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- 1. He aha ka hewa
- 2. Pehea kou hoʻoikaika ʻana e hana i kāu hana male?
- 3. ʻO ka ʻike o ke kuleana e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke pae i kahi male nui
- 1. E kia pono, e hoʻolohe a hoʻolohe i kāu wahine
- 2. E kamaʻilio me 'ma kahi o' ma 'kāu wahine
- 3. E hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu male
- 4. ʻAʻole lawa ka ʻōlelo mihi ʻana, e hāhai i nā hana
No laila ke male nei ʻoe no ke kolu o ka manawa, a maopopo leʻa iā mākou i kēia manawa āu e manaʻo ai e hana i kāu male, ʻoiai, ʻo wai ka mea e male me ka manaʻo o ka hemo? ʻAʻohe mea!
Mahalo mākou iā ʻoe i kāu mau hana e ʻike i kahi hoa ola e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke leʻaleʻa i ke koena o kou ola me, a no ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana inā makemake nā mea he nui. I mea e kōkua ai iā ʻoe ma ke ala a loaʻa iā mākou kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻekolu o ka male e lana ka manaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻolilo i kēia male i ka mea mau.
1. He aha ka hewa
Ma mua o kou lele ʻana i loko o kāu male ʻekolu, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kēia; he aha ka mea i hewa i loko o kaʻu mau male mua ʻelua? He aha kaʻu i hana hewa ai? Pehea e hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻololi i kēia mau hiʻohiʻona i kēia male?
E hōʻoia e kākau i kāu mau nīnau a pane e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo a hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho e noho ma ke ala i kēlā mau manawa ke hoʻomaka ʻoe e heʻe hou i kāu ʻano kahiko.
ʻO kēia ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a ka wahine ʻekolu e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kāu ʻāpana i nā pilikia o kāu mau male ma mua. ʻOiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hana i kekahi mea hewa, a i ʻole kuleana no ka hemo ʻana, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho no ke aha ʻoe i hoihoi ai i kēlā poʻe? He aha kā lākou i aʻo aku ai iā ʻoe?
Ua male paha ʻoe i ka poʻe i hoʻopunipuni no kahi laʻana, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ia kou hewa, akā e nīnau ana iā ʻoe iho he aha ia i loko ou e ʻumeʻume nei i nā kūlana hoʻopunipuni i kou ola e lawe mai i kahi ʻike. Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio i kēia, a laila ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoihoi i ka poʻe e mālama iā ʻoe e like me kēlā i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
2. Pehea kou hoʻoikaika ʻana e hana i kāu hana male?
ʻO kēia ʻāpana o ke aʻo ʻekolu o ka pilina aloha ka paona aloha. ʻO ka poʻe e neʻe i loko a ma waho o ka male ʻana ʻaʻole mākaukau a makemake ʻole paha e hoʻāʻo i kā lākou mau male, a laila e hemo ai lākou.
Inā ʻo ʻoe kēia, e noʻonoʻo ʻelua mau manawa ma mua o kou male ʻana a hōʻoia i ka mākaukau e hoʻopukapuka i kēlā me kēia lā i kāu pilina a hewa i kekahi manawa. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e mākaukau a laila mālama iā ʻoe iho i ke kālā a me ka hassle a lā wale i kāu hoa.
ʻO kekahi o nā pilikia nui i kēia kūlana ʻo ka manawa pinepine o ka wahine i manaʻo he kūpono lākou a ʻaʻole loa e makemake e hoʻopilikia a ʻoiai ke kumu kūʻai o ka hauʻoli a me ke olakino o haʻi. ʻOiai hewa lākou.
3. ʻO ka ʻike o ke kuleana e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke pae i kahi male nui
Inā manaʻo ʻoe he kuleana ʻoe ma nā ʻano āpau a ʻaʻole ʻoe e kūleʻa i kēlā, e hopena ʻoe i ka male male a male ʻole paha. He maʻalahi kēlā.
ʻIke pinepine ʻia kēia kūlana i (akā ʻaʻole pili wale i) kikoʻī ke pili kekahi wahine ma kā lāua male ʻekolu a ke loaʻa ka kālā he nui i kekahi wahine.
ʻOiai inā he nui kāu kālā, pono ʻoe e aloha aku iā ʻoe no ka mea ʻo ʻoe, mai noho a pili i kahi mea hoihoi iā ʻoe no ke kālā. A inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka male ʻana no nā kumu nui ʻole, e ʻike e hāʻawi nei nō ʻoe i ke aloha maoli no ka pono o ke kālā. ʻO ia ka like o ke kūʻai aku i kou ʻuhane.
Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i kēia ʻano a hana ma o ia, a laila ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e male ana no nā kumu kūpono āpau - no ke aloha, a ʻike paha ʻoe ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana hou me ka hemo ʻana.
Eia kahi papa inoa o nā ʻano ʻehā āu i hiki ai ke noi e hōʻoia ia e hoʻolauleʻa ai ʻoe i kahi male ʻekolu a hauʻoli a maoli.
1. E kia pono, e hoʻolohe a hoʻolohe i kāu wahine
E nānā i ka mea a lākou e ʻōlelo nei, a iā ʻoe pū me lākou, a ʻike ʻoe i kou noʻonoʻo e holoholo ana i nā mea ʻē aʻe, e hoʻihoʻi iā ʻoe iho i ka nānā ʻana i kāu wahine. Inā hana ʻoe, e hoʻomohala ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi a me ka pilina, a ʻo kāu kamaʻilio puʻuwai ʻole ʻana me kāu wahine e hōʻike iā lākou i loko āpau.
2. E kamaʻilio me 'ma kahi o' ma 'kāu wahine
ʻAʻohe mea makemake e kamaʻilio ʻia 'at' akā hoʻomaha ka poʻe āpau ke kamaʻilio lākou 'me.' Wehe i nā pale ʻike ʻole ma waena ou ma o ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kēia ʻano kamaʻilio maʻalahi a nānā i nā loli a kēia hana maalea.
3. E hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu male
ʻLelo mai e kala mai inā hewa ʻoe, a i ʻole ma kekahi mau hihia inā e hoʻoponopono ia i nā mea. ʻ Saylelo hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu wahine - mahalo no ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, noonoo ʻana, me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe i ke ʻano o kā lākou hana. E noho manawa no lākou, e hoʻolohe iā lākou, e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu pale iā lākou. E nawaliwali. ʻO kēia mau ʻanuʻu āpau e ʻike ai i kāu wahine i ke aloha, makemake ʻia a mahalo ʻia a ma ka hope, e hōʻike lākou i kēlā hoʻi iā ʻoe, a e hana ʻoe i kahi pōʻaiapuni o ke aloha, a hilinaʻi me ka hoʻāʻo iki.
4. ʻAʻole lawa ka ʻōlelo mihi ʻana, e hāhai i nā hana
Inā ʻoe e kala aku no kekahi mea āu i hana ai, mai hana hou i kahi kuhi hewa like - lilo ka kala i mea ʻole inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ukali me ka hana a he ala wikiwiki ia e nalowale ka hilinaʻi i kāu pili - hilinaʻi iā mākou, kēia ʻo ia kahi ʻāpana o ke kolu o ka ʻōlelo aʻo a ka wahine e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike!