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- He aha ka pilina ʻawahia?
- No ke aha mākou e hana ai i ia mau pilina
- Pehea e hōʻalo ai i ka pilina ʻawahia
Lawe kēlā me kēia pilina i ka hana, ʻo ia hoʻi nā mea olakino loa, no laila pehea mākou e ʻike ai inā he wā maʻamau a he hōʻailona paha ia o ka pilina ʻawahia?
ʻO ka nui o ka hana a mākou e pono ai e hoʻokomo e hoʻololi i ka hana mai ka pilina i ka pilina. Akā hoʻokahi mea maopopo leʻa; ma hope o kekahi manawa, pono e uku.
Inā hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hana i ka hana, hiki iā ʻoe ke leʻaleʻa i ka lā ma hope o ka ʻino a puka mai ka ikaika ma mua o ka wā mau.
Akā inā ʻaʻole ia, a inā he hakakā mau ia me nā manawa pōkole o ka hauʻoli, pono ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho inā he waiwai ia a ʻaʻole paha.
ʻAʻole maopopo mau ka psychology o kahi pilina ʻawahia, a inā nō ia, ʻaʻole ʻike ka hapanui o mākou i nā ʻano pilina ʻona.
No laila he aha ka psychology ma hope o nā pilina ʻawahia? Hiki ke hoʻopaʻa i kahi pilina ʻawahia? A inā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopaʻa ʻia, a laila pehea e haʻalele ai i kahi pilina ʻawahia?
Hōʻike ka ʻatikala i nā ʻano o nā pilina ʻawaʻawa, no ke aha mākou e hana ai i ia mau pilina, a pehea e hōʻalo ai iā lākou.
E nānā pū: he 7 mau hōʻailona mua o ka pilina ʻawahia
Eia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona o nā pilina ʻawahia e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo a ʻike maʻalahi iā lākou.
He aha ka pilina ʻawahia?
A male make a pilina paha ʻo ia kahi i hana hou ʻia, pālua ka luku ʻia, a me ke ʻano maikaʻi ʻole e hōʻeha i nā mea ʻino ma mua o ka maikaʻi o nā mea ʻelua.
Pili paha ia i ka loaʻa, ka lili, ka noho aliʻi, ka hana hoʻomāinoino, a me ka hoʻomāinoino, a i ʻole ka hui pū ʻana o kēia mau hana ʻona.
Manaʻo pinepine nā hoa i ka pono e noho pū kekahi me kekahi inā ʻaʻohe mea lawa ʻole e hoʻomaopopo i ka hopena o kā lākou hana i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe.
Makemake wale lākou e hoʻopaʻa paʻa i kā lākou paʻa, no ka noho pū wale ʻana. Mālama ʻia ka maikaʻi o ko lākou manawa i noho pū ʻia.
Kūleʻa lākou i ke aloha no ka wī naʻau a manaʻo e like me kā lākou wahine a lākou waiwai a hiki iā lākou ke kāohi iā lākou.
No ke aha mākou e hana ai i ia mau pilina
ʻOiai ʻike mākou i nā hopena o nā pilina ʻona e like me nā hopena olakino noʻonoʻo, ka nalowale o ka hilinaʻi, ke koʻikoʻi, a me ka hopohopo, ua hana mākou āpau i hoʻokahi o lākou. Akā no ke aha?
Ke komo nei i kahi pilina ʻawahia he ʻekolu mau kumu kūpono.
ʻO ka mea mua, ke kāohi nei mākou i ko mākou mau manaʻo a me nā naʻau no ka mea, no kekahi kumu, manaʻo mākou pono mākou i kēia kanaka a i ʻole pono mākou e noho pū me lākou. Ma muli paha o nā keiki a no ka mea manaʻo mākou ʻaʻole mākou e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kēlā.
ʻO ka lua, ma muli paha o kā mākou ʻano makemake ʻole pono e hana mākou. Makaʻu paha mākou i ka noho kaʻawale. A i ʻole hoʻokamani ʻia mākou e kā mākou hoa.
Inā kūleʻa mākou, e maʻalahi ʻia mākou e kekahi e makemake e hāʻawi i nā kauoha a aloha i ka kaohi.
Inā alakaʻi maʻalahi ʻia mākou e ka hewa, a inā ʻike kā mākou pakanā i kēlā, hiki iā ia ke maʻalahi iā mākou i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ua hana hewa mākou.
ʻO ke kumu ʻekolu ke loaʻa iā mākou āpau kekahi mau pilikia i hōʻike ʻole ʻia mai ko mākou wā kamaliʻi, no laila ke hana nei paha mākou me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi ʻole ma mua o ka hana pū ʻana me lākou.
Hoʻopili kekahi poʻe i nā pilina no ka mea makemake lākou e ʻike i kekahi mea i kū pono i ko lākou makuakāne, kaikaina, a me ka hoa pili mua.
No laila, hele wale lākou mai kekahi ʻano maikaʻi ʻole a i kekahi, ke manaʻo nei ʻo ia ke koho kūpono.
Pehea e hōʻalo ai i ka pilina ʻawahia
Ke hakakā nei ʻoe i ka pilina me kekahi, pono ʻoe e nīnau iā ʻoe iho no hea mai kēia mau pilikia.
Makemake maoli ʻoe e noho me kēia kanaka? ʻO ʻoe pū me lākou no ko lākou ʻano maikaʻi a i ʻole no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka noho hoʻokahi?
E hoʻāʻo e ʻike i kāu hana pale, makaʻu, a me nā kīnā ʻole, no laila e ʻoi aku kou noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe iho, a no laila, e ʻike i ke kumu o ka mea e ʻumeʻume ai iā ʻoe.
ʻO kāu hoa kahi āu e haʻaheo nei me ʻoe no ka mea he mea mahalo ia, mahalo ʻia, hoʻopono, a mālama hoʻi? Inā ʻo ia ia, pono nō ka hana ʻana.
E hoʻāʻo e loaʻa i kahi kumu no ka mea aia mau ʻoe me kāu hoa a kāohi i kāu mau hoʻoholo ponoʻī.
No laila, ʻo ke kī e kālailai iā ʻoe iho, i kāu hoa, a i kou pilina. A, ʻo ka ʻāpana nui ka hoʻopono me ʻoe iā ʻoe iho.
Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi pilina e hoʻohui nei i ka mea ʻawahia i kou ola, malia paha hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e waiho i kahi pilina ʻona a neʻe i mua.