa aloha, a hoa hana punahele paha, e haʻi ana iā lākou ua hui lākou me kekahi a ʻike lākou, ʻike wale lākou, ʻo kēia ka "hoʻokahi".
Ke kani a leo ʻole paha ka "mea", a i ʻole hana i kahi pass iā mākou, ke hoʻomanaʻo mākou i ke kumu o ka kamaʻilio ʻana o ke kaikamahine "hemolele" (no ka mea ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia i kekahi hoa ʻē aʻe) a i ka manawa i huli ai kāna "aloha maoli" e lilo i ke kāne nāna i hoʻomāinoino i kahi hoa hana, he aha kā mākou e hana hou ai?
ʻAʻole paha mākou makemake i ke kanaka ke hui mākou me lākou a noʻonoʻo mākou pehea e noʻonoʻo ai ka mea a mākou e manaʻo nui ai i kahi dud a i ʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.
E hoʻomanaʻo, ke hele nei ʻoe ma luna o nā huamoa
He mea nui e noʻonoʻo pono e pili ana i ke kumu o kāu mau hopena a me pehea e hoʻokele ai iā lākou, e hoʻomaka me ka ʻike aia ʻoe i kahi kūlana lanakila ʻole.
Ke holo kiʻekiʻe nei kekahi ma luna o nā kemikili o ke aloha, ʻaʻole wale lākou e piliwi iā ʻoe akā e huli kūʻē iā ʻoe.
Eia kekahi mau mea nui e noʻonoʻo pono ai.
1. He mea nui nā ʻoiaʻiʻo a pono e kaʻanalike
Inā he ʻike maoli kāu e hoʻomāinoino nei kekahi, he hoʻopunipuni, a i ʻole inā manaʻo ʻoe he mea hoʻoweliweli maoli paha ia i ke olakino a olakino o kāu hoaaloha, he mea nui e ʻōlelo.
Akā e hana me ke akahele, a hāʻawi i nā ʻike me ka ʻole o ka wehewehe ʻana a i ʻole ka loiloi ʻana i ka mea āu i manaʻo ai. No ka pehea ʻoe e ʻōlelo ai, hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i ka launa aloha, akā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻōlelo i kekahi mea, e hoʻi mai paha lākou iā ʻoe ma hope, e nīnau ana "Pehea ʻoe i haʻi ʻole mai ai iaʻu?"
He kūpono ʻole nō hoʻi ke kaʻana like ʻole i ka ʻikepili me kekahi inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike e hele mai lākou e hōʻino.
E ʻōlelo paha ʻoe i kahi mea e hōʻoia ai i ko lākou mau manaʻo a laila nīnau i kāu mea e hana ai. Eia kekahi laʻana, "makemake nui wau i kāu kōkua no ka mea ʻaʻole wau ʻike i ka mea e hana ai. Nui koʻu hauʻoli hauʻoli ʻoe. ʻIke wau aloha nui ʻoe e pili ana iā ia a makemake wau e kākoʻo iā ʻoe.
ʻO ia wale nō ua ʻike koʻu kaikuahine i ke kaikamahine hope āna i aloha ai a ʻōlelo i kekahi mau mea e pili ana iā ia e makemake ai e makaʻala iā ʻoe; Hopohopo wau e pilikia ana paha ʻoe. ” A laila kali e ʻike pehea ka pane a kāu hoaaloha.
2. ʻokoʻa nā mea mai nā manaʻo, no laila hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o lākou
ʻIke paha ia he smug, leo nui, a i ʻole he nerd āu e manaʻo ai ma lalo o ka hoa āu e koho ai. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake iā lākou no ka mea e ʻānai hewa ana kekahi mea e pili ana iā lākou akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kikoʻī, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kēia kamaʻilio ʻana me ka ʻole e hōʻino ana i ka launa aloha.
Ua wikiwiki paha ʻoe e hoʻokolokolo i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i lilo i mau hoa aloha āu i aʻo ai e waiwai a aloha hoʻi; ʻo ka hoʻopaʻi mua ʻaʻole ia ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
He manawa maikaʻi kēia e ʻike ai i nā mea āu e makemake ai e pili ana i ka hoa hou, nā mea hōʻeha ʻole iā ʻoe.
E hoʻomanaʻo, hiki iā mākou ke paʻa i ka "hōʻoia hōʻoia" ke hana mākou i kahi hoʻoholo e pili ana i kekahi a laila hana nā mea āpau a lākou e hōʻoia ai i kā mākou hoʻokolokolo kaulike.
Kūlele ko mākou manaʻo hāmama a hoʻomau mākou i ke koho ʻana i nā mea e hōʻoia iā mākou iho ua pololei mākou. E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka noho hoihoi ʻana e pili ana i kāu hoʻokolokolo ma mua o ka ʻimi ʻana i nā ala e pololei ai.
3. Mai pume, e kahe ke kamaʻilio ʻana
Inā ʻike ʻoe i ka manaʻo o kāu hoaaloha ʻelua, mai kāomi i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, e kakali wale i ka wehe ʻana o hoʻokahi.
Inā hiki mai ia a kaʻana like lākou i ko lākou kānalua, mai pīhoihoi nui a hoʻolei ʻole i kāu mau hoʻokolokolo e pili ana iā lākou no ka mea e kipaku paha kēia iā lākou e pale aku i kā lākou ipo. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, inā lele ʻoe i loko a hoʻomaka e hoʻāʻo e ʻike i kāu manaʻo, kū ʻoe i ka palekana a pani lākou.
Eia nō naʻe, inā ʻike lākou iā ʻoe ma laila no lākou, maluhia paha lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā lākou hopohopo.
ʻOiai ʻo ia, hele lohi. "Inā pēlā kou manaʻo, ua noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe e kali iki aʻe ma mua o ka hana ʻana?" e hele mai ma mua o ka maikaʻi loa ma mua o "ʻAʻole au i manaʻo he manaʻo maikaʻi e hoʻomau me ka pilina. ʻAʻole wau makemake iā ia. ”
4. E hoʻomanaʻo ʻo kā lākou pili kēia
Ma ke ʻano he kākāʻōlelo male lōʻihi a me ke kumu aʻo aloha, hiki iaʻu ke haʻi iā ʻoe ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike i ka mea e hana nei ma waena o ʻelua mau kānaka a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ka moʻolelo holoʻokoʻa.
ʻO kekahi mea nānā ʻole ʻole e lilo i hoa maikaʻi loa hiki iā mākou ke noʻonoʻo no kā mākou hoaaloha, ʻoiai ʻo kekahi mea e ʻoluʻolu loa e lilo i narcissistic a maikaʻi loa i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ka mea nui loa kā lākou koho ia, a inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake i ke koho, e hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe makemake ʻoe iā lākou. No laila, e hilinaʻi iā lākou e ʻike i ka mea kūpono no lākou.
5. E ʻike pono iā ʻoe iho e ʻike inā pili iā ʻoe
ʻO kāu mau hopena pinepine ia; e pili ana iā ʻoe ma mua o nā ʻike pololei o haʻi.
Ua lohe ka hapa nui o mākou hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i nā aniani i loko o haʻi a i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole mākou makemake i ka poʻe ke hoʻomanaʻo lākou iā mākou i kēlā ʻāpana o mākou ke manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole nei mākou.
Malia paha he hoʻokolokolo loa lākou, huhū, a nele paha; nā mea āu e makemake ʻole ai e pili ana iā ʻoe iho. E lawe i kāu hoʻoholo i kahi ʻanuʻu ma mua o ka hilinaʻi ʻana i kāna ʻoiaʻiʻo a nīnau i nā mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻomaka ai ka pilina i loko ou e pili iki paha me kēlā kanaka.
ʻO ka mea nui, e hāmama nā laina o ke kamaʻilio.
Inā ʻoe e hāmama a hōʻike ʻoiaʻiʻo i kou ʻōpū, he kanaka palekana ʻoe na kāu hoaaloha e hele mai ke hele hewa nā mea. Inā ʻoe e hāmama a hōʻoia ʻole kāu mau instincts i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe i kou ola e aloha ai.
E hōʻalo nō hoʻi ʻoe i ka nalo ʻana o kahi hoaaloha no ka mea ua manaʻo ʻoe ua ʻike ʻoi aku ʻoe i ka mea a lākou e aloha ai.