Anter
No nā poʻe he nui, nā hopena pili kālā o ka male ʻana e pili ana i ka helu hope loa o ka noʻonoʻo ke hoʻoholo ʻia e hoʻopaʻa i nā kaula.
Ke aloha ʻoe, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e "helu i nā kumukūʻai" o nā nuptial e hiki mai ana. Hiki iā mākou ke kākoʻo iā mākou iho? Pehea e pili ana i ka ʻinikua, nā kumukūʻai olakino, a me nā lilo o kahi hale nui?
ʻOiai he koʻikoʻi kēia mau nīnau, ʻaʻole mākou e ʻae iā lākou e hoʻokele i ke kamaʻilio holoʻokoʻa. Akā mākou e. Pono mākou.
ʻO ka ke kālā maikaʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o ka male ʻana ma hope o ke ola hiki ke lilo i mea nui. ʻOiai ʻaʻohe o kēia mau maikaʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o ka male ʻana he "mau mea maopopo" a i ʻole "nā mea hōʻoki hana," pono e nānā pono ʻia a kaupaona ʻia.
ʻImi mākou i kekahi o nā pōmaikaʻi kālā koʻikoʻi a me nā maikaʻi ʻole o ka male ʻana ma hope o ke ola ma lalo. Ke nānā nei ʻoe i kēia papa inoa, e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa.
E nīnau kekahi i kekahi, "E hoʻopilikia a hoʻomaikaʻi paha kā mākou kūlana kālā pilikino i kā mākou mau mea e hiki mai ana?" A, pili, "E ʻimi paha i ka ʻōlelo aʻo a kekahi mea i hoʻoneʻe ʻia mai ko mākou kūlana a me kā mākou ʻike ʻohana?"
Na Pros
- "Laina lalo" ʻoihana kālā ʻoi aku ke olakino.
No ka hapanui o nā kāne, ʻo ka loaʻa kūpono o ka male ʻana ma hope o ke ola kahi loaʻa kālā.
ʻOi aku ka loaʻa kālā i hui ʻia ma mua o ka mea e manaʻo ai i nā wā mua i ke ola.
Pōmaikaʻi pinepine nā kāne ʻelemakule mai kahi "finale ola" olakino olakino olakino. ʻO ka loaʻa kālā kiʻekiʻe ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi no ka huakaʻi, hoʻopukapuka, a me nā hoʻolilo pono ʻē aʻe.
ʻO nā hale he nui, nā paʻa ʻāina, a me nā mea like e kākoʻo pū i ka laina kālā ma lalo. He aha ka mea e nalowale, pololei?
- He upena palekana ikaika no nā wā wī
Makemake nā kāne makua i ka waiwai o kā lākou waiwai. Mai nā waihona kumuwaiwai a i nā ʻona waiwai paʻa, pōmaikaʻi pinepine lākou mai ka nui o nā waiwai kālā i hiki ke hoʻolako i kahi ʻupena palekana ikaika no ka wā wī.
ʻO kēia mau waiwai āpau, ma lalo o nā kūlana kūpono, hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia a hoʻoili ʻia.
Me kēia pōmaikaʻi o ka male ʻana ma hope o ke ola, hiki i kekahi ke male i kahi hoa, ʻike e hiki i kā mākou kahawai loaʻa ke hāʻawi iā ia i ke kūpaʻa inā kū mākou i kahi make.
- Hoa no ke kūkā kamaʻilio kālā
He lima maikaʻi ko kēlā me kēia kanaka kau i kā lākou loaʻa kālā a me nā lilo. Hoʻopili ʻia i kahi ʻano paʻa o ka hoʻokele kālā, ʻike lākou i ka mālama ʻana i kā lākou kālā ma ke ʻano kumu.
ʻO ke ʻano o ke aʻo ʻana i ka hoʻokele kālā kūpaʻa kālā no ka male. ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka ʻoi loa o kāu ʻike kālā a me kāu ʻano me kahi hoa e lanakila lanakila paha.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoa e kūkākūkā pū me kahi mea nui o nā pilikia kālā he waiwai maikaʻi loa paha ia.
- Kūʻokoʻa kūʻokoʻa nā hoa ʻelua
Hele pū kekahi mau kāne ʻelemakule i ka male me ka ʻike "uku i kā lākou ala." Maopopo i nā koina no ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻohana, ʻaʻole paha pili lākou i ka loaʻa kālā a kā lākou hoa ke hele lākou i ka male.
Hiki i kēia kūʻokoʻa kālā ke hōʻike i ke kuʻikahi i ka wā maikaʻi a hoʻomaka pū lāua i ko lāua ola male. ʻO ke ʻano kahiko ʻo "kāna, ʻo ia, naʻu" i nā waihona panakō a me nā waiwai ʻē aʻe e hoʻohanohano i ke kūʻokoʻa a ke hana nei hoʻi i kahi ʻano nani o ka pilina.
ʻO Cons
- Hoʻohuoi kālā
Manaʻoʻiʻo paha ʻaʻole paha, kolo paha ke kānalua kālā i ka psyche o kahi poʻe e hāʻawi nei i kahi hui male hope i ke kī ʻana. I ko mākou mau makahiki, mālama mākou i nā kiaʻi a me nā waiwai.
I ka loaʻa ʻole o kekahi ʻano o ka hōʻike piha me kā mākou mau hoa, hiki iā mākou ke lilo i mea kānalua no kā mākou mea nui e kāohi ana i ka "nohona" e hoʻonui ana i ka loaʻa kālā mai iā mākou.
Inā hoʻomau ka waiwai o kā mākou mea aloha i kona ola a ke hoʻomau nei mākou i ka hakakā, makemake mākou e lilo i ʻāpana o kahi uniona "sketchy"?
- Hoʻonui i nā lilo olakino
ʻO kekahi mea maikaʻi ʻole o ka male ʻana ma hope o ke ola ka piʻi ʻana o nā lilo lapaʻau i ko mākou mau makahiki. ʻOiai hiki iā mākou ke mālama pinepine i nā makahiki he 10 o ke ola me ka uku o nā kauka lapaʻau, hiki ke hoʻonui ʻia ke ola me nā huakaʻi i ka haukapila, hale mālama niho, kikowaena rehab, a me nā mea like.
Ke mare ʻia mākou, hāʻawi mākou i kēia mau lilo i kā mākou mea nui ʻē aʻe. Inā kū mākou i kahi maʻi pōpilikia, aʻoi aku paha ka maikaʻi o ka make, hāʻawi mākou i nā kumukūʻai hefty i ka poʻe i koe. ʻO kēia anei ke ʻano hoʻoilina a mākou e makemake ai e hāʻawi aku i ka poʻe a mākou e aloha nui ai?
- Hiki ke hoʻohuli i nā kumuwaiwai a ka hoa hana i kā lākou mea hilinaʻi
ʻImi pinepine nā mea hilinaʻi makua i ke kākoʻo kālā mai ko lākou mau mākua ke helu ʻia ka moku kālā. Ke male mākou i kahi makua makua me nā keiki makua, lilo kāna mau keiki i kā mākou.
Inā kūlike ʻole mākou me ka hoʻokele kālā a kā mākou mea aloha e lawe ai me kā lākou keiki makua; ke hoʻonohonoho nei mākou i nā ʻaoʻao āpau no ka hakakā koʻikoʻi. Kūpono anei ia? Aia iā 'oe.
- ʻO ka Liquidation o nā waiwai o ka hoa
Ma ka hopena, pono ka hapanui o mākou i ka mālama olakino i ʻoi aku i ko mākou hiki. Ke hiki ʻole iā mākou ke mālama iā mākou iho, kōkua ʻia, nā home noho / kahu hānai i loko o nā kāleka na mākou.
He weliweli ka hopena kālā o kēia pae, ke alakaʻi pinepine nei i ka hoʻopau ʻia o kekahi o nā waiwai. He mea nui kēia e noʻonoʻo ai no nā mākua makua e noʻonoʻo ana i ka male.
Nā manaʻo hope loa
Ma ke ʻano holoʻokoʻa, nui a maikaʻi ʻole nā maikaʻi kālā o ka male e ʻauamo i kā mākou moku kālā i kā mākou mau hoa.
ʻOiai hiki ke makaʻu loa i ka "wehe ʻana i nā puke" e pili ana i kā mākou waiwai kālā, he mea nui e hāʻawi i ka ʻike e like me ka hiki ke hele i loko o nā hauʻoli a me nā pilikia o ka male.
Pēlā nō, kā mākou e mākaukau nā hoa e hōʻike i kā lākou ʻike kālā pū kekahi. ʻO ka manaʻo e hānai i ke kamaʻilio olakino e pili ana i ka hana like ʻana o nā ʻohana kūʻokoʻa ʻelua ma ke ʻano he anakahi.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao hoʻohuli, hōʻike paha kā mākou hōʻike i ka hiki ke hiki i kahi hui kino a me ke ʻano, akā ʻaʻole hiki i kahi hui kālā.
Inā hoʻokaʻawale nā hoa i kā lākou mau moʻolelo kālā i ke aniani moakaka, ʻike paha lākou i kā lākou hoʻokele a me nā kaila hoʻopukapuka kālā kūpono ʻole.
He aha e hana ai? Inā ʻaʻole maopopo ʻole ʻoe e pili ana i ka maikaʻi a me ka maikaʻi ʻole o ka male hope ʻana, noi i ke kōkua mai kahi kākāʻōlelo paulele a ʻike inā he uniona ola ka uniona o kahi pōʻino e hiki mai ana.
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